* Below are some examples of tactics used by
individuals to exert power and control over their intimate partners. This
should not be considered a complete or comprehensive list.
Types of Abuse
Exploiting Disability Status; Withholding medication or medical care. Breaking
adaptive equipment (teletypewriter, etc.). Accentuating victim's dependence and
Exploiting Immigration Status; Threatening to report to Immigration officials.
Hiding or destroying important papers. Not allowing victim to learn English.
Exploiting Power as Police Officer; Constant presence of weapons in the home.
Exploiting knowledge of the criminal justice system. Pitting victim's word
Exploiting Power as Military Officer; Leaving no allotments during deployment.
Controlling access to victim's military ID card. Emphasizing training to kill and
maim. Cleaning weapons in front of victim.
Exploiting Technology; Tracking victim's activities using global positioning
systems (GPS), SpyWare, phone taps, or other technology. Impersonating or
manipulating files. Obtaining online account information and passwords
Exploiting Addiction; Physically abusing for getting high/not getting high.
Preventing from attending drug treatment and/or Alcoholics Anonymous/Narcotics
Anonymous meetings. Forcing victim to prostitute for drugs or drug money.
Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming; Making light of the abuse. Saying the abuse
did not happen. Shifting responsibility for the abuse to the victim.
Physical Violence; Slapping. Hitting. Strangling. Punching.
Sexual Violence; Forcing sexual intercourse or contact. Forcing partner
to view pornography. Withholding sex.
Using Children; Using visitation to harass victim. Threatening to
kidnap the children. Threatening to report to Child Protective Services (CPS).
Making the victim feel guilty about the children.
Using Coercion and Threats; Making or carrying out threats to hurt the victim.
Threatening to leave, commit suicide. Making the victim do illegal acts.
Using Cultural Privilege; Exploiting cultural norms, rituals, values,
language, traditions, dances, and art to maintain power and control.
Using Intimidation; Making the victim afraid by using looks or actions.
Smashing things. Abusing pets. Displaying Weapons.
Using Emotional Abuse; Putting down the victim. Name-calling. Playing mind
Using Racial Privilege; Calling the victim a "snitch" for contacting the police.
Denying the existence of racism. Denying the prevalence of violence against
women of color.
Using Economic Abuse; Controlling the family finances. Withholding money for
groceries or family necessities. Making the victim beg for money. Prohibiting the
victim from getting a job.
Using Elder Abuse; Takes walker, wheelchair, glasses. Does not report
medical problems. Misleads family members. Abuses power of attorney.
Using Teen Violence; Threatening to spread rumors to peer group.
Controlling what the victim does. Stalking through social networking sites or
Using Isolation; Controlling the victim's contact with friends and family.
Limiting outside involvement. Using jealousy to justify actions.
Using Male Privilege; Treating her like a servant. Making all of the big
decisions. Being the one to define men's and women's roles.
Using Heterosexual Privilege; Exploiting Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual,
Transgender, or Queer (LGBTQ) identity. Threatening to "out" the victim.
Controlling expression of sexual identity.
Using Religious Privilege; Threatening "god-ordained" beating.
Prohibiting the victim from religious practice. Manipulating religious texts to
support power and control.
information about domestic violence you may wish to speak to your local
domestic violence program advocate who can be reached by contacting a
licensed and approved Domestic Violence Program
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