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[ - ] Any divorced moms who have or had 3-4 year old DDs that went to dad's home on weekends? My DD was very clingy to the parent she was currently with & would cry about separating & then be quiet & sad first hour but then is her happy self and attached to the parent she's with again. Now, she goes running to the parent she is going with and is happy off the bat but towards the end gets angry and says she hates whoever she's with and never wants to see them again and refuses hugs & kisses goodbye. Is this normal? When she says "I hate you and never want to see you again", we've just been saying "okay - well I love you - see you 'whichever day'l. Any ideas? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:23 AM Flag
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This seems like a normal reaction to a confusing situation. My parents were divorced and the transitions were hard! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:44 AM Flag
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Any advice? We've just been trying to validate her feelings while staying consistent in rules, being clear about schedules and transitions, and trying to act calm & confident with the transition (since lingering at daycare drop offs have always made it worse)... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:47 AM Flag
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I think you are doing the best you can. Allow her a way to express her anger. I kept it in and i think that was so much worse for me long term. She will learn her mom and dad both love her and will never leave her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:52 AM Flag
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hope the divorce was worth it. your kid sounds messed up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 11:00 AM Flag
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Np - you doing super well adjusted!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 11:29 AM Flag
[ - ] DH just taken to ER because he had a seizure following his first migraine. I'm assuming migraine because it had all the classic symptoms.....severe pain on one side of his head, no tolerance of light, nausea and vomiting,and sensory aura. Then about an hour ago I was woken up by him having a full-blown seizure. Called 911 and EMT guys took him to ER. I'm really scared and wish I could be there but have 2 sleeping dc so have to stay here. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:11 AM Flag
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They will take good care of him!! Can you join him later in the day? It would be good if you could hear diagnosis & treatment plan yourself since he will probably have a tough time focusing and retaining what they say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:16 AM Flag
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Just wondering, how is his blood pressure in general? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:17 AM Flag
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His blood pressure tends to be on the low side of normal. I think it was 115/58 when they checked. His blood sugar levels were normal too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:20 AM Flag
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That's very good!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:24 AM Flag
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Once morning comes I have a neighbor who can watch them. But that's 2-3 hours away. It's times like this I wished we lived near family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:16 AM Flag
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That's very tough!! What are you doing right now? If it makes you feel any better, they probably gave him phenobarbital to quiet the brain activity & prevent seizure activity. If he's never had that before, it's probably made him very very sleepy. He will most likely be asleep for the next few hours. They will do blood work & an EEG and maybe some other tests... Hopefully by the time you can get there, they will have a better idea of what's going on... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:24 AM Flag
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I'm basically sitting here googling everything I can on seizures and migraines. And debating with myself if I should call my parents who will be sound asleep right now. I just feel so helpless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:28 AM Flag
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Has anything been different in the past few weeks that could have brought on the migraines? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:33 AM Flag
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No, he's been doing fine. Nothing new or different in our lives. He's never had a migraine before sothis was very surprising. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:35 AM Flag
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Hmm... They can come on suddenly... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:44 AM Flag
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I'm sure your parents won't mind if you call them, if it will make you fell better then you should do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:38 AM Flag
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OP: my mom is very anti-doctor and anti-hospital, so while she'll be supportive she will also be very worried. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:39 AM Flag
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Also all the tests are just to be sure there isn't anything underlying that caused the seizure. It sounds like a bad migraine & he will need meds to take at first sign of a migraine (if that doesn't work, meds to prevent migraines) and he will respond well!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:32 AM Flag
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OP here.....looked up phenobarbital and it says it can take a long time for it to leave your system. Does that mean he'll be unconscious most of the day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:37 AM Flag
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It depends on how much they give him. He will definitely be drowsy (even if they don't give phenobarb, he will be drowsy from the migraine, seizure, or other meds). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:44 AM Flag
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OP: they want to do a lumbar puncture to rule out meningitis. Now I'm just a bit more freaked out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 12:15 PM Flag
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OP: they want to do a lumbar puncture to rule out meningitis. Now I'm just a bit more freaked out. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] If you are not Asian, what are the drawbacks of sending your DCs to a majority Asian school, other than the lack of diversity? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 08:24 AM Flag
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someone always has to be the majority...does it always have to be the white person for it to be beneficial? The non-asian can probably learn as much as the asian student learns in any random US school. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] I'm sore and dry during sex. I've gone to 2 gynecologists about this and still haven't gotten meaningful help. I've switched BC pills and it helped somewhat, but not enough because sex is still very painful at times. What's going on? I'm not yet 30 years old. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 05:02 AM Flag
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[ - ] How do you get past hurt feelings after breaking up with a friend when you have to see the person on a regular basis? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:59 AM Flag
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:59 AM Flag
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Sleep with her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 05:20 AM Flag
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Socialize more and fill your mind with the possibility of new friends. Then you give off a vibe that you're moving on, and you'll feel better about yourself when you're around her. Also, be cordial, don't let her know that you're hurt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 07:56 AM Flag
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General Topics 01.21.13, 10:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you move if you were okay with your house and neighborhood, but hated your neighbor. Truly evil person. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:55 AM Flag
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Evil in what way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:57 AM Flag
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YES. We did. We lived overseas in a condo on the ocean. The building only had 2 floors. For more than a year, no one lived above us. Bliss! Then a clumping couple moved in and had parties on their upstairs balcony all the time. We loved living there, but couldn't take the noise. We moved--to the top floor of a building. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 05:07 AM Flag
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I had a crazy condo association. Felt so much better the day I sold it (broke even, but didnt care anymore). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 07:57 AM Flag
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hate all sorts of associations. people are control-freaks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 09:03 AM Flag
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Our new board president developed an intense hatred of the former one -- who ended up getting cancer. The new one filed lawsuits against the old one, wasting 1000s of dollars. Every association meeting turned into a fight. I was so glad to get out of there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 09:15 AM Flag
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depends on how intrusive they are and how often u interact. If I saw them once a yr taking out garbage, no big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 12:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Now stop that. Do you hear me? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:51 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:52 AM Flag
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You're not my real mom! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 06:42 AM Flag
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Cool moms let their kids masturbate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 08:01 AM Flag
[ - ] my mom makes me sad and a little hurt, how would you feel about this: I'm dating a guy, and she says one of the reasons he might be dating me is because of my income - I make 85k and he makes 44k...she so much as said he might be using me as a meal ticket...I don't think I make that much though.. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:45 AM Flag
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Your mom sounds like a jerk. I'd know because my mom is also a jerk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:49 AM Flag
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op: thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:48 AM Flag
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85k is not enough to be a meal ticket. If you were an heiress, maybe. But your mom is just a bitch. I'm sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:47 AM Flag
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:51 AM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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hahaha [ Reply | More
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hahaha [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 05:07 AM Flag
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My mom told me my boyfriend - the first boyfriend I'd ever brought home - was probably going to dump me soon because "men are fickle" so I should lock down that engagement asap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:50 AM Flag
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Wow... Was she a teen mom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 05:20 AM Flag
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Maybe a happy meal ticket [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:51 AM Flag
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mean but lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 07:54 AM Flag
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Did you tell her how much your boyfriend makes?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 05:21 AM Flag
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obviously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 05:33 AM Flag
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Then I don't feel sorry for OP. Not a bit. Pretty nervy sharing guy's salary with mom. I don't even tell my mom how much my husband of 14 years makes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 05:40 AM Flag
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it's your mom's generation. She'd also be weird, probably, if you were dating a guy much younger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 11:03 AM Flag
[ - ] On Friday my boss asked me to abstract 5 depositions (each is over 300 pages long) over the 3 day weekend. I don't have a weekend nanny. My dh is only sort of helpful with dc and tomorrow he works and the nanny is off. I've only been able to get 8 hours of solid work time in each day and so I've only abstracted 2 of the 5 so far. It's just not physically possible, which I tried to explain to the boss on Friday, and yesterday--and again today. My wrists are aching from typing, but I'm still going. Just had another coffee. And after totally destroying myself to get as close to the goal as possible, he's going to be disappointed because I didn't get them all done. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:43 AM Flag
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Why are you on UB??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:52 AM Flag
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Don't be a jerk. Everyone needs five minute breaks every now and then when slogging through such monotonous work! Good luck to OP--hope that he gives you a break after you get this project done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:59 AM Flag
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Don't sweat it. Read the dep, get the gist and get it done after dcs sleeping or taking naps [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:58 AM Flag
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Ok, I have a plan, but it involves knocking a few of your own teeth out. Are you prepared to do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:59 AM Flag
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op: I'm listening... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 05:24 AM Flag
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Go masturbate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 05:29 AM Flag
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not possible. already developing carpal tunnel [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 05:39 AM Flag
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I work in a law firm. If it were me, I would have said that sounds like more than a one-person job in that time frame, let's get some additional hands involved. I have noticed over the years that the people who get burned out and quit are the ones who never say no and don't speak up for themselves (in a diplomatic, professional way of course). I realize sometimes you can't say no, but I hope at least sometimes you do. And if one of those times you really can't say no and the work really is critically important, I hope you've let your husband know that if wants you to keep earning an income, the two of you as a team will have to find a way for you to get this assignment done. Also, if you have come to the conclusion that you won't be able to finish the assignment, and you agreed to do it, you need to let the person who assigned it know asap so he/she is not blindsided on Tuesday and maybe someone else can still be assigned to pitch in. More than one person can summarize a deposition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 06:06 AM Flag
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op: all good advice. I've told the boss every day where I'm at with this assignment and his position is still "You'll get more efficient, let's see how much you can do!" although he's clearly disappointed that i'm not whipping through 2 of these a day. I did tell him on Friday that if he wanted it done by Tuesday he would need to rope in another associate and he said no. The biggest truth here is that dh needs to pull his own weight at home. I feel like I'm effectively a single parent. If I leave him to take care of dc for extended periods of time he becomes a total jerk to me--and our kid too. Sesame Street did more parenting this weekend than he did--it had to happen because DH was being useless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 06:29 AM Flag
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off topic, but how do you respect DH when he's such a poor father? why do you stay with him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 06:34 AM Flag
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op: no time to really get into it, but he's actually improved a lot in the last 2 years since dc was born. He has depression and anxiety issues so sometimes he's great and sometimes he's not. The general trend is toward dh becoming a good father--and my experience has been that pushing him when he's in a dark mood only makes things worse. DC and I will just ignore him until he comes back to reality. It's not easy, but I love him and he's improving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 06:44 AM Flag
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4:38 am and I'm finally going to bed. With some luck db will sleep til 8. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 09:37 AM Flag
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4:38 am and I'm finally going to bed. With some luck db will sleep til 8. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 09:37 AM Flag
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You sound delicate. I thought NYers were supposed to be thicker-skinned? Also, to the rest of the country, NYC lines are baffling. Also, you know you'd mock that lady's hometown if you visited. You can't handle her doing the same to you? Buck up, buttercup. If you let every tourist in Broadway get to you, this might not be the place for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 06:48 AM Flag
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Ugh, sorry, was supposed to go under Southern-tourist post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 06:47 AM Flag
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For future reference, don't work from home. Go into the office when you have big weekend projects that need to get done. Try not to judge dh's parenting in such situations. If he can only handle dc by parking dc in front of the television, so be it. Believe me, it's not going to hurt her, it will help you keep your job, and keep peace in the marriage. Have a few babysitters' numbers on hand for when you need back-up. If you are an attorney, this is just part of your job. I am also an attorney and do not think that it was unreasonable for your boss to ask you to have digested those 1500 pp over a 3-day weekend. Although it certainly makes for a crap weekend. Anyhow, I hope it all turns out okay for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 12:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Preparing for applying for public pre-k in district 2, does anyone know if kids with an IEP get any kind of priority for placement? I think they might welcome a kid that comes with a SEIT since it's basically free staff for them but not sure if they are that blatant about it. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 01.21.13, 04:38 AM Flag
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I would be shocked if this were part of the calculus. I don't think they know much more than name age address for the preK lottery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 04:58 AM Flag
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Not for UPK. For Kindergarten sometimes but its a mixed bag. SIET's get cut at a high rate once kids are in school and there's a perception that now there's a harder/higher maint kid on their hands. The only possible advantage you might have is if he's eligible for a CTT class, but i don't know if they have these for UPK and again, there are so many fewer of these than regular classrooms I'm not sure how much it increases your odds. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.13, 06:07 AM Flag
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no....its a lottery, but siblings get priority first. What school are you zoned for? They basically all fill up with sibs and you dont have a chance anyway [ Reply | More
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Get a life [ Reply | More
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Are you friends with Jane and Rebecca? [ Reply | More
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Your real life must really suck for you to try to get the attention you do on here. [ Reply | More
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OP: I am not trying to get attention I just love to pull your chain and so many of you respond constantly with your panties in a twist LOL [ Reply | More
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I agree. I remember first hearing about her a little prior to her divorce. I flat out felt sorry for her husband. What a bitch. [ Reply | More
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