Md. Lawmakers Clash Over Marriage

Why would we want to hide our relationships?

Can RuPaul & Wanda Sykes PLEASE go kick this guy's ass? It's SO very easy to take the bait and stoop to his level, but we should be smarter than that. He's made it obvious that "STUPID" HAS NO COLOR. We need to expect much more from the Democrats if they want OUR continued support.

A black man can stop being black the same way a gay man can stop being gay. Yes, the gay man can hide it. A factor to greater discrimination on the basis of honest expression. Interracial couples could hide also, does that mean that they should have? Are we really saying that free individuals should hide their identity? Where does this Burns nincampoop think we live, in Communist Cuba? As for him being disgusted at two people expressing their love for one another, I'm disgusted by the fact that he, an African American, should completely forget issues of privilege in this country and declare a "threat to heterosexualness" the same way a white guy could have claimed in the 60s "a threat to whiteness". People who use their rights to discriminate against others, that is truly the most revolting in its hipocracy- far more than a free expression of love such as kissing, for God's sake. But you know what? He gets money for us as a Dem; lets kick him OUT!

I guess we can use the same arguments to reenact slavery. Just because you believe differently, look different, act different gives someone the right to discriminate. Bull*

Somewhere in Heaven, Bayard Rustin weeps.

"I cannot hide my color," the African-American delegate said. "Gays and lesbians can hide their relationships." Honestly? You do realize Gaydar isn't a Gay-Only thing? People either know or suspect, those who are trying to "pass" (much like light-skinned people of old) are the harder ones to figure out. I hope I'm not in your district. (I'll be googling). If I get asked by one more straight person to confirm or deny someone's sexuality... Obviously they got an idea from somewhere.

Fuck Matt, why the hell do you even call yourself gay. You know you have to sleep with men right?

Of course he could hide his color. He could be made to wear a Halloween costume whenever he went out in public. No more ridiculous than expecting gays and lesbians to hide who they are, or marry someone of the opposite sex, or have no relationships at all purely for the gratification of strangers. I wonder if he was ever taught to loathe himself by his friends and family for being black, or sit alone in the dark and cry not understanding why he was so different than those around him, or contemplated suicide due to his color, or denied a relationship.....or heaven. Simply ignorant.

I just want to say that I and most LGBT people deplore the racism shown by a couple of posters on this site. The n-word, terms like "hoodrats," and inaccurate stereotypes of African Americans have harmed a lot of innocent people, and I think it's tragic that a few of us cannot or will not show other demographic groups the same respect that we rightly demand for ourselves. Granted, the stereotypical association of gay men with "sex parties and whorishness" is harmful and inaccurate as well; many gay men are faithful to a single partner. I personally have never been to a "sex party," and although I am single, my sex life is probably a lot more conservative than those of most single straight men. I almost never go to bars, for example, and when I do, I never pick anyone up. On balance, though, the racism on this post heavily outweighs the homophobia, and it doesn't do our community or any community a bit of good.

Let me suggest a different rule (which is equally irrational and unaccaptable). Gays are more discriminated against than blacks and therefore are more victims;thus, morally superior. Why: because Blacks at least are accepted by their own community and parents. Gays are rejected by their immediate family-making gays even worse off and therefore superior in their victimhood.