Why We Created This Suicide Memorial

In March 2000, while leaders of the LDS Church were engaged in an costly anti-gay crusade in California, four gay Mormons killed themselves within four weeks. For members of Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons, this was a horrific wake-up call. Since 1965, more than 30 gay Mormons have committed suicide. In the last two years, we have organized memorial services and candlelight vigils to remember our dead and raise awareness about this health crisis in our midst. We do this in the hope of helping prevent more suicides.

Suicide is a complex issue, and often it is hard to determine the exact causes for which people decide to take their lives. The messages of hate and intolerance that we hear at home, in church, and in school can have a tremendous impact in the lives of all gays and lesbians. We believe that gay and lesbian Mormons face problems that are particularly challenging and may have contributed to the tragic demise of the people here listed.

Suicide is preventable. If you feel depressed, bitter, or overwhelmed by feelings of fear and anxiety, know that you are not alone. Thousands of gay and lesbian Mormons have been through the same turmoil, and most of them have survived and prospered. This can also happen to you. Accept yourself as you are and find the courage to talk with someone you trust.

If you have information about these or other Gay Mormons who have committed suicide, we invite you to share it by . We promise to keep all the information confidential, posting only the parts that you authorize for release. If desired, we can use only first names and avoid other identifying details. Your identity will also be kept confidential. Any pictures sent to us by regular mail will be scanned and promptly returned.

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