'I don't want to be in the spotlight': Tamra Judge accused of emotional abuse by estranged daughter Sidney... after RHOC star shared photos of teen

By Tracy Wright For Dailymail.com

Published: 19:32 EST, 8 August 2017 | Updated: 21:38 EST, 8 August 2017

Real Housewives of Orange County star Tamra Judge has been accused of mental abuse by her estranged teen daughter, in an emotional Facebook post.

After years of televised intent to win back her daughter's affection, Judge, 49, was the subject of a long post by 18-year-old Sidney Barney on Monday afternoon. 

Among the multiple accusations, Sidney claimed her mother neglected her three youngest children throughout Tamra's divorce from husband of more than 10 years, Simon Barney.

Social sharer: Tamra Judge posted this image of her daughter Sidney's graduation in early June, prompting fans to assume a reconciliation between the pair. Weeks later, Sidney lashed out at her mother for her desire to be in the spotlight 

Social sharer: Tamra Judge posted this image of her daughter Sidney's graduation in early June, prompting fans to assume a reconciliation between the pair. Weeks later, Sidney lashed out at her mother for her desire to be in the spotlight 

Sidney said that Tamra was 'mentally and emotionally abusive'.

She went on to write, 'She was no mother to me. This was an unhealthy environment for all of us kids and unfortunately I was the only one to recognize this and take steps to get out of that toxic environment.'

Her mother's desire to create a public image and rampant social media usage was a constant battle for the teenager.

Real Housewife: Tamra's shared her struggle with not seeing her daughter on many episodes of the hit Bravo show

Real Housewife: Tamra's shared her struggle with not seeing her daughter on many episodes of the hit Bravo show

'I have explained this to her numerous times in court, in therapy, and when we would meet up that the ONLY reason I am not living with her is because she continues to do the things that pushed me out of her house, like talking about me on the show/press/social media, doing embarrassing things on the show, lying to me and putting herself first to name a few,' Sidney wrote.

Sidney has continuously expressed little interest in the spotlight, according to her Facebook post.

Lunch ladies: Tamra and Real Housewives of Orange County costar Shannon Beador enjoyed a quick sip during filming

Lunch ladies: Tamra and Real Housewives of Orange County costar Shannon Beador enjoyed a quick sip during filming

'The one thing I asked and have been asking for 4 years now has been to not talk about me because I don’t want to be in the spotlight,' she said. 'But Again breaking her promises as per usual, she puts herself, her fame, her reputation, and her bank account before me.'

On Tuesday, Tamra shared a photo of herself and husband Eddie during their vow renewal ceremony. 

She seemed to indirectly address her current family drama. 

Celebrating love ❤️ with all the hate that's going on. My God bless your life because it's not always easy. But God has a plan.. a big plan,' she began. 

'I wanna say thank you to @shannonbeador @oclydia @rhoc_kellyddodd (you know what you did and you all rock) #arubaido

This isn't a new battle for Tamra and Sidney.

In 2015, Sidney posted a strongly-worded message to her mother for airing out their family feud and subsequent estrangement for similar issues.

Sidney's Facebook Post in full

I want to start by clearing some things up as my mother continues to talk about me despite me requesting her to stop speaking of me publicly as I don’t want to be associated with her or the show. For starters, I did not move out when my parents got a divorce nor did I chose my fathers side in the divorce. My parents separated in 2010, I moved out of my mother’s house in 2013. Me leaving has nothing to do with the divorce, it has to do with the living conditions at my mothers house and the way she treated me and still treats me today. In regards to choosing sides, I actually chose my mothers side when my parents separated. 

This was due to the fact that my mother, the true parent alienator, would constantly talk negatively about my father in front of me and my siblings, putting us kids in the middle of my parents arguments. She even called us Simon or “mini Simon” when we did something bad or told us that we were “acting like your father”. This parent alienation caused me to resent my father and take her side. However as I got older I realized what she was doing along with other things that were toxic.

The reasons I left my mothers house are that she was neglectful (leaving us at home with no food or simply ignoring us entirely), she constantly put herself first and the biggest reason was that she was mentally and emotionally abusive. She was no mother to me. This was an unhealthy environment for all of us kids and unfortunately I was the only one to recognize this and take steps to get out of that toxic environment. I have explained this to her numerous times in court, in therapy, and when we would meet up that the ONLY reason I am not living with her is because she continues to do the things that pushed me out of her house, like talking about me on the show/press/social media, doing embarrassing things on the show, lying to me and putting herself first to name a few.

I went to therapy with my mother for 3 years. I was forced by the courts and my father to try to mend the relationship with my mother. Unfortunately my mother is unable to recognize that she is in the wrong and continues to put blame on everything else. If she would have put the effort into actually working on our relationship, instead of talking and crying about how much she “misses me” on the show and wishes things were different she wouldn’t have missed my entire high school career.

My father has pushed me to have a relationship with my mother forcing me to go meet her in and out of therapy. He even forced me to let her come to my graduation because it was a milestone. When I told my mother that she could come I gave her a few conditions. All I asked was that she remains cordial with my father and my stepmom and to not post anything about my graduation, anywhere. Not even two weeks after I graduated she posted a photo of me and shared it with her one million followers knowing that it would get picked up by the press. The one thing I asked and have been asking for 4 years now has been to not talk about me because I don’t want to be in the spotlight. But Again breaking her promises as per usual, she puts herself, her fame, her reputation, and her bank account before me. If she really wanted a relationship she would keep her promises and recognize that it is no one elses fault but hers that I do not want her in my life.

Although I do not want to be in the public eye, I felt the need to clear these lies up and set the record straight in hopes that it will straighten my mom out so that she is held accountable and is forced to do the right thing. My mom has been portraying the innocent erased mother whose daughter was estranged from her due to divorce and an evil ex husband when in actuality she is the sole reason why I do not want her in my life and will not have a relationship with her. Instead of playing the innocent erased mother character, she could’ve been trying to actually fix our relationship and change her ways. However the character keeps her relevant, and is her only storyline. Why would she actually try to get me back? Without the estrangements she is no longer pitied and talked about and her fame and fortune go down the tubes.

Strong words: RHOC star Tamra Judge accused of neglect in lengthy Facebook post written by her daughter Sidney

Strong words: RHOC star Tamra Judge accused of neglect in lengthy Facebook post written by her daughter Sidney

 

Celebrating love ❤️ with all the hate that's going on: On Tuesday, Tamra appeared to address her family drama with this photo of her and her husband Eddie at a vow renewal ceremony

Celebrating love ❤️ with all the hate that's going on: On Tuesday, Tamra appeared to address her family drama with this photo of her and her husband Eddie at a vow renewal ceremony

 

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