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Online Couples' Community

Imagine participating in an active community of couples led by expert marriage therapists, where there's couples' support, innovative information, personal growth and solutions to couples' painful power struggles. Members support, encourage and even challenge each other. Finally, the internet and technology have made this dream possible - and you can be a part of it.

We are excited about our online couples' community, a special private website where you can learn strategies to overcome common relationship problems, and where you can interact with us and with other couples striving for the best possible marriages. We really hope you'll join us.

It's not unusual to find ebooks full of relationship advice written by ghostwriters or business people who have never worked with couples on the nitty-gritty, day-in and day-out problems all couples face. Our degrees are in Psychology, but even more important is the years of extensive experience we have working with real people and real problems. Our training is genuine, our experience is relevant and - our marriage is 26 years strong.

Not Just a Pile of Self-Help Books

We know the power of community in supporting change and we are using today's technology to create a meaningful educational online environment. Have you bought self-help books before? Maybe you've got a whole library of them.

This is not just another stack of books - it's interaction, education, support, and community, all specifically designed to help you stop fighting or giving the silent treatment and start communicating in a loving way.

Learn From Other Couples, Too

In every workshop and couples group we lead, we hear couples say, "I thought we were the only ones having these struggles. It was so helpful to see and learn from others."

We'll share our support, best advice and sometimes the occasional tough love. We'll ask you to commit to developing yourself into a more loving, effective partner.

Who Are We?

Dr Peter Pearson Dr. Pearson is an engaging, dynamic expert in leading couples workshops. His powerful presentations always include practical skills, advanced techniques in regulating difficult emotions and entertaining vignettes from his own marriage to demonstrate how challenges can be mastered. In addition to his work with Ellyn at The Couples Institute Peter was a Consulting Associate Professor at Stanford University in the Department of Counseling Psychology from 1988 - 2002.

Dr. Ellyn Bader In addition to her busy therapy practice, Ellyn maintains an active schedule training other professionals at conferences, at The Couples Institute and in an innovative online program. Ellyn spent eight years on the Clinical Faculty at Stanford University School of Medicine and served as the president of an international professional association. She is on a mission to improve couples’ relationships, and her influence reaches literally around the world.

We'd Like to Show You the Way to a Better Marriage or Relationship

This new educational website can’t take the place of couples therapy, but it is remarkably informative and supportive for the price. And the convenience can’t be beat.

For just $35 per month, you can join this stellar community. As we add new material, the price will rise but you will always pay just $35/month for as long as you choose to stay with us.

Great Value!

Therapy with us costs hundreds of dollars. Pete's weekend workshop costs $697. For $35 per month, you can't get private therapy or an intensive workshop, but you'll get access to our rich knowledge and experience, and creative ideas about how to interact with your partner.

Yes, Click Here To Sign Me Up Now

Immediately Upon Joining You will get….

Our Past Monthly Calls - Archived For Easy Listening

"The Emotional Brain"
Learn how we are wired to seek love and connection and also wired for self protection. This biological contradiction creates painful dilemmas for all couples. You will learn strategies for healing rejection and reconnecting after stressful interactions.

"The Stages of Marriage"
You can listen to this session and learn our philosophy of effective relationships - and why it is important to know yourself. You will also hear Loretta describing the stages of her 19 year relationship with her husband and how they overcame some difficult power struggles.

A Collection Of Our Best Articles

Articles are organized and indexed so you can easily find responses to specific relationship problems. Here are some of the specific topics that will deliver instant information and answers in the Online Couples' Community:

"Dealing with the Passive Aggressive." Passive aggressive partners break agreements and are forgetful. You'll suffer less if you understand how they think and why they act like they do. We give specific strategies for the spouse of the passive aggressive.

"Dividing Chores." So many couples fight over the division of labor at home. You'll break through the stalemate when you use targeted negotiation strategies.

"How to Prepare to Discuss Tough Topics." Talking about in-laws, disciplining kids or money can challenge even the happiest couple. We'll teach you how to prepare for tough discussions and how to talk to promote understanding. And how to listen in a way that soothes and prepares for progress.

"4 Tips for Talking about Sex." Communication skills for better sex.

"Super Negotiation Just for Couples." Knowing that you have effective skills to negotiate will enable you to find solutions that work for both partners. No longer do you need to have a winner and a loser.

Plus 30 more articles on challenging aspects of intimate relationships.

A Variety of Audio Answers to Questions Other Couples Have Submitted to Us

How do I stop repeating old communication and behavior patterns that don't work?

How do I stop my spouse from withdrawing and giving me the silent treatment?

How can we refocus and calm down during a tense discussion?

How do I deal with nastiness?

And a dozen more.

Two Different One-Hour Teleseminars

"Beyond 'I Messages:' Safe and Sane Couples Communication"
Download this one hour demonstration and learn an innovative approach to discussing sensitive topics. Apply our unique format to guide you through your toughest topics and start discussing problems without triggering defensive reflexes in each other. Communicate and connect in a way that fosters vulnerability and intimacy together.

"Soothing Moments: Rapid Relationship Repair"
It is human to make mistakes and trigger pain inadvertently in our partners. It is also human for our partners to blow it and say something that just makes us feel really hurt. By listening to this program, you learn what to do to alleviate pain more rapidly, how to move past the pain, and how to enjoy more intimacy with your partner - immediately!

Live Monthly Conference Calls

Don't miss this opportunity to participate once a month on a phone call with Ellyn and Pete to get insight into relationship struggles and get answers and ideas about how to approach your most pressing relationship challenges. These calls will include relevant topics and some Q and A calls. They will be permanently archived for easy retrieval so you can listen to the topics that fit you 24/7 in the future.

The Blog

There is a blog where you can interact with us. You will have the opportunity to submit questions and see responses from us and other couples. You will get stimulating, interesting exercises to bring new life to your relationship. You will hear from other couples who have found solutions to overcome emotional blocks and are stretching themselves to feel that satisfying connection with their partner.

Sign Me Up Now!

From both professional and personal experience we know that the "relationship promised land" is possible. It takes more than you can learn in self-help magazines or handy tips from Cosmo. It takes Clarity on what to do, Commitment to apply knowledge, and Compassion for yourself and your partner. It also takes risk and stretching yourself to try new approaches that may not feel natural or intuitive. These three C's" Commitment, Clarity and Compassion, along with risk will put you on the road to a relationship that other couples simply wish for but never achieve.

Let's review the offer again.

• Join the online couples' community for support and growth in your marriage or relationship.
• Discover the impact of your Emotional Brain and learn to use the human desire for self protection to support, not withdraw from love with your partner
• Read more than 30 articles that are organized, indexed, and ready to help you in keeping a thriving relationship.
• Listen to 25 brief audio responses to couples' most frequently asked troubling questions. Get answers and relief.
• Hear two different one-hour audio programs and learn how to discuss tough topics plus repair and get back on track when one of you is hurt or angry.
  Reconnect for intimacy.
• Listen to Loretta describe the stages of marriage in her 19 year marriage and how she and her husband overcame some difficult struggles.
• Participate in our blog and have animated interaction with us and other couples. Get help and feedback as you practice what you learn.
• Participate in a monthly tele-training call with us.
• Learn valuable and innovative ways to improve your relationship in key areas.

All for a monthly fee of $35.

So here's what you do.

Click on the link below. It will lead you through the payment and registration process. You will receive an email confirmation and directions about how to create your user name and password to gain entry to the site. We'll send emails with information on how to participate in the phone calls and the blog. And check out the Events category to get the time and date for our next call.

We have made the site easy to navigate and very user-friendly. You don't need to be a techno-whiz to make it work, but you're welcome to call our office - toll free - if you'd like help. Call 877-327-5915.

You will be billed $35 per month for as long as you find your membership useful, helpful, informative, and/or inspiring for your relationship.

"It's good to know you are not alone."

We look forward to supporting you,

Ellyn and Pete