Am I Ugly? Or is it just the fat?

Dmzelda203's picture

I used to think I was completely ugly, and fat. Blech! I couldn't even stand to look in the mirror. Well, this morning, getting out of the shower, I didn't have my glasses on of course, and I dried my hair off with the towel. Then I looked in a face-only mirror. Wow. With my hair like that...I actually looked pretty good! Well then I turned around and looked in the full body mirror. The good looking face that I had just discovered was still there...but it was attatched to a big fat body. But I didn't get completely freaked out and upset this time. I just thought.."Hey, if I lose some weight...I could be really awesome looking. And I need a new hair doo, because the one I have is part of why I feel like I look like a nerd." So, all of you, just look in the mirror and imagine what you can look like. You may be a little big but you have the potential for beauty...being fat doesn't mean you're ugly. Once you realize how great you can look, you'll have the motivtion to lose weight!

darkhuntingtiger's picture

I know what you mean.... m

I know what you mean....

my face isnt so bad I guess. All my bfs have told me I was cute. But when I look in the mirror and see how huge I am its hard to feelv ery cute.

crazylilrebel's picture

Stupid skinny people...

I have to admit, I am not skinny...I have been curvy all my life with hips...and yes, an ass! I have always been attracted to women with curves who are about the same size as me. I am so sick of hearing "I have to lose weight. I am so fat" from people who really are not very fat at all, and are only normal. I once dated a guy who was skinny, and I really didn't like how it felt when I held him and I could feel all his bones :p. I would rather hold someone that is soft and warm. I think what we should do is accept ourselves and see the positive side instead of our "flaws". You can spend hundreds of hours and dollars trying to look a certain way, but it won't change the way your body is built genetically. I have dieted in the past, lost tons of weight, only to gain it back again since the diet was too strict or I was stressed out/working a lot. I oddly enough haven't had a problem finding people who are attracted to me, even if I am not a size 6. Be confident, love who you are, and people will find you irresistable.

~*We will see things they will never see*~

somethingofvalue's picture

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micky's picture

nerds are hot

nerds are hot


screv's picture

do we count?

hmmmm, hackers to?

she holds the pen that spells the end

micky's picture

when i said nerds, i meant pe

when i said nerds, i meant people with glasses. and not all people with glasses either. just some.


screv's picture

i have glasses, their kinda b

i have glasses, their kinda beat up after moshing on moday night, but they survived

she holds the pen that spells the end

micky's picture

yeah, ive stood on mine one t

yeah, ive stood on mine one too many times, but they are tonka tough.


jeff's picture


What do you want to do to lose the weight? What's the plan? What have you tried in the past?

Anonymous's picture

There are a lot of overweight

There are a lot of overweight people who are very attractive. Being heavy doesn't mean you aren't cute.

** IMRU? **

jeff's picture

Umm... OK...

Then don't lose weight if you don't want to.

For some strange reason, nearly every Oasis user I have chatted with on AIM wants to lose weight, and everyone who posts here doesn't want to. Odd turn of events.

It is a bit curious, as if there was a topic on how to find the female G spot, I'd just skip that forum as I have no interest in the topic. Whereas nearly everyone that has posted here isn't interested in the topic, yet keeps returning.

darkhuntingtiger's picture

I'm trying to lose weight rig

I'm trying to lose weight right now. I've been doing Weight Watchers for a while now. I've lost 20 pounds so it is going okay. :-)

Emo Rachel's picture

I agree...

I agree with RainOnMe not all fat people are ugly. My friend Cassandra tells me all the time that she's fat, but when I look at her (to me) she isn't. It's just how you see yourself I guess.

It's better to be hated for what you are, than to be loved for what you are not.

Barralai's picture

i am personally not a chubby

i am personally not a chubby chaser, but losing a few llbs for vanity isnt a bad idea
"Does the Walker choose the Path, or does the Path choose the Walker?"

Brosia's picture

Worked for me.

I'm overweight, but it doesn't really bother me. I'm not particularly attractive, either. But I still manage to attract a decent amount of men and women alike. Do you know why? It's because of how I carry myself. If you want to lose some weight for health reasons, go for it. But if it's about vanity, just start thinking that you're beautiful/handsome. And if you can't bring yourself to think it, act like you do. People pick up on that kind of thing, and confidence is highly attractive. You'll notice the difference.

Children of a future age reading this indignant page know that in a former time love sweet love was thought a crime
- William Blake

Duct Tape Fairy's picture


I think that overweight people can be quite attractive. One of my best friends is a overweight- and I think she is just drop dead gorgeous (sp?).
I'm crazy for crying and I'm crazy for trying and I'm crazy for loving you.
-Patsy Cline

Lost Angry Youth's picture

the funny thing is i really l

the funny thing is i really like big guys.
but when it comes to girls they have to be 10's
or super cute or i am not interested at all (:

yep_im_a_stalker's picture

Same thing as Duct Tape Fairy

Same thing as Duct Tape Fairy--my best friend is a little bit overweight but shes hotter than the skinny girl I like.


*Hopelessly, I'll love you endlessly*

Icarus's picture

Girls need to have weight on

Girls need to have weight on them, those girls who look like they're anorexic (even if they're not) are just plain creepy. I want to run up to them and give them like a huge piece of German chocolate layer cake. "Please, eat. I can see your bones..." ;) I like a girl who looks healthy. You don't have to worry about your weight to be beautiful.

"Where the hell is Nebraska?!"

You might never find out that you are useful for all the right reasons - and not all those stupid things that people tell you you're useful for. --Angelina Jolie

kartovla's picture

real women have curves!!!!

real women have curves!!!!

"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect"
"if young love is just a game then i must have missed the kick off"

foxmore's picture

I just want to get to a point

I just want to get to a point where my belly doen't stick out farther than my chest. lol.

*Loving you is the hardest thing I have ever done, yet I can't find anything more worth while*

Heh...'s picture

lol you would look like you w

lol you would look like you were starving ahah


foxmore's picture

lol. what a confidence boost

lol. what a confidence boost =P

*Loving you is the hardest thing I have ever done, yet I can't find anything more worth while*

somethingofvalue's picture

If you want to lose weight I'

If you want to lose weight I'd say go for it! It sounds like it'd make you feel a lot better about yourself and you'd probably be healthier because of it (as long as you go about it the right way). Good luck with whatever you decide to do!!

But a note to some others: just because a girl is skinny doesn't mean she's anorexic or unhealthy. And sometimes being skinny can be just as difficult as being overweight.


Anonymous's picture

A little bit of extra belly i

A little bit of extra belly is minor, I've got one cause im lazy, but I Still get the once over from many a guy. But if you really want to tone up start at your docters office, your docter can advise you on what will work well and what to avoid. Good Luck

PS: I need to lose about 20 lbs, doctors orders

Panic Motion's picture


I agree. And if you lose weight and you're still ugly, at least you're skinny and ugly.

sherazbutts's picture

im exactly the same but

im exactly the same but female. i actually tried to kill myself but was taken to the hospital. i have been treated for depression but when its all you ever think about and you actually hate yourself some happy pills and talking to an old man doesn't help. i cant give you advice but i want you to know your not alone. some girls actually like chubby guys. i know i do. it will get better.

lonewolf678's picture


but this thread's been inactive for the better part of nine years. Consider journaling, you'd get more support.