(Below are condensed versions of answers from Day two of Crazy Sexy Wisdom. Go to “Listen to Crazy Sexy Wisdom” to hear the answers in full.)
Recently someone pulled a knife on me. How can I cultivate compassion when I am afraid to trust those that I don’t know?
This is such a brave question. We all have something that traumatized us and it is real and it hurts and if we let it, it can color our experience of the world.
So take that moment in time and ask, is it here now? Is that moment of utter fear, of utter disbelief, is it here now? Is it in this room? Is that guy in this room?
He is here, only in my mind. He is only a memory. He is only a thought. The past is nothing but a mere thought ripening again, and ripening again.
We have these stories about how things are and we can hang on to that story and re-experience that story, or we can really take that story and use it and change it. You see?
By letting go of that story we can free ourselves. It is about seeking freedom from the past. That past isn’t here now. Not if you let it go.
We all have this thing with the past, right? We blame our mothers, we blame our fathers, we have all these stories about the past about how we are like the way we are now. And it is all stories.
Every time you remember something, it is different. Every time. A detail is different, the emotion is a little bit different, it is always a little different. Not even your past is fixed.
The past has nothing to do with the present. It affects us and it hurts us and it was real, yes. But if we can just begin to think about: Is the past here, in this room? Ok, no, it is not in this room. It is just a memory. But it happened. In the past. Ok, if the past was fixed, wouldn’t I remember everything perfectly, in exactly the same way, every single time I thought about it? Wouldn’t that be fixed?
So walk yourself through that. If you can do that, you can change the way you see your world, you can un-color it with that awful tint, and you can free yourself. You can love and you can be compassionate towards everybody because that’s the world you want to experience.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
How can I see the beauty in me and feel comfortable with myself?
Highest view: rejoice in the beauty of others. If you are able to rejoice in the beauty of others it is because there is beauty in you. If you can see beauty in the world, it is coming from you. It is not outside of you.
How do I deal with my jealousy?
Sometimes we think that because someone else has something that we don’t have, it is because it is limited and then there is not enough for us. But it is really coming from ourselves. So rejoice in that.
How can I create the karma to have a sharp mind and a sharp memory?
According to this beautiful philosophy the way we can develop a sharp mind, is by keeping our morality. It is really keeping mindfulness.
In this practice there are some guidelines, that is The Book, the famous Book. I am not trying to preach that I keep them all perfectly but I try. We all try right? It is about a practice. That gives enough merit so that we can develop concentration so that we can meditate. And it is through meditation that we can find mindfulness and it is through mindfulness that we can throw that shoe of joy through the Wheel of Samsara.
That is it. Keep your morality. Then you will be able to keep your concentration, you will be able to meditate and things, you will find more joy and your concentration will be sharper.
What I really want is to be wiser with the things I want and to understand the real reasons why I want them and what they would to do help me. I feel I want things like more money and a boyfriend, but I don’t really know if those things are in my best interest or I just want not to be lonely. Why do those things happen?
It is confusing. I also want that. And I think the core of this question, which is so beautiful, is that we don’t want to be lonely. Who wants to be lonely? I don’t want to be lonely. Help lonely people.
The state of health is a very stubborn obstacle in my life to achieve many things that I have not been able to achieve. How can I turn it around?
This one is tuff. All of them are tuff. When health strikes us. Highest view: take care of sick people. I have asked Lisette this before, because it is difficult, once you are sick it would be like dried cement. I don’t know if this situation is something pranic if it is something terminal or something mild. How do you deal with something in the moment? yes it is dried cement. Can you reverse that karma? Can you? You can change it. Not even karma is fixed. And there are practices that can help that we are touching on in these classes. But there are ways that we can reverse and minimize the effect of past actions. Something that might ripen into a disease that might kill you, can ripen into maybe a headache or to a surgery. There are practices and it is radical. Crazy, it is sexy. Is wisdom.