Why a good wife should never have a headache

by GEORGE GORDON, Daily Mail

WOMEN are duty-bound to provide their husbands with sex on demand, claims a controversial book on achieving wedded bliss.

Wives have a 'loving obligation' to have sex whenever they are asked for it - even if they are not in the mood, says American author Dr Laura Schlessinger.

The 56-year-old sex therapist and radio talk show host says marriages will survive and improve if men are viewed as a 'gift from God'.

And she urges women to stop nagging and whining, saying: 'Be honest girls, that's what we do.'

Her book - The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands - will not be published until January, but it has already been labelled 'outrageous' by feminists, marriage experts and psychologists.

Dr Schlessinger, who has a PhD in psychology, has written 60 books on marriage and attracts 100million listeners every week to her radio show.

Her moralistic views have often clashed head-on with those who view marriage as an equal partnership.

In her latest book, she writes: 'If husbands are expected to go to work and earn money and visit relatives they don't like, why can't wives put out on demand?'

But Frederick Woolverton, clinical psychologist and director of the Village Institute of Psychotherapy in New York, said: 'In most marriages, it's the wife who wants sex and the husband who doesn't. Dating and honeymoons are all about sex.

'Marriage is all about intimacy. Men have affairs because they are afraid of intimacy.'

Marriage counsellor Jennie Bergat condemned Dr Schlessinger's remarks. 'It is outrageous,' she said.

'Women have a right to be tired and if a woman is not in the mood, a man should respect that.

'When you sign a marriage certificate, you don't surrender privacy and rights. She is declaring that women are chattels to be used at the man's whim.'

Therapist Jason Lawrence said that couples should be prepared to meet each other's needs, provided it is not one-way.

'If sex is simply "there" without the foreplay and romance, it has little meaning for either party,' he added.

Dr Schlessinger - who lives in Los Angeles with her husband and son - is still correcting the proofs of her latest book, but her publisher has released excerpts in advance.

She is the author of two U.S. bestsellers - Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives , and How Could You Do That?: The Abdication of Character, Courage and Conscience.

She has outraged gay groups in America by claiming that homosexuality is a 'biological error'.

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