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Jill Duggar's family has some very strict rules when it comes to dating and sex, which meant that the 28-year-old didn't even have her first kiss until her wedding day with husband Derick Dillard.

But once they've said 'I do,' it seems that all bets are off — and the sexier a couple can be with each other, the better.

In a new blog post that Jill uploaded on Monday morning, the mother-of-two shared a list of her most helpful marriage advice — which includes encouraging couples to have frequent sex, to save sex only for each other (in other words, no masturbating), and to do sexy things like have the wife rub lotion on while her husband watches.

Do it, ladies! Jill Duggar shared her surprising marriage advice on the family blog today

Gettin' frisky! The 28-year-old, pictured with her 30-year-old husband Derick Dillard, said wives should have sex with their husbands often

The new post started off innocently enough, with Jill quoting bible verses like: 'You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself.'

But as soon as she delved into practical advice for 'ways we can love our husbands,' sex talk was on the table. 

First point of advice: Have lots and lots of sex with your husband.

'Have sex often!' she wrote. 'You both need this time together regularly (3-4 times a week is a good start. lol).'

Sometimes, she admitted, it's not possible to have sex at least every other day, and referenced possible health issues. Though she didn't name any specifics, Jill did go undergo C-sections with both of her son,s four-year-old Israel and one-year-old Samuel. 

'And when you may not be able to actually have intercourse for a period of time or for health issues, find other ways to have fun and be intimate,' she said. 'Let your spouse know that you’re a;ways available.' 

Referencing masturbation, she added: 'Guard against fulfilling sexual desires alone.'

Family planning: The couple has two children, a four-year-old named Israel and a one-year-old named Samuel

Keeping busy: Jill said sex three to four times a week is a 'good start' and also suggested buying new lingerie

'Be open with your spouse about your desires and change things up to keep it exciting! (Philippians 2:3-4; 1 Corinthians 7:5),' she went on.

'If you’re struggling with sex with your spouse, GET HELP! See a doctor and/or licensed counselor and don’t be afraid to get second opinions!'

The sex talk didn't end there, either.

Jill also advised that wives 'get new lingerie (online is an easy way to buy!) as a surprise gift for birthdays, holidays, vacations or whenever!' and go to bed 'fresh'.  

'Showering in the evening (and sometimes before he gets home if you arrive home before him!), and even putting on fragrant lotion in front of him can be another way to say "I care" and "you’re important to me," and lets him know you’re up for fun whenever he is,' she wrote.

Jill is also clearly 'up for fun' the moment her husband walks through the door — and suggests that wives 'run' to their husbands when they get home 'like you may have done when you were first dating.' 

'And if the kids are gone, have fun with it! Be crazy with your hubby!' she added.

The devil's doing! She also said not to fulfill one's sexual needs alone — meaning, don't masturbate 

Foreplay: One of her tips involved putting on lotion in front of her husband to let him know she's down for some fun

 Finally on the sex front, she said to 'give at least a 6 second kiss when coming and going' and 'be confident about your body' even if you're feeling insecure.

'Chances are, he is less concerned about the things you’re worried about him not liking than you are,' she wrote. 

'He will be happier when you are confident about yourself. And if there are things you can change or do to be more confident about yourself, then maybe it’s worth doing, or setting a goal to eventually get there!'

While Jill's sex advice is certainly nothing new or outrageous for the average married couple, it is surprising to hear from a Duggar.

Following the rules set by her parents Michelle and Jim Bob, Jill and her siblings have all followed incredibly strict standards when it comes to dating and contact with the opposite sex.

Rather than date traditionally, the Duggars prefer 'courtship,' which they say is 'dating with a purpose.' 

Typically, this involves the young man asking for the permission of the young woman's parents, and the couple gets to know each other on supervised dates on which they are always accompanied by chaperones.

Finally on the sex front, she said to 'give at least a 6 second kiss when coming and going' and 'be confident about your body' even if you're feeling insecure

Not holding back: Jill's tips were uncharacteristically candid about sex

During that time, physical contact is limited to side-hugs, which prevent the scandalous full-frontal contact of the two bodies. The Duggars' parents have also been included on text message chains.

Chaperons continue supervising a couple through their engagement, during which time they can add hand-holding to their side hugs.

However, kissing — and everything that comes after it — is saved for the wedding day.

When Jill married Derick in 2014, they shared their first kiss at the altar in front of their friends and family.

The Duggars also adhere to conservative modesty standards in terms of dress and were taught not to use birth control. Jim Bob and Michelle left family planning up to God, welcoming as many babies as divine intervention would allow — and it seems so far that most of their children are following in their footsteps.

But Jill's explicit sex talk on her blog is a bit of a break from family tradition. Her siblings have mostly not referred to sex at all — except in the case of older brother Josh's dating profiles on sites like Ashley Madison, as well as his apology for porn addiction and adultery.

Taking abstinence to a new level: Jill and Derick married in 2014 and didn't share their first kiss until their wedding day

All about those virgins: Jill and her siblings have followed very strict dating rules set by their parents

Her mother Michelle has only said that wives should be 'joyfully available' to their husbands, since only they can meet their physical needs. 

Jill's advice did move beyond just sex, though.

She also told wives to 'encourage your hubby, serve him and meet his needs' and to 'look nice for him' even when they'd prefer to wear PJs and go without makeup.

'Make sure that a few times a week you enjoy time together looking like you would hanging out when you were dating!' she wrote. 'Plus, even if you work from home, just getting fixed up in the morning can give you a boost to your day!'

She said not to name-call, even as a joke, and to always be 'grateful' and look for ways to 'praise him' in front of others.  

'While security for wives is usually of utmost importance, respect is probably most important for most husbands! Ask your hubby what you do that makes him feel respected, and ask him in what other ways that he thinks you could show him more respect,' she wrote.

To that end, nagging is a no-no, according to Jil. 

'Never allow your husband to think you’re his mother!' she wrote. 'Whether it’s making demands, delegating, or licking your finger and wiping something off his face… 

Mom and dad are watching! Jim Bob and Michelle advised their kids not to have more contact than 'side hugs' before getting engaged, and then they can hold hands

Army for God: The couple has 19 kids of their own and don't believe in birth control

'If he says “I feel like you’re my mother when you…” then pay attention to that and ask him what you can to do change/how to handle the situation the next time!'

By that same token, she said to remember that 'your husband is not your dad.' 

'You are teammates and he is your God-given protector. Keep this in mind and let it shape the way you relate,' she wrote.

Interestingly, Jill also advocated for counseling when something goes wrong in a marriage, and encouraged women to leave abusive husbands. 

'If you are in an abusive relationship, do NOT stay!' she wrote. 'Report immediately to the authorities, get help and find a safe place to stay and get counseling from a licensed christian counselor!' 

That particular advice stands out in light of her family's own public scandals.

In the summer of 2015, InTouch magazine unearthed reports that Josh, now 31, had molested four of his younger sisters and a fifth child back when he was a teenager. 

Josh had admitted to his parents in 2002 that he touched the breast area and genitals of the other children, including sisters Jill and Jessa, several times. Josh went to Christian counseling for several months as a result.

After the news came to light, TLC cancelled the Duggars' show, 19 Kids and Counting — which has since been resurrected under a new name, Counting On.

That's new: Duggars haven't historically spoken openly about sex — except when it came to oldest sibling Josh's sex scandals 

Stuck forever: Josh and Anna are now expecting six kids, and it seems Anna has forgiven him for cheating on her and using websites like Ashley Madison 

But it was only the first of the scandals. That same summer — just a month after Josh and Anna welcomed their fourth child, Marcus — when a hacker released user information for the adultery website Ashley Madison and Josh was found among those who had used the services.

His profile included interests like 'one-night stands and 'experimenting with sex toys.'

Josh admitted publicly to infidelity and having a porn addiction, calling himself 'the biggest hypocrite ever' in a statement.

'While espousing faith and family values, I have secretly over the last several years been viewing pornography on the internet and this became a secret addiction and I became unfaithful to my wife,' he wrote.

'I am so ashamed of the double life that I have been living and am grieved for the hurt, pain and disgrace my sin has caused my wife and family, and most of all Jesus and all those who profess faith in Him.'

Anna famously stuck by him, moving into his parents' house with their children while Josh sought out more Christian counseling treatment.

Together, they have five children: nine-year-old Mackynzie, seven-year-old Michael, five-year-old Marcus, three-year-old Meredith, and one-year-old Mason. They recently announced that they are expecting their sixth in November.