Are any of these present in YOUR relationship? Divorcees reveal the tell-tale signs your marriage is doomed

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When you marry someone, you're supposed to be settling down with the person you love and intend to spend the rest of your life with.

But according to some, there are many red flags that signal your union is doomed from the beginning.

Countless Reddit divorcees have taken to the online forum to share the signs that their marriage wouldn't last.

Who knows, maybe they might help other people to tackle the bad bits in their own relationships.

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Tell-tale signs: According to some, there are many red flags that signal your marriage union is doomed from the beginning (stock picture)

Writing on the wall: Countless Reddit divorcees have taken to the online forum to share the signs that their marriage wouldn't last

According to 'Iliah', it's not what you disagree on - it's 'all in how you disagree.

'There's no such thing as two people perfect for each other, and how you approach the friction is what either strengthens or eats away at a relationship,' the user writes.

'When you disagree, do you discuss the issue of the person? Is it, "I want sushi, but you want pizza", or is it, "You always want sushi, I never get pizza".'

The user says that while this difference is subtle, it's 'so much more important than most people realise'. 

Basically, with the second approach, the person is being made out to be the problem instead of the problem itself, and it shows that one person in the relationship is holding on to negative emotions.

Top comment: One user says that it's not what you're disagreeing about, it's 'all about how you disagree' - you need to focus on the problem, not the person

Major sign: According to this user, while this difference is subtle, it's 'so much more important than most people realise' (stock picture)

For another user, 'ChapstickChick', the most obvious signal was that she was afraid of her partner.

'He had a short temper and was extremely controlling and possessive,' she wrote.

'I realised how similar our relationship was to that of my parents and grandparents—my dad is also very short-tempered and selfish and had a habit of belittling my mom [sic] for almost everything...

'And I honestly don’t know if my grandparents ever loved each other, yet both couples stayed married without, fixing the problems.'

Lesson being: don't marry someone just because they fulfill what you've come to expect. And avoid controlling people.

Lessons learned: For another user, 'ChapstickChick', the most obvious signal was that she was afraid of her partner

One of the top reasons for user, 'Captbadcock', was that he and his partner regularly went to sleep on an argument.

'Disagreements, arguments, and fights went unresolved,' he wrote.

'And she liked to go for passive aggressive digs instead of resolutions.'

Most experts will agree that talking out problems and attempting to come to some sort of agreement are the best policies to adopt. 

Going to sleep when you're still fighting is just avoiding it.

Don't sleep on it: For one user, the most annoying thing was that they regularly went to sleep on an argument and problems were not resolved (stock picture)

Finally, one of the top comments on the post is from tanvanman, whose advice is short but bittersweet:

'Don't ask me what I was thinking when I married the only Canadian who was incapable of saying sorry.' 

Ouch. 

Were there any early warning signs that showed you that you weren't destined for your husband or wife? Email FemailAU@mailonline.com