He was physically abused

I am 20 and my boyfriend is 22. Neither of us were virgins before we met, but he had been physically abused in a sexual way by a previous girlfriend, which left him nervous about sex.

We are very close and very much in love, so I was patient with him, and finally after 2 months of trying, he was able to maintain an erection for long enough for us to have sex.

However, now he is having trouble reaching orgasm. He says that he feels himself getting nearly there, and then it's like something switches off in his head and the feeling disappears.

I can make him come through masturbating him or through oral sex, but not during penetrative sex, and it is upsetting both of us. Do you have any suggestions?

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