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How to survive emotional torture?

There always is an escape.
There always is an escape.

If you were to ask me, what is worse? To physically torture a being or to emotionally cripple them, I would say the latter. There are some people out there in the world talented enough to emotionally blackmail you into believing you are nothing. They will tell it to you so many times a day, in so many ways that at some point they will break you; leaving you an empty shell of a being. An empty existence that means nothing; where they can spend years torturing you with unkind words but the first word of anger from your mouth will forever be sealed on your skin as the beginning of the downfall of your soul.

What can you do in such a situation? Can you just stand and be a mere spectator as you see yourself dying inside out; where your voice is considered as a crime and your thoughts are not cared of? I applaud people who have survived in such a place. In a place of vast asphyxiation; how do you breathe? Do you find alternate ways to live? Do you find an alternate dimension to live in? Do you find an escape to run way to when you see none where you are? How long do you escape for? A day, a week, a month?

The sad thing is that there perhaps is no running away from emotional torture. It goes on in circles where if you are not the victim; you are the aggressor and in a case where an aggressor maybe dominant enough, he or she may actually lead you to believe that they are the victim. It is almost equivalent of drowning in a bottomless pool; some days you struggle to swim; other days you just float and still others you decide to let yourself drown in mere curiosity of will you ever discover the bottom.

There is no winning in an emotional torture some environment; it is a mere cesspool of negativity; a cycle of disguised hate; unintended anger towards an unwanted situation reflected upon a wary unwillingly recessive person. If you find yourself in such a situation, I have the following solution for you:

1. Never allow the aggressor to win.

2. Never let your hope die.

3. Never think you cannot get out of the situation.

4. Find an alternate source of anger and sleep over finding your solution because believe me; there always is one. You just have to look a little harder.

This Hub was last updated on December 4, 2012

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WendyAnthro 16 months ago from NJ, USA

I think many victims of long term emotional abuse do find a way to cope and escape, but maybe not physically. If you are interested in the subject you should check out topics like PTSD, dissociative identity disorder, and multiple personality disorders. DID is a very rare diagnosis but some people who have it have formed alternate personalities so that they can either feel like they are someone else and the abuse is happening to someone other than them or they might have a personality who is a bad person, maybe one who does things which deserve punishment, and this way they feel that they deserve the abuse. The mind is a terrific thing and can come up with a multitude of defense mechanisms when abuse or neglect is a prevalent force in their lives.

As for your solution of not letting the aggressor win, if you've been emotionally abused for a long time, it may not be within your power to choose who wins. I think I know what you meant though. There are support groups and institutions which will help emotionally abused people escape their aggressor and help create a safe haven or a plan to get the person far away and in protective custody.

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QudsiaP1 16 months ago Hub Author

Thank you for your comment Wendy.

I think I should put in a disclaimer that I am not qualified to give any advice on the matter. I simply talk about various topics from time to time and leave them out for debate.

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Poohgranma 16 months ago from On the edge Level 4 Commenter

Very well written and informative, Q. A subject that needs more attention.

WendyAnthro 16 months ago from NJ, USA

You're welcome. I realize that you aren't a psychiatrist, lol. I hope I didn't offend you with my post, I just wanted to share what I thought and some topics to provide more insight for those who wish to delve further. I also like to point out the aspect or side of an issue that people may not have previously considered.

lisa.bom 16 months ago

Nice hub. Many women and men can get encouragement from your hub and that they are not alone.

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QudsiaP1 16 months ago Hub Author

Thank you dear pooh. :)

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QudsiaP1 16 months ago Hub Author

Not at all Wendy, as a matter of fact I am highly obliged that you took the time to comment and enrich the subject with your thoughts. I appreciate it truly, thank you so much. :)

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QudsiaP1 16 months ago Hub Author

lisa.born, thank you for your comment.

WendyAnthro 16 months ago from NJ, USA

Thanks and you're welcome :D

PenMePretty 16 months ago from Franklin

Emotional pain can cripple us for life. It can be healed somewhat--but it leaves scars. Great work on this. Voted up!

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QudsiaP1 16 months ago Hub Author

Thanks PenMePretty.

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researchpapers 16 months ago from USA

Very well written Qudsia and many of the points are true in this hub and i am also an emotional person but i will definitely used this tricks.

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asmaiftikhar 15 months ago from Pakistan

A very logical expression.voted up!

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QudsiaP1 15 months ago Hub Author

Thank you Asma :)

kawaljit kaur 7 months ago

Very encouraging piece of text. Thanks for sharing!

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