'Before Nic, I sucked at relationships!': Keith Urban reveals how marrying Nicole Kidman turned his life, and music, around

He brought down the house at Stubb’s BBQ as he took the stage for his South By Southwest Festival showcase performance in Austin, Texas on Friday night.

And earlier in the day, Keith Urban revealed that he had his actress wife Nicole Kidman to thank for helping him make some of his songs more authentic.

The country star and The Voice judge, 50,  was talking in a specially programmed conversation with the Grammy Museum's Scott Goldman for SXSW.

Sweet tribute: Keith Urban thanked wife Nicole Kidman for helping him write better love and relationship songs, in a Q&A with the Grammy Museum's Scott Goldman for SXSW on Friday

Sweet tribute: Keith Urban thanked wife Nicole Kidman for helping him write better love and relationship songs, in a Q&A with the Grammy Museum's Scott Goldman for SXSW on Friday

'Back before I met Nic and got married I sucked at relationships,' he said, according to Billboard. 

'I would write these songs about love and relationships; I remember writing Somebody Like You and playing it for my girlfriend at the time and she just looked at me and said, "You’re a f****** hypocrite," and I couldn’t argue that. 

'And I realized I was writing from all these place of the kind of person I wished I could be. I wasn’t that person but I wanted to be.

'It was only a song but my real life was a disaster. The only thing that’s changed in my life is I’ve more so become the person I was trying to be.'

Total honesty: The 50-year-old, who hails from New Zealand, said, 'Back before I met Nic and got married I sucked at relationships'

Total honesty: The 50-year-old, who hails from New Zealand, said, 'Back before I met Nic and got married I sucked at relationships'

Pre Nicole: 'I remember writing Somebody Like You and playing it for my girlfriend at the time and she just looked at me and said, "You’re a f****** hypocrite," and I couldn’t argue that'
Pre Nicole: 'It was only a song but my real life was a disaster'

Pre Nicole: 'I remember writing Somebody Like You and playing it for my girlfriend at the time and she just looked at me and said, "You’re a f****** hypocrite," and I couldn’t argue that'

And Nicole, 50, was instrumental in helping him make that change. The couple met in January 2005 and married in June 2006. 

Soon after, Keith went into rehab for his booze and drug addiction for the third and final time after Nicole's intervention and has been sober ever since.

They now share two daughters,  Sunday Rose, nine and Faith, seven. Nicole also has two adopted children with first husband, Tom Cruise, Isabella, 25, and Connor, 23.

Not exactly rocker style: The 12-time CMA Award winner wore a long knitted cardigan over a loose gray T-shirt and black skinny pants at SXSW in Austin, Texas

Not exactly rocker style: The 12-time CMA Award winner wore a long knitted cardigan over a loose gray T-shirt and black skinny pants at SXSW in Austin, Texas

Hitting the stage. The same evening Keith rocked out at at Stubb’s BBQ  for his SXSW showcase performance

Hitting the stage. The same evening Keith rocked out at at Stubb’s BBQ for his SXSW showcase performance

Guitar hero: The Voice judge belted out 16 songs in an 80-minute set

Guitar hero: The Voice judge belted out 16 songs in an 80-minute set

 The 12-time CMA Award winner also credits the Big Little Lies star with helping him get over his fear of mistakes.

'The way I approach it [now] is, "Let's do it. We can scrap it after the fact." I learned that from my wife. Try anything, do anything, it'll be very apparent if it sucks. 

'But I have to try it,' he said. 'I would never have discovered [certain ideas] if I hadn't dared to suck.'

Getting into it: Keith rocked out in time with a guitarist in his band

Getting into it: Keith rocked out in time with a guitarist in his band

Big love: Nicole and Keith at the Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 21, in Los Angeles

Big love: Nicole and Keith at the Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 21, in Los Angeles

His support system: The proud mom and dad with their daughters Sunday Rose, nine and Faith, seven, in Sydney in March 2017

His support system: The proud mom and dad with their daughters Sunday Rose, nine and Faith, seven, in Sydney in March 2017

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