An inside look at the Tomlinsons

Posted: Dec.27, 2006, 11:00 am EST
By Stacey Pressman
Special to

Continuation of's interview with LaTorsha Tomlinson. Click here for the first part of the interview.

Q: Two years ago you were pregnant but suffered a miscarriage. What was it like to go through that and how have you been since then?
It's been two years since the miscarriage, and we are actually going to try again. It's been long enough. It was the hardest thing we went through in our relationship. I know that I went through it physically, but I truly think it was harder on him than me because he has such a soft, sweet, sensitive spirit so to go through something like that wasn't easy. He wants kids so bad, it's ridiculous. It's an addiction with him. That time in our life was difficult because we almost had it, it was so close but it slipped away.

Mr. & Mrs. LTLaTorsha and LaDainian Tomlinson were married in 2003 after LT's third year with the Chargers.
Q: Is it true that LaDainian knew the sex of the baby but you didn't?
Well, sort of. I didn't want to know the sex of the baby but he did. So we went to the doctor and told him that I don't want to know but he does. And then LaDainain thought about it more and then he wasn't sure if he really wanted to know, so he asked the doctor if he could write down the sex of the baby and put it in a sealed envelope and we'd put it in the drawer and maybe one night if we felt like it we'd open it. Well that piece of paper in the sealed envelope was itching at him. He couldn't leave it alone. So one morning, he goes to the drawer opens the letter, reads what the baby is going to be, he then comes into our room, wakes me up out of dead sleep and says, 'Honey, we're having a little princess.' And I was like, 'Okay, but I didn't want to know!' It was too much for him. He couldn't hold it in. So, now you know never to tell LaDainian a secret. He can't keep it!

Q: I heard when you watch his games you sit in the stands with the fans? What's that like?
I used to sit in the stands, but I was too involved with the fans so now I sit in a box. I like to be in the middle of all the yelling, cheering, bantering back and forth with the opposing team, but I've learned over the years that you can't really do that when you're a player's wife. My husband doesn't think it's safe. He loves the fans, he's just worried that people will know I am his wife and give me a hard time. Plus, he knows me and he knows I like to have fun. I talk and taunt. He's very protective. He is conscious of where I am during the game. You'll see him look up every so often.

Q: Do you know he's talking to you?
Definitely, and especially if I am watching an away game, he'll do certain things on the field or into the camera. Like if he takes a hard hit, he knows I'm sitting there at home saying 'Get up, get up, get up.' If you watch him, he will take his fist and hit it once to his chest pad, that let's me know that he's okay. Sometimes he'll actually turn to the camera in the middle of the game and mouth 'I love you.' He actually does it all the time. After he broke the record (NFL single season TD record) and the guys lifted him up in the end zone, he went to go sit on the bench and mouthed, 'I love you.' He does it a lot. He can have a conversation with me and basically no one else really knows what's going on.

Q: So he breaks the record ...
And I cried. Yep, I cried.

It was strange, I am not a crier and things like that don't usually make me emotional. It just was a great moment. I didn't cry so much that he broke the record, I cried because of the team camaraderie and how they picked him up and hoisted him in the air. I don't think he's worked so hard to try and gel with a team. They are so close they see each other from 7 a.m. to 5 p.m. every day, and to work so hard to get to the point where they finally get there ... it made me emotional. It was really special.

I told him when we got home that I cried when he broke the record and he was surprised. He said, 'You cried?' And he joked about it and called me a crybaby. And I asked him, "Did you know you were gonna do it?" and he said, 'No.' He didn't think he was going to go back on the field, but Shawne Merriman tips the ball, we get a turnover and he's back on the field on the 8-yard line. It happened so fast and it happened on one of his favorite plays and he ran the ball in. I asked him, 'So how do you feel now?' He told me: 'I'm glad it's over and no one's gonna ask me about it anymore. Now I can focus on the ultimate goal, which is doing well in the playoffs and going to the Super Bowl.

Q: Is there talk in your home about the MVP?
Oh no. We're not allowed to talk about potentially being MVP at our house. He doesn't like that conversation. I say, 'When you're MVP, do you want to have a party?' And he looks at me and says, 'We're not gonna talk about it,' and I'm like, 'No, I need to know these things, I need to plan.'

I am sort of planning a party behind his back. I want to do it at our house, have all his friends over, but I'm not allowed to talk about it so I don't know if I should plan or not plan but I will be ready just in case with some things lined up. Caterers, bartenders. His friends and teammates know if he's MVP there's a party. He's not superstitious, but he's just so humble that he doesn't like talking about what he's possibly going to have unless he has it. He thinks it's too cocky. Which I love that about him. He's just not cocky, it's the strangest thing. I don't know anyone who can have all the talent he has and not be. For him, it's not a big deal. He loves kids and he cares more about the community than anything else. I mean, he broke the record, we're sitting on the couch and he's says, 'You know we have our Christmas program on Tuesday?' I'm like 'yeah, I know.'

Q: If you could pick your ideal Super Bowl match up what would it be?
My ultimate goal for this season is for us (San Diego) to play Drew (Brees) and the New Orleans Saints in the Super Bowl. I can watch New Orleans because I love Drew Brees to death, and Reggie Bush is like a little brother to us. LaDainian was upset when Drew left. They played in the All-American game together, they were at the Heisman Trophy presentation together and then when they came out of college, what do you know? They ended up playing for the same team. It would've been a fairy tale story if they could've gotten a Super Bowl ring together because since high school and running into each other, they just have a very special friendship. But it would be amazing if they faced each other because no matter what the outcome I know LaDainian and Drew would both be thrilled for each other. That would be my ultimate dream. Sure it would have been amazing if they could have won one together, but this scenario would truly be the next best thing.

Mr. & Mrs. LTLaTorsha is more outgoing than her husband, who prefers to spend time at home.
Q: What was the reaction at home when Coach Schottenheimer seemed to get choked up and basically say that LaDainian was the best back he's ever seen in a uniform?
Marty always says great things about LaDainian. So I have always known how he feels about him. It's great to see how much the coach cares about him. There's a genuine love there, almost like a father-son. LaDainian really wants to get to the Super Bowl and win it for Marty. It means the world to my husband to make that happen for him as well as guys like Lorenzo Neal and Randall Godfrey. Because a lot of them will retire and he wants them to have a ring.

Q: I've talked to Shaun Phillips and Luis Castillo, two young guys on the Chargers who are housemates and who admit they are in total awe of your husband. They said they love playing with him and are honored to be a part of a team where this great football player is breaking records. However, they described him as someone who doesn't really say much in the locker room. He'll always answer questions if asked and is very gracious, but I got the sense that he's reserved and all business at work. I was wondering what your thoughts were on those comments?
It's funny because I've heard Matt Wilhelm and Jacques Cesaire say the very same thing. In fact, they've even asked, 'So what's LT like? And I say, 'Wait, you see him more than I do so you tell me." When his teammates started asking me what he was like, I sort of realized that he's also very quiet with them too. So one day I said to him, 'You need to have the guys over more.' He tells me, 'Everyone's not like you Torsha, you would have everyone move in." When I heard about the Jacques and Matt thing, I told him -- in a nice way -- he needs to be more open and talkative. It's definitely a point of discussion. It's not a bad thing, that's just who he is. He knows it's probably how his teammates feel, but that's him, he's quiet. He'll say, 'Torsha, it's not social hour, it's very serious.'

Basically, I just want him to savor these moments and really enjoy what's going on in his life. I try to open him up and bring the fun and personality out of him. When you're on top you're a hot commodity and when you're not, you're not. It's hard to get him to truly enjoy it in the moment but trust me, I'm trying.
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