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Modern Love: Even in Real Life, There Were Screens Between Us
College students’ entries in this year’s Modern Love essay contest reveal a shift to technology-enabled emotional intimacy. Here is the winning essay.
May 1, 2011
Deep in the Past, a Link to Bind Them: Modern Love
A surprising romantic connection laid out over the years and across the miles that linked one couple.
April 24, 2011
Hearts, and Lives, Out of Step: Modern Love
Where was the “nice boy” who would help me cross over into adulthood, into the world of rings and babies?
April 17, 2011MODERN LOVE; Sharing the Shame After My Arrest
WE had been married for just over a year when the F.B.I. showed up at our house at 6 a.m. and arrested me. They arrested my husband, too, although at the time that seemed beside the point. A stickler for rules who had never even gotten a speeding ticket, I was handcuffed in my mismatched pajamas and hauled away. My teeth weren't even brushed. The charges against me -- against us both -- were wire fraud and conspiracy to commit mail fraud. In a state of shock, I began babbling to the F.B.I. agen...
April 10, 2011MODERN LOVE; A Little Lint and You're Bridezilla
AS the daughter of divorced parents, I wasn't sentimental about weddings or marriage. I had no visions of myself wearing a white dress. My thoughts on the subject instead tended toward pre-nups, counseling and custody. Yet when I fell in love and decided to marry at 35, rather than elope I allowed my fiancé, Ken, to talk me into a small ceremony in our hometown, Berkeley, Calif. We agreed to keep it simple: local park, vegetarian buffet, 70 guests.
April 3, 2011
Revenge of the Friend: Modern Love
When a good friend’s ex brings his lover to your spin class.
March 27, 2011MODERN LOVE; Navigating in a Long-Distance Affair
THAT there were 1,200 miles and several states between us meant constant motion: planes, taxis, buses, trams. And a lot of sitting around waiting -- in airports, for cabs, for one of us to pick up the other. Over time, the states between us grew emotional as well as physical: not only Tennessee and Arkansas but also anxiety, longing and anger at cancellations or delays and irritation at those who haunt airport gates all over America yelling into their cellphones (''We're here!'' or ''I had Quiz...
March 20, 2011
In the Current of a Long-Distance Relationship: Modern Love
The 1,200 miles dividing two people takes its toll.
March 20, 2011
Real Movies, Fake Men: Modern Love
Because of the noticeable absence of men in my family, for years the men in my aunt’s VHS collection were the only men I knew.
March 13, 2011
A Romance From the Age of the Ocean Liner: Modern Love
We sought a certain romantic formality in what has become an informal and wholly nonromantic world.
March 6, 2011
Modern Love: Failing to Find the Right Gift for His Heart’s Desire
He considered himself different from the rest of her fans; he felt he understood her better and wanted her more.
February 27, 2011MODERN LOVE; Perfect, With Childbearing Hips
SEVERAL years ago I went to the California Cryobank's Web site to buy sperm. I was single and a lesbian and wanted to have a baby. I'd always wanted a family and dreamed of creating one with a partner, but I'd proved to be a love loser. When it didn't work out with anybody, including my most recent ex (after six years of couples counseling, meditation, acupuncture, hypnosis), I gave up. I thought romantic love, the kind of love that sustains an adult relationship, was impossible, at least for m...
February 20, 2011
A Guide to Pursuing True Love: Modern Love
A sampling of intriguing tactics for locating love: familiar oldies that have been dusted off, and modernized, technology-driven alternatives.
February 13, 2011
A Review of Lessons Learned After a Breakup: Modern Love
Reaching an understanding was the challenge.
February 6, 2011
I Call Your/His Name: Modern Love
Two men, one name, and a vision of a romantic future together that changed in the process.
January 30, 2011
It Took a Divorce to Bring Us Closer: Modern Love
Ending the marriage freed us from our anger and disappointment.
January 23, 2011
Renewing a Tattoo: Modern Love
A youthful mark turns out to be a good inoculation against atrophy.
January 16, 2011
A Mormon Woman’s Choices - Modern Love
A single 35-year-old virgin makes a visit to Planned Parenthood.
January 9, 2011
From Moment of Fear, a Lifetime of Clarity: Modern Love
A mugging exposes the universality of trauma and the glorious imperfections of marriage.
January 2, 2011Strangers’ Kindness Lights the Way: Modern Love
A road trip to show off a new baby to the family at Christmas takes a detour as darkness falls.
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