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This review is from: The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict (Paperback)
I had been in verbally and mentally abusive marriage for many years, and as the abuse continued to escalate, I came to my church for help. They recommended Peacemaker mediation in which this book was required reading and the mediation focused on this book's principles. Through the counseling, my husband was empowered and began seriously threatening my life because of it. Matters became much worse for me with this counseling. If you are in an abusive situation, do NOT agree to go to any counseling with the Peacemaker book as it's focus. I fared much better at the local abuse crisis center. At least they took me seriously and offered protection.
There is an accurate review of this book at the A Cry For Justice website by Jeff Crippen. Type Peacemaker in the search.
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Posted on Dec 9, 2015 10:10:31 AM PST
Carlene Cochran says:
having had experience with both child abuse to a daughter by her dad and marital abuse by not 1 but 2 husbands over a period of more than 25 years, and according to the scriptures in how to deal with enemies and to free myself also from unforgiveness, peacemaking is the only course or love is the only logical response to all life situations. That does not mean one would stay in an abusive relationship but to rid ourselves of the bitterness and hate and anger that comes with tolerating tons of abuse by anyone really. Too many people believe the Lord just hands us gifts on a silver platter when in reality he allows experiences and actions in our lives that produce those gifts: i.e. patience is only gotten by going through trials and tribulations; To top it off Christ is the Prince of Peace and our Peacemaker and we are to be as He is or strive to do so in no matter what situation we are in we will be persecuted if we are his and we will act with peace making actions no matter what if we are to be like him. Please note it is not easy to do but it is possible to do so. It's the most christ like way we could ever possibly hope to be to love the unlovely like us.
Posted on Dec 22, 2015 8:24:57 AM PST
Last edited by the author on Dec 22, 2015 2:15:47 PM PST
Yeah, while there are legitimate situations where real abuse is taking place, unfortunately many women use Jeff Crippen's book, "abuse" and "domestic violence" as a tool to deaminize the man and gain advantage in custody disputes. My experience has been that certain individuals gravitate towards this type of argument because it gives them a sense of power and control. Often times these women are suffering from acute psychological disorders and unfortunately this "abuse victim" worldview is very appealing and is used a a tool to legally abuse inflict damage on their spouse.
In reply to an earlier post on Dec 22, 2015 9:24:38 AM PST
Gee, Nathan, maybe your review would carry some credibility if it were actually about the book itself and not about women. Incidentally, this is the exact same review you left to Jeff Crippen's book "A Cry for Justice" (right down to the same spelling errors). Since Pastor Crippen's book exposes guys like you, it's little wonder that you don't like it. If you didn't just cut and paste attacks against women you don't even know, maybe people would listen to what you have to say, but..... as your "book reviews" stand today.... *yawn*
In reply to an earlier post on Dec 22, 2015 2:07:38 PM PST
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In reply to an earlier post on Dec 22, 2015 2:14:54 PM PST
That's really funny, Nathan, since I didn't resort to ad hominem attacks, but merely pointed out what you actually did. True abusers don't like things like facts and so they resort to accusations (like "bullying"). Additionally, pointing out the fact that your spelling has errors isn't an attack, Nathan. It's pointing out spelling errors. Facts are stubborn things.
Incidentally, your two "book reviews" didn't have "similarities" (your word); They were exactly the same, which means you have an axe to grind, and it's not about the books.
"Fodder for my abuse...." (chuckle)
In reply to an earlier post on Dec 22, 2015 2:20:27 PM PST
Last edited by the author on Dec 22, 2015 2:30:13 PM PST
"ToGodBtheGlory", that's fine. I am ok with you not getting it. Thanks for the grammmer check and Godspeed.
In reply to an earlier post on Dec 22, 2015 2:38:44 PM PST
Last edited by the author on Dec 22, 2015 2:39:22 PM PST
You wrote: "Thanks for the grammmer check and Godspeed. "
It's spelled "grammar."
You also wrote: "ok with you not getting it."
It's "your" not getting it.
And you're welcome.
In reply to an earlier post on Dec 22, 2015 2:42:02 PM PST
I'm just having fun with you now :) Lighten up...
In reply to an earlier post on Dec 22, 2015 2:46:24 PM PST
Nothing to lighten up about. Like I wrote earlier, Nathan, facts are stubborn things. When I point them out, you like to portray me as needing to lighten up. But, it doesn't stick.
In reply to an earlier post on Dec 22, 2015 2:50:16 PM PST
Last edited by the author on Dec 22, 2015 2:51:29 PM PST
You just can't stand not getting the last jab in can you? I'm ok with that. It was a pleasure speaking with you and I wish you the best. To God be the glory!