October 01, 2007 @ 10:39 am

Toya Carter Speaks Out (Part 2)

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Lil Wayne's ex-wife and baby's mother speaks on love, fidelity, Nivea and Superhead. Plus: exclusive photos!

After reading the Lil Wayne cover story in VIBE's November 2007 issue, Antonia "Toya" Carter, Lil Wayne's ex-wife, wanted to give her side of the story. In the first part of this exclusive Q&A, she speaks about their history. She also loaned us a whole gang of photos - which seem to show they did have love, if only for a time - which we'll be publishing here on vibe.com over the next few days. Keep checking back. And now: part 2 of our exclusive interview with Antonia "Toya" Carter, Lil Wayne's first wife.

VIBE.com: How did your marriage come about?
Toya Carter: Wayne and I were dating since middle school. That wasn't his first time proposing to me. He actually proposed to me my second Mother's Day.

So you were 16?
Yes, we were like 16, 17 when he first proposed to me, but we were 21 when we decided to get married. I was 20, he was 21.

You guys were together that entire time?
Yeah, on and off. When he started dating Nivea, I didn't know anything about it. Then I found out and he admitted it to me that he was dating her and that's when the marriage came apart. That's why you can't believe everything you hear. It's crazy how it goes. We were planning a wedding, and he was with Nivea. Him and Nivea split up and six months later me and him were married. It was crazy. Not saying that he didn't care about Nivea; that was his girlfriend at the time, but I guess after a while he got tired of that and he came to me and said he wanted his family back and proposed to me. We had a wedding six months later. A nice wedding. We got married on Valentine's Day, February 2004.

And this was already when he was well into his career?
It wasn't like is now, but he was still at a good point in his career… I think this right before The Carter dropped.

Was it a good marriage? Were you happy, was he creepin' out?
Yeah, Wayne is the type who likes to have his cake and eat it, too. So we were together, but that didn't stop him from doing what he had to do and I wasn't happy with that. A person can only take so much. I filed for a divorce January 1st. I wanted to start my new year off right because I was going to Atlanta and I was hearing all of these things - he's with this one, he's with that one. I'm thinking maybe he wasn't ready to get married but that's not what he was telling me. He was saying he's a changed man and he's giving the game up. I knew he wasn't really meaning that, but I at least thought that he'd still put family first. We were married for two years. We didn't get divorced until the beginning of '06. That's when the whole Trina thing came about.

Was there ever any drug use? Did that ever affect your relationship? Because he talks about it a lot; was that ever something in his life that it was so heavy that it affected anything?
No, that wasn't nothing. It was more of him just fooling. Women, women, women. With the guys all day. No time with the kid. We get no time. We just fall in where we fall in. That's not how it's supposed to be.

Do you think he'll ever change or is that just the person that he is?
To be honest with you, I don't think that that part will ever change.  Whoever he decides to be with in the future -- they are just going to have to accept that. They're never going to get time. They're never going to get Wayne, fully Wayne.

Do you read about his feelings for Karrine Steffans?

All I have to say about that is that for some people, the word "love" is loose terminology. Everybody: Trina, Nivea, Karrine, whoever it may be.

Is there anything you would want to clarify?
Yeah, the reason I was speaking out is because I feel like being a baby mother, I'm bound by unwritten code - a code of silence. So most rappers... I'm not going to say rappers - Dwayne - they say things because they know we will never get the chance to voice the truth and we just have to suck it up because this is the way we eat. But I've come to a point where I'm really fed up with it. A person can only take so much. I just want to tell the truth and I just wanted clear that up. It's not to make him look bad in the interview. It's just to let people know I've never been Wayne's stylist. His mother didn't make me marry him; that was something he wanted to do. He proposed to me twice. His mother didn't ask him to go around asking girls to have a baby. That didn't happen. My daughter came about because we were in love and young. There's just a lot of things that he said in his interview that just is not true. Like Wayne will call me all the time when he's not having a good day just to talk. We are each other's go-to person. It's really not what he makes it to be to the world. I just recently asked him about this interview and made me look like a complete ass and said his mother made me marry him, like we were never in love. Like we never had anything. Like I was your jumpoff. Like I just came along and fell in. That is not what happened. Don't act like we never had nothing and you don't have love for me.

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solady says:

i mean im still da wife lol u aint have to put him out there like dat he did u wrong yall did eachother wrong

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aweezy09 says:

Lil wayne I kno toya ya baby mama and all, but she really shouldn't be calling you a lier after everthing you did for her and regenae

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TbAzZ says:

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its me again.this comment is for weezy... u know u love toya so u need to stop doin all dis shit u doin and work things out wit her because u and her would wounderful together!!!but i just want to let u know u da greatest dam rapper alive and I LOVE U WEEZY F BABY!!!!!

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TbAzZ says:

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toya i think no matter what yo crazy ass think....u and weezy are like soulmates no one could ever take your place no matter how many of them hoes he go out wit! u need to try to work things with him. and the next time u hear he goin out wit beyonce or whatever ...u need to put yo foot up da b**ch ass!!!HOLLA AT YA GIRL!!!!

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jasmine jones says:

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I really understand where wanyes ex wife is coming from. i would be hurt too if the person i loved made a copmlete ass aout of me. thats f**ked up wayne but to me all emv are the same. life moves on and if it is meant for them to be together then it will happen no matter what the case my be. keep yor head up girl.

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choppa56 says:

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WEEZY U GOT 2 LEARN HOW 2 STEP IT UP MAN CAUSE FAMILY IS ALWAYS SUPPOSE 2 B FIRST

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shantivia says:

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dont worry ma wayne is a dawg just keep yo head up and do what you have to do . and for trina f**k her

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daniel vergara says:

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good comment

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mz.9th street says:

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i tha real miss wayne so it dont matter b**ch!!!!

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NICOLE says:

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THAT'S GOOD THEY LET TOYA GET A WORD IN B/C EVEN THO I LOVE ME SOME WEEZY, GUYS DO STILL TRY TO THROW DIRT ON SOME WOMEN'S NAME. SO THAT'S GOOD SHE HAD AN OPPORTUNITY TO CLEAR THINGS UP.

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Sweetheart says:

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I'm not gone put my mouth on Wayne and Toya's business......I was in elementary school when they was talkin.......but I AM mad at VIBE for not publishing this in the mag(I am a loyal subscriber) she talks about having a voice.......ya'll should be making SURE it's heard.

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jeanette espinell says:

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updates

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LIL WAYNE says:

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f**k all you lil wayne haterz ...u dont even know what you people r talkin bout like lil wayne is so ill wit it, it aint even funny

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nove says:

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well wayne need 2 see this. this better make the front cover

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keema says:

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i think u are right 4 doing what u are doing but mean while he is a working man who is very well know 2 the world and u should also acept that 2 but he still want u lol

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Sani says:

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well seems like she still in love with him and he can do whatever he want with her. poor thang. another delusional baby mother, just like Kim Porter!

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erika says:

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I beleave toya cause im a single mother and my lil boy father is so much like lil wayne and the shit is doing to her he did it to me and his mom did the same shit to me put everything on me when it was all said and done. be strong toya and raise your lil girl to chose her men better than we do im happy i got a lil man now i just got to teach him how to treat young women and women and im 23 years old my son is 4 and trust me sweatheart i feel i your pain keep ure head up lobe Erika out of fort lauderdale.......

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Tasha says:

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I feel her on that shit. They been togather or known each other too long for the unnecessary bull, if wayne got to make any comment at all about his family situation it should NEVER bash loved ones, like she said her daughter reads that stuff. I believe he he's being immature when it comes to lying like that.

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BVrittany says:

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Look

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Brianna(Been There Done That) says:

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I think that Lil' Wayne is doin what he should be at this age. Despite the fame and publicity he is still a baby himself. He makes it fully known that he has incredible love for his daughter. If Toya wants him back ever she needs to understand the above. He is in his 2o's and famous! Of course he's gon play. He has a rare opportunity unlike most young black man. As a matter of fact, he's compared with the top rappers who are all older than him at least by almost ten yrs! Jus do you boo! Like the old sayin says "Let the dog roam, and he'll find his way home. He must got some love fo da girl cus he done kept her under wraps. He may just be saving her for the future for when he's ready to settle down. If I was Toya I would jus find me a lil friend on the side and keep collectin the funds fo da baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Now go and get ya money lil duffle bag boy!

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lake says:

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hi, just stopping by to say good job on getting what u feel was right, then; dont let this fool break your heart into a millon pieces again. however, your daughter will eventually see her "father" for who he really is, and don't regret anything you'll had just take it as a lesson learned and an obsticle overcomed.

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ToyaB says:

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I HATE when females be like, "Don't act like we never had nother and you don't have love for me!"

GIRL, a real man will act like he loves you through his ACTIONS. You keep talking about thangs that happened 10 YEARS AGO. Get over it!!! PLEASE. If a man loves you you wouldn't have to question it or tell him not to act like yall didn't have love. It would be what it is

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Simone says:

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wayne on bull! half his songs talkin bout how he got luv 4 his babymoma n how she alwayz been there! i kno, i been a weezy fan since b4 500 degreez!!! that slut ass b**ch jes f**kin wit his head, thas wat hos like dat do! he been in tha game long enuff, he should kno a gold digger when he c 1!!!

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Leilani says:

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I feel that Lil Wayne has lost himself, due to many, many plights & hardships in his life. This doesn't excuse the fact that his ex-wife & mother of his daughter should be given his ASS to kiss when he's on some "me against the world" or "no one was there for me" trip. I wonder would he say those type of things about Baby (his so-called "daddy")?....HELL NO! ....(subject change) ....... Speaking of Baby & Lil Wayne..... I am a bit confused as to why they have to kiss each other on the lips...hmmmm... seems like a conclusion has come to Lil Wayne's women problems.....LAWD HAMMERCY!! Disregard my inquiry. TO ALL LIL WAYNE & BABY FANS don't start having driveby rallies & throwing upset words at me. Just answer these questions, if possible, & I will go on about my OWN business..lol.... "Would you kiss 'ya boy', 'ya dawg', ya MALE friend on his lips?" AND "If you saw ya friend kiss HIS male friend on the lips, what would you think??"....BE HONEST

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oje says:

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what a foolish man how can u deny ur love for ur ex wife especially after u were all together since skool days just shows hes a child in a mans bodie hes right he is little wayne he will be little for life punk

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what! says:

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If you are not from New Orleans, then you don't know their history. If some you were, you would know that they were together before the fame, and you would also know that Toya got much love for Wayne and He has just as much for her. Obviously, knowing Wayne, he was high as hell during the interview. Toya brush that off ya shoulder you know he's the son of a #1 stunna.

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AD says:

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ALL OF YALL NEED GOD!!!!!! ALL OF THIS LIL RAP ISH AND LIME LIFE, HOES, MONEY, NUCCAS, ALL THIS ISH GONE COME TO AN END... GROW UP AND GET A WHITE COLLARD MAN!!! ALL OF YALL WHO FALLIN FOR THIS LIL YUNG BOY RAP STAR!!!!

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tyeisha says:

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Why can't you find the right one,or how about the one that's going have the right and resonbable time for their girl.

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Angel says:

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You don't have to worry about that you are beautiful and you don't need him to tell you that.

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B. GREEN says:

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I THINK THE LIL BOY NEEDS MANY PRAYERS AND ALL THAT HE SAYIN BOUT TOYA NEM IS LIES E SHOULD THINK HOW SLEEPING WITH THAT LADY AND TELLING LIES AFFECT HIS CHILD THINK WITH YOUR HEAD WITH THE BRAIN NOT THE OTHER ONE

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Playa says:

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if you looking for more on the lil wayne beef wit 50 cent.....

www.myspace/youngswaggaent

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SHONDAJ says:

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CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS?

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BLACK QUEEN says:

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I LIKE LIL WAYNE AND HIS MUSIC BUT HIS PERSONALTY SEEMS A LIL SHIFTY. WHY WLD HE SPEAK ABOUT HIS BM IN THAT WAY THEN SAY HE 'LOVE' THAT NASTY CUM STAIN SUPER HEAD? COME ON NOW!! AND DONT HE THINK HIS DAUGHTER IS OLD ENOUGH TO READ WHY WHOULD HE WANT HER TO THINK SHE WAS JUST SOMETHING THAT CAME ALONG FOR GP? COME ON NOW LIKE I SAID DONT GET ME WRONG I LOVE WEZZY THE RAPPER BUT HE GOT SOME ISSUES. IM GLAD HIS BM AINT COME OUT BASHIN HIM THO IT JUST SHOWS THE TYPE OF WOMAN SHE IS AND SHE DDNT NEED TO BE REGARDED AS JUST SOME JUMP OFF WHEN WE KNOW THAT PROB WASNT THE CASE

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queens den says:

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jen obviously didn't read Toyas words..Jen no groupies allowed please...a childhood relationship is no meal ticket.... Toya I will say I love the way that you stuck to the facts with no name calling. I will say I never bought the story that his mother asked you to have his child and marry him...lol..we are not in africa...i also believe that you had his child young so basically little wheezy has a mother thats promoting teens to have unprotected sex...yea right ...that should be a neglect case ..wheres the police when you need them... I am happy that you seem to be at peace. your right we never here the stories from the women you all have no new tracks on MTV it's always a ghetto story from the brother.....thank you for sharing a story of strength.

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Chele My Bell says:

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I AGREE WITH THE STATEMENT BEFORE , THAT THIS STORY REMINDS ME SO MUCH OF JAY-Z'S SONG CRY. TOYA IS A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN WHO IS VERY MATURE AND STRONG. MY WHOLE VIEW OF WAYNE HAS CHANGED. HE A GROWN MAN WHY LIE ABOUT SUMTHING SO SERIOUS. IT SEEMS THAT TOYA IS ALWAYS THERE FOR HIM AND HE THINKS SHE WILL NEVER STOP. TOYA I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD STOP BEING IS GO-TO PERSON, LET HIS HOES DO THAT. AND LET HIM SEE HOW MUCH YOU REALLY MEAN TO HIM, YOU ARE THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILD AND YOU DESERVE MORE RESPECT.. STAY STRONG

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ewatts says:

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girl keep ya head up, and take care of ya kid. protect her as much as you can from the fakeness or the rumors the media mey try to portray. I remember how in love yall both were in school. he only sayong that because people outside of marion abramson high school don't know him. but we know whats real, we saw the diamond ring he put on your finger. grow up wayne! you wouldnt want nobody to treat ur daughter that way.

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MISSNEWME*HOUSTON says:

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Stay strongm, and humble and GOD will always look after you. I'm glad that you were not vindictive and lashed out back at him in a neagtive way. You're definitely a mature woman. I just pray that you stay faithful to the lord and your son, and that you are bettering your self thru higher education. Much Love form Houston, Texas.

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Itsme says:

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Thats right Toya when these fools come up and get money they act a fool! Let his A$$ go broke 2marrow and hes gonna try to get you back!

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Mrs.duffey says:

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it's crazy i love wayne but you and him should have worked things out ....but it's ok keep yo head nobody will ever take ya place

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7th ward qeshia(new orleans) says:

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Everyone in New Orleans know Lil Wayne is lame.He's a good rapper but he is so fake. All the stuff he talks about thats goes on in New Orleans is true but he is a false claimer.

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jen says:

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Stop being his go-to person and using him as your sole meal ticket and maybe he will respect you.

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D-Wayne says:

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LIl'wayne and Toya' s story reminds me of Jay-Z's song cy

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kmm504 says:

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First off Toya, u look beautiful in the pics. I just want to say that we know Tune is being fake. It's so sad to see what drugs do to people. Anybody from N. O knows the bond you two have. I went to high school with you two (Marion Abramson), and you have every right to speak put because you have been through alot for him. I remember you getting jumped pregnant because even back then he was a whore. You are handling Wayne's "downward spiral"with class and i commend you for not lowering yourself to his level . Just continue to be the only real thing in his life at this point. Anybody that knows yall history knows he full of it!

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shayna says:

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Toya don't know you but thank you for the interview. wayne said some crazy things but you still took the high road and showed that you are bigger and better than the drama he brings! best of luck to you!!

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sherry says:

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GET MONEY !!!!!!

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Real Talk says:

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i meant girl

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Real Talk says:

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Li....

you better be a dude...if not, u sounded real gay right there

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Li says:

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Tha boy look like "jimmy the cricket"and you women be chasing clowns who think that they are the bomb. that is sad.

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aja says:

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hey wasss up lil wayne my aja i luv all ur music and e-mail me im 24 year old i just luv u peace out homie

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Latrice says:

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I Luv Weezy To Death,But It's Been Really Clear To The World That Weezy F Baby Is A #1 Stunna!!! But Toya It Takes A Real Woman To Grow Away From Someone They Love So Much:) So Congrats!!! For Getting Your Grown Woman On!!! People Just Listen To "Something You Forgot". It's Pretty Damn Obvious Something Is Eating At That Ass, It Does'nt Take A Rocket Scientist To Know~ Who He's Talking About In That Song;)

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sly-weezy says:

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reali sorry toya, reali is...but u should know were therz money therz honey, girlz/women love honey and boyyz/rapperz love women... heads up baby, he's the baddest rapper alive and you're the realest girl eva, we ol got love 4 yal both

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N.O. Finest says:

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everybody in New Orleans knows Wayne is fake!!So, Toya shouldn't worry about that fake ass dude. I remember when Wayne couldn't get a date b/c he was too ugly and aggrevating. I guess money can buy anything. Even a new image and attitude

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Tiara says:

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Yea he was talking about her lil Wayne is a foreal ROCKSTAR and they some ho's in the first degree. So Yoya keep ya head up and like goe'a on

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girlfriend says:

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in his song la la , he said that "me and lil toya johnson was so in love" I assume johnson was toya maiden name.

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paula says:

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girl this has been going on since the beginning of time . whats best for a brother at the time thats why i am teaching my son that honesty dont care how much it hurts you still come out on top because no one is caught off guard. I give made love to all the sista's who have been lied on and decieved now its time for our bro's to do the same!

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Sunshine says:

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I would like to thank you for this interview. Often times, these rappers feel that they need to prove to the world that they are "gutta" and don't have love for no female. But I am from the streets and I see the real gangstas w/ their families quite often. It's time for young black men to keep it real w/ themselves and show this impressionable kids that it's OK to love. Maybe then there won't be so much violence. Everybody has had a soft spot for someone, even the hardest rapper.

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