Posted by HAH on September 24, 1998 at 12:55:58:
In Reply to: Re: HELLLLP! posted by mike on September 24, 1998 at 09:41:21:
Hey Mike, I hope that you have a good day job.
Ashley, when people treat each other poorly and do really stupid things in their relationship, why are they so surprized at the painful consequences?? Life is plenty tough when it is going well. When you put all of your focus on your self and you disregard your partner, you add greatly to the problems that you have to deal with. Many of your actions are inexcusable. Personally, I would not forgive you for the things that you have done. But I also believe that I would not have done what Paul did either. Here is the answer if you really want to know how to build a relationship. You need to study your partner and to learn about what he needs and what he wants. Building a great marriage involves helping each other every day. Even if you do not feel like it. Day in and out, you help your parnter. Marriage is about other, not self. It's about 2 not 1. And of course, you have 3 coming up! That's a whole different scenerio. I hope for the child's sake that you will get over your selfishness. For now, you should focus on caring for your developing baby and finding a way to be satisfied with yourself, by yourself. Then, maybe in the future you will be ready to see the needs of Paul or some other. Wait and let things quiet down. HAH