'My wife's tsunami of grief': Lord Rogers breaks silence over death of son Bo, 27, in seizure triggered by stress of being trapped in flooded town

  • Bo Rogers had seizure in bath after escape from flooding in Vernazza, Italy
  • Architect Lord Rogers speaking at launch of campaign to rebuild the town
  • Celebrity chef wife Ruth is 'up and down', experiencing 'tsunamis' of grief

By Daily Mail Reporter

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Lord Rogers has broken his silence over the death of his son and its effect on his wife Ruth.

The architect said that although he can bear the loss, his celebrity chef wife is 'up and down' and often experiences a 'tsunami' of grief.

The architect, whose wife is the celebrated chef and cookery writer Ruth Rogers, said 'somehow' he could bear the loss but had come to the conclusion that women coped less well with sorrow than men.

Grief: Chef and cookery writer Ruth Rogers (left) is struggling to get over the death of her son Bo (right)

Grief: Chef and cookery writer Ruth Rogers (left) is struggling to get over the death of her son Bo (right)

'I can bear it somehow — I have no idea how. Ruthie can't. It's a terrible thing' said Lord Rogers.

'I've come to the conclusion that women are different.'

Bo Rogers died after suffering a seizure in a friend's bath last year.

He had escaped from Vernazza in northern Italy when the town was hit by flooding and landslides.

The 27-year-old was not epileptic, and it was thought that the shock and stress of the flood might have triggered his fit.

Struggle: Bo Rogers' death came just two years after Ruth Rogers (right) lost her close friend and River Cafe co-proprietor Rose Gray (left) to cancer

Struggle: Bo Rogers' death came just two years after Ruth Rogers (right) lost her close friend and River Cafe co-proprietor Rose Gray (left) to cancer

Lord Rogers' designs include the Millennium Dome, the Lloyd's Building and Terminal Five at Heathrow Airport.

The 79-year old was speaking at the launch of a campaign to repair the damage caused by the floods in Vernazza.

He told the Sunday Times that his son - who spoke fluent Italian - loved the town.

 

'Bo was rather good at languages and spoke fluent Italian.'

'We adopted this place and it in turn adopted us, especially Bo. He just belonged. It was a family joke that one day he'd be mayor.'

He hopes that the family will come to love the town again, but admitted it might prove a challenge for his wife.

Moving on: Lord Rogers, pictured with his wife, was speaking at the launch of a campaign to restore the town of Vernazza after last year's floods

Lord Rogers, pictured with his wife, was speaking at the launch of a campaign to restore the Italian town of Vernazza, which was hit by flash floods the day before Bo died. The stress might have caused his seizure

Disaster: The floods in Vernazza killed several people and damaged much of the town

Disaster: The floods in Vernazza in Autumn 2011 killed several people and damaged much of the town

'Ruthie is up and down. She's OK, then it hits her and it's like an explosion. She describes it as a 'tsunami' of grief.'

Ruth Rogers opened the famous River Cafe in Hammersmith in 1987. Her son's death came less than two years after the death from cancer of her close friend Rose Gray.

River Café is considered one of the country's leading Italian restaurants, producing celebrity chefs Jamie Oliver, Hugh Fearnley-Whittingstall and Tobie Puttock.

 

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Keep looking after her,so hard to lose son and friend.cannot imagine how hard it would be.

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so very sad - it must be the worst thing in the world to lose a child - sincere condolences and I hope that with time you start to love life and laugh again - life is short adn we don't get a second chance - please try to get what you can from what is left xxx

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Terrible tragedy. They always come across as very decent people and have supported many needy causes especially in the Middle East

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does anyone else see the irony of escaping a flood only to die in a bath tub? God sure has a weird sense of humour

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I feel for this poor woman, it is everyone parents worst nightmare to have to see their child go before them. May he rest in peace and may she find the strength to carry on.

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So sad to read and comprehend....

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The Rogers were a very close-knit, lovely family. My son was at school with Bo and that young man was very hard working and determined. He was inspirational in his quest to go further - and on one parents'/sports day our picnic blanket was alongside the Rogers' thus, in age-old fashion we dug into our separate hampers and shared the odd tid-bit or treat, rug-to-rug. I wonder who got the best of that bargain? It is no wonder Bo's mum suffers. She had many good years with him, but all too few. I hope I'm not intruding in their life by saying this as they have always been very private people, so I'll leave it there.

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That's so tragic. Poor poor Ruth. Terrible thing for mother to go through. X

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Oh, how dreadful. I remember reading about this. How does a seizure cause a young man to die?

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MY HEART GOES OUT TO POOR RUTH. UNTIL YOU EXPERIENCE THE TOTAL DEVASTATION OF BEREAVEMENT,SPECIALLY OF A YOUNG PERSON WITH THEIR WHOLE LIFE BEFORE THEM,YOU CAN'T UNDERSTAND THE WAY IT ROBS YOU OF THE REST OF YOUR OWN LIFE. AS I BROUGHT UP MY BROTHER 8 YEARS YOUNGER THAN I FROM BIRTH, DESPITE HAVING TWO KIDS, HE WAS LIKE MY FIRST BORN.HE DIED IN AGONY FROM A GENETIC ILLNESS IN MY ARMS, AGED ONLY 31. I WAS 38, BUT TO ME IT SEEMS IT HAPPENED TODAY.YOU NEVER GET OVER IT. 18 YEARS LATER, I'VE REACHED AN ENFORCED ACCEPTANCE OF THIS TRAGEDY, BUT MY GRIEF REMAINS AND OFTEN THREATENS TO ENGULF ME. (SORRY FOR CAPS. DISABLED WITH DOUBLE VISION)

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