Heartbroken. Angry. Again.

Sunday Feb 14, 2010

I don’t even know what to say.

Four years ago this month, Sean Paddock died at the hands of his adoptive family. Well intentioned or not, their abusive parenting influenced by Michael and Debi Pearl led to his death.

And now. Again.

Lydia Schatz, seven years old, died February 6, 2010. Her sister, Zariah Schatz is eleven and in critical condition with kidney failure and other injuries. Again, adopted. Again, parents abused them influenced by Michael and Debi Pearl.

I will not make excuses for Micheal and Debi Pearl or Kevin and Elizabeth Schatz. I am even more angry that these were Christian parents who homeschooled. Well intentioned or not, the abusive parenting influenced by Michael and Debi Pearl led to another child’s death. How many more children are being abused behind closed doors and condoned by the Church in the name of “no greater joy” and “first time obedience”? When will the Pearls take full responsibility for the harm of their teachings? When will Christian parents see through the lies cloaked in Scripture?

I hate that I even have to write about this. I hate it. I hate that people profess to follow a Christ who welcomed children are abusing children in His name.

Millstones. Lord, have mercy on us all.



Related to Michael and Debi Pearl:

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Fruits of Pearl Parenting

Children, Good and Grown

On the Pearls and Parenting

Perfectionism and Parenting

On Perfectionism and Parenting

More on Michael and Debi Pearl

On the Pearls and Parenting, Repeat

What’s the Fuss About Michael and Debi Pearl?

From Salon.Com: More on Michael and Debi Pearl


Related to Sean Paddock:

Justice and Mercy

Avoiding Millstones

Remembering Sean Paddock

Other’s Thoughts on Lynn Paddock

From Salon.Com: More on Michael and Debi Pearl


Related Topics:

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Perfectionism and Parenting

On Perfectionism and Parenting

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February 14th, 2010 | 11:27 pm

Want to understand more of the context?

February 15th, 2010 | 3:11 am
February 15th, 2010 | 6:28 pm
February 16th, 2010 | 12:43 am

[...] tragedy of Lydia Schatz’s death, her sister’s hospitalization and her other siblings’ abuse has me heartsick. While we [...]

February 16th, 2010 | 1:01 am

[...] Mike and Debi Pearl The highly favored book To Train Up A Child by Michael and Debi Pearl, is credited by both the Schatz family and the Paddock family as their go-to book on child [...]

February 17th, 2010 | 10:30 am
February 17th, 2010 | 11:48 am

Thanks, Virginia!

News story explicitly states the DA is looking into the connection between Lydia Schatz’s death and Michael and Debi Pearl:

February 18th, 2010 | 9:53 pm

The story is now spreading to a larger audience, and unfortunately the name of Christ is being dragged through the mud as well.


I will not be writing about this myself just yet, because I am too close to the situation. I intend to wait at least until after the funeral, and after the results of the autopsy are released.

When I do write, I will likely have two separate foci, because I have a very real obligation as a Christian to love not only the innocent, but the guilty.

February 19th, 2010 | 1:12 pm
February 21st, 2010 | 9:25 pm

[...] I first heard about the Schatz family’s tragedy a week ago Sunday. My immediate response was heartbroken, angry, “Not again. . .” disbelief. [...]

February 22nd, 2010 | 2:47 am

[...] A thoughtful critique from Tulipgirl, written in 2006 but still quite relevant, and with links to useful resources. Her reaction to the latest tragedy is here. [...]

February 23rd, 2010 | 3:45 am
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