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The unidentified American claims his wife is seven months pregnant
He posted a lengthy plea for advice on Reddit
Accuses his wife of throwing a fork at his face, narrowing missing his eye
The man has since revealed the couple are now 'on the path to divorce'

By Annabel Fenwick Elliott for MailOnline

Published: 06:07 EST, 5 October 2015 | Updated: 06:54 EST, 5 October 2015

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A man at his wit's end has made the unusual step of turning to social media for advice regarding his tumultuous relationship.

The 28-year-old American, who remains anonymous, shared a lengthy post on Reddit pleading for advice about how he should tell his seven months pregnant wife that he wants a divorce on the grounds of her 'severe physical, emotional and mental abuse'.

The post attracted more than 500 comments from users of the site - everyone from doctors to other pregnant women - and last week he shared an update announcing he had contacted a lawyer and is now 'on the path to divorce'.

A 28-year-old American man has pleaded for advice on how he should tell his seven-months pregnant wife that he wants a divorce on the grounds of her 'severe physical, emotional and mental abuse' (file photo)

The anonymous man's lengthy post (pictured) attracted more than 500 comments from Reddit users

The man, who goes by the screen name 'leningradoblast', opened his post with the following: 'I am a 28 year old male, my wife is 27 years old.

'We've been married for two years, she is currently between 6 and 7 months pregnant. As of now, I can safely say that marrying her was the worst decision of my life.

'I do not like my life, I do not enjoy my life, I hate my life and I think I hate my wife. She has made my life miserable in unimaginable ways.'

He goes on to describe that since his wife's pregnancy, her character had shifted dramatically and now he is afraid of her abusive outbursts.

According to the man, she 'throws a fit' if he doesn't wash the dishes properly, sits down to watch TV, or if she simply happens to be feeling unhappy.

'One time she threw a fork at me,' he wrote. 'It hit me on the face a few inches below the eye and caused a sharp scratch. I had to lie and tell everyone it was due to an accident.'

Last week the man shared an update on Reddit announcing he had contacted a lawyer and is now 'on the path to divorce' (file photo)

A flood of comments ensued, the vast majority encouraging the man to leave the situation as soon as possible

While some blamed her behaviour on hormones, most insisted that this was no excuse for violence

Many expressed concern over the couple's unborn child, describing the woman as 'dangerous'

Despite several commenters suggesting this behaviour was purely down to pregnancy hormones, he insists 'the signs were there before', that they had argued before they married, and that his wife has a history of depression.

'I feel no love towards her, only fear, and I know at this point my only option is a divorce,' he stated. 'However I am too scared to even broach the topic of divorce with her because I have no idea how she will react, whether she might try to hurt me, herself, or the baby.'

A flood of comments ensued, the vast majority encouraging the man to leave the situation as soon as possible.

Many suggested recording her violent behaviour to use as evidence later on, or even installing secret cameras to capture the abuse.

'Go to your parents' house and tell your wife that you won't be coming home unless she sees a psychiatrist, and won't be seeing her unless it is in couples counseling,' one advised.

'If she throws a fit, hang up. No contact unless it is to discuss details about appointments.'

According to the man, his wife 'throws a fit' if he doesn't wash the dishes properly, sits down to watch TV, or if she simply happens to be feeling unhappy (file photo)

He describes himself as being 'scared' of his wife, and concedes that she may have a 'mental illness'

This commenter advised the man deliver his wife an ultimatum - either seek psychiatric help or lose him, a tactic he claims he has tried and failed at multiple times already

Support poured in for the stricken man, with hardly anyone taking his wife's side

Another Reddit user, who describes herself as being seven months pregnant with twins, wrote: 'Your wife needs to see a doctor ASAP. While pregnancy hormones are definitely a thing, getting weepy is normal. Becoming a completely different, violent person is not.'

One, who claims to be a third year medical student concurred, advising: 'Your wife is abusing you, and what you need to do immediately is get away from her and make other living arrangements.

'I have no confidence that any further steps can be safely taken while you are cohabiting with your abuser.'

Last week, the man posted an update on the situation, thanking everyone for their input and revealing that he had taken the necessary steps to end the marriage.

'I have contacted a lawyer and my wife and I are on the path to divorce,' he wrote. 'I explained to her clearly in no uncertain terms that I 100% could not continue in this marriage.

'It was not a pretty sight, I'll say that; her reaction was not what you'd call understanding, but eventually she accepted it.'

'Stay strong for you and the baby,' one commented on the update. 'What a terrible mess.'

Dr Becky Spelman of the Private Therapy Clinic told FEMAIL: 'This is a terribly sad story of two people who appear from the facts and comments presented thus far to be suffering from emotional and/or psychological issues.

'Pregnancy can be a particularly difficult time for not just female psyches, but also for male psyches, also, and it appears that this current situation is out of control, which could impact the psychological and physical health of the new baby.

'If I was talking to the couple, I would urge them to understand that the situation in which they find themselves now is resolvable - this may or may not involve the relationship staying together.

'But the critical thing here is that both are suffering from extreme emotional stress and this is usually the very worst time and mindset in which to be making decisions that could impact the rest of their lives.'