'Don't plan our entire date around food!' 380 pound reality star Whitney Thore shares her top tips for 'dating a fat woman' - but fails to reveal the tricks her new boyfriend used

• The 31-year-old star of My Big Fat Fabulous Life gives advice for dating plus-size women
• Whitney, who wears a size 32 dress, reveals that prospective dates 'might have to get creative in the bedroom'
• She says one of the worst things people can do is act embarrassed to be with her in public 
• The TLC star has just revealed that she has a new boyfriend, Lennie, who will feature in the second season of her show

By Emily James For Dailymail.com

Published: 19:02 EST, 9 September 2015 | Updated: 19:39 EST, 9 September 2015

She's just opened up about her relationship with a new boyfriend, and now Whitney Thore, the 380 pound star of TLC's My Big Fat Fabulous Life, is offering other lotharios looking to woo a larger lady some advice on what it takes to charm a plus-size woman.

The 31-year-old reality star, who first rose to fame in 2014 when a video of her dancing racked up millions of views on YouTube, shared seven tips for dating a fat woman in a video with Cosmopolitan.com.

And the first pearl of wisdom she imparts? Don't plan the entire date around food. 

Dating rules: Whitney Thore, the 380 pound star of TLC's My Big Fat Fabulous Life, offers seven tips for dating plus-size women. Rule number one: Don't plan dates entirely around food!

Loud and proud: The 31-year-old reality star says she is self-confident, and has worked hard to get to a place where she feels comfortable in her skin

She's found love: Whitney recently revealed that she has a new boyfriend, Lennie, who has been keeping her company while she promotes the new season of her show in New York (pictured)

'I personally have been on a lot of dates with men who assume that because I'm fat, I'm so obsessed with food,' said the Greensboro, North Carolina native, before going on to reveal, 'I'm really not.'

According to the reality star, who gained 200 pounds after being diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, planning a date that revolves around eating is just a 'cop-out.'

But that's clearly not an issue when it comes to Whitney's new boyfriend of two months, Lennie, who has been keeping the reality star company in New York while she promotes the upcoming series of her show. 

'I have found a man and he's wonderful. I can't say enough about him,' she told People of the relationship, adding: 'He's hot, I'm heavy.' 

So what did it take for Lennie to win Whitney over? Well according to her Cosmopolitan video, any prospective boyfriends or girlfriends hoping to land a date with a plus-size woman need to work harder to come up with an interesting date. 

Staying active: She says she likes to go out dancing or hiking on dates

Respect: Whitney reveals it's great if people like her curves, but that her body doesn't define who she is as a person

True love? 'I have found a man and he's wonderful. I can't say enough about him,' Whitney said of her new boyfriend

Another thing that really irks Whitney, whose show returns tonight on TLC, is when people automatically assume she's insecure because of her size. 

'I've personally worked for a long time to feel good about my body,' offered Whitney, adding, 'Nothing makes me more angry than when someone assumes I don't have self-confidence.'

In that same vein, she admitted it's incredibly upsetting when men don't plan active dates because they think she's lazy or can't do physical activities.

The reality star, who can be seen on the show dancing, biking and swimming, urged them to plan fun outings, saying: 'I want to go out dancing, I want to go hiking. I don't know if I could fit in a kayak, but if I could, I'd like to do that too.'

Still, Whitney cautioned that people should always take into account their date's size.

Here she comes: The North Carolina native became famous in 2014 when a video of her dancing racked up millions of views on YouTube

All together: Whitey says plus-size women are just the same as everyone else

Get creative: The reality star, who wears a size 32 dress, reveals that dates need to be open-minded in the bedroom

'If you're not sure she would want to do something, just ask her,' she advised.

Whitney, who has hard to work a great deal on improving her health since being diagnosed with pre-diabetes in the first season of the show, urged people not to objectify women of her size.

She said it's great if people like heavier women, but that their size doesn't define them.

'We have a lot of curves, but we also have a heart,' shared Whitney.

Admitting her size can be a hindrance in the bedroom, the TLC star said people may have to get 'creative' when they're with a heavier partner.  

Deal-breaker: The worst thing someone can do on a date is act 'embarrassed' to be seen with her, Whitney shares

Finish line: Whitney can be seen running a 5K in a preview for the show's second season, which airs on TLC tonight

Tough times: The reality star was diagnosed with pre-diabetes during the show's first season 

Encouraging people to be open-minded, she urged: 'Don't shy away. Everything is possible if you want it bad enough.'

Whitney, who is seen running a 5K in a preview for the second season of her reality show, said that the worst thing someone can do is act embarrassed around her in public.

She shared: 'One really important thing about dating a fat girl is that we need to be treated exactly the same in private as in public.'

If that's not within someone's power, Whitney continued, then simply stop dating the woman.

'Grow up and be a man,' she implored.

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