SEX IN PUBLIC PLACES can be very stimulating encounters!

According to a recent article in the Los Angeles-based gay newsmagazine, Frontiers, West Hollywood and Silverlake are in the midst of a public sex crisis! Silverlake residents are complaining of police crackdowns on public sex, crackdowns which they say sometimes infringe on the rights of all area citizens. Two bookstores hired security guards to shoo away loiterers from the alley behind their shops. In West Hollywood, a popular gym has taken to putting signs everywhere warning members that they must obey the rules--a subtle way, some say, of warning that sex in the sauna or the showers is not allowed. And on Melrose Ave. Residents continue to have the Streets Department install signs prohibiting motorists from making turns after dark where those turns might be conducive to cruising.

Should the gay community resist this crackdown on public sex? A fierce debate rages on. One side says public eroticism is the vanguard of the gay revolution, a valid exercise of our hard-won sexual freedom. Others insist public sex is a throw back to closetry and self hatred, fueling the ire of homophobes and the straight community.

According to a West Hollywood psychotherapist, the preferred places for public sex start with parked cars. Some people argue that parked cars are not a public place, but police and the courts certainly operate on the presumption that they are. Next in popularity would be tearooms (public men's rooms), beaches, parks, "lover's lanes" and patios or balconies outside of your apartment. Anyplace where others can see you or, in "shrink-jargon" where consent for co-presence is high would be considered public sex.

Straight folks do it and don't get in trouble most of the time. Any public sex could lead to problems of condoms or Kleenex trash littering neighborhoods, but generally Gay public sex brings enforcement and reprisals. There will be a lot more written here as research continues, so please come back for the exciting climax of this story!

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Hi Prickly,
 Your article about crackdowns on cruising areas and public sex somewhat hit home with me. I live in Minneapolis, MN, and find it to be quite a sexually repressed place.  I have met many married men who are unable to visit gay bars for fear of being discovered and whose sole recourse to male-male sex is public sex.  This town desperately needs a bathhouse or some other safe space where grown men can exchange physical affection.  If the good people of Mpls are so averse to sex taking place at the parks or bathrooms downtown, it would probably benefit all involved to cease and desist cracking down on the safe spaces where people gather in private.  The bars are frightened to have backrooms, the bookstores are frequented by undercover hijos de puta, there seems to be some sort of war being waged on sex in all fronts, and not just in the great repressed midwest.

Prickly responds:
Your observations are right on target.  I haven't been to Mpls for many years, but I would bet that park and tearoom sex is rampant as a result of this 'war'.  One possible solution is to have private parties in various homes and only allow in people you know or people who are recognized and invited by others at the party.  It's always going to be a little risky, but if one of your guests has had sexual experience with someone, then there would be someone at the party to approve his admission when he comes to the door.  No one would be admitted to the party without a known guest "sponsor".  Once the 40-50 invitees have arrived, then you can gravitate from the hors d'oeuvres in the living room to the 'main courses' in the bedrooms!  That is one possible solution and it usually starts with BBS/Internet Chatroom contact and inviting people you know and trust to bring people they know and trust.  Park cruisers often distribute invitations in parks and many such invitations have actually passed through glory holes, too!  Getting the word out can be a challenge and it can also be a lot of fun.  You might want a cryptic version as an inset on the xeroxed invitation so that married guys wouldn't have a problem explaining the contents to their wives. 

Coming out means gettin' nut easier - no secrets. But I understand throwing caution to the wind just ta bust a nut! <grin>

Prickly responds:
Not necessarily and I'm glad you brought this up.  If I'm cruising a tearoom in Podunk, the local sherrif doesn't have a clue that we're all having an orgy in the woods behind the roadside rest stop.  But as more and more people come out and awareness of gays increases, we find ourselves acting in wholesome ways and our tearoom antics are frowned upon by more sophisticated enforcement officers and also by our own community.  Prominent gays in politics and other leadership positions tend to make statements and decisions which would reduce or eliminate the incidence of public sex.  It's a tradeoff for advancement in our freedoms in other areas that we would have to lose our freedoms in the anonymous sex arena.

At the company picnic, when the company knows we're gay, then we actually lose the freedom to run off in the woods with company guys.  And if we keep our behavior nice and wholesome, then we should be able to get job security and promotions and other nice wholesome perks in that company and in society although we lose our ability to do the sleazy stuff.  I find that to be a mixed blessing.

Fear not friends, there's still plenty of good, old fashioned sleazy sex in this world and if you want to find sex places in your neighborhood, here's a great place to look.  And if you want to find hot bears on the Internet, meet them and do all sorts of fun things with them, here's another great place to look.

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