'If I'm so popular, why am I still single?' Meet the woman who has been on more than 130 dates in two years - but has never been on a second date - and has vowed not to give up her search for Mr Right

  • Belinda Stuckey has been on about 136 dates over 17 months but none have resulted in a second date despite getting more than 4,700 matches
  • The 35-year-old signed up to online dating site eHarmony two years ago
  • One of the most contacted members - Belinda gets about 10 requests daily
  • Of those requests, she has ended up going on dates with about 20 per cent
  • The stunning blonde said there never a mutual spark on any of the dates
  • Sydney primary school teacher vows to not give up until she finds love 

Belinda Stuckey has been on two dates every week for almost a year and a half without any resulting in a second date - but that hasn't discouraged the determined woman from continuing on her journey to find that special someone.

The stunning blonde is one of the most contacted members on the eHarmony dating website, attracting more than 4,700 matches since signing up in December 2013. 

However, after going on more than 130 dates, the 35-year-old is still waiting for a mutual spark to fly before venturing into that elusive second date.

Despite the dating game becoming almost like a part-time job, the school teacher from Kellyville, in northwestern Sydney, will keep searching because there is no doubt in her mind that the ideal man is out there somewhere.

Belinda Stuckey has been on two dates every week for almost a year and a half without any resulting in a second date, the determined woman vows not to give up until she finds that special someone

Belinda Stuckey has been on two dates every week for almost a year and a half without any resulting in a second date, the determined woman vows not to give up until she finds that special someone

Belinda 

The stunning blonde is one of the most contacted members on the eHarmony dating website attracting more than 4,700 matches since signing up in December 2013 

However, after going on more than 130 dates, the 35-year-old is still waiting for a mutual spark to fly before venturing into that elusive second date

However, after going on more than 130 dates, the 35-year-old is still waiting for a mutual spark to fly before venturing into that elusive second date

Belinda is a primary school teacher in Kellyville

Belinda is a primary school teacher in Kellyville

After more than three years of being single, Belinda decided to give online dating a go after her friends suggested it 18 months ago.

'I had come out of a four-year relationship and took the time to get to know myself and know what I do and don't want,' she said.

'I'm in a good place now and ready to start again.' 

Belinda thinks the reason she has generated such an interest from so many men is because she is 100 per cent genuine on her dating profile.

'I don't see any point putting out there someone you are not - it's important to let people know who you are and what your ultimate goal is at the end,' she told Daily Mail Australia.

She receives as many as 10 matches a day and then sends five multiple choice questions to the men she likes the sound of and the guys can do the same.

If she hears back from them and likes their replies then the next step is laying down 10 'make or break' factors and if their ideals are aligned then they can email each other if they are keen.

Belinda said she has met up with about 20 per cent of the guys she was originally matched with.

Although the dates haven't been disastrous, there is yet to be that reciprocal spark.

'Either they like me and I don't like them or vice versa,' she said.

Belinda doesn't believe in the golden rule of waiting for the guy to make first contact

Belinda doesn't believe in the golden rule of waiting for the guy to make first contact

After more than three years of being single, Belinda decided to give online dating a go upon the suggestion from her friends about 18months ago 

After more than three years of being single, Belinda decided to give online dating a go upon the suggestion from her friends about 18months ago 

Belinda thinks the reason she has generated such an interest from so many men is because she is 100 per cent genuine on her dating profile

Belinda thinks the reason she has generated such an interest from so many men is because she is 100 per cent genuine on her dating profile

The 35-year-old receives as many as 10 matches a day and then sends five multiple choice questions to the men she likes the sound of and the guys can do the same

The 35-year-old receives as many as 10 matches a day and then sends five multiple choice questions to the men she likes the sound of and the guys can do the same

But Belinda said the members are properly vetted on eHarmony, unlike other sites she has tried, and she never gets any surprises when she turns up for the dates.

'There's just no connection or chemistry,' she said. 'If I'm so popular then why am I still single?' 

So how does Belinda keep getting back on the dating horse?

'It's important to me - I really want to find a partner,' she said. 'You have got to have thick skin and take it with a grain of salt.'

However, this is not to say that she doesn't feel deflated if she is interested in her date but the feeling isn't mutual.

'If I don't hear from him again I wonder what I did to turn him off  - "Did i do something wrong? Did I not show enough skin? What can I do better next time?".'

Belinda said she has met up with about 20 per cent of the guys she was originally matched with but there is yet to be a mutual spark

Belinda said she has met up with about 20 per cent of the guys she was originally matched with but there is yet to be a mutual spark

This has not deterred the primary school teacher who believes there is her Mr Right out there

This has not deterred the primary school teacher who believes there is her Mr Right out there

Belinda doesn't believe in the golden rule of waiting for the guy to make first contact.

'If I had a nice time I will text "I'm home - thanks for tonight" - I don't do the waiting for three days to hear from them,' she said.

'I will be straight up if I feel something there - I don't know why people play silly games.'

Belinda may have given up a significant part of her time going on first dates but she knows that second date will come eventually. 

'I still have hope he'll be out there,' she said. 

DO'S FOR PROFILE SHOTS 

Flash those pearly whites

Make sure the photo is well lit

Keep it natural – avoid distorting filters

Adopt a less is more policy for make-up

Know your best angle

Include an action shot 

DON'TS FOR PROFILE SHOTS 

Use fuzzy or bad quality photos

Post a selfie 

Choose fancy dress photos

Wear sunglasses

Go for semi-nakedness

Pose like a movie star 

TOP FOUR TIPS ON CREATING YOUR ONLINE DATING PROFILE 

1. Check your grammar

Many people find poor grammar and spelling a turn off, and the best of us can make mistakes, so be careful on this point. Paste your profile responses into Word or Google docs and use spell check for peace of mind.

2. Don’t over emphasise the small stuff

Another thing to watch out for are ‘subjective incompatibilities’ – things that would never be seen as ‘deal-breakers’ in a relationship, but can be off-putting in the initial stages.

For example, you may be a cat lover but if you spend your entire ‘About Me’ section talking about your cat antics, a potential match who has no interest in cats may be put off at the initial stage. Try to list your hobbies and interests more generally, and if a match finds a shared interest with you, this can be a great conversation starter.

3. Showcase your positives

Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. Your online profile is essentially a dating CV – you wouldn’t want a future employer reading anything negative about you, so why would you want a potential partner to do so?

4. Be specific

Talk in detail to give a rich representation of who you are. Instead of saying “I like to live life to the fullest!” or “I love travelling”, say how you do this or where your favourite place to travel is and why. 

By doing so, you’re more likely to draw in someone with similar interests and experiences - you might find you’re instantly connected to someone else who loves South American cuisine just as much as you do!

Supplied by eHarmony