Family Abuse Issues and the Issue of Financial Support


The questions must be asked : Why connect abuse and support issues?
The short answer is that they are connected in the eyes of those involved. The long answers are as follows: Those abused may say that support should be compensation for abuse, although this is not the intent of it. In fact, one woman at the Peterborough conference on Family Abuse, 1996, stated that her lawyer advised her to provoke her husband to hit her so that "you could take him for everything."
Thus these issues are connected as a tactic in the eyes of lawyers and judges. Provincial government laws on abuse such as Saskatchewan's Bill on Family Violence, which, on accusation, removes one parent from the life of the child, denying him a fair chance to be considered as "primary parent", before any charges or convictions. These laws are often used as a pre-emptive strike in divorce since they define even omissions or unwanted language or "damage to property" as "family violence".

Divorce problems cannot be solved without considering all aspects of the issue: Custody, Access, Support, Poverty, Abuse, Disadvantage and Cost to Society.

Abuse and Family Model:

Types of Abuse:

It is sometimes argued that child support is needed to free women and children from violence, assuming that the source of violence is primarily the father and husband. Recent studies show that:

MONEY AND CHILD SUPPORT CAN DEAL WITH NONE OF THE ABOVE FACTORS.
QUALITY FATHERING AND SHARED PARENTING CAN.

A SOCIETAL COMMITMENT TO MARRIAGE AND FAMILY
CAN DEAL WITH SPOUSAL ABUSE MORE EFFECTIVELY
THAN MAKING DIVORCE INTO A CASH CROP


Report prepared by
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