Skye Thomas
What do you do when your child begins talking to some unseen entity?
How do you determine if it's a psychic event, an imaginary playmate, or
some sign of a mental health issue? You want to handle things in a way
that is best for your child and of course in a way that isn't going to
harm them in any way. You also want to make sure that you speak from a
spiritual belief system that you can believe in. Your child will know if
you are uncomfortable with the topic or if you don't believe in what you
are saying. They'll also be able to tell if you are scared or threatened
by the subject matter. You will want to fully research the concepts and
choices before saying something that you might later regret. The first
response should probably be no response. After all, it may just be a
fabrication to gain attention. Kids do that.
The first thing to look into is imaginary playmates. There is a lot of
research and information to be found on the topic. You can ask your child
some questions about their little friend and find out pretty clearly if
the child is creating an imaginary playmate or not. The research will show
you some of the common reasons and scenarios that cause some children to
create these friends. Study the topic for yourself and make up your own
mind if that's what is happening with your child.
If you determine that your child does not fit into the imaginary playmate
profile, then you have to decide if they're actually talking to guardian
angels, spirit guides, Jesus, or some deceased relative. As I understand
it, imaginary playmates are not named after spiritual entities or
relatives. They have their own unique names. If your child is specifically
mentioning Jesus, or great grandpa Joe who died last month, then you have
to evaluate the chances that they're either suffering a bit of an
emotional problem or they really are talking to spirits. I would also look
at your own words and see if the child might be trying to win your favor
by pretending to channel your favorite spiritual figure. Also, are you
giving them subtle messages that maybe you want them to be magical
children that talk to angels and spirits? They may be faking it in order
to please you. Kids do that.
It might not hurt to find a therapist who believes that psychic events can
and do happen. They would be able to give you some professional insight,
guidance, and reassurances if needed. If you see a therapist who simply
doesn't believe in such things, then you and your child may be deemed
nuts! On the other hand, there are experts who are so hungry to find real
live cases of psychic children, that they may overlook signs that your
child is faking it or struggling with other issues. You really need to
choose the therapist carefully and one with good amount of common sense as
well as an open mind. They will be able to help you find out if your child
is really channeling someone from the other side or if they're suffering
from some sort of a psychological issue that needs attention. They can
also help you to learn how to speak to your child about the events. If
it's determined that your child is psychic, expand your research to
include information about psychic children. The fact that it's Jesus or
Joe that your child is talking to may be comforting, but that's not really
the issue. The fact that they can possibly 'hear' and 'see' a dead person
means that you have three basic choices before you.
* Make your child stop so they'll be 'normal' and fit in with everyone
else. This is typically done by ridicule, punishment, or logically telling
them that what they are experiencing is not real. Telling them it's not
real and isn't happening is a polite form of ridicule.
* Make the child into your personal miracle. Have them show off for
everyone you know by channeling grandpa Joe for you, your friends, and
family. This will make them feel like a side show freak. This approach
could quite possibly backfire on you by making your child quit talking
with angels altogether. It can also make them embrace a sense of self who
is freakish, causing the child to become a really weird and spooky
personality type who doesn't fit in with anyone anywhere.
* Behave as if it's perfectly normal to talk with those who have passed
over to the other side and act as though it's simply another form of
communication and/or prayer. Explain to them that there's nothing wrong
with them. However, you should probably warn them, as they get older that
there are frightened uneducated people who will not like it. They will
need to learn when is the proper (safe) time and place to discuss such
things and with whom. By not making a huge big deal of it, you help them
to feel like it's simply a natural part of life. I personally would not
want to deny my child such a direct link to the heavens. My overall
recommendation is to research psychic children and imaginary playmates.
You can find support groups of other parents and professionals who are
addressing this topic. They would have more concrete research and data for
you. Whether your child has created an imaginary playmate to entertain
themselves, is really psychic, is just trying to get some attention, or is
having emotional problems, they were given to you to care for. No matter
what your belief system, it's your job to protect your child and make sure
they grow up as balanced and sacred as possible. The most important thing
is that you both continue being honest and loving towards each other. Be
kind and most things will turn out for the best.
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Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's Edge
About The Author
Skye Thomas began writing books and articles with an everyday practical
approach to life in 1999 after twenty years of studying spirituality,
metaphysics, astrology, personal growth, motivation, and parenting. After
years of high heels and business clothes, she is currently enjoying
working from home in her pajamas. Go to
www.TomorrowsEdge.net to read
more of her articles and to get a free preview of one of her books.
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