I've put a lot of thought into this.

It really depends on which culture you hail from, and by that I don't mean a nationality or an ethnicity, I mean even a smaller culture within a larger body. To someone who grows up in a household where 'losing your virginity' will result in repercussions from your parents, or in a region where you'll receive heat over it from just about anyone else, you will come to see it as a thing that is given or taken. Thus the language around it; lose, give, take, steal, waste, etc. It's treated as a commodity; it's a noun. Sex becomes a discrete thing, rather than something two or more people do as a verb. Virginity is like the 'seal of freshness' so to speak on the thing that is sex. It gets extra tense when talking about this with someone from a culture where not being a virgin is an honor crime, liable to ruin you for marriage, etc. I've had that conversation a few times seeking opinions and... people get very serious about it. Whereas if you grow up in an environment where sex is something you do, aka, it's a verb first and foremost, even if it can be considered a noun, you're less likely to see it as something that can be stolen, given, etc.

The areas where it seems the strongest are cultures that were recently more tribal, especially when dowery is involved, gifts of livestock, etc. Because there is a sort of inferred expectation of 'return on investment' involved in the bride payment. Which over generations tends to put pressure on the parents, family, etc, of the bride to be sure she's a virgin so there can't be a complaint regarding it. This gets even tenser if its also an area with religious beliefs tied in stating that it is sinful or somehow devaluing to go through premarital sex.

It will also change how you interpret the event that someone forces a sexual experience on you. You'll very likely still be angry, mad, confused, etc, but the reasoning will change. It is less about taking your choice away and more about poisoning the future you expected. The arguments around it will change. The severity of your reaction will change, and so on. It's one of the things that makes the discussion around rape, etc, so much harder to have because not everyone comes at it from the same position and experience.

It gets complicated, even if it may seem weird from one's own position in the world, it can make a lot of sense from someone else's. To understand them, you have to understand why they value what they value.