An “insider” just forwarded me a message from the Evidence of Harm mailing list.
Out of all hate and strawman arguments I’ve seen, this really takes the cake. Part of the message:
Of course, this could be said of the ND population as well. The
argument that they are not “diabled, just different thinkers who are
capable of functioning in society, but choose whether they want to
change or learn appropriate skills to function in society”. Then
expect the American people to agree to pay for your one to one
support, incontience products, shelter, or food for your choice to not
overcome adversity. Expect the rest of the world to accomodate your
reality, or suffer the consequences of your lack of
self-control…ummm. Expect parents of young children, responsbile
for bringing them up, to agree to do nothing, which includes
encouraging better choices, accepting responsibility of your actons
versus blaming a neurologial “difference” and giving full
opportunities to become a functional member of socity, because it is
who the child is…yet admit adults who had no interventions need
support, assistance and accomodation.
“ND” refers to “neurodiverse”, which is redefined by some to mean “anyone who doesn’t buy into the mercury causation theory. A few autistic adults have spoken up publicly about this theory - because we believe it to be false, and because we obviously feel quite strongly about autism issues, being people directly affected. These adults are called the “neurodiverse” as an insult by some in the mercury causation camp.
This paragraph constructs a strawman, a prototypical “neurodiverse”. In this strawman, the neurodiverse:
1. Claim that they are not disabled
2. Claim that they are different thinkers
3. Claim that they are capable of functioning in society
4. Claim that they want to be able to choose whether or not they are to learn “appropriate skills to function in society”
5. Expect the American population to pay for 1-to-1 support, incontinence products, shelter, food
6. Expect the population to pay for the services in (5) because of a choice to not “overcome adversity”.
7. Expect everyone to accommodate us *OR* be willing to accept their lack of self-control
8. Expect parents to do “nothing” for their kids (not encouraging good choices, accepting responsibility for actions, or becoming a “functional” member of society)
9. Blame neurological difference for negative actions
10. Claim that adults without prior interventions need support, assistance, and accommodation.
Wow! We really should pull all adult services except for chelation! Okay, maybe not.
Let’s look at these:
#1 - Most of us claim to be disabled, including those of us against the mercury causation theory. We just don’t see disability from a medical viewpoint (and that goes for physical disability as well).
#2 - She is right, we do claim to think differently!
#3 - Yes, we also claim to be able to function in society, with proper supports. Our “functioning” might not look like someone else’s functioning, we may not pay taxes, or whatever else, but, yes, we should have a place in society even if it isn’t the same place an NT might have. That said, many of us do share many of the same places in society as NTs do (even those of us who haven’t been chelated or treated with biomed!).
#4 - We also agree that we should learn skills to function in society. Where we disagree is on what “appropriate” is (it’s not things like “eye contact”) and whether or not all skills needed to function with only NT supports (yes, NTs get supports, they just aren’t seen as supports - most NTs don’t grow or slaughter their own food, for instance) are able to be taught to everyone. Not everyone will be able to, for instance, refrain from screaming when overloaded - no matter how much teaching they get. That doesn’t make it a choice.
#5 - I’m sure the European “neurodiverse” don’t expect America to pay for supports. That said, yes, having basic shelter, food, sanitation, and the support necessary to live a full life is a human right, one that should be provided by governments, just like education and medical care. It should not be based on the moral judgement made of a person. In addition, some of us pay for these things out of pocket, and pay the government in taxes. Personally I don’t consider an adult who needs Depends, and gets them, to be a deadbeat.
#6 - Oh, the “overcome adversity” myth. Not every “adversity” can be overcome, nor should every adversity be overcome. An example is someone who can walk short distances, but at the expense of energy levels the rest of the day. We have a wonderful invention today, the wheelchair, which is designed for that person (among others)! Rather than overcoming their adversity, it is just as ethically valid for them to use a form of locomotion that is appropriate to them. In addition, the problems autistic adults have are generally not laziness.
#7 - Most of us do expect a reasonable accommodation. No, I don’t expect you to smile if I suddenly run across the room and bite you. But I do expect that if I give you a reasonable alternative that you’ll have the consideration of me to employ that alternative. Yes, reasonable. It’s the same expectation people who use wheelchairs have - the ability to access society. Just, in our cases, there happens to be a lot of prejudice against the supports we need, like support persons, good sensory environments, explanations of procedures, clear rules, and predictable schedules. Not to mention not having things like screaming being assumed to be “violence” (sadly even among autistics we fight this - I know of two prominent autistic-run organizations who steadfastly refuse to say screaming is not violence and can even be unintentional in some people).
#8 - I’ve lost count of the times when I’ve suggested, to parents, discipline for an autistic person who is clearly in control of their behavior, yet chooses to misbehave. The key is that it must be a choice for the kid - punishment of uncontrollable behavior is not helpful. I don’t know ANYONE who says parents shouldn’t parent. But perhaps the people who believe the “neurodiverse” don’t want parents to parent could name a name or two?
#9 - Oh, yes, we blame neurology for everything. If that’s the case, can I blame my autism for my great job, and the fact I pay taxes? (Actually I do think it helps) Cool. But there are things that are autism-related which cause me difficulties or cause other people to dislike my actions. It’s not inappropriate to say those are a result of autism, nor is that the same as denying responsibility for my actions.
#10 - I do claim that adults need supports, even if they haven’t had “interventions”. I did have “interventions” (but, OMG, not biomed ones! That must explain it!). So did some of the more “severely” autistic people I know (some even had - gasp - biomed interventions).
So, she’s built a strawman of people who don’t think parents should parent, who think that we have the right to choose antisocial behavior without consequence, who don’t have any limitations other than those we *choose* to not overcome, and who blame every bad thing in their life on autism (strange, but I’ve seen some parents of autistics do that).
I’m just glad I haven’t run into the person described by the strawman. I’ve only run into a few hundred autistic adults, many of whom doubt the mercury theory, believe ourselves to be disabled, desire increased support, and want to see autistic kids raised appropriately. Fortunately some parents (probably most - I think most parents are intelligent enough to make some good decisions) feel the same way.
I just wish that I people wouldn’t be advocating to take others’ human rights away simply because the person targeted doesn’t want to be chelated.