Duggar daughters 'censor' their thoughts to stop sinning sexually

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The four eldest girls - Jana, 24, Jill, 22, Jessa, 21, and Jinger, 20 - divulge their darkest secrets in a new tell-all book titled Growing Up Duggar

PUBLISHED: 13:45 EST, 5 March 2014 | UPDATED: 01:02 EST, 6 March 2014

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The devout Christian Duggar daughters who charm viewers with their naive antics on TLC's 19 Kids and Counting, have revealed that they avoid spending time with men in case they sin and have sex before marriage.

In their new tell-all book titled Growing Up Duggar, the eldest girls - Jana, 24, Jill, 22, Jessa, 21, and Jinger, 20 - explain that 'it’s easy to put yourself into physical and moral danger and give into those emotions or sensual thoughts that promise pleasant, but only temporary, fulfillment.'

Even when they are alone, the siblings from Arkansas say they 'control' what's going on in their minds, adding: 'By censoring our thoughts through the filter of God’s word, we will be able to recant any wrong thoughts or temptations that try to sneak in.'

Growing pains: The devout Christian Duggar daughters open up about courtship, eating disorders and sibling rivalry in new tell-all book titled Growing Up Duggar

They all say that they 'have a natural physical desire toward men' and 'thank God for making us "normal."'

Jessa is currently the only one out of the foursome who is courting. It was revealed last month that she is seeing fellow church-goer, Ben Seewald, and the two stick to traditional religious dating rules.

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They avoid physical contact completely, only 'side hugging' briefly to say hello or goodbye, and kissing will be saved for their wedding day.

'All of us have gone through times when we’ve felt we need to lose weight'

Elsewhere in their book the Duggar sisters open up about eating disorders and moments of rage, making it clear that what goes on behind closed doors is very different from what people see on TV.

Addressing the subject of body image, they write: 'You may think that kids like the Duggars, who are homeschooled and don’t watch TV or read secular magazines, are immune from feelings like that, but we’re not!'

'We’ve experienced some of those same negative feelings about the girl in the mirror that you may be feeling right now or have felt in the past.

Young love: Jessa, who is currently courting Ben Seewald (left), says she became increasingly introvert as a young teenager because she felt 'really insecure' about the way she looked, dressed, and acted

'All of us have gone through times when we’ve felt we need to lose weight,' they admit.

They also reveal how sibling rivalry is a constant problem in such a large household.

In one passage, Jill recounts one particular incident where she felt like a 'total loser' at the side of her younger, more fashionable, sister Jessa.

'I can remember a Sunday morning when we were getting ready for church and I went through multiple outfit changes because I was trying to measure up.

'The night before, I had stood in our closet for at least ten minutes trying to decide what I would wear the next day. (Ever been there?)

'I had friends who were really beautiful, and whenever we were together I compared myself to them and always came up lacking something'

'Finally I chose an outfit I thought was suitable. I took it upstairs and laid it out so it would be ready the next morning. But when I walked out of the bathroom Sunday morning, dressed and ready to go, I noticed how great Jessa looked wearing an adorable outfit she had recently found at a thrift store.

'Plus, she had the cutest aviator sunglasses perched on her head and a stylish leather bag slung over her shoulder.

'Suddenly the outfit I had chosen for myself the night before seemed totally wrong. I wanted to look as cute as Jessa did.'

But Jessa says she also had her own issues to deal with. As a young teenager she said she became increasingly introvert because she felt 'really insecure' about the way she looked, dressed, and acted.

'I had friends who were really beautiful, and whenever we were together I compared myself to them and always came up lacking something,' she said, recounting feelings of jealousy.

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'I felt so ashamed and awkward that I couldn’t even talk to anyone about my feelings. I felt overwhelmed and stuck in that negative mind-set.'

All of the Duggar girls are known for their conservative dress sense, with shorts skirts, pants and strappy tops strictly off limits.

However, they show their glam girl side with the help of make-up and spend time tending their long tresses.

They also open up about discovering the baby their mother was pregnant with in 2011 had died in the womb.

'We were stunned. Speechless,' they explain. 'The baby brother or sister we had so looked forward to holding and playing with …was gone.

'There was no holding back the tears as Mom shared the story of how the technician had started the ultrasound, how she had looked and looked at the screen, how she had paused and turned to them, looking so sad, and said, "I'm so sorry." The doctor had confirmed there was no heartbeat.'

In their new book they look at other family members with skeletons lurking in their closets, including their mother's 'dangerous' battle with bulimia and their father's inherited anger issues.

The Duggars first entered the spotlight in 2008 on TLC's show 17 and Counting - a series which followed the life of Michelle and Jim Bob and their then 17 - now 19 - children

The family is conservative Christian and has strong beliefs about issues such as contraception, home-schooling, and spending very little time on the internet or watching TV.

They are considered representative of the Quiverfull movement which 'teaches that children are God’s blessing and that husbands and wives should happily welcome every child they are given.'

Addressing their critics, Mr Duggar once said: 'People think we are overpopulating the world [but] we are following our convictions.'

Growing Up Duggar: It's All About Relationships: Jill Duggar, Jinger Duggar, Jessa Duggar, Jana Duggar: 9781451679168: Amazon.com: Books

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Natasha Kaylee, Murrieta, United States, 39 minutes ago

Yeah yeah yeah. Can't wait for the first out of wedlock pregnancy. All talk............if it was total truth they wouldn't make it public.

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Lady Zil, Zurich, 51 minutes ago

......lets wait and see what they will say once they turn 30 and still single!!!.......because how can you learned about guys and relationships if they do not interact with men at least a little (no sex of course) now and then?? How will they figure out whom is the right guy for them??......as it is right now, there are not any guys line up at their door willing to date them, right? so how is that going to change???

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lafe, Beachside, United States, 1 hour ago

I bet it's easy for them to stay celibate. Look at 'em.

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Dakota, Scotland, United Kingdom, 4 hours ago

I always wonder if any of these children (particularly the girls) will 'rebel' and chose to have a normal life with only one or two children, wear trousers and hold a proper job.

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enuma, Indianapolis, United States, 1 hour ago

Could be difficult for them to get real jobs, not one of them has gotten a real education.

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Janike, Austin, United States, 9 minutes ago

Being a mom and caring for children IS a proper job.

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Garry W. Lemons, Benton, United States, 5 hours ago

But it appears that once married they constantly make up for lost time..would not want to be around 75 grandchildren...or more

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Natasha Kaylee, Murrieta, United States, 36 minutes ago

They turn into rabbits.

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Tom Maker, las vegas, United States, 6 hours ago

The issue will arise when they have sex for the first time with their husband....they will hate it....it will be uncomfortable...and it will cause them issues later in life. Sheltered and religious is ok to a point...but they are extreme.