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April 03, 2009

White House Responds to Iowa

UPDATE: A White House spokesperson sent the following corrected statement in response to the Iowa court decision:

"The President respects the decision of the Iowa Supreme Court, and continues to believe that states should make their own decisions when it comes to the issue of marriage. Although President Obama supports civil unions rather than same-sex marriage, he believes that committed gay and lesbian couples should receive equal rights under the law."

The original statement read:

"The President respects the decision of the Iowa Supreme Court, and continues to believe that states should make their own decisions when it comes to the issue of marriage. Although President Obama supports civil unions rather than same-sex marriage, he believes that committed gay and lesbian couples should receive protection under the law."

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  • Name: Michael R
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 4:16 PM
    Hometown: Fort Lauderdale

    Comment:

    President Obama, set my people free! I was 8 years old in 1963 growing up in Iowa. Some white people forced blacks to ride in the back of buses and beat them up if they didn't. I asked the adults around me, Why? Their answers always boiled down to "seperate but equal." Even an 8 year old knows that's wrong. We will always have an election coming up. We need Obama's support NOW, not in his second term. Just like Lincoln freed the slaves, Obama needs to free the gays. Now that would be a legacy as big as Lincoln's. Equal Rights Now.


  • Name: John
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 4:02 PM
    Hometown: Embry

    Comment:

    Of course I voted for Obama, anything else would have been suicidal. I said once that I would have voted for Mickey Mouse over Bush, but every few days we get the impression that is who we got. Too churchy for me.


  • Name: Paul
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 2:50 PM
    Hometown: San Francisco, CA

    Comment:

    I'm also frustrated by Obama's stance on this issue and wish he would come out more strongly in favor of LGBT equality. However, we must remember that no President can wave a magic wand and create marriage equality single-handedly. We must hold Congress who writes the laws, and the Supreme Court who interprets those laws, accountable as well. Obama is fantastic on so many issues, and I still believe his election was the best possible outcome given our array of options. I'm impressed with his foreign policy, economic plan, tackling of global warming, leadership on counter-terrorism and global security, revival of the Israeli-Palestinian peace process, and his dedication to a nuclear-weapon-free world. I'm thrilled he's President. That doesn't mean I agree with everything he does. We must continue to push him on LGBT equality. He is clearly persuadable on the issue, and if we don't take advantage of that opportunity, we have only ourselves to blame.


  • Name: Xavier Chapa
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 12:09 PM
    Hometown: Amsterdam, NL

    Comment:

    Keep excusing him Uncle Marys and see where it gets you....waiting for nothing.


  • Name: Casey
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 11:11 AM
    Hometown: Chicago

    Comment:

    It seems like Obama is starting to change and for the good. Before, when CA and CT courts overturned their bans, he made a point to say marriage is only man/woman. This time, he said he supports civil unions not equal marriage. I actually think and with my fingers crossed that Obama supports same-sex marriage but is being a democrat in lacking the courage to say so. Times are changing.


  • Name: disgusted americaN
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 10:50 AM
    Hometown: deptford NJ

    Comment:

    Finally no matter where u stand with President Obama...I like him, and don't expect drastic changes overnight. Sure, it's depressing that America doesn't LIVE UP TOO the words "LIBERTY & JUSTICE FOR ALL"...those words are OLD,TIRED and EMPTY...but GIVE him a chance people...I honestly think that Obama will fulfill ALL his promises when he is SAFELY in his 2nd term (since he won't get a 3rd) - give the guy a break. Let's concentrate on WHAT's Obtainable NOW...and lay the groundwrk for the NEAR Future.


  • Name: disgusted americaN
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 10:49 AM
    Hometown: deptford NJ

    Comment:

    Finally no matter where u stand with President Obama...I like him, and don't expect drastic changes overnight. Sure, it's depressing that America doesn't LIVE UP TOO the words "LIBERTY & JUSTICE FOR ALL"...those words are OLD,TIRED and EMPTY...but GIVE him a chance people...I honestly think that Obama will fulfill ALL his promises when he is SAFELY in his 2nd term (since he won't get a 3rd) - give the guy a break. Let's concentrate on WHAT's Obtainable NOW...and lay the groundwrk for the NEAR Future.


  • Name: disgusted americaN
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 10:47 AM
    Hometown: deptford NJ

    Comment:

    Finally no matter where u stand with President Obama...I like him, and don't expect drastic changes overnight. Sure, it's depressing that America doesn't LIVE UP TOO the words "LIBERTY & JUSTICE FOR ALL"...those words are OLD,TIRED and EMPTY...but GIVE him a chance people...I honestly think that Obama will fulfill ALL his promises when he is SAFELY in his 2nd term (since he won't get a 3rd) - give the guy a break. Let's concentrate on WHAT's Obtainable NOW...and lay the groundwrk for the NEAR Future.


  • Name: Michaela
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 10:34 AM
    Hometown: Cadet

    Comment:

    The only reason why I wanted Obama as president was because I hoped he would help the LBGT community. Now I hear that him and his employees are pulling these stunts? Saying that, "Although President Obama supports civil unions rather than same-sex marriage, he believes that committed gay and lesbian couples should receive protection under the law." It's bull. I want to be able to marry the woman I love AND have the same rights and protections as heterosexual couples. Thanks for nothing Barack. MAJOR DISAPPOINTMENT.


  • Name: marcy
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 10:15 AM
    Hometown: new jersey

    Comment:

    What is it Obama's buddy said, "A nation of cowards". When it comes to equality, that includes our Mr. President. Coward.


  • Name: Xavier Chapa
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 10:03 AM
    Hometown: Amsterdam, NL

    Comment:

    Look folks, Obama is NOT for equality. Accept it! You can excuse him for saying he has bigger issues to attend like the economy, unemployment, the environment, etc which may be true, BUT supporting equality does NOT detract from these issues. LBJ was able to deal with a hurting economy, a war, and pass Civil rights legislation on a Federal level why can't Obama do the same? And if the man can't even recognise the value of marriage for gay Americans what makes you think he'll appoint justices to the Supreme Court who will stand up for our equality?


  • Name: Jerry Priori
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 9:40 AM
    Hometown: Plainview, NY

    Comment:

    Obama is a whimp. His lukewarm support for my equality is ridiculous. He should no better than to promote separate but equal unions. In fact, I'd bet he does know better. As a leader on the issue of equality, Obama is a joke and a fool.


  • Name: Carolyn
    Date posted: 2009-04-06 9:04 AM
    Hometown: NJ

    Comment:

    I'm with Rick P in Boston. No matter your polotics, separate is never equal.


  • Name: Pat Connolly
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 10:45 PM
    Hometown: New York

    Comment:

    i do not get why the President thinks that this should be left up to the individual states when HE KNOWS so many, many of the legal rights that are sought are on the federal level. Being legal in Iowa gives one (or two, rather) pretty much nothing. Though I agree it is a start.


  • Name: rich
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 9:52 PM
    Hometown: dallas

    Comment:

    i think were making a huge step in the right direction. Obama might not be waving his rainbow flag. But he does support our community


  • Name: Tara
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 9:43 PM
    Hometown: Chapel Hill, NC

    Comment:

    I didn't vote for Obama, and I have further support now for my decision not to do so. The spokesperson's equation of civil unions and marriage as equal is amazingly illogical. The whole statement requires fuzzy thinking. ... He supports unions but not marriage (which implicitly means they're different)..."but," he wants gay and lesbian people treated the same under the law. I hate this man.


  • Name: Joe
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 5:04 PM
    Hometown: Fort Worth

    Comment:

    Thanks for nothing, Obama. P.S. I voted for him in my state's primary.


  • Name: Tom
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 4:34 PM
    Hometown: Fort Walton Beach

    Comment:

    Remember that if George Bush were in the White House, these words would never have been spoken, or there would have been a negative response. This is outstanding and wonderful for the Gay community, and we should be very greatful. Our country appears to actually be taking us seriously now.


  • Name: Mark
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 3:30 PM
    Hometown: Thomas

    Comment:

    While it is safer for us to have a Democrat in the White House, this is appaling. There was a time when Obama could not have gotten legally married because he is not a white landowner with a woman as his property. There was a time his parents couldn't have gotten legally married because they were an interracial couple. His own religion, the United Church of Christ, support same sex civil marriage equality. "Father, why have you forsaken me?!" This is another clear signal that born gay/lesbian taxpayers must stop asking for equal civil rights and take them.


  • Name: CJ
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 2:32 PM
    Hometown: LA

    Comment:

    I know Obama's response to the Iowa decision seems understated, but legally speaking the phrase "EQUAL RIGHTS UNDER THE LAW" is a critical addition! By echoing the 14th amendment, he's implicitly justifying the decision on those grounds, which is a big deal. Once you admit marriage is an equal protection issue, it becomes very hard to rationalize denying it to everyone. That is the best legal argument we have, and hearing the president affirm it is more important than many people realize. Think about it people, he's actually helping to publically frame the issue in the way we want (as a rights/fairness issue) rather than the way our opponents want (as a moral/religious issue), but he's doing it in a subtle way, so that he doesn't alienate the people whose support he needs later to effect real change. Baby steps, people. Think strategically, think big picture.


  • Name: Carol
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 1:20 PM
    Hometown: MO

    Comment:

    Disappointed that President Obama doesn't uphold the US Constitution all the way for "Equal Rights". Segmental equal rights is wrong. He may not agree with SS marriage, that is his right, but our Constitution states we are all equal, and it came before any of our living Presidents did.


  • Name: Ken
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 12:26 PM
    Hometown: Waterloo, ON & Norfolk, VA

    Comment:

    Tim in Oregon: As attractive as Spain and Britain may be, consider Canada. My husband (yes, husband) and I moved to Ontario in 2003 when that province legalized same-sex marriage. We haven’t regretted it and “home” is right at hand. When Canada legalized SSM nation-wide in 2005, you could go anywhere (We look longingly at Vancouver but it’s wicked expensive to live there) but have stayed here in Waterloo where Blackberry has its world HQ.


  • Name: Shawn Holliday
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 12:12 PM
    Hometown: Oklahoma City

    Comment:

    As for the White House response stating that it should be up to the states to make their own decisions when it comes to the issue of marriage, that's all great for them to say. If that's the case, as Commander and Chief of our armed forces, why don't you give us equal rights in the military as well. Revoke the Don't ask, don't tell if you truly believe we deserve equal rights! You want to stand before the U.N. and "decriminalize homosexuality", when we still have far too many problems here in the United States military and civilian population as well! Bottom line is don't site up in the White House and be two faced on the situation that is going on around you! Get rid of Don't Ask, Don't Tell, grant federal recognition for the states that have allowed gay marriages for tax purposes and well as health benefits, etc for gays and lesbians. We do work in this country and pay taxes as well. It's time to give us all equal rights under the law!


  • Name: Ken
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 12:11 PM
    Hometown: Waterloo, ON & Norfolk, VA

    Comment:

    Pat from Miami @ 11:36 wrote: “Obama is a POLITICIAN.” You nailed that. But odd; I thought he ran as something other than a politician. Surely, you are not saying that he misled us? “…he is a HELL OF A LOT BETTER than what we have HAD…” For the last 8 years? Yes he is. The eight years prior to that? Jury is still out. “…what we COULD have had” If you speak of McCain, I see no difference between their positions. If you speak of Hillary Clinton, who gays abandoned is fits of desire for something “shiny and new”, YOU ARE WRONG. “I have no doubt that he PERSONALLY believes that we should all be allowed marriage…” REALLY?!?!? I am SO relieved!!!! Everything he has said and done has supported that HE DOES NOT believe we have this right to marriage, only “civil unions” at best. Please, I am anxious to see the results of YOUR UNDERCOVER RESEARCH that will make everything clear and apparent.


  • Name: Tim
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 11:57 AM
    Hometown: Oregon

    Comment:

    The Obama administration ought to do at least the following before the mid-term elections: repeal DADT; introduce the Matthew Shepard Anti-Hate Crime law and end LGBT discrimination in the workplace; make tangible progress on repealing DOMA; if none of these have become reality before the mid-term elections, everyone should threaten the Dems with immediate withdrawal of our monies and votes for 2012. If they don't move on those issues within the next year or two, then you know for sure where their priorities are. My partner and I have decided that should it come to this we'll pack up and go to Britain or Spain.


  • Name: Mario
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 11:56 AM
    Hometown: Portland

    Comment:

    What a lackluster response. If Obama were a gay man maybe then he would realize just how powerful and painful legalized institutionalized discrimination is.


  • Name: Pat
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 11:36 AM
    Hometown: Miami

    Comment:

    Obama is a POLITICIAN. He has do ATTEMPT to "please" everyone, but that can never happen. I have no doubt that he PERSONALLY believes that we should all be allowed marriage, but he cannot SAY that....YET. Just be patient and wait until his last four years. He will make HUGE changes then. Besides, good Lord, he is a HELL OF A LOT BETTER than what we have HAD and what we COULD have had!!!! YAY FOR BARACK!!


  • Name: Dave
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 8:42 AM
    Hometown: Lancaster, PA

    Comment:

    To all you Obama apologists... WAKE UP. Mid-term elections won't be the appropriate forum. MAYBE he'll act when he's a lame duck, but then the Dems will be bustling to win the White House again, so we'll probably still be personas non grata. The man doesn't care about OUR rights. He only cares about winning in 2012. What is truly disgusting about this... He just signed a UN declaration asserting that LGBTs around the world should be equal citizens and the US is behind SOUTH AFRICA in terms of civil rights. Let me repeat...SOUTH AFRICA, where just a decade or two ago, apartheid was legal and Obama would have been a janitor, not the PotUS. Solution: Vote Third Party in 2012. Show the Dems and the Reps that we are sick and tired of being second-class citizens!


  • Name: edweird
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 8:31 AM
    Hometown: dallas

    Comment:

    Great post Elliott in Georgetown. I hope Maurice gets well soon.


  • Name: 1of18000
    Date posted: 2009-04-05 5:37 AM
    Hometown: London

    Comment:

    Obama is a hypocrite. There is no way around it. If any president in history can be held accountable for understanding the fallacy of separate but equal, it is Obama. Yet, he keeps pushing that line. He has done nothing for gays and lesbians in the US. Are Fed employees getting benefits? Progress on repealing DOMA or DADT? He's done nothing but peddle liberal homophobia. It's time to stop believing our media, our elected officials and our "advocacy" groups who are still kissing this bigot's ass. This was an important moment in US civil rights and he turned it into another opportunity to appease the "moderate" homophobes by reiterating his opposition to marriage equality. Again, I say shame on the Advocate for not standing up and shouting that the most dangerous homophobe ever is now running that god forsaken country. Guaranteed if McCain was in office we'd be hearing how this was just more Republican bigotry.


  • Name: Brian Miller
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 11:51 PM
    Hometown: Philadelphiia

    Comment:

    Parse the difference: The President respects the decision of the US Supreme Court, and continues to believe that states should make their own decisions when it comes to the issue of marriage. Although President Johnson supports civil unions rather than interracial marriage, he believes that committed white and black couples should receive equal rights under the law. Reality? There is none. Obama's position is unacceptable


  • Name: Charles
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 11:16 PM
    Hometown: Portland, OR

    Comment:

    About Obama, First things first. He has to look moderate to keep the Republicans from using the gay marriage issue to attack the Democrats in Congress. While most Americans support gay employment rights, that isn't the case with marriage. The Republicans used this issue in the 2004 race against Kerry, and it may have helped in Ohio, which came down to 100,000 votes between Kerry and Bush. Let Obama get the employment rights and hate-crime laws through Congress. Then, probably after time, with Obama replacing the oldest conservative on the Supreme Court, the Court will rule that states have to allow gay marriage. They may use 2 arguments: (1) 14th amendment about equal protection, and (2) the clause in the Constitution that requires a contract in one state to be honored by all states.


  • Name: Elliott
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 10:53 PM
    Hometown: Georgetown, Texas

    Comment:

    Dear President Obama: I’m a citizen in a committed gay relationship of more than 25 years. Tell me what actions you are taking to ensure my partner, Maurice, and I receive equal rights under the law within our lifetime. I was inside the Stonewall the night of the 1969 NYC riots. Maurice and I had a holy union at MCC church on October 12, 1985. Today, April 4, 2009, I am 66. Maurice is 85 and suffering from pneumonia in ICU. We have been denied the right to legally marry; MOST IMPORTANTLY we have also been denied more that 1000 other rights that legally married couples get. I do not expect you to change your opposition to same-sex marriage, BUT I DO EXPECT YOU TO TAKE SOME AGRESSIVE ACTIONS EACH DAY TO ENSURE YOUR BELIEF THAT "committed gay and lesbian couples receive equal rights under the law". IS ACHIEVED DURING YOUR PRESIDENCY. Please have the courage to fight for your belief in equal rights. Anything less is unacceptable. Best regards, Elliott Tucker, Georgetown, Texas.


  • Name: Gary Ford
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 10:46 PM
    Hometown: St. Petersburg, FL

    Comment:

    Denouncing Obama for not being in total agreement on this issue is stupid and dangerous! The man is the President and has to walk a narrow path laid out by politicians in order to get ANYTHING done. I am not satisfied with his apparent position, but I am not going to take my support away from him. He will bring it around to us. I had to wait 63 years to see gay marriage in Iowa - I'm patient enough to wait just a bit longer for all the nation and it will come. I fullyl believe his view of "gay marriage" is that it is a civil rights" issue - none of our past presidents saw it that way - they saw it as a purely moral issue.


  • Name: rickp
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 9:25 PM
    Hometown: boston

    Comment:

    Love him or hate him, this comment is unacceptable and he needs to be told that.


  • Name: David
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 7:42 PM
    Hometown: Seattle

    Comment:

    To people referring back to "the campaign", let's be clear. It is not just that Obama "didn't support same-sex marriage", he has said he is against it. Not "not for" it. Against it. Anyone saying it should be up to the individual states and thinks that this is good enough simply takes marriage rights for granted and is apparently unclear of the difference between state and federal levels of government. Sure, Obama in the long run is probably not against gay people. But he is not for them and I don't expect he will be. Take active steps to reverse DOMA, to reverse DADT, that will be a start and I will admit to being wrong. I don't see that happening though. And before people are too quick to blame everything on "Republicans", remember who signed both of those into law. No "party" is looking out for any "minority" interests. It's about individual actions.


  • Name: Ronnie lIDSTROM
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 7:23 PM
    Hometown: cONCRETE wASH.

    Comment:

    Thank you Shirley Drouin for your comment I agree we need to give Obama at least 8 years to clean up the Toxic waste Bush created in our country along with his side kick Cheiny.


  • Name: edweird
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 6:56 PM
    Hometown: dallas

    Comment:

    John Ellis - Yes, I remember hearing George W. Bush saying that exact thing! My local gay paper sought to dispute my claim that George W. said that he supported "civil unions." I think the gay community is tone deaf and seems to hear only what it wants to or likes to hear. Obama is a great example of this principle.


  • Name: John Ellis
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 6:34 PM
    Hometown: Seattle

    Comment:

    Many people don't remember this, but in 2004 shortly before the elections, President George W. Bush said on a Good Morning America interview that he supported gay civil unions. That outraged his right-wing anti-gay base. But look at what happened for gay people under the George W. Bush administration. Nothing at the federal level that advanced the path towards equality. Politicians say whatever they want to gain support, votes, and money, and to try to keep their approval ratings up. But for far too long Democrats especially have taken GLBT people for granted. It's time to put up or shut up. It's also a shame that our first black President doesn't realize that separate but equal did not work for black people fighting for their civil rights in the 1950's and it will not work for GLBT people now.


  • Name: Paul
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 6:21 PM
    Hometown: kansas City

    Comment:

    We need to begin to just ignore the WH on LGBT issues. The best we'd get from them that we won't loose any more rights. Focus on Congress. Spend our time and effort forcing them to pass the needed legislation to move us in the right direction. Pass a repeal of DADT and DOMA. Pass a gender inclusive ENDA. Once the legislation is on his desk, intense public pressure could force the president to sign the legislation. I had hoped for more from Obama. His inspiring letter this summer congratulating those of us who were married in California. Now I understand that there won't be any movement from him to advance the cause of civil rights for LGBT folks. Sadly, the best thing we can say about him now is that at least he's not John McCain. Isn't that sad?


  • Name: Wayne
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 4:37 PM
    Hometown: NYC

    Comment:

    To the people who keep saying we (the gay community) needs to be patient, and to give Obama more time - I have to ask, when exactly do you think this magical time will actualy come about? In a year or two from now, the mid term elections will be starting. Do you really believe Obama and the Dems will act on gay rights just as their election campaign is kicking off? DON'T FOOL YOURSELF! We must pressure the DEMS and Obama NOW! They must act now, and they must be told that unless we see REAL CHANGE on LGBT issues before the midterm elections THEY WILL NO LONGER RECEIVE OUR MONEY OR OUR SUPPORT. It's the only thing they understand. Obama and the Dems must learn that there is a price to pay for betrayal.


  • Name: edweird
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 4:08 PM
    Hometown: dallas

    Comment:

    Obama sucks on gay rights. He's a religious zealout (convert) who probably believes in Adam and Eve and the rest of that bullshit. What I would give to hear some real conviction from the Democrats regarding equal rights. Don't give Obama a free pass, --keep the pressure on. Oh, and the Dungy appointment thing,...more of the same from Holier-than-thou Obama.


  • Name: Shirley Drouin
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 2:50 PM
    Hometown: Paducah, Ky.

    Comment:

    To my fellow gays, We need to be patient and engaged on all issues facing both our Country and our community. President Obama took office less that 3 months ago. He has to expend a lot of energy and time just to get up to speed on many very taxing issues. Our Country is in "DEEP SHIT"and I don't know about the rest of you, but my country comes FIRST!! We need to get real and grow up. Do not abandon this President. I think he will make all of America proud. It took Bush 8 years of wrecking this Country, Lets give Obama 8 years and see where we stand. You got "Don't ask, Don't tell" because of your impatience in President Clintons first term...Don't make the same mistake this time. Equality never happened overnight for any group of people...and we are not the exception!! So please be patient and support this man...You will be proud you did.


  • Name: Elliott
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 2:09 PM
    Hometown: Georgetown, Texas 78633

    Comment:

    If Obama believes gays and lesbians should have "equal rights" per the corrected WH statement, what specific actions is he taking as president to ensure that equality is implemented? Alas, I do not see action - rather inaction and pandering. To me we must concentrate our efforts on seeking change at the state level and pressuring our elected officials at all levels of government to implement equal rights throughout the land. People who only give "lip service" to equal rights are not qualified to remain in office. Unfortunately, it appears our president is in the "lip service" category.


  • Name: Carlos
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 1:07 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    Roger, Wake up, you cannot possibly be that naive. No oppressed group ever achieved equality with your mindset. I know Obama is cute, but grow up.


  • Name: Wayne
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 12:54 PM
    Hometown: NYC

    Comment:

    The Obama apologists on this board are just PATHETIC. Obama promised repeatedly to end DOMA to end DADT but now that he is president, Obama is actually citing DOMA as the reason his administration will deny a Federal Judges order to issue benefits to gay couples. THIS IS THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF WHAT HE PROMISED!!! Obama has also caved on DADT. And if you think that Obama is going to act on Gay Rights sometime soon, then YOU ARE FOOLING YOURSELF. In a year or two from now the mid term elections begin, If Obama and the Dems have not moved on the issue of gay rights by then, THEY NEVER WILL. Obama played the gay community, then insulted us with McClurkin, and Rick Warren, ignored our nation wide mobilization against Prop 8, broke his promise on DOMA, and has backtracked as fast as he can on DADT. OBAMA LIED TO US. And must of you refuse to face the truth even when it's lookin you in the face. Most people consider someone who constantly breaks their promises a LIAR.


  • Name: Ken
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 12:50 PM
    Hometown: Waterloo, ON & Norfolk, VA

    Comment:

    Stephen in SF @ 2:49 AM posed the question: "Please tell me, who is the alternative for Obama, someone who happens to be for gay marriage." Answer: Hillary Clinton


  • Name: Wayne
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 12:43 PM
    Hometown: NYC

    Comment:

    So Obama is STILL peddling that 'Separate But Equal' crap. It's shameful. SEPARATE IS NOT EQUAL AND IT NEVER HAS BEEN. Ask some of the African Americans who lived through the 60s if Separate is Equal? If Obama thinks it's equal, why doesn't he trade his marriage license in for a civil union? WHY? Because it's not EQUAL to marriage, and EVERYONE knows it. Obama should be ashamed to stand behind BIGOTRY.


  • Name: Roger Burr
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 11:36 AM
    Hometown: Marble Hill, MO

    Comment:

    I agree with Greenpoint Guy from Brooklyn; Mark from Oakland and Paul from Kansas City. Obama could not have come out in favor of marriage equality during the campaign or he would certainly have lost the election. I DO see progress being made, especially when a 'heart of the midwest' state such as Iowa comes out for full equality. Other states are lined up to follow suit. We need to be thankful for what miracles have occured and will yet occur. Demanding too much, too soon, will only result in a backlash and we could well lose some of the hard-fought victories we have achieved. Give the President time. He WILL get rid of DADT and with more Democrats elected in and after 2010, we may well see the demise of DOMA. Best of all, should he get to make a few Supreme Court appointments, we'll see our rights codified into the law of the land.


  • Name: Boston Bud
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 10:51 AM
    Hometown: Boston

    Comment:

    I do not believe this is true. John Kerry lost the election in 2004 on his own not because of gay marriage. Most of the states that had constitutional amendments on the ballot in 2004 already had a law on their book banning Marriage Equality so the whole thing was a scam.


  • Name: President Obama
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 10:50 AM
    Hometown: Washington DC

    Comment:

    I, President Obama, believe that what happens in Iowa should stay in Iowa. I, President Obama, support separate but equal rights for gays and lesbians.


  • Name: Herman V.
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 10:39 AM
    Hometown: Los Angeles,CA

    Comment:

    I really agree with Greenpoint Guy's comment:"Had Obama come out in favor of gay marriage during the election, John McCain would now be president".Let's not forget how John Kerry lose(in part) in 2004 because of the Gay issue used by the Republicans.But I also agree that The White House could have said just that they were happy for the gay community this time.


  • Name: Paul
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 10:06 AM
    Hometown: kansas City

    Comment:

    I too, am disappointed with the White House response to the Iowa ruling. I also understand fully that Obama will be light years better than McCain, especially in terms of appointing decent judges, and he won't use hateful rhetoric to demonize the LGBT community to gain political points, nor will he push for a federal marriage amendment. But that, sadly is the best we can hope for. President Obama won't advance the cause of full citizenship for LGBT folks. We are not full citizens of the United States, no matter what nice words come out of Washington. What we expect is that we will not loose any ground. And that is all we can expect. Our community needs to realize this is not about marriage equality, or employment protections. This fight is about one thing: We do not have full citizenship in the United States. Its as simple as that. Thats what we deserve: Full citizenship in our own country. No more, no less. Run a campaign on that and we might make some headway.


  • Name: BISHOP RAYMOND SAWYER
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 9:33 AM
    Hometown: PLYMOUTH, MA

    Comment:

    You cannot isolate President Obama's sole support of heterosexist-defined civil marriage, based on theological grounds, from his support of Pastor Warren over Bishop Robinson and his appointment of homophobic AA pastors. Yes, I agree with the first commentary. Obama would be a LEGAL BASTARD if his parents would have married in 16 states of the Union in 1961. It took until 1967 for his triangulating arse to be legal until he was in the first grade. It is only civil marriage, both on the federal and state level, that will make the USA equal to Canada, Belgium, Netherlands, Spain, Union of South Africa, Norway and now Sweden. How long will it take for the USA to have the same rights as does Canada since July of 2005 federally and 2003 provincially? Most activist experts believe that for the rights to be called CIVIL MARRIAGE, it might take decades of inferior rights.


  • Name: Donna Schiavone
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 9:32 AM
    Hometown: Hillsdale, NJ

    Comment:

    To my President: your comment was disappointing to say the least. I really thought you were going to be everyone's president, but you're not being mine if you still think I should be in a separate-but-equal catagory. Why is it that you don't see this issue as the preverbial separate water fountain? You probably get tired of hearing: you're black-you should understand, but it's true. I lived down south when there were bars with signs on the door saying blacks were not allowed. I passed those bars right by Mr. Obama & I was a nobody. Now we are asking you to pass by the discrimination & stand up for the US Constitution that declares everyone equal....entitiled to equal Federal rights without exception. Two people are allowed to be married, NOT: except if they are gay. And as in Mass., & Canada, look! Iowa has not imploded!!!!


  • Name: Dave
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 9:17 AM
    Hometown: Lancaster, PA

    Comment:

    Well, there you have it folks. For a man who was so emphatic about understanding the marriage issue because his parents' marriage was illegal in some states in the 60's, there he goes throwing us under the bus again. I respect that there are a lot of issues on his plate right now. But this statement is a complete insult to our community. To hear gay people play Uncle Mary just shows how self-loathing they are. They need to stop accepting crumbs and demand that we be treated with equality and respect. I hope all you apologists are happy now, we have a PotUS in the white house who gives us lots of lip service but won't even celebrate with us.


  • Name: Greenpoint Guy
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 9:09 AM
    Hometown: Brooklyn, NY

    Comment:

    Had Obama come out in favor of gay marriage during the election, John McCain would now be president. It's a tough choice: swallow our pride and agree to hold on for future change in exchange for someone who at least puts out statements like the above, or demand acknowledgment and acceptance now and have McCain and Palin in office stating publicly that the Iowa decision is a dark day, etc. Personally, I choose the first option. Obama will have an epiphany and come out in favor of gay marriage in his second term. Shocking politics, yes, but that's reality.


  • Name: George DeCarlo
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 8:49 AM
    Hometown: Berkeley Heights, New Jersey

    Comment:

    Obama is a bigot. When someone does not support Full Human Rights for all citizens they practice bigotry.


  • Name: Corey Mondello
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 8:43 AM
    Hometown: Boston, Massachusetts

    Comment:

    If we uses state rights today, and there was no civil war, we may have President Obama as a non-english speaking or reading slave boy, picking our cotton fields, fetching our cars, asking his "Masa" if he can take a bathroom break, and watching that "Masa" rape his children. Huh...I wonder what he would feel about states rights then? p.s. "equal rights" and "protection" are not the same thing !!!!


  • Name: Nathanial
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 8:38 AM
    Hometown: Slocan Valley, British Columbia

    Comment:

    I totally agree with Steven in SF. It is unfortunate, but after eight years of suffering through the presidency of a cretinous moron (who subjected the people of Iraq to a murderous and illegal attack and occupation they did nothing to deserve), the United States has now saddled itself with an equivocating moral coward and hypocrite who, if not an outright bigot himself, at least gives aid and comfort to bigots by pandering shamelessly to their immoral prejudices. "Leader of the Free World" my eye -- the United States has once again elected to the presidency someone who is an embarrassment to civilized and enlightened thinkers around the world. For shame, for shame!


  • Name: Bill Courson
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 8:15 AM
    Hometown: Montclair, NJ

    Comment:

    Civil uninos are to marriage equality what AIG bonuses are to corporate integrity.


  • Name: Alan
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 7:13 AM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    This response from the White House is very lite at best. This was my fear about supporting Barack Obama, he is too entangled with religious leaders which was clear during the primary. He did not address our issues until he won the primary, then he just copied Hillary's program. He will do nothing for us unless we start protesting on a large scale and force the issue of equality!


  • Name: Steven
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 5:26 AM
    Hometown: San Francisco

    Comment:

    FIRST you pick Rick Warren to deliver your inaugural invocation; NEXT you select five, all MALE, conservative evangelical pastors to counsel you as your personal chaplains; THEN you invite the outspoken homophobe Tony Dungy to serve as an advisor on your Faith-Based Partnerships Counsel; AND NOW, Mr. President, on the same day that Iowa Justices write that they are " firmly convinced the exclusion of gay and lesbian people from the institution of civil marriage" is unconstitutional and an "offense to core American values" you, Mr. President, issue a statement to the country saying that you believe same-sex couples should be refused the same rights to civil marriage that all other Americans enjoy. The honeymoon is over, Mr. President. Is this the 'change' you promised us? Shame, shame on you; and thanks for nothing. Steven in San Francisco, CA


  • Name: Joseph Crews
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 4:42 AM
    Hometown: Fallbrook

    Comment:

    I agree with Julian (3:23 am): "Why couldnt the white house just be happy and celebrate it." Sometimes no comment is better than a wishy-washy comment. As for the comment of Mark (1:20 am), I find your offer of only two options (Obama vs. McCain/Palin) a false choice. These are not the only two choices we have for the future. The future holds far greater choices for the LGBT community, such as that now offered by both senators from New York, who fully support gay marriage and overturn of DOMA. Obama is a great leader and a man of vision, but he is not fully enlightened on all issues, especially on gay marriage. But I am fully convinced that he has an open mind and can be persuaded to support equal marriage rights for all. He does, after all, have a strong, liberal foundation in civil rights and already proved that he is adaptable and educable.


  • Name: Paul W.
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 3:57 AM
    Hometown: Honolulu

    Comment:

    Obama indeed does support gay marriage, as documented years ago when he was a Chicago politician. But since he chose to become a national figure, he's lost the stones to commit to his prior position, and now finds it much more convenient to adopt "civil unions," which didn't exist at the time he supported gay marriage. Why? Because now it's politically advantageous to wimp out on an issue that is too controversial for Foggy Bottom to digest and too incendiary for the Congress, "liberal" or not, to take seriously since we are, and always have been, expendable.


  • Name: julian
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 3:25 AM
    Hometown: DC

    Comment:

    Aw, That comment was pointless. Why couldnt the white house just be happy and celebrate it. But no, they couldnt. they had to say that their are against marriage and for civil unions. LAME! had they not said anything about their position i would have been happy.


  • Name: Stephen
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 2:49 AM
    Hometown: San Francisco, CA

    Comment:

    Wow, some people on this post either have a really short memory or they are very very young. It was only a few years ago when it was legal to be fired for being gay. You could be arrested for cruising. By the way, some Bis, queers, and most Trans already have marriage rights in some circumstances, so please use LGBT and Q appropriately and in context. Please tell me, who is the alternative for Obama, someone who happens to be for gay marriage. That is not the most important issue we face!!! There, I said it. I want marriage, sure, but please, look around at your neighbors, gay and straight that are unemployed, losing their homes, etc. Please look at the big picture. If we come out of the next few years with marriage in a few states and federal equal rights laws, then we will be infinitely better off than we are now. Has anyone heard of pragmatism?


  • Name: Chris
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 2:48 AM
    Hometown: NYC

    Comment:

    JT's clearly a troll. Ignoarrrr


  • Name: Mark
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 1:20 AM
    Hometown: Oakland

    Comment:

    Would you idiots denouncing Obama think for a minute about the alternative? McCain-Palin. The fact is while privately he of course wants Gay Marriage not Unions but Marriage. At this point in the game he still has to pick his battles. I fully feel that with him as President we will see a a bill that calls for Federal Civil Unions signed into law. Then perhaps a couple years down the road we will see marriage in this country. All in all by the time he leaves office we will have all the rights granted to heterosexuals. Something else to think about. Under his presidency he will most likely be able to appoint three justices thus swaying the court to a left center majority. Then once this happens that's when gay couples can take the marriage ruling to the Supreme Court and win. Think Brown v. Board.


  • Name: JT
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 12:15 AM
    Hometown: Lewiston, ME

    Comment:

    Another idiot in the white house. This one saying he supports separate and not equal while supposedly supporting equal rights. More hypocrisy and ignorance from the mind of a black man. Why am I not surprised??? I feel like burning a cross tonight....


  • Name: Allen
    Date posted: 2009-04-04 12:14 AM
    Hometown: Vancouver, BC

    Comment:

    Brian, to your list of Spain and Canada, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and IOWA, you could add: Netherlands, Norway, Belgium, South Africa, and in a few weeks, Sweden!


  • Name: Bob
    Date posted: 2009-04-03 11:55 PM
    Hometown: Albuquerque, NM

    Comment:

    GLBT citizens around the country are anxiously waiting to see if President Obama will deliver on his promises for equality. On marriage equality, it still surprises me that an intelligent man like the President can still subscribe to the "separate but equal" argument.


  • Name: Randall
    Date posted: 2009-04-03 10:33 PM
    Hometown: Cleveland

    Comment:

    While I would love for Obama to come out and support same sex marriage, I think that Obama doesn't need to fall into that quagmire at this moment in time. I still support him 100%, and I hope that as he consolidates his power that he will change his views on same sex marriage. His support for gay rights certainly exceeds that of anyone else that has served as (or run for) the office of President!


  • Name: Lyle Vanderpluym
    Date posted: 2009-04-03 10:17 PM
    Hometown: Carlisle Iowa

    Comment:

    my other half and I have been together for 11 years we moved to Iowa 3 years ago from California and we are just estatic that this has passed and are planning a September wedding.


  • Name: Steve
    Date posted: 2009-04-03 10:00 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    Face it guys, wihle he's certainly not our enemy, Obama is a coward on gay rights. On this day of celebration, he easily could have left out the last sentence of that statement, and he chose not to. Think about it.


  • Name: Brian
    Date posted: 2009-04-03 9:57 PM
    Hometown: Anaheim

    Comment:

    Obama, Kiss my gay a@@, you hypocrite. You will never get my vote again, ever. Wake up LGBT community, this man is against us. Would it have been too difficult to celebrate for these couples, many who have waited their whole life for this chance? Are you that in bed with your new found friends on the religious right? Just when something great happens, I'm reminded why I am counting the years to move out of this county. Remember buy products from Spain and Canada, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and IOWA!


  • Name: Martin
    Date posted: 2009-04-03 9:24 PM
    Hometown: McKinleyville

    Comment:

    It has already been proven that having a different designation for a separate group creates a stigma for that group. Civil unions will not be treated the same as marriage, they are treated as something different and less than marriage. Separate but equal is not equal and Obama should know that. 40 years ago his parents biracial marriage would not have been recognized in 17 states of the US.


  • Name: Bill
    Date posted: 2009-04-03 9:20 PM
    Hometown: Boston

    Comment:

    I hope this lukewarm comment by the White House does not result in Advocate readers denouncing Obama. That would be so pointless.


  • Name: Bubba
    Date posted: 2009-04-03 9:13 PM
    Hometown: Austin, TX

    Comment:

    Passing the buck!


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