"Success is the best foreplay."
- Warren Farrell
"...they bring a business approach to personal things, and a
personal approach to business..."
- Ethel Rich
On-The-Job Sex
Excerpts from the sub-section "The Seven Hidden Levels of
On-The-Job Sex" in the chapter on The Politics of Sex
in Warren Farrell's 1993 book The Myth of Male Power:
- "Sexual blackmail. A boss threatens to fire an
employee unless he or she is sexual. [quid pro quo]
- "Sexual bribery. A superior promises a promotion
in exchange for sex. This can be explicit or implicit. [quid
pro quo]
- "Workplace prostitution. An employee is sexual in
exchange for a promotion; a salesperson is sexual to win a sale.
The sex can be given or just promised. [quid pro quo]
- "Workplace incest. Consensual sex among employees. The
workplace, like the family, has lines of authority which sexual
bonding tends to blur. Workplace incest occurs in two basic forms:
- "Employer-employee sex. When it is consensual,
employer-employee sex has one of the same problems as
parent-child incest: it undermines the ability of the employer
to establish boundaries because the employer often feels
needy of the employee.
- "Peer sex. Peer sex is to the workplace family what
sibling incest is to the homeplace family."
- "Sexual harassment. Repeated sexual advances at work
after an employee has said `no'. ["quid pro no"]
- "Workplace flirtation. Suggestive dress, flirtatious
eye contact, a combination of touching and eye signals ... the
types of indirect initiatives Cosmopolitan encourages
working women to take at work. A workplace flirtation is a
workplace invitation to think of or do something other than work.
"Flirtation can be to the workplace what a virus is to a computer:
both screw up the intended program.
- "Workplace porn. Pinups, lewd jokes, and sexual innuendos
made in groups (without flirtatious eye contact directed at a
particular person).
"Workplace porn -- such as lewd,
sexist
jokes and pinups -- is largely a male style of testing the waters,
and also a part of what the EEOC has defined as sexual harassment. It
can cost a man career advancement. Workplace flirtation -- more a
female style of indirect initiative-taking (see Cosmopolitan
examples) -- has been totally ignored by the EEOC and, therefore, can
be done by women, free of risk. Here's the twisted result..."
Farrell then goes on to relate one extraordinary incident, which
you'll have to get the book for yourself to read. [Briefly, a man
took a picture of a female coworker who frequently dressed in a
provocative manner, though her identity was not apparent in the
photo. He put an enlargement up on the wall of his office and
was subsequently fired over the flap his pin-up's "hostile
environment" created.]
There's more info available here on both workplace
incest and harassment, ("when it works it's called courtship, when
it doesn't it's called harassment"), on Client Sex, on short
skirts, and on the "female occupations
formula". Please continue on, but whatever you do don't forget
your sexual harassment consent form.
For some humorous relief try
this "article".
More humor: Tell Me Now If You Don't Want To See My Penis.
Red Meat, by Max Cannon
Wanna know what the "crisis in the White House" was all about, now
that's it's history and Monica's book has been remaindered? All
the Monica & Bill stuff has been moved to its very own page.
The exception is this piece on the lessons from that episode about what
sexual harassment is and is not.
Feedback
Date: Mon, 21 Jul 1997
From: Mark W. H***** (N***@prodigy.com)
Subject: comments
Best comments I've found in my days of searching for info on male
victims of sex harassment. Unfortunately it won't help as much
as a good lawyer.
After 8+ months of hostility from a Female VP I decided not to pursue
(young, rich and good looking made me apply the "If it's too good to
be true" rule). I finally filed an harassment charge. Now I'm the
bad guy. How does a repeated "no" constitute harassment? But I
guess I was being nice to her and trying to get her to like me.
Now for humour.
Person A is married and hits on person B while hiding the fact that A
is married.
Person B has their interest raised but quickly finds out A is married.
Person B informs person A they are a low life.
Who is the victim? Answer - the woman.
Yes, and the corollary is that the man is always guilty. Feminism's
legacy has been the sexual deregulation of women ("a woman's right to
choose", "my body, my choice", "there's no such thing as an illegitimate
child", "girls can do anything", "you go girl", etc.) while men have
been subjected to ever stricter regulation ( - except that if you want
a traditional wife then you're also still just a Neanderthal, though if
she wants you to follow the traditional role and you're deficient,
then you're still just a Neanderthal...). Meanwhile, much of the male
reproductive role has been criminalized. Can things possibly get any
worse when it's a federal case when a guy makes a pass at someone? And
while we've been doing all this, things have been getting worse.
This suggests we've been operating under false assumptions and,
therefore, doing exactly the wrong thing. All the more reason for the
need for equal rights for men...
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