featured sponsor:
Fall/Winter 2002-2003 Designer Shoes, Ties, Handbags, Sunglasses by Gucci, Prada, Fendi, Chanel

home| shop | topics |stylething |quick fix | about | author | advice | links | contact us |site map| newsletter | tell a friend | privacy policy 



>>holiday gifts 

beauty + fragrance
plus-size clothing
men's style

baby + maternity
kid's style
home décor
the buzz on what's cool now

Bow Wow Incognito
Princess Moment
Click Critters
quick fix
makeover style solutions

Fashion Rules
Bargain Beauty Secrets
Matching Blacks
the columns
fashion advice
-regrow eyebrows
-men's fashion
dress for the "V"
-makeover etiquette
-fall trends
stylist secrets
-men's hair color
-hot hairstyles
beauty secrets

-modern mom turning 30
-men's dress codes
-the shoe guide
-great at any age
look slim
-be beautiful
handbag trends
-wedding roundup
perfect eyebrows
-find your style
-pilates workout
-look better for less
-hairstyle tips
-perfect pedicure
-fashion victim
-job interview style
-bright white teeth
-logo handbags
-beauty no-no's
wedding must-haves

visit our shopping selections:
discounted designer >>handbags and
>>men's ties

email a friend
about  us
author profile
watch Sharon
free newsletter
advise me
contact us
back to home
site map
Worrisome Wardrobe, Hey, It's Time For Men's
Kooky Taste,

Low Self-Image...


 *Rx for a Shot of Self-Confidence  *Style Fix for      Colorblindness  *Brunch with the Boss *It's Not for Everyone

Rx for a Shot of Self-Confidence

Dear Sharon: I'm a 21-year-old male college student and I have a little problem. I live a nice life- no one would probably guess this would ever bother me. But I have a major
lack of confidence about my looks, specifically facially. I just think I'm ugly and don't know what to do. 

I've tried facials, different hairstyles, Stridex, skin moisturizer, and face exercises??? Is this something that should bother a 21-year-old guy? I
don't know what to do. --Face Off (Dekalb, IL)

Dear Face Off:
Snap out of it!!! The
entirety of your being-- intelligence, knowledge, awareness, sense of humor, and compassion-are far greater than the appearance of your physical shell. Feeling satisfied about how you look does give your self-confidence a boost, but it should not envelope your entire existence.

Yes, this is a style advice column, but the best advice is to be
grateful for everything that is uniquely you; your appearance is just one part of that! There is nothing uglier-or more boring-- than a person who may appear beautiful on the outside yet inwardly is a bitter, empty shell. 

I believe in making
the most of what you've got by not trying to be something you are not. There are features in everyone that are individually beautiful-play them up and divert attention from ones that are less pleasing to you. As the old adage goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Most likely, plenty of other folks think you look just fine, why not add yourself to that list?

A young person of your age-or any age-should feel blessed for all the wonderful things that enable one to "live a nice life".

Stop obsessing, change the things you can, and start enjoying life!

Style Fix for Colorblindness

Dear Sharon: I have a question about how to
start looking better. I have been told that I have lots of potential to look very good but I don't take advantage by the clothes I wear and by the way my hair looks. 

First, I am
colorblind and buying clothes is tough. I'm not great at matching and I'm not sure how to take advantage of the few nice clothes I own. I want to look nice, but from the lack of knowledge in men's fashion, I see myself wearing old jeans or warm-ups too much. 

My hair is very straight and loves to stick up even though I'd love it to be down. This makes me use a great deal of gel and hairspray to keep it from sticking straight up. What do you think I should do? Any advice would help. --Within the Realm of Possibility (Wyckoff, NJ)

Dear Within the Realm:
Bravo, you took the first step in developing
a new and improved you: Acknowledging the desire to change. Now, just act on it. 

Start by flipping through some magazines for
inspiration and then go shopping. Enlist a friend with good taste or find a salesperson or personal shopper (many big department stores have one on site) that can guide you into buying a few essential pieces that work together with what you already own. Don't overwhelm yourself by buying too much at once-- just a solid core wardrobe.

Keep to a
simple color palette and then write the garment's color on the inside label so you can "read" the color instead of second-guessing your color-blindness. 

The idea of shellacked hair and a warm-up suit is pretty scary… 86 the hairspray! Give in to a hairstyle that you can easily-- and attractively--
master and fight the urge to look like an Alfalfa clone.

Brunch With the Boss

Dear Sharon: What should a 62-year-old man who is a real estate developer wear to a
Sunday brunch at his boss's house? - Who, What, and Wear (Dallas, TX)

Dear Who, What, and Wear:
Wear whatever one would wear on Casual Friday… hopefully, it is not a Budweiser T-shirt. No need to look more
polished than usual, the boss already knows if someone is a slob or not.

It's Not For Everyone

Dear Sharon: I'm a very slender man who has been looking non-stop with no success in finding "
tight lace up pants " and/or pants with "buttons up the side". Any type of material is fine as long as the details run from the ankle to the hip. I'm looking for them in the waist size of 33-34. You probably would remember these pants on rock stars in the Eighties? Where can I purchase clothing like this? Thanks for your time. --Rock Studson (Indian Rocks Beach, FL)

Dear Rock Studson:
I try to make it a policy to never undermine people's tastes and preferences. However, I have one question for you: Whaddayou a stripper??? 

Rock, baby, please, unless you are Steven Tyler or want to wear these
flyaway fly wrappers as your onstage rocker costume, you have no business running around in public in pants so dumb! If you were either a male exotic dancer or a fledgling musician you would have an inkling as to where to go to get a costume made, and since you don't have a clue, that's a good thing!

Also read: From Dud to Stud, Makeover for Men

men's style
Discount Designer Menswear, Inc. discount designer ties
Gianni Versace Ties Forzieri.com - Italian Accessories  
Hankering for some
image boosting advice?
Ask Sharon:
Advice Page

Copyright (c)2001 Sharon Haver, distributed by FocusOnStyle.com. All rights reserved. No part of this site may be copied, published, broadcast, or otherwise distributed or reproduced without the prior written permission of Sharon Haver.

-shopping mall-
online shopping 
made  simple

click for holiday gift ideas
click for
gift ideas

we like...
Gucci Make Up Bag
Gucci Make Up Bag terrific saving

Prada Shoes - Fall/Winter 2002-03
 Prada Shoes - Fall/Winter 2002-03  discounted

Giorgio Armani - Acqua Di Gio Eau De Toilette Spray - 100ml/3.4oz - perfume / fragrance for men
Giorgio Armani Acqua Di Gio men's fragrance great value

Lamborghini Designer Mens Watch
Lamborghini Designer Mens Watch save $100 

Fendi Zucchino Handbag
Fendi Zucchino Handbag at a discount

Ladies' Earrings in White 18-karat Gold with Diamond; Code: 1001088202; Weight: 10 Grams Ladies' Earrings in White 18-karat Gold with Diamonds
direct from Italy price

Christian Dior Shoulder Bag

special savings

Diesel - Krypton (Oak/Mayo) - Men's Athletic Shoe
Diesel - Krypton Men's Sneaker 
'Quadro Coasters' by Renato Foti
'Quadro Coasters' by Renato Foti
visit our marketplace
shopping directory
beauty and fragrance
men's style 
plus-size clothing
home style
baby + maternity style
kid's style

fast style

the buzz on what's cool

join our Burning News mailing list
email a friend


    >home | topics | quickfix| stylething | shop |search | contact us | advice | mailing list | site map | privacy policy <

go shop!