MYTHS ABOUT LESBIAN AND GAY DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Only heterosexual women get battered. Men are
never victims of domestic violence and women do not abuse.
Domestic violence is more common in heterosexual
relationships that it is in lesbian or gay male relationships.
It isn't really violence when a same-sex couple fights.
It is just a lover's quarrel and a fair fight between equals.
It isn't really violence at all when gay mean fight
is just boys being boys.
The batterer will always be butch, bigger an stronger.
The victim will always be femme, smaller and weaker.
People who are abusive under the influence of drugs
or alcohol are not responsible for their actions.
Gay men's domestic violence has increased as a result
of alcoholism, drug abuse and the AIDS epidemic.
Lesbian and gay domestic violence is sexual behavior,
a version of sadomasochism. the victims actually like it.
The law does not and will not protect victims of
lesbian and gay men's domestic violence.
Lesbian and gay male victims exaggerate the violence
that happens to them. If it were really that bad, they could and
would just leave.
It is easier for lesbian or gay victims of domestic
violence to leave the abuser than it is for heterosexual battered women.
Domestic violence primarily occurs among gay mean
and lesbians who hang out at bars, are poor or are people of color.
Victims often provoke the violence done to them.
They are getting what they deserve.
Lesbian or gay male victims of domestic violence
Reproduced from: National Lesbian and Gay Health
Foundation Conference, July 1990