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None of these paddles are perfect. Neither are we!
Many of us who live in the south already know that paddling works. My husband and I have a teenager at Tulia Junior High School here in Texas and I looked up her student handbook for you on the web. It reads that "Corporal punishment, limited to moderate spanking or paddling, is often the most effective discipline technique for many students. It can be administered immediately after misbehavior occurs and the students can be sent back to class with the clear understanding that the offending behavior is not acceptable. While current school policy allows parents to request that corporal punishment not be used with their children this school administration strongly recommends that you not remove this effective deterrent from the principal's list of available discipline techniques. You may be assured that even though a paddling will leave a student's buttocks red, corporal punishment will never be administered in anger or in an excessive manner." In the south we know that occasional red bottoms on children and adolescents helps them learn what's right and whats not. Having a paddle hanging up in their homes will probably embarrass some young people but its also going to get them to clean up their rooms, obey their curfews, and not smoke or drink. (I was spanked soundly with a paddle about like yours for drinking at age 20, with only PJs for protection, and I havent consumed alcohol since.)
Dear Joey, You deserve a medal for your innovation approach --- helping to popularize a (time-tested) technique that works for you and many others. Keep at it, even in the face of some at times off-the-mark criticisms from others. I, too, agree with some of the other comments, by the way, that your suggested "regime" is not tough or severe enough for certain circumstances, and believe that bare-bottom paddling should be an option in the regime. Keep up your good work!
WOW!! Your mission is GREAT!! You are doing the Lord's work in helping parents do a good job in raising their children and teenagers. I teach homemaking at a Christian high school and one of our missions is to help the students understand the importance of using the rod of correction themselves when they become parents. We use Richard Fugate's book "What The Bible Says About Child Training" at the 10th grade level. One of the interesting testimonials included in his book is from parents of children who are 12, 16 and 18 who all get spanked when needed and whose parents are always being complimented for having such well-behaved children. An extra credit option for students in my class is to do a book report on C.S. Lovett's book on disciplining teenagers, including with spanking, called "What's A Parent To Do?" It is available at: www.cslovettbooks.com/5350.html. A couple of the testimonials about his book are: "How I praise God and thank Him for putting into my hands WHAT'S A PARENT TO DO? As you say I thought I was training my teenagers, when I was telling them. I began the apply the techniques you suggest and I can see they're working! May you become rich in heaven." (F.H.-0hio) "Thank you for your book, WHAT'S A PARENT TO DO? It was the tool God gave us to break the rebellion in our teenage daughter." (B.A.-Iowa) Paddling is available at our school for misbehavior through the 12th grade but doesn't have to be used for more than a couple of high school students every couple of weeks (usually.) Most of my students say their parents will still give them spankings or paddlings until they are 18 or graduate from high school,whichever is later, and by studying Mr. Fugate's book they learn the importance of accepting their parents' discipline willingly. Your son is a good example and I would like to congratulate him. I'm going to get your web site placed on our school's approved web site list and encourage some of my students or their parents to share their views with you too if they would like to. Good luck in your important mission. How many paddles have you distributed so far? May you distribute many more! The behinds of many of today's teenagers NEED them VERY much! Yours in Christ, Trisha 10th grade teacher
Why is it that "Christians" always find some covert way to justify their wierd sexual urges. Frankly, if you're into spanking there's nothing wrong with it between "CONSENTING ADULTS". Don't play with kids minds and bodies for your own enjoyment.. "Calibrating your paddle" by spanking yourself?? Give me a break!!!!!!! You "Born Agains" are some piece of work!.. By the way.. Why can't Christians spell??? Jason
BRAVO!! Glad to see someone with the courage to promote reasonable, safe and sane corporal discipline. I personally think your guidelines are too lenient. I would give more swats for each of the offenses outlined; but I think each parent does things a bit differently. I would also spank bare bottom as needed for the added pain as well as the shame. But these are differences in method and style. Basically, we believe in the effective use of the paddle in raising kids. Amen, brother!
Good for you !!
DEAR JOEY, GOOD FOR YOU. IT IS HIGH TIME FATHERS TOOK BACK CONTROL OF THEIR OWN HOME. YOUNG MEN ARE WAY TO OUT OF HAND AND NEED TO BE TAUGHT RESPECT BY THERE PARENTS “YOU AND ME” GROWING UP I GOT IT ON A REGULAR BASIS. AND IF I GOT PADDLED FOR WHAT EVER THE OFFENCE WAS, I DID NOT WANT TO COME BACK OF SECONDS. MY SPANKING ADVISE TO YOU IS. COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR KIDS. HE KNOWS HE’S IN TROUBLE MAKE SURE HE TELL YOU WHY THE IS GETTING THE SPANKING AND THAT THE BEHAVIOR HE IS GETTING SPANKED FOR WILL NEVER BE TOLLERATED. AND IF IT HAPPENS AGAIN THE PUNISHMENT WILL DOUBLE. ALSO IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO KNOW HOW TO USE A PADDLE. POSITION IS VERY IMPORTANT, MAKE HIM BEND OVER A CHAIR LEGS ABOUT A FOOT APART. IT IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO HAVE PERFECT AIM. ALWAYS SWAT THE MEATYIST PART OF THE BOTTOM. MAKE A -NO CONTACT- AIM IN SWAT BEFORE YOU MAKE THE REAL THING. LOWER IS ALWAYS BETTER HIGHER YOU NEVER WANT TO SWAT HIGHER THAN MID BUTT. AS YOU ARE SPANKING YOUR SON, TALK TO HIM MAKE SURE YOU COME TO AN UNDERSTANDING AND AGREEMENT THAT HE IS SORRY FOR HIS INAPPROPREATE BEHAVIOR AND THAT HE WON’T DO IT AGAIN. AND ABOUVE ALL ELSE MAKE SURE YOU TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM. AND FOR ALL THE FATHERS OUTTHERE, PRAY OFTEN, THANK GOD FOR YOUR KIDS. BUTT TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR HOME.
I think your son looks like an unhappy boy. And no wonder if you get him to conform morally by brute force instead of finding out why he is angry with his parents and the world (it will take some digging out if his spirit has been broken and if he is already mixed up) You can easily get a child's cooperation by treating them gently and respectfully from the start and then teach them to obey 'no' at one year with loads of praise. Physical chastisement is only necessary if the parent has broken the commandment 'do not provoke your child to anger' which most manage to do in the first six months and seen in the expression of it in the 'terrible twos' I should get down on your knees before your boy and ask his forgiveness that you did not nurture that God given desire in him to please you and that you caused him anger and resentment which has caused him to rebel against you. May God have mercy on you, and grant you fforgiveness. Brenda Mother for 33 years of four, one with a genetic problem causing severe behaviour problems, an ex-nanny and foster mother.
I think that this is an excellent approach.
A well intentioned, interesting and seriously flawed mission. "THE ROD" - application there of - is about punishment of the individual and deterring a repeat of the offending behaviour. What is all of this wussy stuff with paddles & spanking and punishing behaviour, not individuals? PHOOEY!! This is how you do it. 1.Review the matter, listen to mitigation, be merciful if appropriate, pass sentence and act. 2.Strip the offender, restrain if necessary, cut efficiently across the naked flesh of the buttocks - up to eight times. Allow 15 to 20 seconds between strokes. Two minutes maximum for a real time, punishment caning. Any longer becomes "TORTURE". 3.Clean up & dress offender; hug; send to room for half an hour. 4.Counsel and re-assure of love.Advise certainty of further punishment if bad behaviour recurs. Fear not - any bleeding will soon stop; welts & stripes will go within a few days. Your boy or girl WILL NOT come back for more. He/she will behave. Wuss-style spanking/paddling will just create a wierd child who re-offends and grows into a perverted adult. Technical note : use only proper rattans or canes (not switches etc) of about 9 to 12 mm diameter (anything less is worse than useless)and apply with full weight from above the head BUT WITHOUT USING ANY FORCE so that the cane swishes and 'flicks'across the buttocks causing great pain & stinging but little real deep tissue damage. Even moderate 'swats' with hardwood paddles cause deep tissue damage. On the broader issue of 'corporal punishment' in society : The present generation of European'yobs'is the first not to be ritually punished by flogging in the home and school. But they are the off-spring of parents who did suffer such abominations inflicted upon themselves. It will only be after (say) three generarions of people being brought up without 'the rod' that the social benefits of violence not being inflicted upon the vulnerable (children) will be eventually seen. What I have seen of the great IMPROVEMENT of the general behaviour and attitudes of youth in Britain & Europe is encourageing. Do not be missled by the red herring of crime statistics. Punishment & rehabilitation of offenders is just one aspect of societies' response to crime;it is not the cause of crime. Caning, spanking, flogging, whipping etc are VIOLENCE - pure and simple. But - if we're going to do it, let us do it WELL.
When I got the paddle - there was no dispute - I realised i had done wrong - How do most kids take it these days - Accacpting or protesting?
No problem with what you are doing, As long as the lad knows Why, How Many Before hand and it causes pain without abuse. the ritural used on me was 1. I was told why, then how many, then into position finally punishment and hug after. smith
Joey, Great idea! Fantatic site! I was born out of wedlock and was an out of control kid until my mother married a loving Christian man who saw immediately that I needed firm discipline and was not afraid to give it to me. The rod was definitely not spared around our house from that time forward and it turned my life around. I am living proof that spanking works. Keep up the great work.
Kids need spankings to grow up properly, that is one thing that can be seen by merely going into a supermarket or movie theater and watching how they behave. Five swats with a wooden paddle is not abusive in the least and, contrary to popular belief, it is perfectly legal. I say, spank away, but make sure the child really deserves it. They can understand a spanking when it is fair.
Do you need extra wood?
Joey, I love you and I'm very impresed with this. Happy Holidays and God Bless you. Thank you for being my friend. Love Jon Wildi
Joey, First of all I would like to commend you for taking the time to do this. I am a father of two girls ages 7 and 2, and I do not spare the rod. All I have to say that using the paddle correctly is 100% effective at changing a child's "heart attitude",(when used correctly). I use the rod as a first response not a last resort, therefore eliminating alot of anger and hurt feelings. I taught my children at a very young age,(even my 2 year-old understands this) that there are consequences to our actions. I also havevery few rules: 1)Be obediant to parents , or whoever is in authority. 2)NO BAD ATTITUDE! This is it, if you break the rules you get spanked, no exceptions. I never spank in anger< in fact I keep hte rod where it is difficult to get to so I have time to cool off before I can use it. My children are very happy because they know that the rules are very clear and they will not get spanked unless they break the rules. After the spanking we hug and it is over, and forgotten about. When I was younger mt father had a terrible temper, he never spanked me, but his yelling and angry words hurt much worse than a few swats ever could.
Wow! This comments section has quickly degenerated into a nice argument. And what a range of topics we have. Everything from the existence of God to whom should be behind locked doors and why. Allow me to interject my own bizarre opinions into the fray, if I may. First off, a little history about me. I am currently the father of two wonderful children, both under the age of three. My ocassionally willful daughter has already recieved exactly three spankings after other behaviorial modification methods did not work. I'm told by my father-in-law that she takes after her mother, and that similar methods yielded the astonishingly well behaved young woman that I am married to today. My daughter is still too young to get the 'time out' but the verbal warning usually works very well, with the threat of either a loss of something special, such as a future treat, or the threat of a spanking. If the bad behavior continues, the spanking is the last (and most effective) resort. I was raised in a family of eight children, and attended both a Catholic grade school and public grade school. I attended a public high school while three of my brothers attended a nearby Catholic high school. In all the time I was growing up, I received exactly seven spankings that I can remember. After each, I never repeated the behavior that earned the spanking. Never. One of the spankings was from a Nun in the Catholic grade school, and when I went home to complain to my mom and dad about it, I received another, because my parents believed, and rightly so, that I deserved it. Of all the spankings I ever received, there was only one time that I got spanked for something I didn't actually do. As a young child, that was the one I remembered the most, because it was unfair (after all, when you're a kid, everything is unfair when you get punished, but it is all the more unfair when you didn't actually do anything to deserve it). As I got older, I realized that in anything, mistakes can be made, and have moved on with my life. By the time I was in my late teens, I understood exactly what place spanking held in the world of parental disipline, and I am still in favor of it today. Spankings taught me that there are limits, and that certain behaviors are simply unnacceptable. It taught me who was in charge (my parents, not me). It taught me that there are risks to misbehaving, even if I won't get caught by my parents. It caused me to think ahead, and to work out things to their logical conclusions. (I.E. If I punch this man in the face because he insulted me, I very well might end up in jail for the night.) There are those who would argue that as a result of being "abused" by being spanked, that I am now a victim and a perpetrator of such "abuse" on my children, and that the pattern of "abuse" will continue on. To those, I say, hogwash. I am a reasonably intelligent being, able to discern right from wrong, and I have maintained a life free from incarceration, crime, and drugs. I have seen those who have not, and I have had a few of my friends end up in those aforementioned places. The biggest visible difference between them and myself was how we were raised. My parents loved me, and still to this day continue to do so. I have a wonderful relationship with both of them, mostly because they spanked me when I needed it, and disciplined me when I needed it. They weren't my friends. They were my parents. In this string of comments, I have seen people with whom I've agreed, and those whom I've disagreed. Some of the 'more loving, more caring' individuals, whom have professed that spanking is bad, because it is violence, have professed that they would wish to see that same violence revisited upon the decent man that created this site, simply because he has offered what he believes is an authentic, time-honored, and valuable solution to the world of parental discipline. How wonderfully ironic that is. The same people who claim capital punishment is wrong, no doubt, by using the argument that it is misguided to kill someone to show the rest of civilized society that killing is bad. I do have a few comments to a particular few. Martin--Overall, I agree with you. You have said that you believe that spanking should be done, and then left alone. Don't go get a piece of wood and whack the daylights out of your kid. I'm paraphrasing, of course. If I have misinterpreted your comments, by all means, please correct me. In that, I agree. But I think you have missed something about what Joey has said. All of this is to be done with the constant reminder that there is love for the child. The argument has been made that some people will use this paddle to abuse their children. That may be true, and it would be most unfortunate, but that can not be laid at Joey's feet anymore than we could blame Black and Decker because someone chose to use their hammer to smash someone's skull. The paddle is a tool. Used properly, it will accomplish the job it was intended for. Used improperly, it could be most devastating. Joey can not be held responsible for the actions of men. There will always be those who intend to do harm, and they will make use of whatever devices that they want in order to accomplish this. If they don't use the paddle, they would use their fists, or their feet, or the old leather belt. I do have one question for you. You mentioned that Joey 'heard a voice' telling him to create this. I've searched the site three times, and see no mention of this. Where did you get that? Jax--First off, a high school grammar course would be an excellent idea. I'm not sure where you learned to write, but the lack of puncuation in your sentences is most atrocious (that means bad!). Beginning each sentence with the word 'also' is grammatically incorrect, and hard to read, let alone understand. But enough with the english lessons. As for your question about whether or not the child likes being spanked, isn't that the whole point? If the child enjoyed being spanked, it wouldn't be an effective tool for discipline, would it? Kind of like jails being soft and cushy, with all kinds of free amenities. What kind of discipline is that? The only valid point you raised was that parents should be more involved with their children's lives, and finding out the cause of the behavior is most important. At least, I think that's what you were trying to say. Glen--I challenge you to prove that God doesn't exist. Douglas Adams (the humorist author of "The Hitchiker's Guide To The Galaxy" and other fine books) is the only person on earth that I know that even came close, but he did it in jest, using a complex mathematical formula. I would be most interested in knowing that God's existence has finally been disproven, as would most Christians, Muslims, and Jews. Oh, and don't bring up that tripe about 'evolution' since that hasn't been proven either. There, I think that's it. And now I've successfully added another topic to this poor man's website about paddles.
What is appropriate spanking? The issue is not whether parents should spank, but how they spank. An important scientific conference defined spanking as physically non-injurious, intended to modify behavior, and administered to the extremities or buttocks. We would add that such discipline is never administered in anger. Used with children from approximately 18 months to 6 years of age (never later than puberty), spanking has been shown to be effective, especially when used in conjunction with other forms of discipline, such as time-outs, reasoning and other disciplinary tools.
Further, when studies that isolate mild spanking from abusive behaviors are analyzed, results have proven repeatedly that the practice is not harmful. Why have we not seen these findings reported in the press?
Proper spanking is often a necessary tool in parenting. Studies have shown an increase in child abuse in homes where appropriate spanking does not occur, as eliminating spanking takes away a strong, useful and suitable tool from a parent. Equating appropriate spanking with punishment that includes child abuse is inaccurate, unfair and misleads parents who are striving to properly raise their children.
Based upon the best evidence available, we would support the many parents who believe in spanking, when necessary. But we also believe it must be administered wisely and only when appropriate. The evidence does not show that spanking is a disciplinary cure-all.
Not all children need to be spanked, and not all parents should spank their children—especially parents prone to anger, hostility, abuse or outbursts. However, a parent that does not teach that there are consequences to behaviors will leave it to the police and others to do that later in the child's life.
Parents, for millennia, in virtually every recorded culture, have spanked their young children, when necessary, to teach them and to shape and mold their character—to ultimately benefit their children. Now parents are being fed confusing information—apples turned into oranges—by what appear to be anti-spanking advocates. Perhaps some discipline is in order for those guilty of fictionalized reporting.
Resource: Is Spanking Actually Harmful to Children? By Walter L. Larimore, M.D. http://www.family.org/pplace/toddlers/a0022942.cfm
And By the way, I raised 9 children and DID NOT "spare the rod"...
OUTSTANDING IDEA, I pray you make alot of paddles...Parents need to care about the way their children are growing. To grow healthy, a child needs to know that they have consequences for their actions. Yippeeeee for you.
Joey, I think what you are doing is great. As a child, I was grounded, had my stuff taken away, sat in a corner, but nothing held the message like when my father got out the paddle. Now I see my generation of hippie raised kids out there out of control. All th nicey nice and be a friend to you kid (instead of being a parent) has raised a degenerate society. Just watch Jerry Spinger once and look in the audience. Long story short, keep up the good work. Bryan 22, No kids yet
Sandy, if you would read your Bible it clearly states that a woman who isn't a virgin on her wedding night should be stoned to death (Deuteronomy 22:20-21). Would you support that idea? Maybe Joey's next hot product should be big sharp-edged rocks to lob at the heads of "soiled" brides, with the message 'Love, Joey' painted on them? Yes, I do read the Bible and it says a number of things I find morally reprehensible. I would suggest that using 2000 year old religious texts from primitive, unenlightened and cruel cultures to determine your idea of what's right and wrong is the kind of thing that leads people like you to cheer a man who markets an implement for the sole purpose of causing pain to children. Again, I'm not against the idea of giving a kid a quick spank on the rear end when he gets out of line to admonish him; there's nothing abnormal about that. What I'm sickened by is the idea of MARKETING A WEAPON to use against a child. Honestly, if you can't give a child whatever kind of spanking he needs with a simple open palm, then you're just an abuser. Period. It disturbs me that religious people, who think of themselves as being more virtuous and moral than everyone else, are such fans of using physical violence--especially against defenseless children--to solve all problems whether it is necessary or not. PS: There is only one "s" in "exist".
Good for you and anyone who disciplins ther kids.I'm a better person today for it. I also believe everyone should serve in the armed forces to learn how to disciplin themselves.
first of all i would like to laugh at the idea. If endangering someones saftey is 5 swats then when the parents do it they should get 25 swats for endangeding someones health 5 times. Also, how does this help the child. This only makes the child even more mad at the parents. Also why would you say your site name on quinn in the morning, I alsost fell out of my chair laughing. Also this may influence the child to become aggressive because the parents do it. Also this doesn't help the parents know whats wrong with their children. In conclusion i think the whole idea is bad. P.S. Did you get spanked when you were a child and did you like it. P.P.S.that goes for the parents that approve of this idea. Jax
First of all I would like to say good job to Joey.. This is a wonderful idea. I dont advocate beating but I do believe in spanking and your paddle is a wonderful idea.. keep up the good work... Secondly, I would like to respond to Martin and Glen on this subject... If you would read your bible, it clearly states spare the rod and spoil the child...and as for your remark on God not exsisting, well all I can say to you is I;ll be praying for you soul that when you stand before Jesus he wont say that you dont exsist either.
I would like to say to all the people who object to spanking on whatever grounds- please share with us and the entire world your time proven, superior alternatives. Of course you don't have any except to rehash the same old tired, politically correct, Benjamin Spock inspired arguments that have proven to be a huge failure. However, if all of you "enlightened" people can help to prove that thousands of years of child rearing methods are inferior to your own "new age" methods and can shame us all into a socially re-engineered compliance, then please do share. After all how did the previous generations ever survive (I bet their spankings weren't "soft") and prosper before you all came along. While spanking is less used today than in times past and youth violence is higher than the historical averages, and while parents are at their wits end struggling to cope with irreverant, ungrateful children, keep using the ugly, accusatory words that make all good humanists feel warm and fuzzy inside. Meanwhile God bless you Joey and all parents who truly care about the kind of children they raise. Keep up the good work and don't ever give up!
Robert, you have every bit as distorted a vision of the world as Joey and his "loving" paddles. Let's start at the beginning: "Obviously you are one of the people who can't distinguish between discipline and violence. Since you can't, this makes YOU a dangerous person and not Joe. The FBI should pick YOU up and put you away until you can learn the difference." For one thing, unlike Joey, I would NEVER beat a kid, so if you think that makes me more dangerous than he is then you're just plain stupid. I DO distinguish between discipline and violence enough to know that the one does NOT necessarily require the other. Secondly, since you bring up the topic of distinguishing differences, I have to wonder why it is that you think there are only two choices open to parents: medication or violence. Whatever happened to being a role model for your child and helping him learn by example? Too difficult, I imagine; just get out Joey's Love Paddle whenever he acts up, that's much easier. That's a pretty simplistic, black and white view of the world, but then such a view would be consistent with religious fundamentalism. Most children do not suffer from ADHD and the ones who do aren't going to simmer down because you take a slab of wood to their butts. I admit to not being a parent myself, but if you think that disqualifies me from having an opinion, think again, Chuckles. For one thing, I used to BE a child, and I also have enough friends who are parents to know fairly well how frustrating an exercise parenting can often be. But if you think the only tools parents have at their disposal are either medication or a paddle, you're headed for disaster. My own childhood was pretty normal; I didn't misbehave any more than any other kid and though I did get the occasional smack on the behind, it was never with a PIECE OF WOOD with the deranged message "Love, Joey" on it! Good grief. As for taking a shot at religious people, also not true (though I freely and proudly admit to being atheist). I only criticize people who use their religious beliefs to excuse and justify VIOLENCE, and it happens all the time. And if you and Joey think none of these paddles will ever end up in the hands of a parent who will fly off the handle and really damage his kid with it, you're hopelessly naive. Violence stems from anger, period! If someone hits you then tells you he loves you, run from that person; he is truly demented. (Frankly, I'm shocked and sickened by the enthusiastic reaction many people here have had to these little mail-order child-beaters. There will be a lot of crying children this holiday season thanks to Joey.) Here in my home town of Austin, TX, two youth ministers at a local church have been arrested for holding down an 11-year-old boy and beating him with a piece of wood until his kidneys failed and he ended up in ICU! Was that loving? Is that the "Christian" way to "discipline" kids? Personally, if you need to swat your kid, then give him a smack and be done with it; this whole creepy ritual of getting a child to fill out an "appointment card" for his beating and then using a paddle instead of just an open palm is mere authoritarian cruelty for the sake of it. You did say one thing I agree with, though: "Common sense is common sense. And it seems that so many people are lacking it these days." Of course, I'm sure the irony is utterly lost on you.
This comment is to address the following messages below submitted by Jason, Martin and Glen. Martin - Obviously you are one of the people who can't distinguish between discipline and violence. Since you can't, this makes YOU a dangerous person and not Joe. The FBI should pick YOU up and put you away until you can learn the difference. You don't mention if you have children or not? Have you ever seen a kid on Ritalin? You do far more damage to a child by medicating them than a few swats could ever do! I think you were trying to take a shot at people who believe in God by the underlying tone of your message. What religion are you? Are you atheist? Jason - Again you are another person who can't distinguish between discipline and violence. The fact that you resort to name calling shows your lack of intelligence to discuss this topic in a civilized manner. Again you are another person that doesnt mention if you have children or not. Glen - Here we go again. Another person who can't distinguish between discipline and violence. On top of that you are a person that can't read. THE PADDLES ARE FREE. I will say it again in case you didn't get it the first time. THE PADDLES ARE FREE. Maybe you were a medicated child. This would explain the lack of understanding the message of this site. Do you have children? Maybe people should post their age and number of children they have so these comments can be put into their proper perspective. I think that people who don't have children are quick to offer their opinion when they have absolutely no idea what they are talking about. Also, so many of you are quick to change this to a religious dispute. Why? It doesn't matter where the message comes from. Common sense is common sense. And it seems that so many people are lacking it these days. I guess the medicated children are now entering the workforce. May God, Buddah, Allah, or whatever pagan god you worship help us when they are running country and taking care of us when we are old. BTW, just to take my own advice from above, I am a 34yo male with 2 children. Keep it up Joey. Robert
Parents resort to violence when they are too lazy to figure out what to talk with their children about. You have to listen to them and talk to them. Not beat them with a chunk of wood. Violence breeds violence for the most part. Why risk it? Talk to your child, take away the TV, the basketball, or whatever he loves - but don't beat your child, this is not a good solution. Don't be lazy - start early and be consistant and quit trying to sell paddles to people - you never know what their tempers may be like. Do you want to be a part of this kind of abuse heaped on children! For shame! I do not believe God told you to do this, I believe you are a little deluded and should see a Doctor. However, some folks believe that God created man in his image, and in this case, I assume beating children would right up your alley. If God wanted people beating their children he would just have paddles drop out of the sky and not be talking to one individual in the shower! Give me a break! Besides you know God does not exist no more than Santa does! People only use that as an excuse for violence all over the world! Wise Up!! How much profit do you and um, God make off these paddles, anyway? What some people won't do for a buck!
Parents are much too quick to medicate their behaviorally-challenged kids these days. Who knows what the long-term side effects are of Ritalin and those other meds that they're forcing kids to take? A good swatting on the behind is one sure way to get the attention of a child with attention defecit disorder (ADD), and when administered properly has no known side effects after thousands of years of research. Keep up the good work, Joey!!!
I notice on your main page you list "endangering someone's safety" as worthy of 5 swats. Seeing as how hundreds of children are about to be endangered with your "spare rods," sounds like the guy who needs 5 swats is you. In fact I hope you get 5 swats for every child hit with one of your paddles, you sick SOB.
You are a sick and deranged individual. The very fact that your inspiration for creating this child-abuse implement came from hearing a voice is testament to that. There is a term for people who hear voices in their heads, and that's "mentally ill." As for your absurd argument that this device should be used "lovingly and never in anger," don't be foolish; it is NEVER "loving" to use physical violence to assert your authority. But then, Christians worship a "loving" God who sentences anyone who doesn't love Him back to an eternity of torture, so I suppose the equation of love with violence isn't a problem for Christians. I don't think you know what love is, so your constant use of the term to defend hurting children is sickening. If even one child is hurt with this device you're marketing I hope the FBI swoops down on you and you spend the rest of your loathsome life in prison.
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God Bless you, it's about time that someone had the good thoughts that you have! I see children every day who are lacking some good well intended discipline. I was raised that way and it certainly never hurt me. I'm 62 now and I still have respect for other folks. This is lacking in our youth today. Heard you on the Quinn & Rose in the morning show, and that's how I found your website.
Joey, Someone once told me that 40% of the people walking the streets shouldn't be. They should be behind locked doors. I think you're one of them.
I agree with your site and with using corporal punishment, but in our house spankings are given on the bare bottom, not over clothing. There are several reasons for this, not least of which is that clothing dulls the impact and makes bruising more likely. I certainly wish your site well and will recommend it to my friends.
I believe that there are times when a child will need a spanking and that it's a good idea with the appointment card just to give the parent enough time to cool down from being angry. I don't agree with you dominating your son and making him sound like he likes the paddle. You have a picture of yourself & son both holding the paddle like it's your 'friend'. Are you weird or what? If he's having a problem with school or anything else and has an attitude you should want to get to the bottom of it by talking to him. At his age you need to show him respect so that he'll have respect for others. He may have something that's weighing on his mind and you're just going to spank him and that will make everything better. Wrong. Then he has to suppress how he feels around you & others. Who will he talk to then? Curious.
Joe, There is too much child abuse in the world already. Too many parents start hitting their child and then they don't know when to stop. When a child has a behavior problem. The parent should attend parenting classes. You can raise a child with discipline (no hitting) and love. The parent(s) should set down rules. Then be firm and consistent. Give a 'time out' or ground the child for bad behavior. Reward the child for good behavior. A reward could be an extra play time with their friends. If the child gets what they want even though their behavior is bad, then the parent will have even bigger problems as the child grows up. If anybody needs a spanking, it is the over indulgent parent that allows the child to tell them what to do. My husband and I have raised two children. They were good children and they are now good adults.
dear joey if u could email me id like a paddle......email@example.com i support u fully and hope it goes well.i would go and get one but i dont drive.i have a cousoler in my home 30 hours a week and i even tried behavorial meds.hes a diffucult child but awesome when he wants to be. i am a single mom of 4 childeren ages 14/13/11/and 8 and the 13 year old is my only big problem.i use to have a paddle but my friend borrowed it like it so much she kept it.my son responded to the two swats he got and it was affected.i would appreciated it though if u could email me ur address so i can come get one or ill leave u my phone number and we could meet somewhere.our childeren go to school together my daughters name is christaia.....she plays valley basketball.thanks for your time ..please say a prayer for him there is hope i believe for him......thanks good luck!!!!!!
Good for you Joey. I am so glad to see that someone has finally had the guts and common sense to say what needs to be said. I am a firm believer that spanking is the only appropriate punishment for a child's inappropriate behavior. There are some misbehavings that just can't be corrected by being "sent to your room" or by being given a "time out". When I was a child and severely misbehaved I was given a spanking. I didn't like the spanking, but I can guarantee you that I was very hestitant to repeat that misbehavior again ! I am 48 years old now and have two grown children (who were also spanked when they needed it) and I am very thankful that I was raised with love and with firm discipline when I needed it. Keep up the good work Joey !
I have mixed emotions on this in theory I agree with paddling but as a child though I was beat with a belt and really tortured mentally by my father. The site of children being hit really turns my stomach because they cannot defend themselves. But I know it can be an effective tool in disciplining children.
Dear JOey I think you are wrong....if i want to punish my children i can do so without hitting them...i have three children and they have never been swatted and they are all fine children....
Joey, I love the concept behind this idea !! It's a great idea to "make an appointment" to give the parent time to cool down. It's an affective tool in disciplining. It also gives the kids a clear idea of unacceptable behavior. God wants us to discipline with love and I believe that this is an effective way to do that. Thank you Joey. Tammy Stewart
I think that it is a good idea to give your kid a swat or two because it has changed me. I got one swat because of disrespect and my dad Joey Salvati has helped me change my way of talking to people, and not having an attitude because that is my worst problem. I could be talking about that happened in school and get an attitude because somebody could not hear me but that does not happen anymore my dad has changed my life for now I hope it lasts and it probably will. p.s. thank you dad
Joey, your idea is great. I wish more people had the same common sense that you do. It is terrible to be in a store and watch kids torment their parents and other shoppers while the parent just accepts this behavior. If those kids were disciplined properly, then we would all live in a more peaceful environment. Thank you for just being here. Your friend, Robert Lovic
Good luck, Joey. You have broken new ground. What you are doing will help shape many young lives.
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