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January 10th, 2012

No You Don’t

“Now I know what if feels like after a woman has been raped.”
-said during a strap on fantasy by the same client who said this

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January 8th, 2012

Martini Service

Martini Service

From this gallery.

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January 3rd, 2012

Indefinite Detention Bullshit

Guantanamo Bay

Wow, can you believe the sleazy Bush-like move Obama pulled NYE? While most of the country was out partying he signs a bill to lock up Americans without trial indefinitely. The candidate of change…really?

What’s this all about? Well, strap in as it’s not pretty. First up is the ACLU’s statement. I’m only posting a snippet but please read the entire statement at the link and afterward please consider joining this vital organization.
President Obama Signs Indefinite Detention Bill Into Law
“WASHINGTON – President Obama signed the National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) into law today. The statute contains a sweeping worldwide indefinite detention provision. While President Obama issued a signing statement saying he had “serious reservations” about the provisions, the statement only applies to how his administration would use the authorities granted by the NDAA, and would not affect how the law is interpreted by subsequent administrations. The White House had threatened to veto an earlier version of the NDAA, but reversed course shortly before Congress voted on the final bill.

“President Obama’s action today is a blight on his legacy because he will forever be known as the president who signed indefinite detention without charge or trial into law,” said Anthony D. Romero, ACLU executive director. “The statute is particularly dangerous because it has no temporal or geographic limitations, and can be used by this and future presidents to militarily detain people captured far from any battlefield. The ACLU will fight worldwide detention authority wherever we can, be it in court, in Congress, or internationally.

Under the Bush administration, similar claims of worldwide detention authority were used to hold even a U.S. citizen detained on U.S. soil in military custody, and many in Congress now assert that the NDAA should be used in the same way again. The ACLU believes that any military detention of American citizens or others within the United States is unconstitutional and illegal, including under the NDAA. In addition, the breadth of the NDAA’s detention authority violates international law because it is not limited to people captured in the context of an actual armed conflict as required by the laws of war.”

From RSN:
NDAA: Congress Signed Its Own Arrest Warrants
“Responding to the Senate’s overwhelming passage of the ‘Homeland Battlefield’ bill, Ms. Wolf first published this piece on December 12, 2011. However, her argument took on new relevance over the weekend when President Obama used the media blackout of the holiday season to quietly sign the bill during a vacation in Hawaii. - JPS/RSN

I never thought I would have to write this: but - incredibly - Congress has now passed the National Defense Appropriations Act, with Amendment 1031, which allows for the military detention of American citizens. The amendment is so loosely worded that any American citizen could be held without due process. The language of this bill can be read to assure Americans that they can challenge their detention - but most people do not realize what this means: at Guantanamo and in other military prisons, one’s lawyer’s calls are monitored, witnesses for one’s defense are not allowed to testify, and one can be forced into nudity and isolation. Incredibly, ninety-three Senators voted to support this bill and now most of Congress: a roster of names that will live in infamy in the history of our nation, and never be expunged from the dark column of the history books.”

From Indian Country:
Happy New Year: Don’t Bother Asking for an Attorney When You’re Detained
“The headlines said it all. The Huffington Post teaser shouted: HAPPY NEW YEAR: YOU CAN NOW BE DETAINED INDEFINITELY while Infowars proclaimed a more sedate: Happy New Year: Obama Signs NDAA, Indefinite Detention Now Law of the Land.

The NDAA is the $662 billion National Defense Authorization Act that President Obama signed into law on New Year’s Eve. In addition to funding the United States’ ongoing wars and the 900 military bases it maintains in 130 countries, the bill provides for the U.S. president to have draconian worldwide authority to have the military seize anyone suspected of “terrorism” or providing aid to terrorists or “associated forces” anywhere in the world, including U.S. citizens on American soil, and detain them without charge or trial indefinitely. “It’s a little New Year’s present to our constitutional republic,” Alex Jones says angrily in a YouTube video.”

Getting rounded up is not some fantasy scare tactic. It’s happened in this country before and it can happen again. During World War II Japanese Americans were rounded up for being the wrong race. From Wikipedia:
Japanese American internment
“Japanese-American internment was the relocation and internment by the United States government in 1942 of approximately 110,000 Japanese Americans and Japanese who lived along the Pacific coast of the United States to camps called “War Relocation Camps,” in the wake of Imperial Japan’s attack on Pearl Harbor.[1][2] The internment of Japanese Americans was applied unequally throughout the United States. Japanese Americans who lived on the West Coast of the United States were all interned, while in Hawaii, where more than 150,000 Japanese Americans composed over one-third of the territory’s population, 1,200[3] to 1,800 Japanese Americans were interned.[4] Of those interned, 62% were American citizens.[5][6]”

I think anyone who voted for this bill should be voted out of office regardless of political identification. Yup, that means I’m voting against Obama in 2012 despite voting for him in 2008. Some of my pro-choice friends tell me voting against Obama during the next election means voting to outlaw abortion. I counter that argument with this: If I get pregnant and I can’t get an abortion I can figure out how to give myself one. If I’m illegally detained for being a political protester I can’t figure out how to break out of a federal prison. That makes the choice easy for me.

Many I know are outraged over this. I certainly am. But not everyone. A disturbing trend I’ve noticed is people saying something to the tune of “this won’t affect me or anyone I know so why should I care”. I am baffled by this type of thinking.

Under that ideology straight people shouldn’t care about gay marriage because they can get married whenever they want. US residents shouldn’t care about the treatment of illegal immigrants because they’re legal. Non sex workers shouldn’t care about the West Mesa Murders because they’re not targets of a serial killer. But of course we care about the above and so we should care about this indefinite detention bill. Can you imagine who President Palin would like to round up? Just because this bill doesn’t affect you today doesn’t mean it won’t tomorrow.

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December 30th, 2011

West Mesa Murders = Cold Case

Red Umbrella day candles and names

At this year’s Red Umbrella Day I learned that the West Mesa murders were now a cold case. My first thought was that NO this couldn’t be true. But sadly it is. Checking the Albuquerque Police link on the murders confirms. Damnit!

The most recent news I could find was this story. From KRQE:
Serial murder case on business cards
“A unique new business card is about to go into circulation that detectives hope will help find the killer of the 11 women found buried on Albuquerque’s west mesa in 2009.

The 2-year-old case has seen a lot of publicity since the first bone was discovered by a woman walking her dog. It’s even been broadcast on a national television show.

This will be the first time that the serial murder case is printed on a business card.”

On one hand I’m glad the Albuquerque Police is still trying to solve these murders. On the other hand I can’t help but think how much the APD itself has hurt the case. How? The Southwest Companions bust that’s how.

NM escorts and prostitutes have lost business and now can’t even trust each other because they fear one of their own may now be an informant. But most importantly a site that gave them the ability to verify a client’s reputation is now gone. This bust didn’t magically make prostitution disappear in New Mexico. I think it just makes these women take more risks to make money.

If one of these women has information about the case can we really expect her to confide in a police department that says it cares about the West Mesa victims but is putting living sex workers lives at risk by shutting down SW Companions? I don’t think so.

We will remember the West Mesa victims. And we will continue to hope for justice.

Posted by Vixen as News, Sex Workers at 9:01 PM CST

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December 25th, 2011

Holiday Giving

Holiday Giving

It’s that time of year again-holiday giving. If you can give to charity I encourage you to give to the following groups. Some are a repeat from last year, some are new.

American Civil Liberties Union
“The ACLU is our nation’s guardian of liberty, working daily in courts, legislatures and communities to defend and preserve the individual rights and liberties that the Constitution and laws of the United States guarantee everyone in this country.


The ACLU also works to extend rights to segments of our population that have traditionally been denied their rights, including people of color; women; lesbians, gay men, bisexuals and transgender people; prisoners; and people with disabilities.

If the rights of society’s most vulnerable members are denied, everybody’s rights are imperiled.”

With the current loom of the indefinite detention becoming law the ACLU is one of the most important organizations out there fighting for our freedoms.

Circle Sanctuary
“Circle, also known as Circle Sanctuary, is a non-profit international Nature Spirituality resource center and legally recognized Shamanic Wiccan church. Founded in 1974, Circle helps people from many spiritual orientations connect with each other as well as with the spiritual dimensions of Nature. Circle’s executive directors, Selena Fox and Dennis Carpenter, work together with staff and volunteers to carry out a variety of activities and services

As a Pagan I want to highlight Circle Sanctuary. They have been around for years and are an excellent resources for us Pagans.

Electronic Frontier Foundation
“Blending the expertise of lawyers, policy analysts, activists, and technologists, EFF achieves significant victories on behalf of consumers and the general public. EFF fights for freedom primarily in the courts, bringing and defending lawsuits even when that means taking on the US government or large corporations. By mobilizing more than 61,000 concerned citizens through our Action Center, EFF beats back bad legislation. In addition to advising policymakers, EFF educates the press and public.”

Like the ACLU the EFF is one of the most important organizations fighting for a freedom. With the loom of SOPA happening it’s vital we support them.

Food Not Bombs
“We recover food that would have been discarded and share it as a way of protesting war and poverty. With fifty cents of every U.S. federal tax dollar going to the military and forty percent of our food being discarded while so many people were struggling to feed their families that we could inspire the public to press for military spending to be redirected to human needs. We also reduce food waste and meet the direct need our our community by collecting discarded food, preparing vegan meals that we share with the hungry while providing literature about the need to change our society. Food Not Bombs also provides food to protesters, striking workers and organize food releif after natural and political crisis.”

Food Not Bombs is a great group though they don’t think of themselves as a charity. They run on the simple idea that we should feed the hungry instead of dropping bombs on people. They were one of the first groups at Ground Zero and at Katrina to feed the hungry. They are an awesome and important group.

Sex Worker Outreach Project (SWOP)
“Sex Workers Outreach Project-USA is a national social justice network dedicated to the fundamental human rights of sex workers and their communities, focusing on ending violence and stigma through education and advocacy.”

SWOP does such good work. We sex workers need more groups like them.

Posted by Vixen as News, Activism at 2:00 PM CST

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December 22nd, 2011

International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers

International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers

For this year’s International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers I went down to an event in Albuquerque, NM. While I’ll blog about the event itself in a couple days I want this post to focus on the fallen sex workers whose names I read out that evening. A sign from the evening said “We remember”. We do. We remember and we seek justice for them.

Maureen Brainard-Barnes
Long Island, NY
December 2010

Megan Waterman
Long Island, NY
December 2010

Melissa Barthelemy
Long Island, NY
December 2010

Melody Lashae Wiggins
North Carolina

Michaela Hauge
Sheffield, UK
November 5, 2001

Michelle Bettles
Norwich, England
Feb 22, 2002

Michelle Valdez
Albuquerque, NM 22
Found between Feb - April 2009

Molly Jean Dilts
Atlantic City, NJ

Monica Candelaria
Albuquerque, NM
Found between Feb - April 09

Nakisha Rawls
Dekalb County, GA
unknown age
August 30, 2009

Posted by Vixen as Activism, Sex Workers at 11:30 PM CST

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December 20th, 2011

Resisting Christmas

Christmas Resistance

Longtime readers know I don’t celebrate Christmas. The Christmas Resistance Movement seems more pertinent than ever. Mr. Radical and I haven’t exchanged gifts in years. It’s such a stress relief.

I was in a clothing store this past weekend and the place was packed with frantic shoppers. So many people looked so stressed. I couldn’t help but think how ridiculous it all was. Why not consider giving up the Christmas craziness? Realistically it’s too late to give it up this year if your family is expecting presents but why not scale back next year?

There’s an Occupy Xmas movement as well. There’s an #OccupyXmas hashtag on Twitter, a Facebook page and blog.

If you are buying presents this year consider buying handmade items. From Handmadeology:
Reasons to Buy Handmade
“Buying handmade can become a total lifestyle choice. Choosing to buy handmade is just like choosing to buy local produce. You simply cannot compare mass produced products to artisan created goods in terms of inspiration, quality, and attention to detail.


Buying handmade is also a tremendous boost to small business and to the economy as a whole. It’s small businesses that are the backbone of our economy. We need thriving small businesses in order for everyone to prosper. This certainly plays into our local markets, but in this day and age of global integration, the world economy can benefit as well.”

I recommend Etsy. There’s tons of handmade goodness over there. It’s such a treat to buy a product from the exact person who made it.

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December 19th, 2011


“It doesn’t matter if it’s 1 or 100, it matters that we’re here.”

said at tonight’s Red Umbrella Day/Slut Walk in NM

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December 16th, 2011

Pin-Up Men

Pin up man

This Flickr set has men photographed in stereotypical pin-up poses. It’s adorable! What a fun idea. Thanks to readers S, N and T who all sent me the link.

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December 13th, 2011

Red Umbrella Day

Red Umbrella Day

The International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers is coming up. From SWOP:
“December 17th is the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers. This event was created to call attention to crimes committed against sex workers all over the globe. Originally conceptualized by Annie Sprinkle and initiated by the Sex Workers Outreach Project USA as a memorial and vigil for the victims of the Green River Killer in Seattle Washington, the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers has empowered workers from cities around the world to come together and organize against discrimination and remember victims of violence. During the week of December 17th, sex worker rights organizations and their allies stage actions and vigils to raise awareness about violence that is commonly committed against sex workers. The assault, battery, rape and murder of sex workers must end. Existing laws prevent sex workers from reporting violence. The stigma and discrimination that is perpetuated by the prohibitionist laws has made violence against us acceptable. Please join with sex workers around the world and stand against criminalization and violence committed against our communities.”

Want to go to an event? Check here for something near you. Organizing an event? Let SWOP know here.

As a sex worker I think this is an important event to attend. Fellow sex workers can join together to speak up for our rights and supporters can join us in solidarity.

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December 2nd, 2011

Fetish Fridays: Screaming

A Woman Screams at the Sight of a Tiny Mouse. Her Dog Doesn't Look Too Happy Either

For Fetish Fridays I usually search online for a good fetish link for my post. This time I didn’t find anything with substance. But from a sex worker perspective I see screaming (or yelling) as a fetish. It’s one of my least favorite to do. Screaming calls are the hardest calls for me both giving and receiving. Scream Callers (SC) either like you to scream at them throughout the call or they like to yell at you.

A scream call can take many forms-sometimes I’m the angry Mistress verbally humiliating a slave. Other times I’m the mad Mommy chastising her naughty boy. I’ve been an upset principal and angry teacher yelling at my naughty student. The common thread here is volume. They really want me to yell. It’s as if the volume of my yells directly affects the level of their excitement.

This type of call is hard on my throat so I rarely do them. PSOs rely on their voice to do the work-why would we wreck it by screaming regularly? My throat feels raw by the end of the call and in need of a rest. After a scream fetish call I’ll turn off my phone for the night. A hot cup of tea with honey has soothed my throat afterward many a time.

Of my current clients I can only thing of one regular that has a scream fetish. Even with him I don’t scream as loud as he’d like. And I don’t do it every call. With him Mommy will raise her voice to chastise his naughty ways. Near the end of the call I’ll yell out some insults to make him cum.

Being on the receiving end of a screaming fetish call is easier but still a pain. The caller likes to yell at me for various reasons. I don’t typically do submissive calls but I do with a few regulars. I’m yelled at for being a naughty girl. Or they’ll yell at me to tell me to have an orgasm. “Louder! Play with that pussy more!” they’ll scream while I work on a knitting project and moan.

The trouble with this type of call is they tend to give me a headache. The caller doesn’t yell constantly. There will be moments of normal volume and then BAM! he’ll start to yell. I’ve tried having an itchy trigger finger on the mute button but it’s hard to catch every one. Eventually all that yelling makes my head pound. As soon as the call is over I’m heading to the bathroom for some Advil. I don’t do many of these calls either.

A slight variant to the fetish is orgasm sounds. Many callers like me to have what I call “a going for the Grammy” orgasm. This entails lots of OH GOD OH GOD YES YES YES. They like me to moan at a loud volume. One of my callers likes to have me do loud orgasm after loud orgasm during our calls. While it’s easy to moan and shout words of pleasure I find doing this too much will wreck my throat for the night. I like to start off quiet and work up to the big porno like orgasm for the end.

What causes a scream fetish? Several of my clients were caught masturbating and yelled at by their mothers as children. I also think the over the top yelling in porn causes some clients to want similar noises during a phone fantasy.

Bottom line for PSOs-preserve your voice and only do scream fetishes rarely.

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November 25th, 2011

Black Friday Thoughts

Black Friday camping

I saw this image all over Facebook and Twitter. If anyone know who to credit it to send me an email.

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November 23rd, 2011

Buy Nothing Day

Buy Nothing Day

It’s that time of year again-Buy Nothing Day! This really is one of the easiest holidays to celebrate. Just relax-no stress, no shopping, no fighting fellow customers for the “hot toy of the year”.

From Adbusters:
Buy Nothing Day/#occupyxmas
“This year’s Black Friday will be the first campaign of the holiday season where we set the tone for a new type of holiday culminating with #OCCUPYXMAS. As the global protests of the 99% against corporate greed and casino capitalism continues, lets take the opportunity to hit the empire where it really hurts…the wallet.

On Nov 25/26th we escape the mayhem and unease of the biggest shopping day in North America and put the breaks on rabid consumerism for 24 hours. Flash mobs, consumer fasts, mall sit-ins, community events, credit card-ups, whirly-marts and jams, jams, jams! We don’t camp on the sidewalk for a reduced price tag on a flat screen TV or psycho-killer video game. Instead, we occupy the very paradigm that is fueling our eco, social and political decline.

Historically, Buy Nothing Day has been about fasting from hyper consumerism – a break from the cash register and reflecting on how dependent we really are on conspicuous consumption. On this 20th anniversary of Buy Nothing Day, we take it to the next level, marrying it with the message of #occupy…


Shenanigans begin November 25!”

Occupy Xmas? I like it! Some people are saying no gifts which I’ve advocated for years. Others are saying buy gifts from small, local businesses. Or try Etsy if you can’t find something locally-there’s tons of indie sellers there.

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November 18th, 2011

Sex News Roundup

Sex News Roundup

From Women With A Vision:
December 2nd: Save the Date! Summit on Sex Work in the South
“On December 2nd, 2011, Women With A Vision is joining forces with the North Carolina Harm Reduction Coalition, Asheville Sex Worker Outreach Project, Sex Workers Without Borders, North Carolina Sex Workers Alliance and Helping Individual Prostitutes Survive (HIPS) to host the first regional Summit on Sex Work in the South. Attendees include the awesome Human Rights Watch and other national allies.

We will be discussing sex work in the South, human rights & sex work, the negative public health & criminal justice effects of criminalization of condoms, advocacy for sex worker related issues, risk reduction for sex workers, drug use & sex work, bad date reporting and more!”

If I were in the area I think I’d go to this.

From Self Served:
Haystacks, Fucking, and Needles: Is Sex Work a Cop-out?
“Let’s talk about the world’s oldest profession. In my experience, the societal view of sex work claims it’s easy. Women and men who choose sex work, our culture tells us, are throwing away their education, or should go make something better of themselves, because exchanging sex or sexuality for money is a drag on society, morally corrupt, and a waste of one’s talents. For this blog, we’re going to examine the last stereotype—that being a sex worker wastes a person’s talents because it is easy. The implied idea in this stereotype whispers: “You’re such a smart/pretty/talented/capable girl; you come from such a good family/religion/socio-economic status; why are you doing this?”

I don’t know that I can argue that being a sex worker is easy, even for the sake of argument. I do know that not everyone can do it.”

My friend Sera Miles is blogging over at Self Served, a hip sex store in New Mexico that gives a discount to sex workers. In this post he writes about traits sex workers need to have to do well in the industry. It’s a good read.

Found via Tits and Sass:
Why are sex workers and their allies occupying Wall Street?
“In the last four weeks, many have been wondering what has driven people to Occupy Wall Street (OWS) and bring attention to the economic situation that has developed in our country. Critics have argued that so many issues are being discussed and that so many disparate groups have joined forces, that the occupation has no cohesive message, purpose, or goals. As our group of sex workers and allies stood in solidarity with our fellow revolutionaries Wednesday, October 5th at the rally at Foley Square in New York, it was apparent that we were included in that critique or question. What were we doing there? What was our purpose? What was our message? And how do sex workers’ rights connect to the larger OWS movement?

Those of us who were there, or who are active in the sex workers’ rights movement generally, have no doubt about how we fit within OWS and how OWS fits within our movement. United, in solidarity, with everyone coming together in Zuccotti Park and in all the plazas nationwide, we can bring about greater change. After the rally, we decided to highlight the points that bring together our intersecting movements and realities.”

Yes, yes and yes. This post is from last month but is still a good read. I wholeheartedly agree with it!

Sex Workers’ Rights Activists Step Up Public Education Campaign with a Controversial Mobile Billboard in Los Angeles
“After being rejected by every billboard company in Los Angeles, the sex workers’ rights project SWAAY (Sex Work Activists, Allies, and You) has launched their public awareness campaign with a mobile billboard, which will be running for eight days between November 1 and November 9, 2011.

SWAAY’s text-only billboard reads, “Sex worker: a person who consensually exchanges their own sexual labor or sexual performance for compensation. Sex work is not the same as forced sex trafficking or sex slavery. Learn about the people and facts behind sex work at” Any variation of the group’s message was banned by Clear Channel, CBS, Lamar, Regency, Van Wagner, Avant Outdoor, LA Transit Authority, and Outdoor Solutions, but was finally picked up by a mobile billboard company.

The sex workers’ rights billboard was paid for by 115 supporters on, a Kickstarter-like website that allows grassroots activist groups to crowdsource the funding of a media campaign. Previous billboards successfully launched through Epic Step include messages in support of WikiLeaks and accused war crimes whistle-blower Bradley Manning.”

While a billboard would have been awesome I’m glad SWAAY got the mobile billboard as a backup. It’s so nutty that the simple definition of a sex worker is considered controversial. Let’s hope this campaign gets bigger and goes nationwide.

Posted by Vixen as News, Sex Workers at 11:59 PM CST

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