Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I do think you need a good counselor to help you process your thoughts and guide you.
Maybe once you can see everything with a better clarity and make some important decisions..
BS = Betrayed Spouse
Weddings don’t cost a lot... I always find it interesting when people say they couldn’t afford it.
However weddings do not keep people faithful either. As you can see here. However, they are promises make publicly to each other. Dr. Harley wrote about this... I always found it interesting.
https://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8122_Wedding.html
The book.. how to help your spouse heal from your affair - Linda MacDonald. Really helped my CS.
For the wedding issue, I get the meaning of it. It's to commit to that one person no matter what. That's all I ever wanted and he would say and do things to prove him committment to me but never with marriage. It's my fault for accepting that for so long. I should have left him long ago at the first sign of trouble. Now he says because he's so lost he doesn't know if he can committ to me until he fixes himself. It just pisses me off all over again. I am so lost in love with him I think I'm still in denial or maybe mentally way more messed up myself than I thought. This just hurts and the worst part is we have 2 teens in the middle of all this. I have to think what's best for them too.
Sociopaths and psychopaths never change.
Unfortunately kids complicate matters and I understand the hesitation to leave. The marriage is only worth salvaging if he is one of the rare narcissists that change and if you can live civilly in the house.
Kids don't just thrive because there are 2 parents physically in a home, it needs to be a healthy environment with good examples of a man/woman.
He needs to go to personal counseling first and deal with his narcissism. If he isn't willing to do so then you really have an unsalvageable marriage. You d0n't want his character traits to be taught to your children.
while he was doing the naughty with his girlfriend
there is not any counselor that can fix what is wrong with the creepweed that you love
he is a weed
he'll keep making you contort yourself yet he never ever consider changing for the better or for you