It’s kind of ironic that you find out the true nature of people only after you’ve broken up with them.
After agreeing to live together for a few more months so both of us are in a more comfortable position just a few days ago, Mike changed his mind today. I haven’t slept that much since Friday. My back has been hurting too much, and Mike told me he’d go out and get something for me to help it. Instead he went and hung out with the guys. We’re broken up and everything, but still, how can you do that to someone? It’s just cruel. I got pretty angry, but it’s not like I have any claim over how he spends his time. If he wants to be an asshole, that’s his own perrogative. I just told him to move his things out of my bedroom, as the friends-with-benefits thing was over.
Today, the first thing he said when I saw him was that he wanted me to find a roommate or find a place to live as soon as possible. Gee. So much for “not being left hanging”, something he promised he he wouldn’t do.
So now I’m being left with no car (before, he promised he’d give me the explorer), no bank account (it’s in his name), no furniture (he’s taking all of it), and a debt to my mother that by all rights, both of us should owe her. The loan we took from her to get the house - which he’ll probably be keeping. He’s pushing all that off on me. Oh, and he’s taking my dogs too.
Some people would be pretty upset. Some people would be totally all hate and rage. I, however, remain optimistic.
October 10th, 2005 at 2:50 am
Didn’t want to register for so long. However now seems as good a time as any. It is amazing that you can seem optimistic in the light of these issues. I would ask though, do you work? Is the pay decent? Get a clunker, get an apartment, open a new account. if you do do these things, the salvation army is a great place to buy el cheapo furniture, which you can replace easily with yours within a year. It’s a very possible goal. My only worry is for your son and how he react to the loss of a “father figure” and friend. As for the pets, well it’s inhumane to get you pets and then take them away. As for the house, is it in both your names? if so it can be contested. Especially since he would basically be using you to get himself a house. This loan from your mother should have been a contract. I’m going on about shit I know nothing about. You probably know all your options anyway and optimism is a great torch to have in the dark.
October 10th, 2005 at 11:17 am
I remember you from when you posted back before I had to take some measures to protect against trolling by requiring registration.
I do work, the pay is good, I love the company I work for. It is by far the coolest place I have ever worked. I get to curse and threaten to nail penises to boards all day, and I don’t have to worry about anyone treating me like a girl or finding out who I am, because they all already know.
Mike isn’t a bad person. He’s just hurt, and angry. I’m more angry than hurt, but I think I saw this coming a long time ago. Everyone did. He’s saying these things now, but he won’t actually fuck me over. Or if he does, he’ll make ammends. He wouldn’t be able to live with himself, otherwise. Besides, for all my drama, and all the shit I’ve been through - and people that have been reading for a while know that I’ve been through a lot - nothing really bad has ever happened to me. Knock on wood. I’m a good judge of character, for the most part. Mike and I just weren’t right for each other, and I should have seen this. I probably did, and just ignored it for a long time, because I wanted it to work. At least I didn’t end up marrying him.
But why remain optimistic? Because what’s the point in letting myself really blow up about all of it? If I feel angry, I’ll be angry. I’m not supressing. I just don’t see the point. It’s just another problem to work around, and eventually things will go back to normal - whatever normal is for me. I’m still happy. I think a lot of it had to do with what happened when I got my hair dyed last week. I met some good people, and I felt so much more like myself than I have in years. My self esteem was shattered during my relationship with Mike, and I think I’m starting to get it back.
October 10th, 2005 at 3:50 pm
Ahh, I see. BTW glad to see the dyed hair coming back.
October 11th, 2005 at 8:48 pm
I share a little bit of your pain. (Dial_tone from #freebsd). I left ATL 7 yrs ago to move in with somebody in L.A. I brought nothing but clothes, a computer and a bicycle. We broke up 2 yrs ago. Awkwardly enough we still live together as roommates. There was no way I could have afforded to outfit an apt on my own. Now I have a car & bedroom stuff. Unless something goes drastically wrong i’ll be moving to Dallas in 1.5 yrs for another girl. I’d make him pay off the loan if he’s keeping the house…but that’s just me.
October 11th, 2005 at 9:24 pm
Did you REALLY drop your phone in water?
XOXO
October 12th, 2005 at 7:15 am
Yes, I really dropped my phone in water. Not the sidekick, either, but my backup phone. I have been waiting on T-Mobile to send me a new sidekick as I have the equipment replacement/protection plan, but it’s not going to get here until Thurs (supposedly), so I popped my SIM into my old Motorola V600. And I dropped the phone in a glass of water. I still can’t believe I did that. I wasn’t even intoxicated at the time. I blame it on system malfunction due to stress testing. Heh.
October 12th, 2005 at 1:17 pm
Flowen -
I don’t really look like myself anymore. I keep seeing myself in the mirror and thinking it’s someone else. If that has to be the case, might as well accentuate the strangeness with ultra hardcore red hair. I have bones I’ve never seen before. Hm.
December 2nd, 2005 at 9:43 pm
Breakupsā€¯ are really and totally uncool. Recently i had (almost 3 years) a girlfriend and she left with some other guy and now i hate her
. But i’ve left everything behind and now i’m trying to take everything from scratch. It is hard but this can be done, i have my laptop, freebsd, My Music wich is totally cool. So better breakup earlier that live longer and suffer even more later. It is better because after you make a family and kids and stuff and then you break that is really nasty, for you and the kids and all your life will be worse.
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Suffer now and change and learn not to make the same mistakes again.
Maybe i’ll watch some South Park episodes wich are really cool and screw girls they are pure evil