'It's not good etiquette to wear all white to a wedding': Traumatised bride blasts her mother-in-law's choice of outfit (but others say it's fine)

  • A woman posted on Mumsnet about her mother in law's wedding outfit
  • For the occasion, the woman had chosen an all-white dress and jacket
  • The woman questioned whether this was right and it's not usually done
  • The thread has attracted hundreds of comments, and different opinions
  • Some think it's a matter of etiquette, while others think it's totally fine 

By Sophie Haslett For Daily Mail Australia

Published: 03:28 EST, 6 September 2016 | Updated: 09:04 EST, 6 September 2016

It goes without saying that most women will avoid wearing white to a wedding if they are a guest.

Like opting for something black when attending a funeral or bragging about your salary, it's almost like an unwritten rule.

But one anonymous UK woman on Mumsnet had the parenting network up in arms when she posted about the fact that her mother in law had opted for a white outfit to wear to her nuptials: 

'Future MIL has bought a white outfit for my wedding,' the woman, called Natalie204 on Mumsnet, wrote.

Unwritten rule: It goes without saying that most people will refrain from wearing white to a wedding if they are a guest 

Unwritten rule: It goes without saying that most people will refrain from wearing white to a wedding if they are a guest 

Up in arms: However, this post (pictured) had Mumsnet outraged, after a UK woman told the parenting network her mother in law intended to wear a white outfit to her nuptials 

Up in arms: However, this post (pictured) had Mumsnet outraged, after a UK woman told the parenting network her mother in law intended to wear a white outfit to her nuptials 

'Mil [sic] showed me a photo of her dress and jacket she has bought for our wedding it's beautiful floor length white evening dress and white jacket [sic],' she continued.

 Am I correct or is it just a regional thing?

'But I was brought up to never wear just white/cream to a wedding as a guest. I mentioned that it's not good etiquette to wear all white to a wedding. 

'She was shocked and had never heard this before, my comment has now made things frosty. 

'I know my family will mention to her on the day how it's not appropriate to be wearing white.

'Am I correct or is it just a regional thing (OH and his family are from a different part of the country [sic])?'.

Frosty: 'I was brought up to never wear just white/cream to a wedding as a guest. I mentioned that it's not good etiquette to wear all white to a wedding,' the woman wrote on Mumsnet

Frosty: 'I was brought up to never wear just white/cream to a wedding as a guest. I mentioned that it's not good etiquette to wear all white to a wedding,' the woman wrote on Mumsnet

Correct or not: She wasn't sure whether she was correct to feel as though this wasn't the done thing, or not, and so sought other people's advice

Correct or not: She wasn't sure whether she was correct to feel as though this wasn't the done thing, or not, and so sought other people's advice

The resulting comments divided down the middle as to whether people thought this act was acceptable behaviour or not.

While some said the woman's mother in law should be able to dress in whatever made her feel comfortable and beautiful, others were less forgiving.

'Not the done thing,' one commenter posted succinctly.

'Which part of the country are you from? I am from the NE [North East] and it is a definite no from me,' another person added.

Split: The resulting comments divided down the middle as to whether people thought this act was acceptable behaviour or not (pictured)

Split: The resulting comments divided down the middle as to whether people thought this act was acceptable behaviour or not (pictured)

Reactions: While some said the woman's mother in law should be able to dress in whatever made her feel comfortable and beautiful, others were less forgiving (pictured)

Reactions: While some said the woman's mother in law should be able to dress in whatever made her feel comfortable and beautiful, others were less forgiving (pictured)

Viral: At present, the thread has attracted hundreds of comments - so where do you stand?

Viral: At present, the thread has attracted hundreds of comments - so where do you stand?

At present, the thread has attracted hundreds of comments, varying from those who don't care to those who think it's only 'superstition' and even some who say that purely on an etiquette basis, wearing white to a wedding is wrong.

But still, it seems people just can't seem to agree.

What do you think? Would you wear white to someone else's wedding? Would you judge your mother in law if she did? 

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