We didn't have any grand theory when we started Tuesday Night Dinners. Many of us were freelancers and simply wanted a routine activity to measure out our weeks. Looking back, however, I can see how this ritualized event made a key difference in our group. Mainly, it increased what a social scientist would call our "clustering coefficient," that is, the number of our individual friends who also have friendships with each other. The higher the clustering coefficient, the more a group feels like a group. Those dinners were also useful in networking with other groups and connecting with new friends and meeting potential romantic partners. At least two couples who ended up marrying were first introduced at Tuesday Night Dinners.
also wrote in the book about the travails of my friend Nikolas and his
attempt to build one of the biggest glass lighting installations known
to man: "When I saw Nikolas next, it was clear he was in over his
Rebecca and I are now expecting our first child, who the tribe is sure to welcome with love and amazement. I, meanwhile, will attempt to continue life as a freelancer (I’ve written for The New York Times Magazine, Spin, Details, Mother Jones, GQ, Esquire, and The San Francisco Chronicle Magazine, among others) at the San Francisco Writers Grotto, a co-op I founded in 1994 with fellow tribesmen Po Bronson and Ethan Canin.