A Worse Turn
My mother is dying. I can’t deny it any longer. I spent last night on a cot in her hospital room and listened as she struggled for breath despite wearing a non-rebreather, a mask that pumps pure oxygen into her nose and mouth. She still can’t get enough breath. She’s very, very tired of the struggle. This afternoon, the nurses started palliative care – a Foley catheter, so she doesn’t have to get out of bed to use the commode, and a morphine pump to help her relax.
My brother flew in from Seattle and is taking a turn at her bedside while I have a few good cries, take a shower, pack a change of clothes, hug the dog and cat, phone a few family members, and prepare for the night. Mama could go at any moment or struggle on for weeks, though the former seems a lot more likely than the latter. We’ll discuss moving her to hospice tomorrow if she survives the night.
Her illness seems to be a second bout of pneumonia caused perhaps by aspirating some of the material she threw up early Tuesday morning, but the doctors are only guessing. Although her fever is down, she says she feels hot and wants to have ice chips in her mouth. This afternoon, she said she was very disappointed that her breathing wasn’t getting any better. What an understatement!
She’s perfectly lucid and cracked a couple of jokes this morning because she seemed to rally and felt better. She wanted her hair brushed and her teeth brushed. She requested a bath. She wanted her contact and hearing aids in so she could see and hear my brother. But like yesterday, she’s gone steadily downhill all day. It’s only a matter of time until she’ll be unable to rally again. It’s so hard for her to struggle for life. It’s hard to watch her struggle. It’s just plain hard.
My son and daughter visited their grandma today while I went to my senior exercise class at noon. At that time, I hadn't accepted how close to death she is. Now I have. Now I'm dealing with the process as best I can. It's painful.
Training log: Senior exercise – 1 hour.
R&R log: Nothing today.
Posted 2/8/2008 2:34:33 PM
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