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nandi |
Totally disturbed
12/4/2003 1:00:23 PM |
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Hi!
I have been now married for 3 years. my husband and I were romantically involved before marriage for atleast 5 years. We got married after a lot of parental opposition. I respected my husband a lot because he stood for our relationship during these times. last year, he had an affair with a colleague at his work place. I knew about this girl and did not like her much. When I used to talk about my feelings to my husband, he used to allay my fears by saying things like that i was too imaginative and that i was the most important person in his life. This year we moved out of the country for better job prospects. And one fine day, my husband confessed about this affair on his own. Till that day, I had no idea or suspicion about this affair. He tells me that he was feeling very guilty about this whole thing and had wanted to tell me for a long time. He also promises that he will never ever get in touch with this particular girl. During this time, i threatened divorce but my husband got very distraught and told me that he would die if i left him.
While i appreciate his honesty, I feel thouroughly cheated and humiliated. Since the confession, we have grown close, but I am afraid, sometimes, i feel that he could go back to his old ways or that he could be laughing at me for accepting him again.
We do not have a baby. therefore, our family would not be affected majorly by any decision that i take.
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Anamika |
Relations
12/5/2003 8:23:52 AM |
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Nandi - To err is human but to blunder is not. What ur husband did was not an error but an blunder - yet he had the guts to admit it. This proves that he loves u and takes it for granted that u will not leave him. It may be a little difficult but its better to forget and forgive. Its said that to forget is human and to forgive is divine - well get godly for once and forgive him. Having a baby is not always the pivot for a close knit family - two soul is enough to make a home. You will be happy if u forget the whole issue - Bye take care
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Hello
12/5/2003 2:31:57 PM |
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Hi there, I think you need to find out why he had an affair. Maybe he was feeling neglected in your relationship or upset about something. In any case, it seems to me that he is indeed feeling very sorry for his meanderings. It would be fatal to lose all faith in him because of his mistake, especially if you stil love him. Thus you could forgive him and move on. Good luck!
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Nandi |
Thanks
12/6/2003 4:43:32 PM |
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Thanks agony,
since the confession, we have talked a great deal on the 'whys'. we value each other more now, (not that anyone should need this kind of experience to learn about each other values).
the next time i visit the site, it will be for helping others.
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