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CLITORIS: TEMPLE OF FEMALE ORGASM

CLITORIS HOOD IS THE TEMPLE AND THE GLAN IS THE IDOL BY WORSHIPING OF WHICH APTLY THE MALE PARTNER CAN CREATE THE ULTIMATE SENSATION TO HIS FEMALE PARTNER.

I. CLITORIS, the real Goddess of Sex

1. Combating Ignorance
Despite almost a century of universal education the average Western Male is still totally ignorant about the clitoris. He neither knows what it is, where it is or what to do with it if he accidentally stumbles across one late at night in the dark (OK, OK. I know all my readers are deeply sensitive caring men whose only concern is to please their partner and do the washing up and clean the house and cook the evening meal and take the dog for a walk and screw their partner's best friend but let's face it there are many guys out there who are less than totally committed New Men)

2. What is the Clitoris and How do I get One?
The clitoris is a small bud like formation ("make mine a bud") situated where the top of the inner vaginal lips meet Normally it hides under a small hood of skin but when sexually aroused it expands and emerges blinking into the sunlight. It is a primary source of erotic stimulation. Most women can attain orgasm by means of gentle massage of the clitoral area. Biologically, it is directly equivalent to the male penis. Indeed, for the first few months after conception the genitalia of male and female foetuses appear to be identical. It is this equivalence that is a direct cause of much misunderstanding.

3. How big is the Clitoris?
Not very. I have been privileged to see the genitalia of literally dozens of women whilst both sexually excited and quiescent. In my experience, the vast majority of women have an excited clitoris glans (i.e. the visible part of the clitoris at it's maximum size) of between one eighth of an inch across to a maximum of three eighths of an inch across (i.e. 3mm to 8mm across). This is demonstrated as follows.

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Largest when aroused -
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If you have a clitoris larger than this, don't worry. You will make somebody very happy! Doubtless people reading this will have come across numerous references to clitorises being an inch or even two inches long. Except in extremely rare cases (by which I mean one in many thousands) the claimant has mistaken the top of the inner vaginal lips for the clitoris itself. I have only seen a few undoctored photos of a clitoris more than half an inch long. If you have one please send it to me! ( Since writing the above I have seen quite a lot more photos of clitorises larger than this - many of them of bodybuilders who have taken steroids which have the side effect of enlarging the clitoris. Bear in mind also that "1 in a 1,000" still means 100,000 women in the USA alone!)

4. What to do with the Clitoris?
In a word "stroke it". The clitoris is there to be enjoyed so make the most of it! The Protestant Churches with their obsession with sex have long equated pleasure with sin. Even today, America and the UK are sexually repressed countries where a loving act of procreation is viewed as obscene whereas a picture of somebody being killed is regarded as good clean fun.

5. Make that Clitoris really Hum!
Here's something you can do at home that's really exciting! Get a revolver and empty out all the bullets except one. Spin the chamber and hand the gun to your partner. Ask him to push the gun in your mouth or up your ass and pull the trigger. You don't like the idea? Well, when you let somebody fuck you in the mouth or up the ass without wearing a condom you are taking an equivalent risk. (Vaginal Intercourse is generally considered to be much less dangerous but why take the risk?) The aids virus travels in semen or blood. Letting somebody discharge a potentially deadly cargo into your body is desperately dangerous. The man firing the gun is taking very little risk - the person at the receiving end is. Sorry to con you into reading this but it may just save your life.

6. How should I stroke the Clitoris?
If the clitoris concerned is yours then do what ever turns you on! Many women masturbate by lying on their backs with one hand rubbing between their legs and the other stroking one of their breasts. As orgasm approaches they clench their legs together and tense every muscle in sight (and quite a few not in sight).
Other women prefer to lie on their tummies, possibly with a pillow between their legs. I have yet to meet a woman who actually puts anything inside her vagina as a form of stimulation (sorry fellows). I know that this act figures prominently in erotic literature but most erotic literature is written by men with lots of imagination and very little experience. Similarly most dildos and vibrators are bought by men! The Shere Hite report on female sexuality confirms my experience - I believe they found that only about 5% of women use penetration during masturbation. Mind you, maybe me and Shere are just hanging out with the wrong kind of girls ... (Thinks: Is Shere Hite an anagram?)
If the clitoris concerned does not belong to you then experiment gently and carefully (having first obtained the consent of the owner - not necessarily in writing although you can't be too careful these days). Whatever you do, don't just shove your finger up her vagina and then ask her if she wants to fuck. The idea is to gently and carefully excite your partner. At the same time it's not a bad idea to tell her that you love her! You will know if you are succeeding as her vaginal area will become slippery and her clitoris will expand into a firm little bud. At the same time she will begin to groan and writhe about - especially if you pay well. If you fancy the idea (and I certainly do) then excite her clitoris with the tip of your tongue. Whilst you are at it you can lick the entrance to her vagina and anus and generally get the whole area nice and slippery. At this point you can gently slide an experimental finger into the entrance of her vagina (or even her anus). In my experience most girls are shocked at anal contact but if well lubricated and excited will only make a token show of resistance. Don't assume from the latter, however, that she will take kindly to your pride and joy being shoved up her arse (English people don't have ass holes they have arse holes, thought you would like to know that) - she is more likely to scream blue murder.
At this point you can probably take her hand and gently place it on your own pathetic little specimen if you can find it (only kidding guys - I mean huge throbbing manhood). Whilst all this is going on you should be enthusiastically sucking and licking her nipples. In my experience, a girl who is having her nipples sucked and an expert hand gently massaging her clitoris and various entrances is a goner.
One last point. Never argue. If she says she doesn't want sex with you, tell her, whilst gently licking her breasts, that nothing was further from your mind - you were looking for a deeper, more spiritual relationship with her. She will invariably end up having sex with you. If, on the other hand, you reply along the lines of "Why not, you had sex last week with John Smith?" then you are a total oaf who deserves a quick smack in the mouth and will probably get one. And not just from John Smith. Happy rubbing!

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II. History of Clitoris

Unlike the penis, of which it is usually described as the female homologue, the clitoris does not enjoy an array of nicknames, euphemisms or slang terms. There is even some controversy as to its pronunciation, whether this should be clitt-oris or cly-toris, dictionaries vary and some give both as correct (although the OED prefers 'cly-toris) but this means that there is still a decision to be made which may cause hesitation in referring to this organ in speech. The derivation of the word is commonly alleged to derive from the Greek 'Kleis' meaning key but there is some philological debate about this, as discussed in a 1937 article by Professor Marcel Cohen reprinted by Thomas Power Lowry in The Classic Clitoris (1978).

The anatomy of the clitoris was described in 1559 by Renaldus Columbus of Padua, who claimed that previous anatomists had overlooked the very existence of 'so pretty a thing'. His primacy was however contested by another eminent anatomist of Padua, Gabrielo Fallopio. Although they claimed to have discovered this organ, since antiquity there had been a powerful belief that mutual orgasm was necessary for conception, which suggests that, though unnamed, the clitoris was known to be there. Like his namesake, Renaldus had discovered something that had been there all the time, if not named or mapped, and which other people (though not, perhaps, the people he would recognise as colleagues) and other traditions had already known about.

The clitoris is, to the outward appearance, a tiny organ which even the woman to whom it belongs may find difficulty in seeing, unless with the aid of a mirror (unless she is very flexible). It may be so concealed as only to come into view when the labia majora or outer lips of the vagina are separated. Located above the vaginal and urethral openings, it is structurally connected to the labia minora or inner lips of the vagina. The visible glans of the clitoris, which is hooded by a prepuce formed by the meeting of the labia minora, is, however, only the outward and visible manifestation of much more extensive structures of erectile tissue, which form a padding over the pubic bone. These concealed parts are anatomically continuous with and functionally linked to the vagina. The whole structure is densely packed with nerve endings: although there are a similar number to those of the penis, they are much more concentrated and closer together. It may be noted that although anatomically speaking, the clitoris is homologous to the penis, the female genitalia are far more differentiated than those of the male: instead of one organ which conveys sperm, urine and is the source of sexual pleasure, a woman has three different parts for these distinct purposes. When erotically stimulated the clitoris becomes engorged and erectile; when a high degree of arousal is reached it retracts, with the effect that it appears to have reduced in size. Vaginal lubrication takes place along with the engorgement of the outer part of the vagina. When sexual excitement reaches its peak orgasm takes place with rhythmic contractions of the clitoris and vagina. Unlike men, women have the capacity for multiple orgasm without an intervening refractory period.

The appearance of the external glans of the clitoris is very various. In some women it may be quite noticeable and an obvious analogue to the penis, in others it may be small and barely visible. Although these are innate physiological characteristics, the size of the clitoris has been assumed to relate to the sexual activity of the female, and to be excessively developed by masturbation or indulgence in lesbian practices. Successive editions of a standard British textbook of forensic medicine rather gratuitously (since female homosexuality has never been in itself a crime in Britain) included a photograph of a 'tribade's' clitoris well into the middle of the twentieth century.

The role of the clitoris in orgasm has been the subject of very heated controversy. Although for centuries it had been known by medical and religious authorities in Europe that titillating the clitoris had a beneficial effect on conjugal relations, rendering them more pleasant and more likely to be fertile, from the later eighteenth century this information apparently became increasingly hidden. Popular handbooks which went on being reprinted in the nineteenth century underwent expurgation and referred, if at all, much more generally to the necessity of mutual caresses and pleasure between the married couple. However, although the arousing role of the clitoris had been recognised, and even that a woman might bring about an orgasm by self-stimulation if her husband failed to give her an orgasm through intercourse, the assumption was very persistent that if women masturbated, they did so with a dildo in order to mimic penetrative intercourse. (Even today, although most women employ vibrators for clitoral stimulation, a large number of the models available vary in shape from the generally phallic to the hyper-realistically penile.) This supposition extended to the idea of women having sex with one another, conceived of as either impossible or else involving this substitution. There are some grounds, however, for believing that there may well have been an oral, mainly women's culture, which, if it could not scientifically name and describe the clitoris, nevertheless knew about its significance. This, however, was increasingly eroded by the rise of a print culture privileging published writings, the vast majority of which were by men, and a variety of other social changes including increasing levels of privacy and class separation.

A new ethos of mutual sexual pleasure in marriage arose during the early twentieth century: though shared pleasure had been an ideal in the Victorian era, repression and ignorance meant that it had not always been achieved even with the best intentions. Authors of marriage manuals emphasised the important contribution of the clitoris to the sexual arousal and satisfaction of the woman, even going so far as to suggest, in some cases, that the bridegroom should give his wife her first orgasm by manual stimulation before proceeding to defloration. Even so, clitoral stimulation was seen as something ancillary to penetrative heterosexual intercourse, which was defined as the central conjugal act.

The clitoris received, as it were, a setback as a result of the wide acceptance and popularisation of Freudian psychoanalytic ideas. According to this, clitoral stimulation was immature and masculine in its nature (though it may well be doubted that little girls relate this concealed if sensitive spot to the penis, if they have ever seen a penis) , and to be truly women, women needed to abandon clitoral pleasures and effect a transfer to achieving orgasm vaginally. This theory was contested by a developing school of empirical sex research, though it should be noted that marriage advice manuals continued to stress the importance of clitoral stimulation, at least until the wife's sexual responsiveness was 'fully developed'. Alfred Kinsey, in his study of the sex life of the American female (published in 1953), noted the vast difference in sensitivity between the vaginal wall and the clitoris and labia minora. (William) Masters and (Virginia) Johnson observed sexual interactions in a laboratory setting, and on the basis of these observations, which involved various technological devices to measure arousal and orgasm, they concluded that orgasm was always clitoral: even if the clitoris was not being directly stimulated indirect stimulation was taking place as a result of friction from the pulling on the labia caused by penile thrusting during intercourse. Vaginal contractions were one manifestation of the orgasm produced by the clitoris.

These findings came out in 1966, contemporaneously with the enormous social changes which led to the 'second wave' of feminism and the short-lived 'Sexual Revolution'. Women found that this research supplied them with a way of describing experiences which had been neglected or distorted by the masculine assumption that the acme of sexual pleasure consisted of penis-in-vagina thrusting (in probably the majority of cases quite uninfluenced by psychoanalytic ideas of the superior maturity of the vaginal over the clitoral orgasm). Works such as Danish author Mette Ejlersen's I Accuse! (British edition 1969) and Anne Koedt's 1970 article 'The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm' made a forceful if anecdotal case for the preceding obliteration of women's actual experience. Shere Hite's more extensive (though methodologically much criticised survey), published as The Hite Report in 1976 to enormous publicity, revealed the importance of clitoral stimulation to women's sexual pleasure. The notion was disseminated in a range of popular publications, handbooks on women's health from a feminist perspective, works of sexual advice, and also in numerous novels taking advantage of a new explicitness to describe female sexual experience.

However, other sex researchers have contested the conclusion that there is only one kind of orgasm, suggesting that, at least to subjective experience, some women do have orgasms which they describe as 'vaginal' or 'uterine' from penetrative intercourse, which are qualitatively distinct from those achieved through specific clitoral stimulation. The connotation of immaturity has been lifted from the clitoral orgasm, and there is some evidence that women who prefer vaginal orgasms tend to be more passive, dependent, and anxious. It can be argued that the focus of attention on the clitoris has perhaps elided the contribution to sexual pleasure and orgasm of the sensitive erectile tissues of the rest of the vulva.

Although the clitoris is such a small and apparently insignificant organ, there are and have been widespread conceptions that it is dangerous and threatening. There are substantial areas of the world today , in Africa and the Middle East, in which clitoridectomy is still routinely practised on ritual and hygienic grounds*, though the number of cultures which practice it are far fewer than those in which some kind of circumcision of the penis is performed on boy children or youths in transition to manhood. The practice is deeply embedded in national and religious cultures and has proved very difficult to extirpate, attempts to do so having caused crises for colonial powers in Africa. While many of the cultures which practice it are Islamic, clitoridectomy is not coterminous with the Muslim world, being found among other religious groups in the regions in which it is common, and not being practised in all Islamic nations.

Clitoridectomy takes different forms, from a relatively minor removal of a small amount of flesh from the tip of the clitoris to almost complete extirpation, along with other practices such as infibulation and sewing up of the labia. The effect of the subsequent sexual life of the women involved of this mutilating operation is usually assumed to be deleterious in the extreme, although there is a little, perhaps rather anecdotal, ethnographic evidence that some women who have undergone clitoridectomy are nevertheless capable of experiencing orgasm. This may depend upon how much of the underlying concealed erectile tissue remains. The trauma of the operation, performed normally on young girls around the age of eight without anaesthetic by traditiona1 practitioners, must be considerable. Subsequent infection and scarring can have long-term implications for future fertility and safety in childbirth. Such an operation is regarded as reprehensible and unethical by Western medicine, although there have been cases of private practitioners performing the operation under surgical conditions in the United Kingdom for members of cultures in whom it is regarded as an essential attribute of the marriageable female.

However, there is no reason for an attitude of complacent superiority. During the 1860s the British surgeon Isaac Baker Brown performed an unknown number of clitoridectomies at his London Surgical Home. He believed that female masturbation was widely prevalent and the cause of a number of nervous ailments, including epilepsy, a point of view he advanced in his book On the Curability of Certain Forms of Insanity, Epilepsy, Catalepsy and Hysteria in Females (1866). The operation was however widely regarded as mutilating and shocking (especially given Baker Brown's rather cavalier attitude towards consent) and in 1867 he was expelled from the London Obstetrical Society and the London Surgical Home was closed. Baker Brown subsequently became insane. Clitoridectomy in Britain never recovered from this and did not become part of the medical repertoire, although it went on being practised, to an extent which it is probably impossible to ascertain, in the United States well into the twentieth century. While the excesses of the advocates of 'Orificial Surgery', which advocated excising the clitoris as the remedy for a range of ailments, were probably not typical, as late as 1936 Holt's Diseases of Infancy and Childhood was not averse to recommending circumcision or cauterisation of the clitoris as a cure for masturbation in girls. These might be extreme options but there were certainly devices available to prevent girl children (and, it is possible, more mature women) gaining access to their clitorises for self-stimulation.

Surgery of the clitoris still takes place. There are, of course, various legitimate medical reasons for operating on this organ, e.g. various forms of malignancy, but they are fairly rare.** These days the clitoris is not, in Western medicine, excised to take away the unruly sexual desires of women, but adjusted to make it more conformable to the demands of penetrative intercourse. It has been observed that in most coital positions, when the penis is in the vagina there is infrequently also direct stimulation of the clitoris, without the intervention of hands (or devices such as 'French ticklers'). Operations have been reported endeavouring to relocate the clitoris somewhere where it will be more likely to received stimulation from simple penile thrusting, nearer the vaginal entrance. The equivalent to circumcision of the penis has also been performed, trimming back the clitoral hood to expose the glans to increase 'sensitivity'. Alleged 'adhesions' have also been removed. The value of these operations is exceedingly dubious. They reflect a mechanistic approach to sexual functioning similar to the use of vaginal dilators for spastic contraction of the vagina: altering or trying to alter the female genitals to make them conform to the cultural norm rather than recognising that the cultural norm has ignored the requirements of the female genitalia.

Perceptions of, and attitudes towards, the clitoris, provide a powerful reflection of wider societal attitudes to female sexuality, whether this is seen as so dangerous that it must be eradicated, or simply needing to be brought into a greater complementarity with male sexual needs.

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III. Clitoris : An Information

The clitoris, labia, urethra, and opening to the vagina are all part of a woman's vulva. The tip of the clitoris may be smaller than a pea or bigger than a fingertip. Only the tip of the clitoris is visible at the top of the vulva in the soft folds where the labia meet. The rest of the clitoris reaches inside the body up to five inches. It can come in different sizes and it can have different levels of sensitivity

The clitoris is the female sexual organ found where the labia minora, or inner lips, meet. It consists of a rounded area or head, called the glans, and a longer part, called the shaft, which contains cavernous bodies similar to those of the penis.

The tissue of the inner lips normally covers the shaft of the clitoris, which makes a hood, or prepuce, to protect it. The only directly visible part of the clitoris is the glans, which looks like a small, shiny button.

The size and shape vary considerably among women. It can be seen by gently pushing back the skin of the clitoral hood. There is a high concentration of nerve endings in the clitoris and in the area immediately surrounding it.

The abundance of nerve endings in the clitoris makes it very sensitive to direct or indirect touch or pressure. Stimulation of the clitoral area can be very pleasurable.

The Only Organ Designed for Pleasure
In fact, providing its owner with sexual pleasure is the organ's only known function, and the clitoris is the only organ in either sex with pleasure as its sole function. It has nothing to do with getting pregnant, with menstruation, or with urination.

When a woman becomes sexually aroused, both the glans and the shaft fill with blood and increase in size. The glans can double in diameter. There is no evidence that a larger clitoris means more intense sexual arousal.

As erotic stimulation continues and orgasm approaches, the clitoris becomes less visible as it is covered by the swelling of tissues of the clitoral hood. This swelling is designed to protect the clitoris from direct contact, which, for some women, can be more irritating than pleasurable. It moves out again when the stimulation stops.

After orgasm the clitoris returns to its normal size within about ten minutes because the orgasm leads to a dispersal of the accumulated blood. If the woman doesn't have an orgasm, the blood that has flowed into the clitoris as a result of sexual arousal may remain there, keeping the clitoris engorged for a few hours. Many women find this uncomfortable.

A woman's clitoris can be stimulated through direct or indirect contact. During intercourse the penis does not contact the clitoris directly. The thrusting of the penis in the vagina, regardless of the position used, moves the labia minora, and it is this movement of the lips against the clitoris that usually creates the orgasm.

Direct contact with the clitoris by touching it with a finger, vibrator, or a tongue can cause more discomfort than pleasure for many women. For these women, more general rubbing or licking of the area around the clitoris is likely to feel better. Other women enjoy very intense direct stimulation. There is great variability in sensitivity of the clitoris and each woman.

In brief, The clitoris is very sensitive. It can respond to being touched, rubbed, licked, sucked, or through pressure from a vibrator or penis during intercourse. For some women, it can be so sensitive that direct stimulation is just too painful. We're all turned on in different ways, after all, so if you're unsure what floats her boat then ask! If you're comfortable with your partner, and feel able to discuss such an intimate subject, she can only respect you for finding out how she likes to be handled. With help, respect and experience, you'll soon find your way.

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IV. Clitoris: An Explanation

It may shock many to learn that some normal and healthy genetic females have a penis, or at least a clitoris that looks like a penis. Actually, all females have a penis; we just prefer to call their penis a clitoris. While many object to this analogy, it is accurate from a sexual and biological perspective. A penis and clitoris are made up of the same tissues and function the same because they develop from the same fetal structure. In males, the penis is usually exposed to increased levels of androgens, one of which is testosterone, in the womb. This results in males having a more visible penis, but not necessarily a larger one. During part of their time in the womb, all females also have a very large clitoris, in proportion to the rest of their body, because of the sequence in which things develop. At birth, a girl's clitoris may look disproportionately large having been exposed to her mother's adult hormone levels, and will decrease in size as the effects of those increased levels diminish. In the end, having a penis is not the sole privilege of men and boys, despite what society may dictate.


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What a Cute Baby ???


As a result of genetics or having been exposed to increased androgens in the womb, some infant girls are born with a clitoris that looks much like a "penis," often to the dismay or embarrassment of her parents; not to mention the medical personnel. It is important to keep in mind she is still a normal and healthy "girl." She is not deformed or imperfect. Instead of reassuring the girl's parents that she is perfectly normal, doctors often cut the girl's clitoris off or surgically reduce its size, on the premise of correcting a mistake by nature. This is believed to result in the girl growing up to be a normal and healthy adult woman, one who does not question her sexual identity. The truth is, even if her large clitoris is removed, she may still question her biological sex, as biological sex is the result of hormonal and genetic imprinting. If she is actually a he, cutting off her "penis" will not change her true sex. A person's physical appearance may have no bearing on their true sex or sexual orientation, since male and female are physically slightly different versions of the same thing. A girl or woman may question the gender or gender role assigned her by society regardless of how her body looks. Parents should not consent to cosmetic surgery on or frequent examinations of the genitals of their children, of either sex. If there are no medical problems, there are no problems.


More Than Meets The Eye!


The only real difference between a clitoris and penis is the average size of the portion we can see with our naked eyes. Three fourths of the clitoris is hidden from view. The average clitoris is about four inches in length, the same as a flaccid penis. Illustrations in the Anatomy area reveal the true size of the clitoris. The only other difference between the two is that the urethra of the clitoris does not extend all the way to the tip of the glans, as is the case even with some penises!


 

Measuring Up!


Clitoral Size Information Updated 10/10/2004

An article published in the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology in July 1992 states that the examination of "200 consecutive normal women at routine gynecological examination" revealed the average crosswise width of the clitoral glans to be 3.4 mm (0.13 inches) with a range of 2.4 to 4.4 mm (0.09 - 0.17 inches) and the lengthwise width was 5.1 mm (0.20 inches) with a range of 3.7 to 6.5 mm (0.15 - 0.26 inches). This means the average clitoral glans is smaller than a pencil eraser. The average total clitoral length including the glans and body was 16.0 mm (0.63 inches) with a range of 11.7 to 20.3 mm (0.46 - 0.80 inches). The clitoral index (CI), the product of the clitoral glans lengthwise and crosswise widths, was 18.5 mm2 (0.03 inches2). There was NO correlation between age, height, weight or use of oral contraceptives and clitoral size, but women who had given birth had "significantly larger measurements."

Dr. Robert Latou Dickinson states in his book Atlas of Human Sex Anatomy, published in 1949, that "normal" clitorises had a crosswise width of 3 to 4 mm. (0.12 - 0.16 inches) and a lengthwise width of 4 to 5 mm (0.16 - 0.20 inches). Based on one hundred examinations, he found five percent of women had a clitoral glans that measured 0 to 2.5 mm (0 - 0.10 inches), seventy-five percent measured between 2.5 and 6.5 mm (0.10 - 0.26 inches) and twenty percent measured between 6.5 and 15 mm (0.26 - 0.59 inches). He mentions others who had given lengthwise measurements of 5.6, 6.7, and 8.0 mm (0.22, 0.26 and 0.31 inches). He attributes the variation in measurements to whether intersexed individuals were included in the sample data, which would account for a larger average size. The determination of "normal" is often arbitrary. An article published in the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology in November 1979 states that clitoromegaly is defined as when there is a CI of greater than 35 mm2 (0.05 inches2), which is almost twice the size given above for an "average" sized clitoral glans, but is still relatively small, as a clitoris equal in size to a pencil eraser meets this definition.

An article published in the Journal of Pediatric Endocrinology & Metabolism in Israel compared the clitoral size of newborn girls of two ethnic groups, Jews and Bedouins. They found a "significant difference in clitoral length (12.6%) between the Jewish group (5.87 +/- 1.48 mm) [0.23 +/-0.06 inches] and the Bedouin group (6.61 +/- 1.72 mm) [0.26 +/- 0.07 inches]". While statistically there is a significant size difference, 0.74 mm (0.02 inches) doesn't seem like much to me. It should be noted that at birth the clitoris is proportionally larger than it will be later in life, as a result of having been exposed to the maternal hormone levels, that is the clitoris will decrease in size soon after birth as the affects of those hormones diminish. I am not aware of comparisons between other ethnic groups.

The visible portion of the clitoris of some girls and women is reported to measure up to about 2 1/2 inches (6.3cm) in length and nearly 1 inch (2.5cm) in diameter. When they are of this size, they look very similar to a penis. The only difference being a groove along the bottom side of the clitoris, where the urethra would be located on a penis. While urine may not travel out the tip of these large clitorises, they do look and function like a penis. These women, as well as women in general, are capable of experiencing erections, the sensation of having a "hard-on," producing ejaculate in their paraurethral glands, and even ejaculating. Women with large clitorises are even able to engage in intercourse, by inserting their clitoris into their partner's vagina or anus.


 


 

Will It Get Bigger?


The structure of the clitoris does not lend itself to change easily, as the result of mechanical forces. The masturbation habits of most women are not likely to affect the size of their clitoris, other than perhaps causing a slight increase in its size do to better blood circulation if they masturbate on a regular basis. Again, a sign of health not disease. Using unusual force, such as drawing increased amounts of blood into the clitoris with a vacuum pump on a frequent basis, can result in an increase in size as the vascular structures are slowly stretched and enlarged to accommodate the additional blood. There probably are not too many women who do this, but with the advent of the Internet this may change. Since the intial writing of this article, the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has approved a clit pump for the treatment of female sexual dysfunction.


 

Idolized Clitorises


There are some references that indicate a large clitoris was also considered attractive among some cultures, so again girls and women engaged in practices to cause this result. The validity of these claims is somewhat in doubt, but it seems likely they are based on fact. It is not known whether the clitoris was enlarged by this, or if they were more pronounced as a result of increased mobility caused by the stretching of the connective tissues. The clitorises of these women may have been more visible versus larger.


 

Androgen Sensitivity


The clitoris is very sensitive to androgens like testosterone. Prescription and non-prescription steroidal drugs can cause a woman's clitoris to increase in size. Some clitorises achieve a maximum length of about 2 1/2 inches (6.3cm), if steroids are taken for an extended period of time and depending on the age of the woman. Female athletes who take steroids to increase muscles mass and strength often experience this side affect. As do female to male transsexuals. Sometimes steroids are prescribed to treat other medical conditions, like lack of libido, causing this result, but usually to a lesser degree. (The negative side effects often associated with prescribing women testosterone are based on dosages appropriate for men, not women.) The vast majorities of large clitorises are the result of genetics, not drugs as some presume, believing a giant sized clitoris cannot be natural.


Penis Envy?


While there is no evidence to support the claim that a bigger clitoris functions better, a few women do have a form of penis envy. As more women are learning that their clitoris is like a small penis and capable of being much larger, some are expressing a desire to enlarge their clitoris. Perhaps in hopes that if it were larger it would function better and be easier for their partner and themselves to find and stimulate. A few women may even desire a little penis of their own, even if they are happy being a feminine woman. In addition, if a woman feels better about the size of her clitoris, she is likely to be more sexual and more sexually responsive having acquired a larger clitoris, or even a smaller one. Our brains are our largest sexual organ after all. It is important to keep in mind the brain plays a larger part in female sexual pleasure than does the clitoris, regardless of the size of the clitoris. At this time, I am not aware of any safe and proven ways of making the clitoris larger that does not expose a woman to undesired side affects.

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V. The Clitoris - for Orgasm : A Report

Helen O'Connell, a urology surgeon at Melbourne, has discovered recently (1998) that the clitoris is far larger and more complex than doctors previously thought. Most of it is buried beneath layers of fat and shielded by pelvic bone, which perhaps accounts for why it has never been found before! Or maybe the reason has more to do with the medical profession being run by men, and an inbuilt bias against women. 

This is vitally important because until now any urinary tract or gynecological surgery may well have cut important nerves or blood vessels that run to the clitoris. Medical knowledge has just not been good enough to ensure that doctors can protect the sexual function of the women on whom they are operating.

There doesn't seem to be any good reason why this hasn't come to light till now. But one clue comes from checking the internet database Medline. Today (April 29 2003), I found 1,052 published articles on the clitoris but an amazing 25,610 on the penis! Where have the medical profession's priorities lain, do you think?

Another researcher found that in the 1901 Gray's Anatomy (the anatomist's basic reference) the clitoris was labeled clearly, but after 1948 the label had been deleted. When she looked at 8 other anatomy text books published between 1950 and 1971 she found that the clitoris was not labeled and sometimes was not even represented at all. Since 1981 the clitoris has been labeled again but only minimally. It almost seems that if something has to do with female pleasure, particularly sexual pleasure, it just hasn't been deemed important. Why? Prudery about women's sexuality? Who knows! Lack of interest in women's' sexuality? Shameful! Whatever the explanation, this new discovery is a big step forward in understanding the clitoris and its nerve structures. 

The glans of the clitoris, the part that most people know about, is just the external part of the much larger body underneath. In fact, the shaft of the clitoris lays vertically along the body's midline, covered and never seen, just beneath a layer of fat and skin. It reaches down towards the vagina and then splits to each side. The August 1998 issue of New Scientist magazine describes it like this:

"The 'body' of the clitoris, which connects to the glans, is about as big as the first joint of your thumb. It has two arms up to 9 centimeters long that flare backwards into the body, lying just a few millimeters from the ends of the muscles that run up the inside of the thigh. Also extending from the body of the clitoris, and filling the space between its arms, are two bulbs, one on each side of the vaginal cavity." 

These bulbs had previously been thought to be part of the vaginal structure but they are in fact part of the erectile tissue of the clitoris. They seem to have a couple of uses. They transmit pressure from the mouth of the vagina to the nerve structure of the clitoris, and they help clamp the urethra shut during arousal, which may help to prevent bacteria entering the urinary tract during sex.

Why this matters - Clitoral vs. vaginal orgasms! 

Are there really two sorts of orgasm that a woman can have? The clitoral and the vaginal (or G-spot)? 

There are many women who defend the existence of two sorts of orgasms, though some sex "experts" (usually men, I've noticed), deny absolutely there is any difference. And if these two sorts of orgasms are actually the same, how is it only a minority of women achieve vaginal orgasm through vaginal intercourse while most need their clitoris stimulating directly to get there? Would most women be able to reach orgasm through intercourse if only their partner could go on thrusting for longer? And even if that were true, how come women who claim they have vaginal or G spot orgasms regularly say they feel so different to their clitoral orgasms? 

In an attempt to understand this better, I've been looking it all up and found some pretty clear views! The first position is that all orgasms are the same - the result of clitoral stimulation. When a woman claims she has had a vaginal orgasm, so says this viewpoint, she's actually had a clitoral orgasm through the deep structures of the clitoris being pulled and stimulated during vaginal intercourse. This, claims catherine yronwode, is the same sort of experience a man would have if he was brought off by masturbation which focused only on his scrotum and the lower part of his penile shaft rather than the sensitive head of his penis. In other words, not exactly powerful, and not as satisfying as a conventional orgasm. This then, for her, is the basis of the vaginal orgasm. It's a clitoral orgasm, reached through stimulation of the deeper parts of the clitoris. So here is where this new knowledge of the structure of the clitoris comes in handy - it explains away vaginal orgasms! 

I want you to know right now that I totally disagree with this idea. And later I'll explain exactly why. But first, here is my understanding of the ideas that lead some people to think that all orgasms are the same.

All orgasms are clitoral (?)

The belief that the clitoris is a tiny pearl of sensitive flesh located above the vagina is not true, as Helen McConnell's discovery has shown. The clitoris actually has those two shafts or bulbs of tissue which can become engorged with blood during sex, plus a sexually sensitive head called the glans at its tip, and a foreskin or prepuce. In fact, it's just like an uncircumcised penis. And, like a penis, during sexual excitement, the foreskin retracts, exposing the glans of the clitoris, which many people think is the extent of the whole organ. But deep down lie the two shafts of the clitoris that are so essential to sexual pleasure.

A disadvantage for a woman is that having the clitoris fixed in place beneath the skin with elongated bulbs running into her body means there is little opportunity for movement to stimulate the clitoris. You can perhaps imagine this better by thinking of a penis which had only its glans visible outside the body wall, with no shaft available to thrust in and out. A man would have to rub his glans with a well lubricated hand or rub his glans up and down along his partner's body to stimulate his penis: this is in fact what some women do during intercourse when they rub their clitoris against their partner's pubic bone.

But there is also an advantage to having the clitoris fixed in place. Any pull on the shaft and forks of the clitoris is transmitted directly to the glans through the clitoris's prepuce or foreskin. So when a man thrusts in and out during intercourse, his penis may pull and release the clitoral shaft and bulbs which lie around the vagina and thereby produce indirect stimulation of the clitoral glans - the part which is really sensitive to stimulation and brings a woman to orgasm. But to reach an orgasm like this may be quite difficult and take some time - much longer than it would take to orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris directly. Now, the question is whether an orgasm reached in this way is what we call a vaginal or G spot orgasm. In other words, is it simply that because neither partner can see the pull on the clitoral glans, and because neither partner has been touching the glans of the clitoris directly, that it's easy to conclude this type of orgasm is somehow different - that it is, in fact, a vaginal orgasm? 

As catherine yronwode says in "The Clitoris During Intercourse": 

Men, imagine being masturbated by a woman who only plays with the root and shaft of your penis and with the skin of your scrotum, but never touches the tip of your cock. Could you come? Would you come, perhaps after quite a while? It's possible, isn't it?

What you would experience (we could call it a "penile shaft orgasm") would be the equivalent of "vaginal orgasm."

Do you think this form of sex play would be as pleasurable as having your partner touch or lick the underside of the sensitive head of your penis? Would it be as pleasurable as sliding the glans of your penis into and out of her warm, soft, wet cunt? Is penile shaft stimulation all you'd want every time you made love? Is clitoral shaft stimulation all you'd want your female partner to experience every time she made love with you?

The "vaginal orgasm" exists, as does the "penile shaft orgasm." But neither is greatly sought after by the vast majority of men and women. Most men and most women seek stimulation to the area of the glans of the penis and just below and the glans of the clitoris and just below. 

So the simple truth, according to this view, is that most women - however much they like penetration - reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation. However, it is also true that many women say that sex for them is much more pleasurable when they orgasm with their partner's penis in their vagina. Happily it's not too hard to achieve this! To understand how it's done, we need to look a little more at the anatomy of the clitoris.

In most women only the tip of the clitoris - the glans - is exposed, and then only when the clitoral foreskin is retracted or when the clitoris becomes erect and emerges from the foreskin. Internally, the clitoral shaft has a little bend in it, which one early writer on human anatomy called "the clitoral knee." If you were to dissect away the outer layers of skin, fat, and muscle, the clitoris would look like a crooked little finger, of which only the top joint emerges from the foreskin. It's a bit like a little daffodil that has not yet opened and is bending its flower-bud downward and outward!

Diagram showing the clitoris and vagina embracing the penis during intercourse as seen facing toward the woman by Robert Dickinson in Human Sex Anatomy (1949). 

The outer layers of skin, fat, and muscle have been dissected away, and the penis is shown in simplified cross-section for position only.

Above the clitoral glans, which is normally the only part visible outside the body, you can see the ascending portion of the clitoral shaft. At its apex (which Dickinson calls the clitoral knee), the shaft bends downward and divides into the two forks or "crurae" which encircle the vaginal opening.
 

When the clitoris gets erect during sexual activity, it gets longer and more swollen and the bend above the glans flattens out somewhat so that it points down rather less. Thus the clitoris has some flexibility in this direction. And, in addition, its forked shaft is held in place by tiny internal ligaments that allow a limited degree of movement up and down the midline of the body. The end of the shaft of the clitoris, just at the point where it forks, is located above the woman's pubic bone. Between the pubic bone and the clitoris is a layer of fat and muscle which forms a little cushion for it. A man's pubic bone is right above the root of his penis, and it is also covered with a padding of muscle and fat.

Now, here's the interesting part. If two sexual partners are of similar size, weight and height, and have the same proportions of legs to torso, the woman can position herself so that her clitoris is placed between her pubic bone and her partner's. It is then possible for her to move during intercourse in such a way that as the man finishes his inward thrust, but just before he pulls his penis back, she rolls her pelvis down and outward so as to compress her clitoris nicely between his pubic bone and her own. If you try this when you're making love, you can soon discover how to move so as to get the clitoris stimulated - there's a kind of downward roll of the pelvis which does the trick! All in all the effect is to move the clitoris downward as the penis enters the vagina, and upwards with light pressure and some friction at the end of the man's thrust. Again, in catherine yronwode's words: "Thus, with each thrust of the penis, the glans of the clitoris is rubbed along her partner's padded pubic bone and the shaft of the clitoris is given a downward and then an upward tug. The upward friction-stroke of the clitoris - caused by the downward pelvic roll she makes at the end of the inward stroke of his penis - is the more pleasurable of the two directions." 

Apparently the extent of the clitoral stroke can vary from half an inch to an inch and a half, depending on the size of the clitoris, how much it projects, how curved it is, and how deft the woman is at moving her pelvis. And in an interesting variation of the woman on top position, if the woman lies on top of the man and he lies still, making no hip thrusts at all, she can control the amount of clitoral pressure and movement to suit herself perfectly while teaching her man how much pressure and movement she likes. 

These techniques are a sure route to clitoral stimulation during intercourse, and any woman who is reasonably aroused when she begins to make love should be able to reach orgasm reliably through this method. 

Now, this sounds simple in theory, but in practice it means that the woman has to be more dominant than normal during sex. For a woman conditioned to take a passive role in sex, this may be more difficult than it sounds. But by way of compensation, an excited woman who moves her hips during intercourse is very stimulating for a man, so sex is likely to be a much livelier and energetic affair than in the past - which means bigger and better orgasms!  And even better, if she wants to, a woman with normal levels of arousal who understands and uses this method of clitoral stimulation during intercourse can reach orgasm as quickly as when she masturbates. 

She can also learn to control her movements to extend intercourse for a very long time, especially if her partner is cooperative. By moving her buttocks outward and reducing the pressure on her clitoris as it lies between the pubic bones of her and her partner, she can delay her orgasm while her partner continues to thrust (and because he's quite likely to come when she does, she can control the length of intercourse to some degree). In case you don't know, a man will usually orgasm and ejaculate pretty quickly if a woman comes while his penis is in her vagina because her orgasm, and the vaginal contractions involved, are unbelievably arousing and exciting for him. 

If a woman wishes to slow her man down while speeding herself towards orgasm, she can tell him to shorten his thrusts or be still for a while. These shorter thrusts will place less friction on his penis and this means he will last longer, while she can still enjoy a full clitoral stroke as she moves, which will bring her to her own orgasm faster.

If she wants true control, she can get on top of the man or they can lie side-by-side with her legs around him. These positions will allow her the fullest range of movement and amply compensate for the shorter length of her clitoris compared to his penis. And the end result is so wonderful: full clitoral stimulation during vaginal intercourse with mutual orgasm. Fantastic!

A fun way to stimulate the clitoris! 

Basically it is using your mouth as a vibrator. Pucker up your lips into an "o" and blow air through very fast like a trumpeter, so that your lips vibrate. If you a getting a very loud "buzzing" noise going you are probably doing it right. Practice on the soft area between the thumb and first finger on the back of your hand.

Buzzing a woman's genitals needs a gradual approach, starting on the inner thighs first, then the outer lips of the vagina, then gradually approaching the clitoris, as your partner's moans and shrieks of delight get louder and louder! My man usually very gently pulls back the hood of my clitoris, or I do it myself, unless I'm so out of it, that he really has to take over! Then he very lightly buzzes up and down the length of my clitoris, gradually increasing the pressure and intensity of his buzz, and finally he buzzes the tip. I also insert a finger, or two, three or four in my vagina, curl up and on and around the G-spot as he does this. Delicious!

The hooded clitoris

This condition is found in a small number of clitorises. All women have a hood or prepuce which covers their clitoral glans (the smooth pearl on the end of the clitoris). The hood is usually retractable when you pull up on the inner lips of the vulva, or labiae minorae. But women with a ‘hooded’ clitoris have a thickened membrane that covers the pearl, and it may not be retractable. There is a similar condition in men where the foreskin adheres to the glans and does not separate naturally by adolescence. Often, before discovering the condition, a woman reports such problems as dulled sensation, no orgasms or complaints from partners who have been unable to stimulate the clitoris and bring their partner to orgasm. Because most women require direct or indirect clitoral stimulation to reach a climax, having a hood can be a problem for pleasure and especially for reaching orgasm.

This condition can become a difficulty for women of all ages. The issue is how it affects your sexuality, your sense of self as a woman and your sexual response. If, up till now, you have never experienced troubles in that department, that's pretty good. But if this has been a lifelong issue which has lessened your sexual pleasure, alone or with a lover, then you might wan to consider your options.

Often you can open up the hooded cover by applying natural oil on a cotton bud. Gently insert it under the hood around the perimeter. Doing this deliberately and steadily, on a daily basis, may release its grip. If you are truly hooded, where the tissue is grown over the clitoral area, then surgery may be in order. Ask your gynecologist to advise you and consider having it loosened under the surgical knife. Taking pills or increasing your hormone replacement therapy won't work since the problem is purely structural. In men a steroid cream is often prescribed to release the adhesions holding the prepuce to the glans of the penis, so you may wish to ask your doctor if this is an option for women with the parallel condition. But think through your options thoroughly because surgery should never be undertaken lightly!

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VI. Vitality of Clitoris for Female's Orgasm - Another Perception

First, we all know (well, most of us do) that the clitoris is the analogue organ to the penis in a man. It is the seat of the nerve sensations known as orgasm. Asking a woman to have an orgasm without direct stimulation or contact to the clitoris is exactly, precisely the same as asking a man to have an orgasm without stimulation or contact to the penis. It CAN be done, but keep in mind that it is unusual and may not be particularly rewarding.

The tube of the vagina itself has very few sexually stimulatable nerve endings deep within (it does have nerve endings that sense pressure, though). The sexual nerve endings of the vagina increase toward the outer end of it and are most concentrated where it curves outward toward the vulvar opening and upward to the clitoris.

The scrotum tissue (but not the testicles) on a man are formed from fetally analogous tissue to the woman's labia minora (vaginal lips). The seam down the middle of the scrotum is where the lips would divide in a woman. The two areas have the same compliment of nerve endings, so asking a woman to have an orgasm from stimulation of her cunt lips alone would be the same as asking a man to have an orgasm from stimulation of his scrotum alone. It CAN be done, but as i said, it is unusual.

Most women achieve orgasm through friction of the clitoris against the man's pubic bone while engaged in intercourse or through stimulation of the clitoris by manual or oral contact.

But Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, claimed that women who had clitoral orgasms were "infantile." He asserted that to be truly mature, a woman must have only "vaginal orgasms." His theory has long been discredited, both psychologically and anatomically. yet some women do report "vaginal orgasms without friction of the clitoris."

To understand this, you have to understand the way the clitoris is shaped and how it is carried in the body.

Most men -- and all too many women -- think that the clitoris is a tiny "button" or "nub" of sensitive flesh located above the vagina, at the level of the base of the woman's pubic bone. This is NOT TRUE.

The clitoris is a shaft of engorgeable tissue, built just like a small penis, with a sexually sensitive head (the glans) at its tip, just like the head of a small penis. It comes equipped with a foreskin or prepuce, just like an uncircumsized penis, and during sexual excitement, the foreskin retracts, exposing the glans of the clitoris, the little "button" most people think is the entire organ.

Unlike the shaft of the penis, which is free-hanging, the shaft of the clitoris lays vertically along the body's midline, covered and never seen, just beneath a layer of fat and skin. The shaft of the clitoris reaches down toward the vagina and then splits to each side.

To imagine this better, remember that the vaginal lips are analogous to the scrotum -- and now think of the way the shaft of the penis emerges from the scrotal area and visualize the shaft of the clitoris (covered beneath a layer of fat and skin) emerging from the top of the vaginal lips and terminating in the little glans, which pokes out of the skin. Got that? Okay. But there's more! When it reaches the body, the tiny clitoral shaft divides into two "forks" or "legs" called crura. (The penis also has two crura at its base, but they are relatively small; they serve to anchor the penis to the body..) The elongated crura of the clitoris extend downward along either side of the vaginal opening and terminate in bulbous glands, so the entire clitoris looks like an upside-down letter "Y" that has been bent forward at the top. And what most people call "the clitoris" is just that end-tip of the letter "Y" shape, the clitoral glans.

Now the big disadvantage to having the clitoris fixed in place beneath the skin with elongated crura is that the woman has little freedom of motion for stimulation. Imagine if the penis was surgically attached to the flesh of the abdomen with only the glans free at the top (right below the belly button) and there was no ability to thrust in and out. A man would be somewhat at the mercy of his partner's technical skill or acquiescence to his limited range of motion -- he'd have to rub his body up and down along his partner's body to stimulate the penis in the same way she rubs up and down against his pubic bone (some men do this when masturbating by rubbing against their mattress) or he would have to ask her to stroke the glans of his penis the way she asks him to stroke the glans of her clitoris.

Sounds like women have a rough go of it, maybe? Like they have a harder time getting off because of the fixed position of the clitoris? Not so!

There is a distinct advantage to having the clitoris fixed in place: any downward pull on the skin covering the shaft and forks of the clitoris is felt directly in the glans, as it is pulled downward through the foreskin. Thus, the friction stroke of a man's penis going into and out of the vagina can, by pulling and releasing the clitoral root and shaft, produce an indirect stimulation of the glans of the clitoris. Many women are capable of having orgasms like this, although the process, being indirect, may take longer than having an orgasm induced by friction stimulation of the clitoral glans itself. Because they do not see the entire clitoris under its covering of skin and fat, many woman (and their male partners) think that they have not stimulated the clitoris (by which they mean only the glans of the clitoris) -- when in fact they have done so -- and thus they buy into the idea that they have achieved a strictly "vaginal" orgasm.

Men, imagine being masturbated by a woman who only plays with the root and shaft of your penis and with the skin of your scrotum, but never touches the tip of your cock. Could you come? Would you come, perhaps after quite a while? It's possible, isn't it?

What you would experience (we could call it a "penile shaft orgasm") would be the equivalent of Freud's "vaginal orgasm."

Do you think this form of sex play would be as pleasurable as having your partner touch or lick the underside of the sensitive head of your penis? Would it be as pleasurable as sliding the glans of your penis into and out of her warm, soft, wet cunt? Is penile shaft stimulation all you'd want every time you made love? Is clitoral shaft stimulation all you'd want your female partner to experience every time she made love with you?

The "vaginal orgasm" (clitoral crura orgasm) exists, as does the "penile shaft orgasm." But neither is greatly sought after by the vast majority of men and women. Most men and most women seek stimulation to the area of the glans of the penis and just below and the glans of the clitoris and just below. And that's why i recommend that in the interest of connubial bliss, men and women ignore the admonitions and instructions of "experts" like Freud and his followers, and do what pleases each other most.

In the words of the old proverb, "What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander." That is, men and women are more alike than they are different.

Or, as the Bible says, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." In short -- let mutual pleasure be your best and truest guide.

Unfortunately, or so it seems to me, when Freud's ridiculous concept of the "purely vaginal orgasm" was thrown into the dustbin of history (and good riddance!), sexologists began focussing their attention solely on the clitoris. Or rather, on the GLANS of the clitoris. Men were taught to rub and lick the little "button" and assured that this, and this alone, would "satisfy" their partners. Women were told -- especially by a few rabid feminist authors -- that since it was "almost impossible" for a woman to have a vaginal orgasm, the ideal partner-sex for a woman consisted of her being masturbated or licked. The in-and-out-stroke of the penis in the vagina, these writers claimed, was useless when it came to stimulating a woman to climax.

Although this notion -- that penis-in-vagina sex rarely brings a woman to orgasm -- may be true for some women, it is most definitely NOT true for all women, or even the majority. And for a certain number of women, including myself, the most satisfying orgasms (the ones i call the "big baked potato orgasms," the kind that are HUGE and go on and on, ONLY occur during penis-in-vagina sex.

What am i doing that makes penis-in-vagina orgasm so achievable -- and adorable -- for me? Why, i am taking my clitoris on an excursion!

I wish i could draw you a picture here. Let me try in words. The clitoris is a small penis-analogue organ situated above the opening of the vagina. In most women only its tip (the glans) is exposed -- and then only when one retracts the clitoral foreskin or when the clitoris becomes erect and emerges from the foreskin.

Internally, the clitoral shaft has a little bend in it, called "the clitoral knee." If you were to cut a woman's body in half in linear cross-section, the clitoris would look like a crooked little finger, of which only the top joint emerges from the foreskin -- or like a little daffodil that has not yet opened and is bending its flower-bud downward and outward.

 

The clitoris and vagina embracing the penis during intercourse as seen facing toward the woman. The outer layers of skin, fat, and muscle have been dissected away, and the penis is shown in simplified cross-section for position only. Atop the pea-shaped clitoral glans, normally the only part visible outside the body, you can see the ascending portion of the clitoral shaft. Upon reaching its apex (which Dickinson calls "the clitoral knee"), the shaft bends downward and divides into the two "forks" or crura which encircle the vaginal opening. Drawing by Robert Latou Dickinson, in "Human Sex Anatomy," 1949.
 

The clitoris is flexible and erectile. During erection it lengthens and its bend flattens out to a greater or lesser extent, depending on personal anatomy, until it resembles the angle of an opened daffodil, still pointing outward, but a bit less downward. Not only is the clitoris itself somewhat flexible, its forked shaft is held in place by tiny internal ligaments that allow it to move up and down the midline of the body, root and all.

The root of the shaft of this little organ sits, in most women, right above the lower portion of the public bone, called the symphysis in medical terminology. From there it divides into the two "forks" or crura, which extend downward around the vaginal opening.

In a cutaway side-view of the body, the symphysis is an oval bone. Its cross-section is shaped like a narrow football's cross-section, with the long axis running more or less up and down, the shaft of the clitoris situated at right angles to the long axis of the oval, and the clitoral bend leaving the tip of the clitoris pointed either outward or downward, depending on individual variation. Between the pubic bone and the clitoris is a layer of fat and muscle, a little cushion for it.

Men also have a symphysis or pubic bone. Theirs is above the root of their penis, and it is also covered with a layer of muscle and fat, giving it padding.

In intercourse, if the partners are well adjusted in terms of size and posture, the woman will position herself so that her clitoris is placed between her symphysis and her partner's. This is called "clitoris seizure." Then, at the end of each inward stroke he makes, she will give a little downward and outward roll of the pelvis which presses her clitoris rather firmly between the two bones and rubs it upward. This is called "clitoral excursion."

The effect of clitoral seizure and excursion is to move the clitoris downward as the penis enters -- and upward (under pressure and friction) at the end of the penile stroke. Thus, with each stroke of the penis, the glans of the clitoris is rubbed along her partner's padded pubic bone and the shaft of the clitoris is given a downward and then an upward tug. The upward friction-stroke of the clitoris -- caused by the downward pelvic roll she makes at the end of the inward stroke of his penis -- is the more pleasurable of the two directions.

The reach of the clitoral stroke can vary from half an inch to an inch and a half, depending on the size of the clitoris, how much it projects, how curved it is, and how deft the woman is at moving her pelvis.

If the woman crouches on top of the man and he makes no thrusts with his hips at all, the woman can control the degree of clitoral pressure and movement to suit herself perfectly, and can teach the man how much pressure and movement she likes.

Any woman who does this will most definitely experience clitoral stimulation during intercourse. A woman in a normal state of arousal well used to practicing clitoral seizure and excursion can achieve orgasm through intercourse with the same alacrity she could through masturbation, should she want to. She can also learn to control her movements to prolong intercourse a very long time, especially if her partner is cooperative.

By moving her buttocks outward and reducing the clitoral seizure, she can keep from coming too soon while her partner continues to stroke in and out.

Should she wish to slow him down while speeding herself up, she can indicate (through whatever form of communication the couple uses) that he should shorten his strokes or be still for a while. The lessened penile friction of a two-inch stroke will keep him from premature ejaculation, while still allowing her to experience a full inch-and-a-half clitoral excursion stroke, bringing her closer to orgasm.

If she wants true control, she can get on top of the man or they can lay side-by-side with her legs around him. These positions will allow her the fullest range of movement and amply compensate for the shorter length of her "tool."

With practice, full clitoral stimulation during vaginal intercourse and gently timed mutual orgasm will result.

I speak as one who knows.

 


In 1998, about a year after the above was placed online, a middle-aged man wrote to me with further questions. I herewith append his queries and my replies:

"Anonymous" wrote:

> One of the things that was not mentioned on your page is the mysterious
> "One o'clock" area over the clitoral "hood" that the people at the
> "Welcome Consensus" keep talking about. They say that all their
> "research" suggests that this is the area that women, when alone, reach
> for habitually when making themselves "happy"... maybe you can talk about
> about this in a reply, if you choose to do so...
 

Thank you very much for posing the question and thus allowing me an opportunity to respond.

I am unfamiliar with "Welcome Concensus," but i too have encountered this bizarre notion that the so-called "one o'clock position on the clitoral hood" (foreskin) is the place most favoured for stroking by women during masturbation and should thus be the place that every man strokes when masturbating a woman.

The "one o'clock position" is determined by viewing the clitoris frontally, with the clitoral glans (the little "button") as a clock face; hence "one o'clock" is a point slightly to the RIGHT of top-center from the PARTNER'S viewpoint or slightly to the LEFT of top-center on the actual WOMAN'S BODY.

The idea that this point is the clitoral "sweet spot" is misguided at best. At worst, insistence on it as dogma detracts form the rational teaching of sexual ecstasy.

Here's my experience, frankly told, in support of my thesis:

I am 51 years old. I have been masturbating since i was 12. Thus, i have 39 years of experience with inducing orgasm in myself. I long ago found, through experiment, that for me, making circular motions that carry a full-contact pressure-stroke around the glans of the clitoris and along the shaft and crura or "forks" of the clitoris is highly arousing. During this stroke, the finger remains in contact with the clitoral skin and moves the entire clitoral glans around beneath the surface, sliding and tugging it upward against its little pad of fat and bone. This stroke does not involve rubbing the finger over the top of the glans, but instead around the corona, a stroke analogous to the glans-circling or "capping and twisting" motion that many men make to the corona of the penis when masturbating. After further arousal, a pressure stroke along the crura just off-center of the top of the glans -- and analogous to the "frenulum stroking" motion i have seen many men make on and below the penile glans -- produces an extreme state of arousal.

Furthermore, it is very important for me to note that if i or my partner allow this stroke to rub on the foreskin ("hood") of the clitoris, it pulls at the delicate tissue in a way that is not pleasurable but rather annoying. The foreskin must be gently pushed away from the glans first, before beginning the circular stroke. This exposure of the glans is exactly analogous to what men do when masturbating, of course, pulling the foreskin down and away from the glans as the penis becomes erect. (I refer here only to men who have not been genitally mutilated by the butcher-minions of JHVH, of course.)

To go into further detail, once the clitoris is erect and the glans exposed, i find that the upward portion of the stroke along the crura of the clitoral shaft produces the greatest pleasurable intensity. This is also what most men report, that for them, an upward stroke on the penis, from root to tip, just beneath the glans, is the most pleasurable direction during masturbation (and intercourse). Because on a woman the clitoral shaft is divided into two crura that extend on both sides of the clitoral glans, the directionality of the circular stroke will determine which portion of the movement is "upward" and which portion is "downward. I make the circular stroke around the clitoral glans in a clockwise manner, and thus from "nine o'clock" to "noon" is, for me, the upward and therefore most intense quadrant of the circle. The point in the circle that has always been at what could be called the most arousing spot is the "eleven o'clock position." That is, it is a mirror image of the "one o'clock position" that these "authorities" you cite are teaching is the "sweet spot."

This point is so intensely arousing to me that although i cannot often summon the concentration of mind to simply hold and press it myself (i tend to keep up the circular motion until i come), when my partner takes control and prepares me by making the circular motion until i have peaked and backed off (by relaxing) several times and then presses the "eleven o'clock" point firmly while i relax deeply, i have the sensation of orgasm without contraction or culmination. This sensation continues for a very long time, as long as the pressure applied is firm but gentle.

It is possible that the location of the area of greatest intensity is a genetically determined one that differs from person to person, but it may instead be the result of self-training. Had i gotten the notion as a teenager to masturbate with counter-clockwise circles around the clitoral glans, it is possible that since the upward stroke would still be the most intense portion of the circuit, the "sweet spot" would then be at the "one o'clock position," as described by the authorities you cite. I don't know the etiology of the phenomenon, but i do know that for me it is and has always been within my memory, the way i describe it here.

Okay, with this in mind, imagine my horror -- my OUTRAGE -- when i attended a Marin County workshop on "Extended Orgasm" -- and my training partner was told by one of the teachers that the high arousal i was feeling as a result of my guiding his touches through a process of verbal feedback and encouragement, was "wrong" and that he should search out and stimulate my "one o'clock position" to bring me greater pleasure. The teacher even demonstrated the position so that he could copy her. He complied, and i immediately felt a drop in arousal level. I asked him to test both sides of the clitoral shaft and the results were consistent for me: an upward stroke at "eleven o'clock" produced the usual near-orgasm ("valley orgasm") experience and the same stroke at "one o'clock" produced awareness of pleasure and a desire for the finger to be moved to the other side.

My arousal level dropped so low during this experimentation that i actually stopped the masturbation and got the attention of the teacher again. (I cc'ed a copy of this to her, too, by the way.) I told her that my pleasure point was on the other side of the glans than what she was teaching and that perhaps she should mention this to the class. She brusquely dismissed my years of self-knowledge with a statement to the effect that she had a degree in sexology and she knew best. I was simply "wrong." But, she said, if i kept up practice on the "proper" side of my clitoral glans, i would achieve higher levels of arousal. Since achieving high levels of arousal -- to the point of half-hour long "rolling orgasms" has never been a problem for me, i felt dismissed and even insulted by her dogmatism. I also felt that had i been a younger woman with less experience at masturbation or a shy woman with less sexual self-confidence, her misguided advice might have damaged my practice!

After the class concluded, while students were giving feedback on the teaching methods, i voiced my concern in stronger terms, telling her that in her orthodoxy and dogmatism, she had done me a disservice and had lessened my confidence in her teachings, because they were utterly untrue for me. She listened respectfully, and we parted amicably, but i was left with doubt that she would ever change her approach to teaching the received wisdom in which she had invested so much belief.

What change do i think was needed in her teaching? Simply this: Rather than identify a single mapped position as the universal "sweet spot" in all women, the teaching should acknowledge the anatomically-grounded fact that it is the UPWARD PORTION of the circular stroke around the clitoral corona that produces the greatest pleasure and that if a woman has a preferred directionality to the circular stroke, her personal "sweet spot" will probably be found just below and outward from top-center on the side of the glans where the stroke rises to the zenith.

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VII. Clitoris - From An Encyclopaedia

The clitoris is a sexual organ in the body of female mammals. The visible knob-like portion is located near the anterior junction of the labia minora, above the opening of the vagina. Its particular function is inducing sexual pleasure and orgasms.

The word clitoris can be pronounced KLIHT uh rihs ( [klɪɾəɹəs] in IPA notation (listen)) or klih TOHR ihs ( [klɪtɔɹəs] (listen)). The OED suggests that KLY tor ihs ([ klaɪtɒɹəs]) is also used in the UK.

The female clitoris is homologous to the male penis, i.e., embryologically it comes from the same tissue that forms the penis. The trigger for forming a penis instead of a clitoris is the action of testosterone in utero.

The organ is formed out of corpus cavernosum, a rich collection of capillary tissue with a substantial presence of nerve tissue. It is particularly well-suited for sexual stimulation.

The outside portion of the clitoris, the clitoral glans, is entirely or partially covered by the clitoral hood or prepuce, tissue that is homologous to the foreskin in males. In humans, the clitoral body then extends several centimeters upwards and to the back, before splitting into two arms, the crura. Shaped like an inverted "V", these crura extend around and to the interior of the labia majora.

Most of the clitoris is hidden, and external stimulation of the entire clitoris can result in a more profound sexual response. One explanation advanced for the vaginal orgasm is that it results from stimulation of the internal parts of the clitoris during vaginal penetration.

During sexual arousal, the clitoris enlarges as its erectile tissue fills with blood. Shortly before orgasm, this erection often increases further, drawing the clitoris upwards, so that viewed from the outside it actually appears to shrink.

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Recognition of existence

The external part of the clitoris amounts to a small, sensitive protrusion at the anterior end of the visible female . The clitoris is obscured by the folds of the labia minora in this photo.
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The external part of the clitoris amounts to a small, sensitive protrusion at the anterior end of the visible female reproductive anatomy. The clitoris is obscured by the folds of the labia minora in this photo.

Medical literature first recognised the existence of the clitoris in the 16th century. This is the subject of some dispute: Realdo Colombo (also known as Matteo Renaldo Colombo) was a lecturer in surgery at the University of Padua, Italy, and in 1559 he published a book called De re anatomica in which he described the "seat of woman's delight". Columbus concluded, "Since no one has discerned these projections and their workings, if it is permissible to give names to things discovered by me, it should be called the love or sweetness of Venus."

Columbus' claim was disputed by his successor at Padua, Gabriele Falloppio (who discovered the fallopian tube), who claimed that he was the first to discover the clitoris. Caspar Bartholin, a 17th century Danish anatomist, dismissed both claims, arguing that the clitoris had been widely known to medical science since the 2nd century.

Noted researchers Masters and Johnson, Boston based researcher John Garabedian, and Dr. Matt Jaeger at the University of Kentucky all conducted extensive studies of the clitoris.

In the 1970s, the word clitoris was considered offensive in the spoken English language and is still seen as a taboo word by many people. The first use of clitoris on television in the United States is believed to have been by Dr. Rich O'Brien, a Harvard colleague of Garabedian's, on the Dr. Ruth Westheimer show.

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IX. A Research Study on Clitoris


Remember the clitoris? In high school sex education class, it was that small bump at the top of the labia minora. The clitoris was a sort of "mini-penis" which, since it didn't directly get anyone pregnant, was lucky to be mentioned at all. In college level texts, such as Cambell's Biology, the clitoris is shown as a small external structure that does not contact the vagina or urethra. Stedman's Medical Dictionary calls it "a cylindric, erectile body, rarely exceeding 2 cm in length."

What these books leave out is something any anatomist knows. The clitoris actually has multiple parts, including two legs (or crura) which extend 9 cm into the pelvis, as well as two bulbs (called "the bulbs of the vestibule") which lie to either side of the vaginal opening within the labia minora.

In an article published in the Journal of Urology last summer [998], Australian researcher Helen O'Connell claimed that the clitoris is larger than even anatomists previously thought. In fact, when considered in its entirety, the clitoris may even be bigger than the penis. However, most of it lies hidden within the pelvis.

O'Connell went on to suggest that the bulbs of the vestibule should be renamed the bulbs of the clitoris. This name would reflect the fact that the bulbs are embryologically part of the clitoris, and remain connected to the rest of the clitoris by fibrous bands. They are erectile tissue which become engorged during sexual arousal, as does the rest of the clitoris. O'Connell posited that the engorgement of the bulbs may facilitate intercourse by stiffening the walls of the vaginal opening.

Here at UCSF, Adjunct Professors of Anatomy Sexton Sutherland and Hugh ("Pat") Patterson, were not surprised by O'Connell's findings. "As far as the basic anatomy of the erectile tissue, there's nothing new in the article," remarked Patterson. "For the lay person, this would be very informative," added Sutherland, "but anatomy texts show the crura and bulbs of the vestibule already, albeit in a planar view. She has created a three-dimensional drawing, but the anatomy appears the same."

O'Connell's research was originally meant to define the microscopic nerve supply to the clitoris, something which has not yet been done. "That research was done in the 1970s on the male," commented Sutherland. "The study of the specific anatomy of the pelvic nerves in the male did allow surgeons to create approaches which increased the retention of sexual function post-prostatectomy. She [O'Connell] makes a good point that nerves and vessels in the female need to be studied in order to preserve them better during pelvic surgery. Unfortunately, her research only deals with the basic anatomy of the erectile tissue."

Leslee Subak, MD, assistant professor in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology, agrees that female sexual function may suffer after pelvic surgery. "Her research is timely because surveys are being developed concurrently to evaluate women's sexual function. We don't have adequate outcome measures to evaluate women's sexual response to determine if we have caused morbidity to that response. Nerve supplies in relation to the clitoris have not been particularly well defined. Anatomy, sexual function, and nerve supply have all been better defined for men."

Subak believes this information could affect the types of operations gynecologists choose to perform in the future. "There are studies now looking at sexual function after total hysterectomy versus after supracervical hysterectomy [in which the uterus is removed but not the cervix]. We have information already that the longterm consequences 10 to 20 years post-hysterectomy include increased incidence of urinary incontinence. O'Connell's data begs the question, 'are we causing sexual response morbidity with the surgeries we are doing?'"

Another claim made by O'Connell is that the clitoris actually surrounds the urethra (the passageway through which urine exits the bladder) on three sides. The fourth, posterior side is embedded in the anterior vaginal wall. Some health workers feel that this could explain the phenomenon known as the "G-spot," an area of increased sexual responsiveness on the upper wall of the vagina, just below the urethra.

Students and professors of anatomy at UCSF were not surprised by the size of the clitoris as described by O'Connell. But one must wonder, could female anatomy be taught correctly starting at an educational level below that of professional school? Although this reporter could not distinguish the subtle differences between drawings in atlases of anatomy such as Grant's and the drawings presented by O'Connell, there was a huge size difference between those drawings and the representations of the clitoris in standard college textbooks.

Whether or not O'Connell's suggestions for changes in nomenclature will be adopted remains to be seen. But perhaps the time has come for the rest of our educational system to acknowledge that there is more to the clitoris than meets the eye.

 


As Althaea points out, doctors and medical students have long been aware of the actual size and shape of the clitoris, so the splash that O'Connell's 1998 "discovery" made in the media was somewhat without cause. Standard anatomical texts of the 1940s -- for instance, "Human Sex Anatomy" by Robert Latou Dickinson M.D., F.A.C.S. (Williams and Wilkins, 2nd edition, 1949) -- indicate that the structure of the clitoris has been well known for decades. In fact, Dickinson, once known as "the Dean of American Gynecoloigsts," had been publishing detailed renderings of female pelvic anatomy since before World War One. In "Human Sex Anatomy" he estimated that the length of the average adult clitoris from the tip of the glans to the ends of the crura is about 4", with all except the glans located inside the body. He also noted cases in which the clitoris was as long as 8", with from 2" to 3.5 " of shaft "free" or outside the body, resembling a small penis. These latter cases he classified as intersex individuals, but, technology being what it was then, he did not karotype them to determine their genetic sex.

 

The clitoris and vagina embracing the penis during intercourse as seen facing toward the woman. The outer layers of skin, fat, and muscle have been dissected away, and the penis is shown in simplified cross-section for position only. Atop the pea-shaped clitoral glans, normally the only part visible outside the body, you can see the ascending portion of the clitoral shaft. Upon reaching its apex (which Dickinson calls "the clitoral knee"), the shaft bends downward and divides into the two "legs" or crura which encircle the vaginal opening. Drawing by Robert Latou Dickinson, in "Human Sex Anatomy," 1949.
 

Why such information was deleted from sexual self-help and teaching books intended for a general audience is unclear; however, one can make a shrewd guess: Based on 19th and 20th century cultural assumptions about women's sexuality and gender roles, it might have seemed somehow "wrong" to sexologists to depict "normal" women with honking big phalli embedded in their bodies! O'Connell's research on the nerve supply to the clitoris has not changed our understanding of its gross anatomy, but it has provided a way to spread the good news about clitorial anatomy to the public at long last.

Thanks to Helen O'Connell, a urology surgeon at the Royal Melbourne Hospital in Melbourne, we now know that the last several hundred years of "knowledge" about the clitoris was very, very wrong. It is far larger and more complex than had ever been realised. Most of it is buried beneath layers of fat and shielded by pelvic bone but it has always been there for anatomists to find, if only they had bothered to look.

So what? you may think, sure it feels nice but what need is there to know its extent and complexity? Well if you ever need to have pelvic surgery for some reason, you may have very good reason to thank Helen O'Connell for her ground-breaking work. Up till now any urinary tract or gynaecological surgery may well have cut important nerves or blood vessels that run to the clitoris. Heaven knows how many women have sustained permanent damage to their sexual pleasure (see below for the reference to the The Campaign against Hysterectomy). Amazingly, there have simply never been any realistic maps of the area. That this has been ignored till now is mind boggling!

There doesn't seem to be any good explanation as to why this hasn't come to light till now. Could it be a matter of prudery? Almost certainly. Lack of interest? Quite likely. It seems the medical profession is not as detached as they would like to believe. Adele Clarke, associate professor of sociology at the University of California, San Francisco, checked out the way anatomy text books have shown the clitoris in the recent past. She queried the internet database Medline and found 1,611 articles on the penis but only 78 on the clitoris. (I searched today and found 85 references to the clitoris and 1,422 on the penis -- I limited my search to humans.) In 1901 Gray's Anatomy (the anatomist's basic reference) labelled the clitoris clearly, but after 1948 the label had been deleted. When she looked at 8 other anatomy text books published between 1950 and 1971 she found that the clitoris was not labelled and sometimes was not even represented at all. Since 1981 the clitoris has been labelled again but only minimally. It almost seems that if something has to do with female pleasure, particularly sexual pleasure, it just wasn't deemed important... or am I being paranoid?

The glans of the clitoris, the part that most people know about, is just the external part of the much larger body underneath. The 1st of August issue of New Scientist magazine described it like this:

"The 'body' of the clitoris, which connects to the glans, is about as big as the first joint of your thumb. It has two arms up to 9 centimetres long that flare backwards into the body, lying just a few millimetres from the ends of the muscles that run up the inside of the thigh. Also extending from the body of the clitoris, and filling the space between its arms, are two bulbs, one on each side of the vaginal cavity."

These bulbs had previously been thought to be part of the vaginal structure but they are now clearly seen to be part of the erectile tissue of the clitoris. They seem to have a couple of uses. They transmit pressure from the mouth of the vagina to the nerve structure of the clitoris, and they help clamp the urethra shut during arousal. This last may help to prevent bacteria entering the urinary tract during sex.

Strange, isn't it, that we are just about to enter the 21st Century and are only just now starting to learn about the simple anatomy of an important part of the female anatomy. It makes you wonder doesn't it....

 

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X. Clitoral Massage

A Valuable Skill


Clitoral massage is an excellent skill to have at your disposal when making love to a woman. While most couples engage in a little diddling of the vulva and clitoris prior to intercourse, few would consider making it the main course. If you really want to impress your female partner, consider making her the center of attention by giving her a clitoral massage.


Couples with temporary and permanent physical disabilities can employ clitoral massage. Pregnant women may experience an increased desire for sex and orgasm but find themselves unable to engage in vaginal intercourse. Partners with paralyses may not be able to perform the physical motions required of intercourse. Men who are impotent may still desire to give their partner sexual pleasure and orgasm. Teens and adults who are not ready to have vaginal intercourse can still give each other sexual pleasure. It is important to realize that sex can exist in the absence of an erection and intercourse.


Locating Her Clitoris


The first requirement of clitoral massage is knowing where your partner's clitoris is, and what it looks like and what it feels like when flaccid and erect. The only way to learn these things is to go exploring. With the lights on, have your partner undress; she may want to wear a comfortable shirt. She should then lay on a bed, sit in a chair, or sit on the bed while reclining on some pillows placed against the headboard. Make sure that you have easy access to her vulva while ensuring you are both comfortable. Sit or kneel so you are facing her, usually off to one side. If she is sitting in a chair or at the end of the bed, you may want to sit in a chair or kneel on the floor. You can also have her sit between your legs, both of you facing the same direction. You need to get close to the subject at hand. You may also want to have a light close by, or a flashlight, to illuminate her vulva so as to be able to see everything clearly. You will also want to have a small handheld or freestanding mirror available so your partner can see her vulva and clitoris, and what you are doing.


Start by examining her vulva as it looks normally, with her outer labia at rest. Gently examine everything with your fingers. Caress versus poke. Notice the softness of her skin and pubic hair and the color and texture of her skin. Caress her vulva with the flat of your hand, your fingers molding to her body. If your partner has a lot of pubic hair, you may want to trim it with scissors. There is no need to shave the pubic area. Then gently spread the outer labia with your fingers, examine what lies within. Identify her inner labia, clitoris, and urinary and vaginal orifices. She can also assist by holding her outer labia open with one or both hands.


If you cannot identify her clitoris, ask her if she knows where it is and can point it out to you. Because of the vast variations in genital anatomy, some individual structures may not be easily identifiable, for men as well as women. There are women who do not have inner labia, or have only one. A well-developed clitoris will be easy to see, but many are so small and hidden by surrounding tissue that a woman may only know where it is by knowing where it is most sensitive to her touch, where she rubs while masturbating. If you both have trouble locating the clitoris, look at the illustrations on the Anatomy pages.


Once you locate her clitoris, try to identify all it's different parts: shaft\body, glans, and hood\prepuce. Depending on the size and tightness of her hood you may not be able to retract it far enough to expose the clitoral glans. If this is the case, you may be able to feel it under her hood. If her glans is small, you may only be able to detect the shaft of her clitoris when she is erect, but not the glans itself. There are shafts that are very thin and hard to detect. In this case, you may only be able to identify it when you feel it become erect between your fingertips. She may be able to tell you when you have grasped her clitoral glans in your fingertips if you are not able to feel it. Be very gentle when examining her clitoris, most are extremely sensitive.


Watch and Learn


The next step for beginners or as a warm-up for the experienced is for your partner to masturbate to orgasm. She should go slowly at first, demonstrating her different strokes, the amount of pressure applied, and frequency of her strokes. This is so you can get an understanding for what she likes and is most responsive too. It will take lots of practice and repeated masturbation sessions for you to become as good at masturbating her as she is. Her masturbating to orgasm before you begin the massage helps to put her in the mood and makes her more responsive to additional sexual stimulation. There are women who find their genitals overly sensitive after orgasm, so you may need to gently massage other areas of her body for several minutes before you begin or continue the clitoral massage. Some women are only able to have one orgasm in the beginning, so go slow and just try to make her feel good if you discover this is true for your partner. If your partner is reluctant to masturbate in your presence, this is perfectly okay and is not a requirement. Suggest it, but do not place any pressure on her.


To the women reading this please rest assured that masturbating in front of your partner is perfectly normal, a lot of women do it. Masturbation is not just a solo activity. Women are very beautiful when they masturbate and share their orgasms with their partner. You cannot do it wrong or make a fool of yourself. You will not lose any of the intimacy you experience when you masturbate alone. I believe most people know their partner masturbates, so you are not going to shock them by admitting to it, they most likely masturbate too. If you maintain eye contact with your partner while masturbating, I think you will be blown away by the experience.


Clitoral Sensitivity, and Lubrication


You know where her clitoris is, so now what you ask? Well, first I must mention clitoral sensitivity and the possible need for additional lubrication. The sensitivity of the clitoris varies greatly from woman to woman. There are women who experience pain if their clitoris is touched directly, others do not find their clitoris sensitive to touch at all. Others may require a very light touch in the beginning but need a firmer touch the closer they are to reaching orgasm. It is best to start out with a very light touch then slowly increase the amount of pressure as you see her become more aroused. Watch her body movements and listen to the noises she makes to see if you are applying too much pressure or not enough. Be careful, you almost never want to squeeze the clitoris tightly, perhaps firmly, but almost never aggressively. A few women may enjoy a firm squeeze at the point of orgasm, but talk to her about this before actually trying it. She will either see stars, or smack you across the head. Ticklishness can be an indication of nervousness or too light of a touch; have her breath deeply and relax.


Depending on the sensitivity of your partner's clitoris and the amount of natural lubrication, you may need to apply additional lubrication before beginning the massage. Try it without at first, but if she pulls away or reports she is too sensitive, or feels nothing, apply a generous coating of lubrication to her entire vulva. Use water-based lubricants like K-Y Jelly. (Use of petroleum-based lubricants can result in infection.) You can also use the new silicone sexual lubricants; NOT the type used to lubricate cars etc. When you first try clitoral massage have additional lubrication on hand just in case. You will almost never want to touch her clitoral glans directly without your finger(s) being lubricated, but this may not be a part of the massage in any event.


You may also want to consider wearing latex or vinyl gloves. They will make your fingers very slick, which will come in handy if your partner's clitoris is extremely sensitive, or if you have rough skin on your fingers. They also come in handy if you insert your finger(s) into her vagina during the massage, fingernails can scratch the vaginal walls. Most pharmacies carry vinyl and latex gloves and are an inexpensive over the counter item.


Maintain Physical Contact


Always maintain physical contact with the person receiving the massage once you begin. It is very disruptive of the physical bond that develops if you take both hands off her body at the same time, and placing them back can be somewhat of a shock. With practice you may become aware of the sexual energy that flows between you and your partner. Sounds strange, but it is true. Have everything you need within reach of your free hand. It is also a good idea to touch her knee, then slide your hand up to her inner thigh, then finally her up to her vulva, so as not to penetrate her personal space too quickly. Placing your cold hands directly on her vulva may be a shock and ruin the mood. Warm, in a bowl of warm water, any lubricant you may use prior to applying them to her vulva.


Basic Techniques


You will be massaging her clitoris using one, two, or three fingers. The size and prominence of her clitoris will determine how many fingers you use. If you are able to locate and feel her clitoral shaft with your fingers, you will use your thumb and index finger. If she has a well-developed clitoris you may want to use your thumb, your index finger, and the finger next to that. If you cannot grasp the shaft and glans of her clitoris because it is small or hidden, you will use just the tip of your index finger, or perhaps your thumb.


If you can grasp her clitoris with two or three fingers you will want to do the following. Very gently grasp the shaft of her clitoris with your thumb and index finger. Gently slide the loose tissue covering her clitoris around, primarily back and forth, getting a feel for the shape and firmness of her clitoris. Determine how much the tissue along her shaft slides around. You do not want to grasp the glans at first if possible; if her clitoris is small you will not be able to avoid it. As you slide your fingers back and forth along her shaft, the hood should also be sliding back and forth, stimulating her glans. Go slow and watch your partner for indications of whether or not she is enjoying what you are doing. Try to maintain eye contact with her if possible, or as much as possible. If you cannot tell by body language, then ask her if what you are doing feels good. Ask her whether you should be going slower or faster, or applying a firmer or lighter touch. After you make the suggested change, ask again. If she does not know, just experiment but keep communicating.



 


 

 


If you cannot grasp her clitoris, you will want to place the tip of your index finger on top of her clitoral body or hood. Experimentation will indicate which is most sensitive. You will want to gently move the tissue under your finger around in small circles, or back and forth to stimulate her clitoris. Hopefully you will feel the firm structures of her clitoris under your fingertip, when she is aroused and erect, even if her clitoris is really small and hidden.


Continue to stroke her clitoris. If she is enjoying what you are doing just continue in a steady rhythm. As she becomes more and more aroused you may want to slowly and gently increase the amount of pressure you are applying, but always be gentle. The speed of your strokes can vary to, very slow in the beginning, then possibly faster as she nears orgasm. Your fingers should always be grasping the loose skin covering the body of her clitoris, causing it to slide back and forth along the shaft. Continue until she reaches orgasm. As soon as she has an orgasm switch to a very very light stroke, as her clitoris is likely to be very sensitive, or move your fingers to her labia. After a couple minutes you can begin again or stop. Never stop the massage abruptly unless she reports she is too sensitive to touch, in which case caress her vulva or inner labia for few minutes. Maintain physical contact as she comes down from her orgasm.


Pleasure Yes, Orgasm Maybe


She may experience orgasm quickly and easily, but this may not always be the case. It will take practice and time for you both to get comfortable with this technique. You will want to limit the massage periods to 15-20 minutes if she does not experience orgasm initially. Make her feel good, but do not irritate her clitoris or strain yourself. You both need to be relaxed. If your partner is really enjoying herself but does not experience orgasm within 15-20 minutes, you can continue the massage for another 10-25 minutes, as long as you are both comfortable with it. Be careful not to make this a tedious act, if either of you become uncomfortable or frustrated it will ruin the moment and the sexual bond necessary for it to be a pleasant experience for both of you. If she does not experience orgasm and is very aroused, switch to a sexual activity that you know will result in orgasm. If she is only able experience orgasm while masturbating, allow her to do so, even if you must leave the room. If she is happy to just cuddle, that is okay too.


Sexual Fantasy


During the massage it may be necessary for the woman to be fantasizing about something sexual. It may be best if she does not think about the massage itself. If she does find that she needs to fantasize, she should try to have the same fantasy as when masturbating alone. She will probably need to close her eyes for this as her partner's presence may distract her. This will be easier to do if the massage feels pleasurable, if not she should provide guidance until her partner discovers a technique that works for her.


Stimulating the Clitoral Glans


Depending on the sensitivity of her clitoral glans you may want to stimulate it directly, or indirectly through the hood. If her hood covers her glans, you can gently grasp the glans through her hood with your thumb and index finger. There are women who have a clitoral glans that is always fully or partial exposed. Depending on its sensitivity, you may be able to apply the tip of your finger directly to the glans, sliding it across the surface, using a very light touch and lots of lubrication. If a woman's hood does not cover her glans, massaging the body of her clitoris by grasping the loose tissue there may not provide sufficient stimulation to the glans; in this case try direct stimulation. Some women cannot retract their hood to expose the glans, but if you place your finger at the opening to her hood and massage her clitoral glans, she may experience greater stimulation.


Vaginal and Anal Massage


You can provide a vaginal massage while you are giving a clitoral massage. While one hand stimulates her clitoris, the other can be used to stimulate her vagina. By inserting your finger into her vagina, and stimulating the top of her vaginal wall, pointing your finger toward her pubic bone, you can stimulate her G-spot, urethral sponge. The finger movement for G-Spot stimulation is the same as that when indicating to a person that is across the room that you want them to come to you, the palm of your hand facing up, creating a hook with your index finger. This can produce very strong orgasms and pronounced ejaculations of fluid from the urethra. You can explore the vagina and locate areas that are sensitive to digital stimulation, or she may simply enjoy the feeling of something being in her vagina, not moving at all, or very slowly. Caress the vaginal walls; do not just thrust your fingers in and out. You can insert more than one finger depending on her flexibility and desire to be filled. You can employ the use of dildos of different sizes and shapes. You can also insert your entire hand into her vagina, fisting, which can result in a very strong sexual response from her. This is often much easier for female couples as they usually have smaller hands. Fisting is an advanced skill that takes a lot of practice and sensitivity; a woman must open up for the fist rather than her partner pushing or forcing their fist in.


You can also incorporate anal massage. Initially this entails massaging the outside of the anus, no penetration. There are women who are more responsive to anal massage than vaginal massage, or they find the combination to be very intense and enjoyable. After massaging her anus for several minutes you can insert the tip of one finger, moving it slowly in and out. After her anus relaxes you can insert your entire finger, then more fingers if she so desires. A finger used to stimulate her anus should never be used to stimulate her vulva and vagina afterwards because of bacteria present in her rectum. The use of vinyl or latex gloves will allow you to switch back and forth, as long as you change the glove before switching from anus to vulva. Once her anus relaxes, you can insert a butt plug or a dildo with a flared base.


Basic Massage Tips


A good way to start off a clitoral massage is by giving a full body massage. Spend an hour warming up to the clitoral massage. This will help stimulate and awaken the nerves of the body and help both partners to relax. Use only a light gliding touch for this type of massage. Press down lightly with the flat of your hand, your fingers molding to the shape of her body. Never squeeze, something most people do while giving a massage. If you find an area of tightness, apply a light pressure while moving your hand(s) in a circular or back and forth motion. You want to slowly and gently dissipate the tightness, but do not spend a lot of time trying to release the tightness during an erotic massage. Start on the back of the body, at the head, and work your way towards her feet, have her roll over and do her front, from her feet up, never breaking the physical contact. Do not massage her breast or genitals until the very end. After massaging her head, facial muscles, work your way down to her vulva, stopping at her breasts and nipples along the way. Then begin the clitoral massage. For the massage turn the heat up and play some soft relaxing music. If she should fall asleep this indicates she is tired and needs to recharge. Let her take a nap or sleep through the night. If this occurs on a Friday or Saturday night, continue the massage in the morning. I recommend couples buy regular massage books, not erotic massage books as technique is more important than sexy pictures. A regular massage will be erotic if done correctly. While good ones are expensive, massage tables are great to have, especially if the person giving the massage cannot sit, or bend their knees, for any length of time. They also provide easy access to the person receiving the massage.


General Comments


What I have presented here are basic guidelines to help a couple get started with clitoral massage. The intent of clitoral massage is to make her clitoris the center of attention. Since her clitoris is most likely her primary sexual organ, besides her mind, she is likely to find this sexual act very conducive to sexual pleasure and orgasm. Since women's bodies and mental makeup vary greatly it is impossible for me to explain "how-to" for every couple. The only sure way for couples to figure out how to give and receive a clitoral massage is through open minds and practice. I have had women respond very favorably to this massage technique within a few minutes, but this may not be the case for all. Practice makes perfect.


Not Always the Secret


There are women who find their clitoris is too sensitive or totally insensitive to touch. They are perfectly normal. If you try clitoral massage and give it a fair try and it does not work, move on. Perhaps vaginal and/or anal massage may be pleasurable for her.

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If the clitoris concerned is yours then do what ever turns you on! Many women masturbate by lying on their backs with one hand rubbing between their legs and the other stroking one of their breasts. As orgasm approaches they clench their legs together and tense every muscle in sight (and quite a few not in sight).
Other women prefer to lie on their tummies, possibly with a pillow between their legs. I have yet to meet a woman who actually puts anything inside her vagina as a form of stimulation (sorry fellows). I know that this act figures prominently in erotic literature but most erotic literature is written by men with lots of imagination and very little experience. Similarly most dildos and vibrators are bought by men! The Shere Hite report on female sexuality confirms my experience - I believe they found that only about 5% of women use penetration during masturbation. Mind you, maybe me and Shere are just hanging out with the wrong kind of girls ... (Thinks: Is Shere Hite an anagram?)
If the clitoris concerned does not belong to you then experiment gently and carefully (having first obtained the consent of the owner - not necessarily in writing although you can't be too careful these days). Whatever you do, don't just shove your finger up her vagina and then ask her if she wants to fuck. The idea is to gently and carefully excite your partner. At the same time it's not a bad idea to tell her that you love her! You will know if you are succeeding as her vaginal area will become slippery and her clitoris will expand into a firm little bud. At the same time she will begin to groan and writhe about - especially if you pay well. If you fancy the idea (and I certainly do) then excite her clitoris with the tip of your tongue. Whilst you are at it you can lick the entrance to her vagina and anus and generally get the whole area nice and slippery. At this point you can gently slide an experimental finger into the entrance of her vagina (or even her anus). In my experience most girls are shocked at anal contact but if well lubricated and excited will only make a token show of resistance. Don't assume from the latter, however, that she will take kindly to your pride and joy being shoved up her arse (English people don't have ass holes they have arse holes, thought you would like to know that) - she is more likely to scream blue murder.
At this point you can probably take her hand and gently place it on your own pathetic little specimen if you can find it (only kidding guys - I mean huge throbbing manhood). Whilst all this is going on you should be enthusiastically sucking and licking her nipples. In my experience, a girl who is having her nipples sucked and an expert hand gently massaging her clitoris and various entrances is a goner.
One last point. Never argue. If she says she doesn't want sex with you, tell her, whilst gently licking her breasts, that nothing was further from your mind - you were looking for a deeper, more spiritual relationship with her. She will invariably end up having sex with you. If, on the other hand, you reply along the lines of "Why not, you had sex last week with John Smith?" then you are a total oaf who deserves a quick smack in the mouth and will probably get one. And not just from John Smith. Happy rubbing!

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