Online Dating Resource - First date Do's and Don'ts

First dates can be so difficult! They are just as stressful as a job interviews. Yet, they can be exciting as well as you explore the first stem in your relationship. With all the high hopes, expectations and fears men and women bring to the table on a first date, it's a wonder anyone makes it to the second these days. To make your first date go as smoothly as possible, ehre are some do's and don'ts on your first date:

Be yourself. Or rather, "be your best self." This is not the time to admit to all your vulnerabilities and insecurities, nor to share your family horror stories. Rather, talk about things that showcase your sweet and sparkling personality.
Be a good listener. The purpose of this strategy is twofold. No one likes a conversation hog. Everyone wants the opportunity to shine in your eyes by telling his/her stories. Plus, allowing the other person to talk gives you the chance to discern what makes him/her tick. If he/her talks about how all of his ex-es are bitter, selfish, unbearable, imagine the other side of the story. If a man admits to not being the marrying kind, that's valuable information to have early on as well. (No, you won't change him!). If she complains about how her ex-boyfriend won't buy her things, it tells you something about her too!
Try to have fun. Your life does not hang in the balance. It's just a date. All you're really doing is hanging out for a few hours with a new acquaintance. Lighten up and enjoy the time.

Pretend to be someone you're not. If you eat meat and she's a vegetarian, fess up to your carnivorous ways. Ditto if you're a heavy smoker and she's a non-smoker. The truth will always comes out eventually - sooner is truly better than later.
Don't drink too much! The best example I can think of is to rent that classic gem 'Blind date' with Kim Basinger and Bruce Willis. She's the girl of his dreams until she has a bit too much champagne, at his prompting... Before you know it, he's lost his job, suit, apartment, car and reputation. It probably wouldn't go that far, but no-one likes to see you get that loose before they even get to know you. If the date sucks, then drink when you get home!
Leave your date hanging. If you'd like to see your date again, say, "I had a great time. The time really flew." Yes, you can kiss him goodnight but don't act desperate to set up a second date on the spot. If the first date is all that you want to see of her, say, "It was a pleasure meeting you. All the best." Don't dilute the message by engaging in kisses.
Make a snap judgment about your feelings toward your date. Unless he's a total boor or potential nutcase, give him or her another try or two before writing him/her off. Rush to first date judgment and you'll have lots and lots of time to regret the hasty rejection of someone who might have been the love of your life.
Don't talk about yourself too much. It's true that one of the best ways you can get some one to pay attention to you is to ask them lots of questions about themselves. It's amazing how well this works. Yet when you're nervous, you might have a tendency to babble on about your life endlessly, as you don't have to think that much to pull that information out of your head. And of course, we all know not to do this when we think about it.
Don't wear something you don't feel drop dead gorgeous in. How much fun can you have if you have to worry about bursting your buckle? It is stressful to have to remember not to raiseyour arm no matter what happens because your last clean shirt has a hole in the armpit.

We hope these few simple do's and don'ts will help put you on the right track on your first date. Enjoy your time on SambalHot, the best online gathering place to meet singles around the world. We hope that we can help you find the date(s) of your life!

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