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Lindsay Lohan's Fight for Marriage Equality

She's young, she's messy, she fights with her sometime girlfriend, and she's been to rehab -- but she's leading the charge for marriage equality in the process.
An Advocate.com exclusive posted April 25, 2009
Lindsay Lohan's Fight for Marriage Equality

COMMENTARY: Lindsay Lohan’s recently released faux eHarmony profile is perhaps the most brilliant 90 seconds in the young actor’s career. She simultaneously manages to poke fun at herself, her relationship with Sam Ronson, and eHarmony -- a homophobic dating website that would never allow her to post an ad looking for a "man or a woman."

But when I posted a link to the video on my Facebook page, I received comments like “she’s young and immature and well -- who cares?”

The answer: I care. Deeply. And so should anyone who’s concerned with the future of queer rights and visibility in the United States.

It can’t be stated strongly enough: Lindsay Lohan is unlike any other LGBT celebrity to come before her. She’s young, she’s beautiful, she’s A-list -- and at the top of her career, she began publicly dating a woman. This is not the coy “maybe/maybe-not” game that other young celebs have played, or the outing of a former star. It’s worlds beyond the occasional kiss or the admission of having “dated women in the past,” which until now was the most radical truth that Hollywood stars would own up to.

While never choosing a label and avoiding public statements, Lindsay Lohan lived her relationship with Sam Ronson in the public eye almost exactly, one feels, as she would have had she not been famous. They partied, they made out, they fought, they bought groceries. And yes, I read about it every time. Not just because I love gossip, but because Lindsay Lohan is both representative of and at the forefront of an important cultural shift in the way sexuality plays out in the public sphere. She is the first of a new post-identity wave.

And it is this same wave that is helping to win the fight for same-sex marriage -- as well as other queer issues like adoption by same-sex parents, hate-crimes bills, and discrimination protections. In the aftermath of the Prop. 8 vote in California, an important set of data came out: 63% of voters ages 18 to 29 rejected the initiative, but 54% of voters 45 to 64 supported it.

If that’s not a generational shift, then what is?  

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Keywords:  California marriage  Prop 8 

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  • Name: PJ
    Date posted: 2009-04-27 7:32 PM
    Hometown: Toronto

    Comment:

    Oh yes, she's so great that she hasn't had a hit film, can't get film offers because she's uninsurable, and has addiction problems and violent streaks. Such a role model. And yes, I'm over 30 and never did drugs or chased people down in my car. So I'm throwing the first stone.


  • Name: Carrie Newman
    Date posted: 2009-04-27 6:39 PM
    Hometown: Ottumwa

    Comment:

    Jennifer, Angelina Jolie came out as bisexual long before Lindsay Lohan. Just because she didn't have a female partner doesn't make it any less brave.


  • Name: Andrea
    Date posted: 2009-04-27 5:28 PM
    Hometown: Houston

    Comment:

    the bottom line is that Lindsey's life is making it easier for queer kids to be accepted, and not be as discriminated against as we of the older generation have been...the 20 yo from Georgia made an excellent point: equal rights would be great to have, but it's the day to day that affects us most deeply, and if her Mom is ok talking with her about her life b/c of anything Lindsey Lohan did regarding being open with her own life, then that is powerful and meaningful and brave, and she deserves to be applauded for whatever contribution she is making to history and the movement


  • Name: L.A. supporter
    Date posted: 2009-04-27 4:20 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    What 22 year old doesn't have relationship drama? It's just unfortunate the Lindsay and Sam's is in the public eye. And what about those idiot paparazzi chasing her everywhere she goes. Talk about pressure! How would you do with absolutely no privacy? I'd probably crack. THANK YOU LINDSAY ! You are incredibly brave !


  • Name: Bob
    Date posted: 2009-04-27 11:09 AM
    Hometown: Springfield, NJ

    Comment:

    After reading some of these posts about Lindsay Lohan from obviously bitter and unhappy people, I can't for the life of me imagine why gay people have gotten the reputation for being "bitchy".


  • Name: Susan Ross
    Date posted: 2009-04-27 11:08 AM
    Hometown: Greenfield Park

    Comment:

    Kudos to Lindsay and anyone else who believes in something so strongly to stand up and fight for it.


  • Name: Pauline
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 10:52 PM
    Hometown: San Mateo

    Comment:

    Gay or not, out or closeted, this girl's career is over. O-V-E-R. Next!


  • Name: Lula
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 10:50 PM
    Hometown: San Francisco

    Comment:

    What a mess!


  • Name: L
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 6:11 PM
    Hometown: San Francisco

    Comment:

    Thank you for recognizing Lindsay! I admire her visibility and label-lessness, and I wish the best for her. So many people get bogged down in the details of her past without looking at the larger picture, but you have brought the lens back into focus (on the larger picture). Thank you!


  • Name: Trish
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 2:42 PM
    Hometown: Miami

    Comment:

    Lindsay is a gorgeous, sexy brave girl. Name me just one young, beautiful Hollywood girl who went on Ellen and talked about her relationship with a girl like it was nothing. God bless her.


  • Name: Nick
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 2:02 PM
    Hometown: San Francisco

    Comment:

    She's still a hot tranny mess, and no hot tranny mess is gonna help us win. Plus can she even headline a movie anymore?


  • Name: Belle
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 11:13 AM
    Hometown: Antwerp

    Comment:

    Thank you for this kind and insightful article. Like many of the other commenters I could not agree more with what you've written. Lindsay has gotten so much flack from the LGBT community for not being perfect, it's incredible. She is a very brave girl. Yes, she might be a bit of a mess, but she's our mess. It's about time we start treating her as one of us.


  • Name: D. Head
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 9:34 AM
    Hometown: Lewisville

    Comment:

    Holby, classifying Lohan's situation with what Neil Patrick Harris, T.R. Knight, Wilson Cruz, Dustin Lance Black, Heather Matarazzo, Peter Paige, Jake Shears have done is disingenous. None of those individuals have close to what Lohan has on the line in being open about being in a same sex relationship. Black is behind the camera. Shears, Cruz, Paige and Matarazzo are probably unknown to over 95% of the public. The only two well known individuals, Harris and Knight, were outed at 33. To compare any of these situations to a 22 year old star being open that she is in a same sex relationship is ludicrous. What Lohan is doing in Hollywood is a first.


  • Name: Jennifer
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 8:47 AM
    Hometown: Peterborough

    Comment:

    I agree with every word of this article. Lindsay is a mere 22 years old, but here she is, in Hollywood of all places, freely and openly with her female partner. It's astonishing to see. For those of you (like Jesse) who thinks she needs to "come out" -- she's said she thinks bisexual is the label that best describes her. She's freely and openly admitted that she is in love with Samantha, time and time again. Demanding that she come out as gay is f-d up. Maybe her self-identificiation will change later, but for now, she's bisexual. Can we please respect that and stop it with the biphobia and hate? And for those of you who don't think she's all that impressive -- please name a celebrity who came out earlier than she did, with all the risks inherent in it?


  • Name: Kayley
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 8:38 AM
    Hometown: Washington, DC

    Comment:

    There are so many bitter people here. Yeah, she's a mess, but I don't think you can argue that she's extremely brave for having done something at 22 that some actors can never do.


  • Name: SFGreek
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 6:46 AM
    Hometown: London

    Comment:

    (con't) Despite the disrespect and the near slanderous/libelous coverage, Lohan is working for US. She's doing the job. She's changing things, and she's changing them as deeply and thoroughly as Ellen did. If you don't believe that, look at the difference in media attitudes towards queers pre 2008. Then talk to young queers who write letters thanking her for being there, and being her--for them. It will make you weep. The queer and LGBT communities should be ashamed of ourselves for not standing up to the obvious homophobic and misoygnist press she's had to endure. And then turn the mirror on us, and ask why we're not standing up for someone who's one of us, and who, to the detriment of a promising career, is changing perceptions of what it means to love someone of the same sex. Am I on Team LFL? Better effing believe it.


  • Name: SFGreek
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 6:44 AM
    Hometown: London

    Comment:

    Finally! Mr Ryan, I agree with you on 100% of everything you say here, about Lohan and about marriage. I don't remember the last time I could say that about ANY Advocate article. It is a disgrace the way the LBGT "community" has failed to rally around this courageous young woman (yes, you're damn right she is) when she's doing exactly what we're fighting for! Isn't that what it's all about? Loving who you want to love, in the open? And in her case, risking everything and more--adoring publicity of the tabs before they confirmed their relationship turned into the most relentlessly negative and exploitative press since. Bloggers (too often gay) who lie with abandon have most definitely affected her career. No wonder she's messy. On top of typical problems, she's young and she's in a position not one single person in the world can relate to. Gotta be lonely out there on that limb.


  • Name: Mommie Dammit
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 5:40 AM
    Hometown: Kansas City

    Comment:

    Sadly I have come to expect this kind of gratuitous crap out of the Advocate lately. Its getting to where I can't even FIND a decent, professional, and responsible LGBT news publication... like the Advocate USED TO BE. It's sad enough when they kill innocent kilobytes for this tripe, but then they don't even bother to proofread for spelling and grammar. You actually made some poor sap of a Web admin waste his Saturday night to post this???


  • Name: Jen
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 4:59 AM
    Hometown: Melbourne

    Comment:

    Didn't Lindsay Lohan already say she was bisexual in a Harper's Bazaar article last year?


  • Name: Jana
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 4:28 AM
    Hometown: Winnipeg

    Comment:

    I owe Lindsay. It doesn't matter what anyone thinks, or how much any of you feel that she is a poor representative of "the umbrella"- her impact on the public's view of same-sex relationships is undeniable. I love that she prefers to not label herself- and I find it sad that so many of you feel that she ought to, for no other reason than to satisfy your expectations of her. I sincerely doubt she's fallen in love with Samantha for "press". They were together for years before anyone in the media figured it out. Looking back though it's very easy to see that she wasn't hiding much, we were all just too enmeshed with presumed heterosexuality to see it for what it was. Also, I would sincerely hope that none of the Lindsay bashers, who refer to her as being a mess, etc. ever dared get drunk or did drugs when they were nineteen. With the level of judgment that they exhibit, I'm sure they all see themselves fit to throw the first stone.


  • Name: Jana
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 4:19 AM
    Hometown: Winnipeg

    Comment:

    I owe Lindsay. It doesn't matter what anyone thinks, or how much any of you feel that she is a poor representative of "the umbrella"- her impact on the public's view of same-sex relationships is undeniable. I love that she prefers to not label herself- and I find it sad that so many of you feel that she ought to, for no other reason than to satisfy your expectations of her. I sincerely doubt she's fallen in love with Samantha for "press". They were together for years before anyone in the media figured it out. Also, I would sincerely hope that none of the Lindsay bashers, who refer to her as being a mess, etc. ever dared get drunk or did drugs when they were nineteen. With the level of judgment that they exhibit, I'm sure they all see themselves fit to throw the first stone.


  • Name: Emma
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 4:16 AM
    Hometown: London

    Comment:

    Lindsay is being extremely brave to be this honest. Despite the enormous pressures on her to keep quiet, she has told the world how much she loves Samantha and apparently (to judge from the audience on Ellen) the obvious sincerity of that love has won over much of the public. For America to have been charmed by the story of a bad girl being partially redeemed by the love of a good woman is a change indeed, and one that benefits all queer women - even those who look down on Lindsay for her self-promotion and past excesses.


  • Name: Jesse
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 4:06 AM
    Hometown: Malibu, CA

    Comment:

    @ Kath - I disagree. Simply announcing that you're in love with a girl is NOT the same as coming out. Coming out involves more than being in love; it is an elevation of a person's own honesty and acceptance of their own self. More importantly, if we are going to make Lindsay the poster girl and lead the way for our movement, all the more reason that she needs to come out and say it once and for all. Maybe if she finally accepts who she is and comes clean, the rest of her troubles will be resolved.


  • Name: Loreta
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 3:41 AM
    Hometown: Minneapolis

    Comment:

    Lindsay honey, I better not read about you later in USWeekly that you've decided to marry a man and that your relationship with Sam was all a dream resulting from an alien abduction while your were vacationing in Fresno! I will personally slap you upside the head and shave all your hair. Just sayin.


  • Name: Jennifer
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 3:37 AM
    Hometown: Seattle

    Comment:

    @ Trist - Yeah, maybe that is good enough.


  • Name: Kath
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 3:35 AM
    Hometown: Detroit

    Comment:

    I'm honestly baffled that some people still believe you need to scream "I'M GAY" on the front of a magazine to be regarded as out. She's been with her girlfriend for years, she's openly in a relationship with her, she's constantly saying in magazines, on tv etc that she loves her, all of her family and the rest of the world who care to know are aware of the fact that she's dating another woman and I could go on. She's so clearly out already that any suggestion she's not is frankly somewhat ridiculous to me.


  • Name: Holby
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 3:32 AM
    Hometown: Scottsdale, AZ

    Comment:

    @ Mike. Neil Patrick Harris, T.R. Knight, Wilson Cruz, Dustin Lance Black, Heather Matarazzo, Peter Paige, Jake Shears.


  • Name: Trist
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 3:29 AM
    Hometown: Miami

    Comment:

    @Jennifer: Living your life openly should be all we expect of anyone and that's exactly what she's doing. She has said repeatedly she's in love with another woman. She said it on Ellen the other day. How is that not good enough?


  • Name: Rocca
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 3:24 AM
    Hometown: Albany, NY

    Comment:

    And so with all these commentary about Lindsay Lohan, funny how we come full circle to the only truthful solution: Coming out. It's the most positively far-reaching and courageous decision that many of us have made and many more will make. So please Lindsay, just come out already.


  • Name: Jennifer
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 3:19 AM
    Hometown: Seattle

    Comment:

    @ Trist: All of my friends who are in same-sex relationships pretty much identify themselves as either gay or lesbian. "No classification" is alright by me, but if we're going to have Lindsay "lead the way" as this article states, then maybe its time for her to choose Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual or Transgender. I think it would be the courageous thing for her to do.


  • Name: Mike
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 3:13 AM
    Hometown: Chicago

    Comment:

    Go on then Holby. List for us please the other members of YOUNG Hollywood who are leading the way if she isn't? Come on. Don't hold back. Give me the full list.


  • Name: Holby
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 3:04 AM
    Hometown: Scottsdale, AZ

    Comment:

    "With Lindsay, of course, leading the way." Get real.


  • Name: Trist
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 3:00 AM
    Hometown: Miami

    Comment:

    @Jennifer: Or, she simply doesn't feel the need to classify herself. Hardly a revelatory position given that many in same sex relationships feel the same way. How unfortunate for you that not everyone in the world fits into the clearly defined little boxes you'd apparently like to force them into. I wish the LGBT community would take a long hard look at itself next time there's an article or a discussion about why more people in Hollywood aren't open about their sexuality. With the way someone like Lindsay (who admittedly isn't perfect but then nobody is) has been treated, I don't think I blame them.


  • Name: Lee
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 2:57 AM
    Hometown: Chicago

    Comment:

    Thank you Jennifer! Lindsay Lohan who chooses to "not classify" herself is the same as Ted Haggard saying he's a "heterosexual with issues". Enough said.


  • Name: Jon
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 2:54 AM
    Hometown: San Francisco

    Comment:

    While I commend her honesty and openness to the press and media about her relationship with Ms. Ronson, I believe it is very premature to state that Ms. Lohan is the embodiment of bravery and courage in a civil rights movement that has yet to fulfill complete equality. We will be watching her however to see if her current pronouncements are truly honest and of value to the LGBT community.


  • Name: Jennifer
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 2:46 AM
    Hometown: Seattle

    Comment:

    Guts? You must be joking. Here is a quote from her interview with Harper's Bazaar. "While speaking about her sexual orientation, Lohan said she was not a lesbian, but responded "Maybe. Yeah." when asked if she was bisexual. She then added, "I don't want to classify myself." Exactly. No classification so she can easily excuse herself later on when the "correct" answer required to revive her name and career will be needed. So enough accolades for this woman already.


  • Name: Candy Bergin
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 2:37 AM
    Hometown: New York

    Comment:

    Is this the advocate ? Or the Right wing national post ? What hatefull even homophobic comments by gay people . Open your eyes and see around you people . She has influenced a whole generation about being natural and open with their sexuality . I guess some gay and lesbian women cannot accept that you can be gay and feminine and sexy at the same time . She wrote to Samantha once that she wants to marry her and have her kids and have their own family , and she was 21 years old back then. Wake up people . What guts this girl has .


  • Name: Chris
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 2:34 AM
    Hometown: Atlanta

    Comment:

    That so many in this community can't appreciate what Lindsay Lohan represents in the battle for equal rights is very unfortunate. Noone said it would be easy being the first high-profile young actress to come out openly in a lesbian relationship. In fact it has to be pretty damned hard. So to have a few moments of disaster is to be expected. And watching her struggle through it should be part of the story that's to be written about how she spear-headed a movement. There is no blue-print on how to be the perfect representation of the LGBT community, while doing in front of the world. She's the first to do it. Perhaps her pitfalls will serve as how not to do it in the future, but she is to be applauded for having done so.


  • Name: Victoria
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 2:34 AM
    Hometown: Denver

    Comment:

    @ Chas: So Lindsay called Samantha the love of her life. And yet she has not publicly come out to say she is a lesbian. Why? So she can have an exit strategy in case her lesbian romance failed. Sorry, but unless she comes out like the rest of us, she has no credibility to even become a spokesperson for my own struggles for equality. Talk is cheap. I am an out lesbian and I don't need crash and burn celeb-whores to support my cause. Am I being militant. Perhaps. But so are those who hate me for being a lesbian.


  • Name: solange
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 1:40 AM
    Hometown: Brazil

    Comment:

    Some of these comments make me wonder if now the gay community only accepts members with strong traditional family values. You better behave or you are not gay! Next we will begin to accuse people of being communists and subversives.


  • Name: Melissa
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 1:37 AM
    Hometown: Sydney

    Comment:

    It really is astounding that this very young woman is treated with so little tolerance by a community that should hold her to its heart. Her weaknesses? She took too many drugs, drank too much, her life was chaotic. She had astoundingly bad luck in her choice of parents. She has remarkable talent (anyone who denies that is in deep denial themselves). She's so young and yet judged against an impossible standard, as if it's a deep character flaw (aka "trashy") to be dazzled by stardom. "We don't want a mess to hinder our cause," writes one commenter. If we don't embrace our "messes," we are less than a community, and we hinder our own cause with bitter judgment. Ellen, at least, knows better. The malign comments about Lohan strike me as some deeply pathological schadenfreude more suited to the playground than the LGBT community. Kick her when she's down -- yes, that's the way! Thank you for your wise words, Hugh.


  • Name: D. Head
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 1:20 AM
    Hometown: Lewisville

    Comment:

    Klaus, the Anne Heche comparison is tired and not an apt. She was dumped by Ronson. She did not break it off to go back to men. She was the one who was left behind. Even more so she has fought for a reconciliation and news coming in yesterday it appears that she may be back with Ronson. She has been with Ronson on and off for 2 years. She has been in relationships with other women including living with a woman for months shortly before she got back together with Ronson in February of last year. Could she date men in the future. Sure. She has stated she is bisexual. They do exist. Hugh uses the term queer for good reason. However the Anne Heche comments (almost always brought up by gay men btw) are a bore and a sign of something troubling in terms of respect for queer women.


  • Name: lindsay
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 1:13 AM
    Hometown: cumming, ga

    Comment:

    when lindsay lohan came out it was like my relationship with my entire family shifted. my sister started texting me stuff she'd heard about lindsay lohan on gossip websites and then that turned into trying to hook me up with girls she knows. my mom at first hesitant to even mention anything about my sexuality has now started asking me whether or not i go for more of a sam or lindsay, femme or butch? i've been out since i was fourteen so for almost 6 years and she's never asked me anything about what my type is. to think it was lindsay lohan, a hollywood actress who essentially made it okay for my mom to tell me she thinks the girl in the meat department at publix is a queer and that i should check her out. i'm she's made it easier for many other young people to be honest and brave and proud of who they are and why shouldn't they?


  • Name: Chas
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 1:11 AM
    Hometown: NY

    Comment:

    @ Victoria - do you actually believe Ellen, Rosie et al never caused "embarrassment"? What a short memory! And you fall victim to the tabloids' spin by calling Lindsay's relationship with Samantha an experiment. Lindsay has named Samantha the "love of my life." Her only (year-) long relationship with a man, Wilmer Valderrama, was at 17. The famous Harry Morton affair (if it was real) lasted all of 4 months. Samantha is only an experiment in the eyes of homophobic tabloids and their gullible followers. Do you blame other youth who act self-destructively in the face of parental rejection and massive social pressure to hide their sexuality? Now factor in the threatened loss of their livelihood. Give the girl the credit due her.


  • Name: D. Head
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 1:06 AM
    Hometown: Lewisville

    Comment:

    Samantha, actually Lohan was ridiculed by Bill O'Reilly himself because she publicly championed gay marriage, attacking Prop 8, and attacked Sarah Palin's record on gay rights. Now when Bill, himself, is upset at you that is a good thing. Lohan has had a tough childhood and one needs to ponder how much her being queer played into that. If you have read her Father's statements you would realize that she was not in a gay friendly atmosphere. Add her being an actress in the environment she is and I am stunned she has been open. We have blogs and vlogs calling her Lezlo, her girlfriend SaMANtha, and making lesbian hating remarks. What is sad is these sites in many cases are run by gay men who seem angered that she would be with a woman. Is that really the message of hate we want to send to an out 22 year old out queer actress.


  • Name: Klaus
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 1:04 AM
    Hometown: Miami

    Comment:

    Just to clarify, when I think of young, hot and talented star in today's Hollywood, I usually think Neil Patrick Harris or Dustin Lance Black or TJ Knight. Not sure the Advocate got Lindsay Lohan got caught up in that phrase. Sorry, but simply dating another woman and being out about it does not automatically entitle anyone to trailblazer status in a civil rights struggle that I hold very dear and have worked passionately for years. The irony about this ridiculous article is the fact that Lindsay Lohan used the "generational shift" to her advantage in keeping her name in the headlines because the press had finally tired of her irresponsible antics. And to all the Lohan lovers on this blog, be cautious and remember Heche.


  • Name: Oksava
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 12:52 AM
    Hometown: Pittsburgh

    Comment:

    I have more respect for non-femme Samantha Ronson for dumping her sorry ass than I do for all the ridiculous comments on here about embracing Lindsay and her bravery. You folks must be high, just like her. I'm sorry, but I find it much too soon to tell whether or not she truly deserves all this fantastical recognition being so prematurely bestowed upon the tabloid queen. So she dated an out lesbian. So did Anne Heche. Let's hold the applause for Lindsay may soon be in the arms of another foolish man. Then we can all decide.


  • Name: Victoria
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 12:46 AM
    Hometown: Denver

    Comment:

    Majority of this country still believes that homosexuality is a disease. And yes, I agree that she was very upfront about her relationship with Samantha. However, with the media the way it is towards our issues and how narrow-minded most Americans are still about our struggle for equal rights, I see no value of championing Ms. Lohan for our causes because the obvious associations with her are so negative. Generational shift? I really don't think she gets credit for that. I think that rightfully belongs to the generations of gay and lesbian Americans who have come out through the years as friends, co-workers, family, and yes, middle age celebrities. Yes, Ellen, Portia, and Rosie may have come out in their middle ages, but they certainly have paved a less hostile road for Ms. Lohan to play around in her sexual experiments.


  • Name: Ted
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 12:39 AM
    Hometown: Oakland

    Comment:

    She's only popular because of the mess she's made of herself. That's all. Let's not try to make her some "gay" hero or what not. Please.


  • Name: Samantha
    Date posted: 2009-04-26 12:38 AM
    Hometown: San Antonio

    Comment:

    Fight for marriage equality? Seriously?!? Last time I checked Lindsay was fighting for a parking spot outside the Andy Lecompte salon, not fighting for equal rights. This article is a load of bullshit and the fact that the advocate, advocates Lindsay Lohan is pitiful. Since when has she done anything to be considered A-list material? Her latest movie that she filmed,Labor Pains, direct to t.v. Lindsay "fighting" for the LGBT would only put us back even more, especially at this time in her life. Maybe if she gets her shit together and is able to get her life back on track, then I say in 5-10 years this article will make sense. For now, while she's gracing the cover of at least 3 tabs a week, no thank you. We don't want her "help"


  • Name: G. Kath
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 11:58 PM
    Hometown: Portland

    Comment:

    I loved this article! It is spot on in regards to the new frontier, a post identity future and the normalization of differing sexual identities. In my opinion the gay community has been remiss in their judgmental approach to Lohan. This is a young, hot, talented and popular Hollywood STAR, yes star!, that has decided to live her life openly in a relationship with a woman. Instead of celebrating that people choose to talk about how many times she's been to rehab. To me she should be celebrated instead of criticized. No, she is not perfect, are you?


  • Name: spin
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 11:56 PM
    Hometown: spin

    Comment:

    "I don't think the LGBT movement gains credibility", "bad representation of the community" What is that about???? From what I get from the comments, it is clearly a generational shift. The comments here show an old generation who is just too judgmental. Lohan is not using the cause for her own personal gain. Everybody who knows the game in Hollywood knows she doesn't have anything to gain. She is just living her life. Her life includes loving a woman. The gay movement can have all the supporters it wants but the gays in Hollywood don't seem to be out and proud. I'm sure Lindsay is changing the perception of many girls and boys around the world. Kids that are struggling with their sexuality and finally see it is normal to be gay. They don't need to be activists or part of a special groups. They just need to be themselves.


  • Name: CAS
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 11:55 PM
    Hometown: New York

    Comment:

    A heartfelt thanks for recognizing the bravery behind Lindsay Lohan's insistence that her relationship with Samantha Ronson be treated as normative. Unfortunately for Lindsay - as shown by the sadly hateful comments here - it has been conducted in a hostile, homophobic public spotlight. Why has nobody connected the dots between this very young starlet's improbable "romantic" links with dozens of men, her spiral into substance abuse, and her same-sex attraction? Lohan and Ronson were an item for several years before they kissed on Diddy’s yacht at Cannes. So why hasn’t the gay press, which knows all about bearding and at-risk queer youth, asked what pressures this kid - the family breadwinner, the top of the Maxim heap – was under to maintain her hyper heterosexual image? How many people beyond Lindsay profited? Ellen, Portia, Rosie et al came out well into their 30s. Lindsay deserves recognition for guts and, yes, integrity now, not in a decade.


  • Name: Jamie
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 11:42 PM
    Hometown: Chicago

    Comment:

    thanks for writing something positive. its amazing how much hate some of our community has towards this girl. tell that to all the teen girls that finally have someone that they can relate, even they have the ability to look beyond all the other crap. I just wish more gay men also could do that. You can keep all the middle aged women for yourself, I'll have me some Lohan


  • Name: Shakira Khan
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 11:41 PM
    Hometown: Thessaloniki

    Comment:

    This is a great article AND A VERY RARE ONE TOO. Again some very mean comments for Linds.Like it or not guys and gays she is actually making being gay natural and she is stating so openly she loves another woman. Who would have thought we will have had two openly gay women talking for ther breaks ups with other women in natioanl tv. Look around you, she is the No1 story right now around the world and all she does is telling anyone who cares,how much she loves Samantha. If you cant see this girl is brave and has guts you are blindsided. Go Linds.


  • Name: Luciana
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 11:04 PM
    Hometown: Brazil

    Comment:

    It's about time someone voiced the obvious: Lindsay Lohan is making gay history, even if she doesn't mean to. I don't know why so many gay people hate her.


  • Name: D. Head
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 10:50 PM
    Hometown: Lewisville

    Comment:

    Hugh's article is well-written and has a sharper comprehension of the bigger picture than just about any I've seen when it comes to this topic. The problem is getting beyond the superficial and delving into why Lohan is important in terms of LGBT representation. Instead what transpires are comments that seem to lose focus and in many ways actually pinpoint why Hugh is dead-on. For example, Michael's comment brings up Ellen, Portia, and Rosie, three women who kept their romantic lives closeted way past the age of 22 (Lohan's age). It is shocking and significant that a person who is presented as a sex symbol is the one who is not only out but does so without any exploitation of it. It is what it is. The LGBT community has failed Lohan to such an extent it is a disgrace. Our response is to pile on a 22 year old and not recognize that she did something most of us would not have had the courage to do, to be with the person she loves in a town that condemns queer young star being out.


  • Name: Larry
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 10:49 PM
    Hometown: Manchester

    Comment:

    Wonderful stuff. Could not agree more. The gay community have not been as supportive of her as they should have been in my humble opinion (I don't give a crap about mistakes she's made and all the rest of it... as stated she's the ONLY person in her position to have been openly involved with someone of the same sex). And anyone who thinks it was all just about publicity clearly doesn't understand that... or how Hollywood works. No publicist in the world would ever have suggested that she should hook up with a woman for the same of publicity, let alone a non-femme such as Samantha Ronson.


  • Name: Rose
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 6:05 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    The top of what career? She has none.


  • Name: Tony
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 5:20 PM
    Hometown: Chicago

    Comment:

    Lindsay Lohan? I find it insulting that the Advocate editors would allow Hugh Ryan print space for this nonsense. You owe your readers an apology for this sad attempt at humor.


  • Name: Michael
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 5:18 PM
    Hometown: San Francisco

    Comment:

    Ellen. Portia. Rosie. Even Kathy G. These are some of our vocal supporters who we gladly embrace and appreciate. Lindsay Lohan. Not so much.


  • Name: Lola
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 5:12 PM
    Hometown: Scottsdale, AZ

    Comment:

    Did Hugh Ryan orally ingest Lindsay's tanning mist accidentally? Just curious.


  • Name: Frances
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 5:09 PM
    Hometown: Honolulu

    Comment:

    I agree with all of you except Andrew (poor thing, he must be a tween by the way he writes..). Lindsay Lohan is just one tragic mess: from her acting, her shortlived attempt at a singing career, drug and alcohol addictions, and her personal relationships. I could care less about her sexuality, but i do strongly object to her injecting her venom into a a minority that has yet to achieve full equality under the law. She can never empathize with our struggle, and dating an out lesbian DJ does not make her one of us.


  • Name: Jorjor
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 4:57 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    She is a mess. We don't want a mess to hinder our cause. Equality, yes. Lohan. oh no.


  • Name: Rodger
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 4:56 PM
    Hometown: Oakland

    Comment:

    This article has to be a joke! Lindsay Lohan is a mess, Long Island trash with too much money (although, maybe not for long). She refuses to admit she is Lesbian, or even bisexual, insisting it's all ok because she likes men too (the implication being that it would not be ok if she were simply gay). Her public relationship is another mess, not the type of relationship that I would want representing a committed, loving unions that we are all insisting is deserving of mariage rights. If anything, Lindsay Lohan's association with the GLBT community is setting us back even further with her public antics, toxic dysfunctional relationships, and above all her desperate need for attention - which, it appears Hugh Ryan is all too happy to give.


  • Name: Eddy
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 4:56 PM
    Hometown: New York City

    Comment:

    Oh dear Andrew, stop reading the tabloids and quicklyt head to your local LGBT community organization. They will show you how to better use your time to help us with our continued fight for equality. Thank you.


  • Name: Patrick
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 4:54 PM
    Hometown: New Orleans

    Comment:

    Just say no. No.


  • Name: Shoshani
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 4:48 PM
    Hometown: Beverly Hills

    Comment:

    Dear Hugh Ryan: The A List? Really? On whose, USWeekly? The Advocate AND the LGBT community do not need this celeb-whore's media dependence to set us back. At all. Now, let's get serious, shall we. There is work to be done.


  • Name: Davida
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 4:26 PM
    Hometown: San Francisco

    Comment:

    @Andrew from Chicago: "..so at least its bringing in some press." I don't think the LGBT movement gains credibility by relying on the Hiltons , Spears', and Lohans of the world for press material. Truly you must jest. With the way the media twists every spin, do you really want the fight for advancing our human rights to be represented by these women? I didn't think so. P.S. Use your spellchecker.


  • Name: Andrew
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 3:19 PM
    Hometown: Chicago

    Comment:

    No matter how much she skrews up we will always be interested in whats going on in her life- and its only bc mean girls was soooo epic. Even tho she might seem like a bad representation of the community- she is still on par with names like Paris Hilton and Britany...so at least its bringing in some press


  • Name: Pantricia
    Date posted: 2009-04-25 3:10 PM
    Hometown: Las Vegas

    Comment:

    "She’s young, she’s beautiful, she’s A-list -- and at the top of her career" Are you kidding? Did she pay you for this? Really? Let's call this what it really is - a sad and desperate attempt to extend her expired 15 minutes of shame. Her appearance on Ellen's show was awkward at best. She should really consider Ellen's advice and disappear for a few years. And maybe, just maybe, consider a comeback. The LGBT movement is supported by many public figures who are not using the cause for their own personal gain as Lohan clearly does.


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