I want to get my desire for my boyfriend back!

I have developed a real problem with having sex and I know it is all in my head. Basically every time sex hurts or is uncomfortable I go off it for a long time.

I think I build up a view that sex is something men get pleasure from and women submit to. I always enjoy sex but I can t seem to find any desire to have it. Feeling as if it is my duty to do it is another major turn off.

I also get upset by the fact that everyone seems to want it and I don t seem to be normal. Recently my boyfriend (of 4 years) suggested that we don't have any sex for a while and try to approach things from the beginning again and build up slowly.

Do you think this will work and is there something else I can do to get a more healthy view of sex as something I can really want and enjoy?

I have never experienced any sexual abuse or had any real negative experiences, although sex was a bit taboo in my family as they are all strict Christians. I just want to get my desire for my boyfriend back!

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