Illustration by Barry Falls
In the summer of 2007, Kelli Roman’s Facebook photo disappeared from her profile. It showed her nursing her infant daughter, Ivy, and while Facebook never responded when she wrote to ask why, she assumes it was because someone complained that the photo was obscene. Other mothers, she’s since learned, have received e-mails from Facebook warning they risked being banned from the site if their breastfeeding photos were put back.
Ms. Roman started a Facebook group — Hey Facebook, Breastfeeding is Not Obscene — and slowly other women gathered there with similar tales. Over the months, membership grew, and is now 54,000. Facebook’s policies don’t appear to have changed, however, and while not all the group’s members have personally been censored, reports of nursing photos being removed are still coming in.
There is also a collection of such photos on the group’s page — examples of the ones that were removed from personal pages — and there, too, the policy seems random. Some of the pictures posted as examples of what’s being taken down, were themselves taken down, according to Stephanie Knapp Muir, the administrator of the group, while others have been allowed to stay. Oddly, the photo on the group’s homepage is of Roman and her daughter, the one Facebook removed from her page last summer. (You can therefore decide for yourself whether it is obscene.) It has not been removed this second time around.
“We’re really unsure about what specifically triggers action,” says Muir, who is a doula in Ottawa where she lives with her four children, ages five through 25. Based on the stories women tell on the site, the assumption is that the company doesn’t just trawl around looking for pictures of women breastfeeding, but will respond to a complaint by another member.
“There’s mums on the group who’ve had photos removed with no nipples showing, no aereola showing, with less breast visible than you would see in an evening gown or a bathing suit or a beer ad,” Muir says. “Because this is so arbitrary and random it seems as if the objection is to breastfeeding itself.” Her own profile photo shows her nursing her youngest child years ago. It has not been taken down from her page.
On December 27, the group, though an off-shoot called M.I.L.C. (Mothers International Lactation Campaign), will host a virtual nurse-in on Facebook. You don’t have to actually be nursing to participate. You don’t even have to be female. All you are asked to do is change your profile photo for the day, to a picture of a nursing child, and to add the sentence, “Hey Facebook, breastfeeding is not obscene!” to your status message.
“It can be your photo, a photo from a friend, an image of a painting, sculpture, any art piece, or any mammal, a sheep, your cat with her kittens,” Muir says. “We really want to convey the message that the act of nursing is not lewd, its not sexually explicit, its and act protected by law in most parts of America.”
So far about 4,000 people have said they would join in. If you want to add your name to the list, go here to RSVP.
I tried to reach Facebook for comment, but did not hear back (if I do I will update). Earlier this week, the Palo Alto Daily News quoted an unnamed Facebook spokesman as saying that the site “does allow breastfeeding photos as long as they don’t show a fully exposed breast” and that the company had no comment on the planned nurse-in.
As promised, the response I received from Facebook spokesman Barry Schnitt at about 4:30 EST today:
Breastfeeding is a natural and beautiful act and we’re very glad to know that it is so important to some mothers to share this experience with others on Facebook. We take no action on the vast majority of breastfeeding photos because they follow the site’s Terms of Use. Photos containing a fully exposed breast do violate those Terms and may be removed. These policies are designed to ensure Facebook remains a safe, secure and trusted environment for all users, including the many children (over the age of 13) who use the site. The photos we act upon are almost exclusively brought to our attention by other users who complain.