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Mo’Nique denies saying she gave her husband 'a hall pass to cheat' in interview... but says couples should be open to the idea if they feel it is right

Published: 21:21 EST, 19 November 2015 | Updated: 21:58 EST, 19 November 2015

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Actress and comedian Mo’Nique has reacted indignantly to suggestions she said she allows her husband to cheat on her in a recent interview.

The 47-year-old, who originally made the comments speaking to True Exclusives, clarified on Thursday that what she meant when she used the phrase 'open' relationship was that she and partner Sidney Hicks are honest with each other if they are attracted to someone else.

Not that she allowed him to be unfaithful.

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Misunderstood? Mo'Nique denied on Thursday she said she gave her husband Sidney Hicks 'a hall pass to cheat'

She posted a video on Periscope on Thursday attempting to clarify the situation, and slammed those who had 'made assumptions' about what she had said.

The confusion started in her original interview with TrueExclusives on Tuesday, where she claimed she wouldn't get mad if her husband of nine years, Sidney, desired somebody else.

She added that because of their 'open' relationship, they could discuss it freely.

'See when you’re with your best friend (in reference to her husband) and you say to your best friend "I’m having these feelings about this person, sexually and I wanna share it with you"... when you’re best friends, you can have those open and honest conversations,' she said.

Reaction: The 47-year-old took to Perisciope to vent on after several news sources said she allowed her husband sleep with other people, based on comments she made in a True Exclusives interview the day before

Open question: She clarified that her definition of 'open relationship' was one where couples could be honest about having sexual attraction to other people - but never clarified her stance on what would happen if her husband ever acted on it

'Often times people cheat because of something they’re not getting. But when you have open and honest dialogue and you say we’re just human beings and all these people on the face of the Earth, do you think my eyes won’t ever say "he’s fine" or "she’s attractive"?

"Now if you wanna go further with it, let’s be honest enough to have those conversations. What is it about that person that you find that you wanna sleep with? Because they may give you something that I’m simply not willing to do.

'And if that’s the case, how can I be mad? Because I’m not goin’ do it. Should I deprive you of not having it? That’s when the relationship is real real.'

She said that people had been taught to 'have ownership' - which is the 'Western way' of relationships, whereas she originated from Africa, where kings never had just one wife.

Sematics: She took most umbrage at the use of the word 'cheat', which she insisted implies lying and deception

'So when we came [to America], we adopted other people’s ways and that’s called ownership,' she continued, appearing to go so far as comparing such monogamy to slavery.

'There was a time when I was owned before, I don't wanna be owned any more. I wanna love you so much I just don't wanna be taken by anyone else. I don't wanna have ownership of anyone. We've been there before.

'Because we've been taught and conditioned to believe that if you should sleep with anybody else, that's the damned, that's the sin, that's adultery that's the horriblest thing ever... We’re humans guys, that’s all.'

But when several news sites began - understandably - reporting that the Oscar-winner 'allowed her husband to cheat', she quickly issued a correction.

Confusing: But in her original interview, she rhetorically asked if her husband desired something from someone that she was 'simply not willing to do' - should she deny him?

The actress, who won the Best Supporting Oscar in 2009 for her role in Precious, admitted that there was a time when she - and not her husband - wanted the relationship to be an open one, because she was insecure due to her fame.

'It was not my husband's idea. Originally it was my idea, because at the time me and Sidney got together... I was still stuck in being famous, and being a celebrity, and being a star, and I felt like I could have whatever I want. I was still in an insecure place, and my best friend said "If that's what you think you need, I don't want to stand in your way".

'That's how I felt back then. But what I didn't want to be doing was sneaking or cheating. There's no need to play those games when you have open and honest dialogue with your best friend.

'There is not time where I said "I give my husband a hall pass to cheat". We don't give each other passes to cheat. Because when you cheat, you'll lie; when you lie; you'll steal.'

Things change: The actress, who won Best Supporting Actress in 2009 for her role in Precious, admitted that there was a time when she - and not her husband - wanted the relationship to be an open one, because she was insecure due to her fame

But she also said that couples should not close their minds to the idea of sleeping with other people.

'I think we should have this open dialogue about it, because it might allow us to open our minds to just consider something different,' she said.

'When you say most marriages end in infidelity because somebody cheated, you have to ask yourself: are we holding ourselves to a standard that we we're not meant for us to hold ourselves to?'

However, the comedian herself insisted she will not stray.

'I'm not saying you can't be with one person and be happy: right now Sidney Hicks baby, that man blows my mind,' she added.

While Mo'Nique's comments seem to suggest she is okay with her and husband discussing being attracted to other people, when asked by MailOnline her stance on her husband actually wanting to follow through and sleep with someone else, she never replied.

Ask me: While Mo'Nique's comments seem to suggest she is okay with her and husband discussing being attracted to other people, when asked by MailOnline her stance on her husband actually wanting to follow through and sleep with someone else, she never replied