The Passing of Alexander the Great

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June 15, 2008 by Travis Alexander 

Travis AlexanderWritten by Chris Hughes, Travis’s good friend.

Growing up, I never really learned to be a good friend. I never had to. My best friends, Mike and David Hughes, my older brothers, were right across the hall from me…my entire life. If I wanted to hang out, I hung out with them. If I wanted to watch a movie, I watched it with them. If I wanted to play catch, go for a run, to the mall, or for a swim, I did it with them. I never had to learn how to reach out to someone who didn’t live across the hall from me. I never had to build friendships; real friendships. I missed out on that part of life, but didn’t know I was missing anything at that time. But the time came when the guys across the hall moved out leaving me alone for the first time in my life. That was 18 years ago. Since then, I have been awkwardly learning to be a true friend.

Other than my wife and the guys across the hall, Travis Alexander was the best friend I ever had. He was so patient with my amateur attempt at friendship. He loved me anyway. I loved him like a brother. He has been my brother for 7 years. And now… he’s gone.

I ONLY tell this story because so many have been calling many of us wanting to know the details. I just can’t tell it one more time. It is so hard. So here it is for the last time.

We were supposed to go to Cancun Mexico together. Pre-Paid Legal picked up the tab to send it’s top 400 leaders south of the border. Travis and I were on that list. We planned the trip for weeks. My wife and I went in a few days early and were eagerly awaiting his arrival. I found a great LDS Tour of Chichen Itza and Tulum, as well as an opportunity to swim with wale sharks, and kept calling Travis to see if he wanted to come with us. He never answered. I called several times only to have to leave a voice mail. I sent several texts, but never heard back from him. The deadline was swiftly approaching. If he was going to tour the ruins with us, I needed to hear from him pronto. So I called him again. This time, his voice mail was full. Now looking back, something deep inside me was crying out in that moment, but I wouldn’t hear it. I did however tell my wife that something was wrong. I told her his voice mail was full. I wanted to call the cops, but she suggested that we call a friend to go check on him. I didn’t know any of his current room mates, but I knew the name of a couple of his former roommates, so I texted Dave Hall, a mutual friend, to see if he could get me the number of one of Travis’s old room mates. This was the text I sent:

“Do you have any of the guys numbers who used to live with T-dawg (Travis)? His voice mail is full. He hasn’t returned any of our urgent phone calls, voice mails or texts???”

I sent that text June 9 at 10:53 pm Central Time. Five hours later, about 4 am, our hotel phone rang. My wife answered. I could only hear her side of the conversation…


He’s asleep.

Ok. Chris it’s Dave Hall calling about Travis.

Chris: Hello

Dave: Chris it’s Dave Hall. I hate to tell you this Chris. Chris Travis is dead.

I went numb. My soul cried out NOOOOOOOOO! said “He had trauma to his body and police are investigating it as a homicide.”

I can’t believe it. I just can’t believe it. My friend, my brother, my homie, my business partner is gone. Our friend, Travis Alexander has left this life, and we are left to mourn his tragic death. That’s the bad news. The good news is, he is with his Savior Jesus Christ. The pain of this life has ended for him. He has been wrapped in the robes of his Redeemer.

There never was, and there never will be another quite like him. He IS the most unique person I have ever known.  I love you Travis.

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Friends of Travis Get Together

Sky and I are opening up our home Wednesday night June 18, 2008 for our friends who knew Travis. Come any time after 5pm. Bring a finger food. We just want to hang out and be together and celebrate the one and only T-dawg!

Chris and Sky’s House 5pm, June 25, 2008

Arizona Memorial

Monday, June 16, 2008 - The Church of JESUS CHRIST of Latter-day Saints, 3025 S Hawes Rd, Mesa, AZ 85212, 7:30 pm

Bring pictures of him either printed or on a CD and we will be collecting them to have them compiled all together into a history of Travis’ life.

Sunday Dress is strongly encouraged. (Shirts/Ties or Suits or Dresses for the ladies… something nice)

Riverside, California Funeral and Burial

Saturday, June 21, 2008 - The Church of JESUS CHRIST of Latter-day Saints, 8660 44th St, Riverside, California 92509, 10:00 am

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Anyone with information that could help investigators is urged to call the Mesa Police Department at 480-644-2211.

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20 Responses to “The Passing of Alexander the Great”

  1. The Passing of Alexander the Great on June 16th, 2008 12:50 am

    [...] The Passing of Alexander the Great Written by Chris Hughes, Travis’s good friend. Growing up, I never really learned to be a good friend. I never had to. My best friends, Mike and David Hughes, my older brothers, were right across the hall from me…my entire life. … [...]

  2. Tina Nuno on June 16th, 2008 12:15 pm

    This is the biggest heartbreak. I had gone to school with him n coming out of school we normally losse touch with friends. But when I joined PPL n went to one of our meetings I was listening to him n realised that I went to school with him. He mentioned Rubidoux High n his nickname Thunderthighes. I remembered right away who he was,But enough of that he was bumping into him in a business that I love to do n he also loved Dearly. This should of never happened to him, he was a very enjoyable person to b with. He had the biggest heart n always wanted to take care of people n have fun, going to school with him was great he was fun to b around. This of all people he didn’t deserve this, he was too young. I know that down deep inside me he’s in a great place with our lord. He will always b in my heart its ashame that I got to bump into a friend from school n after we had talked seen eachother now he’s gone. I’m glad I got to see him he was a great friend n a mentor n he will always b in my heart. My friend, mentor, n a great human being, my love goes with him, love always your friend tina u won’t b fogotten

  3. Heather on June 16th, 2008 2:34 pm

    I had the privilege of meeting Travis 3 years ago when I joined the Prepaid Legal Family. He was such a warm, caring, full of life person. He always had a smile on his face, and was always there to help, to teach, to motivate those that desired the type of success and happiness that he was so blessed to have. He had such a passion for what he did, that it was contagious when you were around him. This world has lost a very special person. My heart and prayers go out to his family and friends.

  4. Irish Mike McCann on June 16th, 2008 4:22 pm

    Wow………… I talked to Chris who told me that Travis was killed. Travis was a very good man to me and I hate to have to hear that now he is gone but not forgotton. I trust that I will see you on the other side…………….Irish Mike

  5. JMSHAWAZ on June 16th, 2008 4:49 pm


  6. Fernando Partida on June 16th, 2008 10:36 pm

    Just wanted to send my condolences. This a sad day for his friends and family. It sounds like Travis was a very nice and sorry to hear of his passing. May God bless his family and friends! Just a Arizona Rebublic reader……Peace and Love!

  7. Greg Flynn on June 17th, 2008 9:42 am

    Travis…. What can be said that has not been already. I had the privledge of meeting Travis on several occassions and I can tell you that I have never meet a more genuine person ever! Travis had the amazing ability to warm the hearts of everyone he came into contact with. I can hear him now talking about how he came into Southern California to do a training and how somehow in his rush, he forgot his pants. He had no choice but to go and purchase a pair at a local store, however also in his rush to make it to the event on time, failed to try them on and did not realize until he was only minutes from going onstage that they were way too tight. Now, only Travis could find humor in a situation like that. Travis, my Brother, you will be missed! We Love You!!!!!

  8. Dave Hall on June 17th, 2008 5:17 pm

    T-Dog… Words will not frame the feelings we have or the loss we feel knowing you are gone. You were always the life of the party and the one who wasn’t afraid to let his inner child show in everything. Your generosity and kindness were known by all and nothing we do will be the same without you. My only peace comes from the fact that I know you are in a better place reunited with you parents and other loved ones back in the presence of our savior. Travis we love you and look forward to being reunited with you once again.

  9. Nathan on June 17th, 2008 6:11 pm

    Travis and I served a mission together in Denver, Colorado. He was a good leader and unique. I remember he used to always sing a phrase about Lemonade, Cool refreshing drink. He was memorable and admired and I was so looking forward to his book.

    Travis until the afterlife.

  10. Daniel Smith on June 17th, 2008 8:17 pm

    Just wanted to say I send my prayers in a
    great time of loss. I used to know Travis
    through PrePaid Legal. He was a very outstanding
    individual. He is with Jesus now. Only wish I got to know him better. It breaks my
    heart to hear of a loss of someone so special.
    See you in heaven my dear brother.
    Daniel S

  11. Duane and Elsa Tolman on June 17th, 2008 10:21 pm

    Tribute to Travis Alexander
    By Duane and Elsa Tolman

    There was a particular generation that was extra special in the Jurupa
    California Stake. Every ward in the LDS Church experiences it every so many
    years. We were honored to raise our children among such a generation. These are
    indeed gallant spirits that were saved for the last days. Among these are Kevin
    and Andrew Whiteford, Mike Chapman, Ivan Laretzen, Warren Shultz, the Shoemaker
    boys, the Tolman brothers, and others.

    The first time I noticed Travis Alexander was after he and some friends toilet
    papered our home. It was truly a fine job, but we were a little perturbed at
    the laundry detergent on the grass. We just let it go, but we knew the culprits
    and Travis was included.

    My son, Nolan, and Brother Callis Herbert were Travis’ home teachers. Travis
    told me later that even though he did not participate and interact with his
    home teachers, he was still listening. He said, “That had a very strong
    influence in his life.”

    In February of 1993, our oldest son, Jerald, was taken in an automobile
    accident, just 2 weeks before his 18th birthday. This tightly knit bunch of
    gallant young men was shaken to the core, but not destroyed. They pulled
    together, locking their arms in unity, standing side by side and they were
    committed to the gospel of Jesus Christ. Not long after this, Travis gained a
    deep testimony of the gospel. Late one night – on a camping trip in the
    wilderness - Travis got upon his knees and prayed, receiving his answer.

    Travis and my son, Aaron, both put in their mission papers at the same time and
    received their calls one day apart. Aaron has a video opening his mission call
    and Travis popping by to find out where Aaron was going. Aaron was called to
    serve in the Denver North Mission and Travis was called to the Denver South

    During his mission, Travis came home for a brief visit to attend his father’s
    funeral. Both Travis and Aaron served successful missions.

    At that time Travis dropped off of our radar for a while. He re-appeared when we
    joined the team in San Bernardino Pre-Paid Legal services. We observed as Chris
    Hughes molded both Travis Alexander and Mike Chapman. We were there when they
    both did their first briefings. You would think that they were going to faint
    right there on the stage. We watched as they developed leadership skills,
    getting out of their comfort zones and grew spiritually and temporally. I was
    especially impressed with Travis’ ability to see the bigger picture and
    articulate his thoughts and ideas.

    One night after a business briefing, Elsa and I went to Mimi’s restaurant with a
    bunch of other associates (common practice in PPL the meeting after the
    meeting). We were all conversing when Elsa suddenly tried to get our attention.
    She was trying to tell us all that the place was getting robbed. Almost everyone
    in our row of tables was able to get under the table for concealment and
    protection. I quickly went to the other side of the divider and was seen
    getting under that side of the tables. Travis did not make it under the table
    with me. But he dropped to the floor just a couple feet from me.
    It was not long before there was a gun being pointed under the table at me with
    a demand for my wallet. I quickly flung my wallet out. Then the criminal put
    the gun against Travis’s temple and demanded the same from him. Travis told him
    he had no wallet; the gunman began to yell at Travis for his wallet. I remember
    sitting there, pleading with our Heavenly Father that nothing bad would happen.
    Travis then offered the gunman his cell phone. Then the thieves fled the scene.
    Travis kept his cool through the whole thing, and even called his cell phone to
    try to negotiate its return.

    Travis continued to develop his personal growth. He traveled all over the
    country giving motivational speeches and teaching personal development. He
    moved to Arizona and we moved to Idaho.

    As I look back on the life of Travis Alexander, I see someone who fought against
    the odds, took control of his life and forged a better destiny not only for
    himself but for thousands of others. We – and our children – mourn this loss
    greatly. Indeed what hurts the most may be the very way that he had to pass to
    the other side: by our perspective, somebody’s senseless and cowardice act.

    We know that he is in the presences of our Heavenly Father, Jesus Christ and
    even our own son, Jerald. There is much work yet to be done on the other side
    of the veil.

    In my mind’s eye, I can see that many have been prepared here in this life so
    that they may be more effective in the next. Travis, I am sure, is counted
    among the gallant of his generation, affecting positive change for the

    May God bless him, may he find the love, peace and joy he deserves. We all love
    Travis and we will all miss him throughout this life.

  12. Brad Young on June 19th, 2008 11:03 am

    I am blessed to have met travis , i didn’t get to spend much time with him , the time i did get to spend with travis made an impact on me . i just want to say thank you travis for all that you have done , the world is a better place because you were here ..

    and thanks again travis for the extra pillows in okc..


  13. Perri Worthey on June 19th, 2008 5:37 pm

    I heard and spoke with Travis at PPL briefings. Travis had a great impact on me even though I really did’t know him and he dind’nt know me. At a Super Saturday he spoke of the robbey at Mimi’s Cafe. That speech will resonate in me forever. I’ll always remember his great sense of humor and his joking about wear a mustard colored suit to the briefing.

    My tears have flowed for you and your family. However, deep in my heart I know that’s not what you or our Great Savor would want. Travis your work has just begun! My sympathy to your family. Thank you for touching my life in such a special way.

  14. Tarrance Woods on June 21st, 2008 9:37 am

    Travis you touched many,I would read all your blogs you posted on your site, sorry this happend but it is also a wake up call to let us all know that we never know when its our day to go, no matter what age you are well I know your resting in peace, Thanks for the memories and the great stories and the impact you have made upon my life……..Tarrance woods Riv. Ca.

  15. jake stailey on June 21st, 2008 10:38 pm

    wow I remeber I got in ppl for a hot chick but just a few weeks I met travis and then a month later I moved into the huge house he had build to bring other to share his life with. roomates came and went but they all left with a peice of travis that would change all there lifes. man I was just up visiting a couple day from that day. if only I had listened to my heart and stopped by to see his smiling face and have my son laugh and run from napolion as he has done in the past. oh how he will be missed and oh how he will be blessed up there with our father in heaven.

  16. Wendy Hall on June 22nd, 2008 1:38 pm

    Words Left to Say

    Where has my good friend gone?
    Its been a day-it feels so long…so long.
    I want to see you one more time,
    Hear your voice and know your fine.

    I wish I had but one more day.
    So many words I’ve left to say-
    To you, my friend…..So

    Thank you for the memories.
    Thank you for your love for me.
    Thank you for the life you gave.
    Thank you for the souls you saved.
    Thank you for being True.
    You blessed my life and never knew.
    Thank you for standing strong-
    You gave it all your whole life long.

    And from the Heavens in the sky,
    I know you feel my love.
    Together one day, we all shall be-
    In our mansions up above.

    I Love you Travis….

  17. Jacob Howlett on June 25th, 2008 3:49 am

    Dear Travis
    I didn’t get to tell you through the years since our live whent different directions that you were a big influence on my life. You and two of your friends have changed my life for ever. I will always give tribute to the three men who showed me a better life. In 1996 you, Mike Shulz, and Ian Lane showed me for the first time that I could have fun living the gospel of Jesus Christ. I was sixteen at the time and I looked up to you guys like Duane and Elsa Toleman have said. You proved to me that living the gospel was true happiness. I changed my own life to find that happienss and I have not looked back. Thank you Travis.

    Love Jacob Howlett

  18. Amber Baker McLaughlin on June 30th, 2008 8:01 pm

    I met Travis through PPL. He recruited me to work under him about 7 years ago. I was immeadiately drawn to him the moment I met him. He was such a wonderful person and although we lost touch several years ago, I never forgot about him and would always consider him a friend. I know that he is now with his Heavenly Father and his dad and he is happier there than he could ever be here on earth. God Bless you Travis, you have Returned with Honor!

  19. Aureole Stephens (Clark) on July 10th, 2008 3:46 pm

    My dear old friend Travis,

    I have learned to live my life with no regrets. I love my life. I have learned to embrace the good and the bad, the happiness and the pain. I wouldn’t have any other way.

    We came from a similar place growing up where we shared some of the same struggles and heartaches. I think that’s what bonded us. It was no doubt fate, that our lives crossed paths, especially when they did.

    You saved me from what had been a rough past and what could have been a worse furture.

    With out you, I would not be where I am today. (Physcially, here in Oregon).


    With out you and our other friendships durning that period of time in our lives, I fear things would have been so diffrent now.
    Those were some of the best days of my life!

    I pray that my children will be as blessed and lucky as we were and be able to have the same type of bonds and friendships as we all shared.

    We were the strongest bunch of young people I have ever known and it was because of eachother. So thank you!

    Thank you for our friendship. Thank you for our memories. Thank you for your love. Thank you for seeing in me and believing in me. Thank you for sharing with me. Thank you for allowing me a place in your heart. You will always have a place in mine. I loved you…. Until we meet again my dear, dear friend.


  20. Patrick on July 14th, 2008 11:19 pm


    I will never forget our days in Hi-Ranch. I learned so much from you..more than you ever knew in this life..I know now that you are safe with not only Heavenly Father but you are also reunited with your Father from this are such an inspiration and I miss you and hope that you are waiting for me at the gate..

    Patrick CDSM Forever!

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