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* Below are some examples of tactics used by individuals to exert power and control over their intimate partners. This should not be considered a complete or comprehensive list.

Types of Abuse

Exploiting Disability Status; Withholding medication or medical care. Breaking adaptive equipment (teletypewriter, etc.). Accentuating victim's dependence and vulnerability.

Exploiting Immigration Status; Threatening to report to Immigration officials. Hiding or destroying important papers. Not allowing victim to learn English.

Exploiting Power as Police Officer; Constant presence of weapons in the home. Exploiting knowledge of the criminal justice system. Pitting victim's word against officer.

Exploiting Power as Military Officer; Leaving no allotments during deployment. Controlling access to victim's military ID card. Emphasizing training to kill and maim. Cleaning weapons in front of victim.

Exploiting Technology; Tracking victim's activities using global positioning systems (GPS), SpyWare, phone taps, or other technology. Impersonating or manipulating files. Obtaining online account information and passwords through children.

Exploiting Addiction; Physically abusing for getting high/not getting high. Preventing from attending drug treatment and/or Alcoholics Anonymous/Narcotics Anonymous meetings. Forcing victim to prostitute for drugs or drug money.

Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming; Making light of the abuse. Saying the abuse did not happen. Shifting responsibility for the abuse to the victim.

Physical Violence; Slapping. Hitting. Strangling. Punching. Beating. Killing.

Sexual Violence; Forcing sexual intercourse or contact. Forcing partner to view pornography. Withholding sex.

Using Children; Using visitation to harass victim. Threatening to kidnap the children. Threatening to report to Child Protective Services (CPS). Making the victim feel guilty about the children.

Using Coercion and Threats; Making or carrying out threats to hurt the victim. Threatening to leave, commit suicide. Making the victim do illegal acts.

Using Cultural Privilege; Exploiting cultural norms, rituals, values, language, traditions, dances, and art to maintain power and control.

Using Intimidation; Making the victim afraid by using looks or actions. Smashing things. Abusing pets. Displaying Weapons.

Using Emotional Abuse; Putting down the victim. Name-calling. Playing mind games. Humiliating.

Using Racial Privilege; Calling the victim a "snitch" for contacting the police. Denying the existence of racism. Denying the prevalence of violence against women of color.

Using Economic Abuse; Controlling the family finances. Withholding money for groceries or family necessities. Making the victim beg for money. Prohibiting the victim from getting a job.

Using Elder Abuse; Takes walker, wheelchair, glasses. Does not report medical problems. Misleads family members. Abuses power of attorney.

Using Teen Violence; Threatening to spread rumors to peer group. Controlling what the victim does. Stalking through social networking sites or text messaging.

Using Isolation; Controlling the victim's contact with friends and family. Limiting outside involvement. Using jealousy to justify actions.

Using Male Privilege; Treating her like a servant. Making all of the big decisions. Being the one to define men's and women's roles.

Using Heterosexual Privilege; Exploiting Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or Queer (LGBTQ) identity. Threatening to "out" the victim. Controlling expression of sexual identity.

Using Religious Privilege; Threatening "god-ordained" beating. Prohibiting the victim from religious practice. Manipulating religious texts to support power and control.

*For more information about domestic violence you may wish to speak to your local domestic violence program advocate who can be reached by contacting a licensed and approved Domestic Violence Program in your county. If you need further assistance please call the Coalition at (518) 482-5465.

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