'It was my last resort': Father defends decision to take out a restraining order against the school bully that is tormenting his nine-year-old son

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Stephen Feuder, of Fairfield, Sacramento, says his son, 9, keeps getting bullied at school
He approached both the school and the school district, who he claims did not fix the issue
Feuder then went to the police and took out a restraining order against the little
He hopes the move will set an example and scare other bullies
Local parents say it sets the wrong example and is an easy way out

PUBLISHED: 01:03 EST, 24 March 2014 | UPDATED: 11:22 EST, 24 March 2014

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A Sacramento father upset that no one would help stop a nine-year-old bully from picking on his son at school has taken the unprecedented move of filing a restraining order.

Stephen Feuder said his son has been consistently bullied, pushed around and attacked at Rolling Hills Elementary School in Fairfield by another boy.

But when he tried to have the problem sorted, the child did not respond.

'Apparently the little boy ran around the track, came back and punched my son in the face,' Feuder told CBS Sacremento.

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Fed up: Protective father Stephen Feuder, of Fairfield, says that taking a restraining out against a nine-year-old bully was the only thing left to do to help his son

Feuder says both the school, Rolling Hills Elementary, and the school district, Fairfield-Suisun School District, failed to help him with the problem, so we he went to the police

Feuder claims further he was stonewalled by the Fairfield-Suisun School District, who refused to do anything.

So he took matters into his own hands and called the police.

'I’ve tried everything else, so why not that, and it was granted,' he said.

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Daryl Snedeker with the Solano County Sheriff’s Department says he’s never heard of a restraining order against a grade-school student.

'Commonly for us, it’s a domestic violence situation,' he said.

'Obviously this is a little different.

'I guess as a parent, you have to do what you have to do.'

Which is exactly what Feuder says he had to do to protect his son.

Local Sheriff's Deputy Daryl Snedeker said he has never heard of a restraining order being taken out against an elementary school student, but that it is definitely possible

Protective: Stephen Feuder said he hopes the action he has taken will set an example

Not happy: Local parent Lacie Stover says a restraining order sets the wrong example, suggesting it is the easy way out

He hopes the move will send out a message that could help other kids in the future.

'It was my last resort, and I’m glad I did it,' he said.

'Not only for my son, but for the rest of the children.'

However not everyone agrees.

Local mother Lacie Stover said it sends out the wrong message.

'What does that say? Every time you have a problem with somebody, you’re just going to file a restraining order against somebody? This is the real world,' Stover said.

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paulusa, San Francisco, 1 hour ago

Whatever it takes to protect your kids. Well done dad

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SadWhatIsHappening, NotHowItUsedToBe, United States, 2 hours ago

I can so relate to this father. When my daughter was in middle school, a boy bullied her unmercifully. I tried everything; speaking to teachers, the principle, counselors, nothing worked. I finally called this little cherub's mothers and told her what was happening. Fortunately, which usually is not the case, she cared and took care of it. My daughter was so mad at me because the boy was in trouble and the kids at school were mad a her. Too bad, so sad. Do what you have to as a parent!

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jayredd, St Louis, United States, 2 hours ago

Good for this dad! Schools are notorious for letting bullies torment other children and not doing a thing to stop it.

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Tinkerbelle, stuck in the middle with you, United States, 2 hours ago

If you have to get a restraining order to protect your child, then do it. Not everyone will agree with the decision, but it's not their child that's in jeopardy. Maybe this will be an aha moment for those parents who think, it's just kids, they will be get over it.

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nerdy0, London-NYC, United States, 3 hours ago

good on him! Not the easy way out at all. The logical way out.

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Broadcast22, Texas, United States, 3 hours ago

I'm sure if local parent Lacie Stover's child was the one who was punched in the face, she would be taking the "easy way out" too.

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Cajunshorty, New iberia, United States, 1 hour ago

Its probably her kid that did the punching.

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KittyDigitize, Conway, United States, 3 hours ago

Uh.... it's Fairfield, CA. NOT "Fairfield, Sacramento." :::: sigh::::

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rebel chick, booger county, u.s.a., 4 hours ago

I'm wondering if the bully's last name is Stover....

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Broadcast22, Texas, United States, 3 hours ago

Hahaha! Love it.

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PS, Anytown, United States, 4 hours ago

Anyone criticizing this father has obviously not had to deal with the public school system in a lot of places, nor did they read the article very well. He said he did everything possible to help his son and this was a last resort. Many public schools have "zero tolerance" policies that do not allow victims to defend themselves or else *they* get punished and their anti-bullying policies are weak at best. Most schools simply refuse to enforce them, they just have them on paper for posterity. I have two disabled kids who've both been bullied so I know of what I speak... and the parent who said "This is the real world" is right, but not the way she meant it. The "real world" is allowing schools to make all the things that were a problem for us parents when we were kids to be even worse.

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JUSTMYOPINION, Canyon Lake Texas, United States, 4 hours ago

As a father of six children, I agree with this father one hundred percent. When you are discussed ANY problem with the proper channels and authority and you do not get satisfaction, then legal action is what opens the eyes of people around you. Since some family raised a bully child it is there responsibility to make sure he does NOT continued his bullying ways. If he does then maybe their parting with some of the money (along with the school district) will stop the bullies.